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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im regretting joining this site, all i get is message after message deleted not even read
The spiteful, hurtful comments about my profile and gallery, the blocks for no apparent reason, it's brought back all the depression and self loathing
Im only posting this so anyone who reads it will think twice about behaving unsympatheticaly to another user
Those who have to me and read this, shame on you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im regretting joining this site, all i get is message after message deleted not even read
The spiteful, hurtful comments about my profile and gallery, the blocks for no apparent reason, it's brought back all the depression and self loathing
Im only posting this so anyone who reads it will think twice about behaving unsympatheticaly to another user
Those who have to me and read this, shame on you "
It gets like that sometimes OP. Maybe consider taking a break from the site for a while if it's affecting you like that, I have to do that sometimes too.
Feel better soon |
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I'm sorry you're regretting joining.
If your interactions on here are having a negative effect on you it might be best to hide your profile and take a step back for a while.
I hope you feel more positive soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you shouldn't get upset over the blocks for no reason. some people just do that so you don't accidently message them again.
everyone else has already said what makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You do realise this is supposed to be fun? If you are not getting that then you have the choice to take a break or leave. Blaming others will not make any difference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm sorry you're regretting joining.
If your interactions on here are having a negative effect on you it might be best to hide your profile and take a step back for a while.
I hope you feel more positive soon."
Exactly this.
Fab is meant to be fun. If it's having such a negative effect on you, take a step back and get help with the underlying issues.
I'm not directing this to the OP, but if a person has self esteem issues then this might not be the site for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My phone autocorrected a name to another name a few weeks ago, you'd have thought I'd have pissed in her cornflakes the way she went on!
Block, move on.
Op, there are some, to put it bluntly, cunts in the world, same applies to wherever 'people' reside. Don't take it to heart. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a sex site mate not friends united some will want to play most won't want to know 10% if that actually real on here so take a chill pill or leave your choice just don't take it seriously is all  |
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I think most of us have had messages deleted without being read and I've certainly been blocked without the courtesy of a reason and ages ago received some horrible abuse but to be on here you need to be more confident and resilient and have a high level of emotional intelligence and that way, the positives will always outweigh the negatives and your fab experience will be fun. |
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"We all get abusive messages. Or unsympathetic comments and rudeness. Its a case of head up block and move on
Chill your boots and feel sorry for them"
Agree here and remember it's meant to be fun, be yourself and if people don't like that or decide to be abusive then it's no reflection on ou and shame on them.
I can't speak for anyone else of course and each to their own but take a breath and evaluate what you want from this fun site and be realistic, if not for you and let's face it you need some thicker skin on here, take rest for a bit mate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can't take deleted messages and blocks to heart, and if you are getting abusive messages report them.
You need a bit of a thick skin on here and if it's not fun or making you feel that bad think you need to take a step back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you can't handle rejection well for whatever reason, then this site isn't for you I'm afraid. "
Exactly this, I think that fab either improves your self confidence as you learn to deal with rejection and grow as a person or it breaks you and you leave.
OP I think you need to have a quiet look at yourself, pick up your toys and decide what YOU want to do and what's best for you. Throwing a tantrum won't change how several thousand people manage their profiles
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There is no excuse for the spiteful, hurtful stuff but if you are staying you need to accept not all you highlight is personal.
Some women receive over 100 messages a day and may well delete them all in a block as they simply can't handle the volume. This isn't personally directed at you, you are just one of too many messages.
If people exclude all men or all couples whatever, again you will see you've been blocked but they haven't done it to insult you. You are just in a group due to your sex, age, whatever, that they are not interested in. There's no point getting upset about it. If you aren't what they are interested in move on.
If you cannot cope with not being somebody's type you should leave. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My phone autocorrected a name to another name a few weeks ago, you'd have thought I'd have pissed in her cornflakes the way she went on!
Block, move on.
Op, there are some, to put it bluntly, cunts in the world, same applies to wherever 'people' reside. Don't take it to heart. "
Here's a tip, use pet names so you don't actually have to remember names   |
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if you loathe yourself OP what reason as anyone else got for not doing same
Take a break, when you return don't let the rejection get to you or you may as well leave and never return as a single guy it won't get much better for you as the largest overrun demo graphic on the site |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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part of me empathises with what you are saying OP, and a part of me tells you to go get out there to clubs and socials and be known in real life. expecting what you want to fall in your lap, because of a profile and a few pics isnt realistic.
there are a huge number of people on the scene, lots of which arent even on here. if you want to be part of it, then go be part of it. change how you use this site if its not working for you x
most importantly, be well and be happy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can only imagine what it's like for a man on here, but I'm sure some handle it better than others.
I don't think many seem to understand the constant feeling of rejection, especially for men on here. But unfortunately this is a couples and women's dominated place, mainly to the large proportion of men, so blocking seems to work for some (for whatever reason).
However, I do think that making comments about profile and pics is of no ones business, unless you ask for it. No one is better than anyone else, just because men outweigh the rest doesn't mean anyone has the right to talk to them like dirt, unless of course they required it.
Have some time out op and get your head round it all, learn to ignore the hurtful comments make as they're just people behind a device thinking they have the power. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whilst some of them act like kids, there is no need to send such msgs, remember, dont worry what some online weirdoe thinks, take a brake from the searching and instead use the forum. |
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"Im regretting joining this site, all i get is message after message deleted not even read
The spiteful, hurtful comments about my profile and gallery, the blocks for no apparent reason, it's brought back all the depression and self loathing
Im only posting this so anyone who reads it will think twice about behaving unsympatheticaly to another user
Those who have to me and read this, shame on you "
This is supposed to be fun, if it's not log off and do something else.
If people are abusive, report, there's no need for that. If you're that fragile op that comments from nonentities on a sex site depresses you step away. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for the many private and some posted messages of support
I've now decided to have a break, not delete my profile
I had thought as soon as i made the op,maybe i was being too sensitive about some things, but having seen some of the posts and the absolutely vitriolic private replies some have sent, i was right in the first place.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sheesh, considering some of the "woe is me" threads some of the other posters have started in the past (who have posted on this thread), you'd think they'd have a bit more sensitivity. 
Take some time out OP, you're not missing out on much clearly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP I've noticed you on the forum and you've always seemed a happy friendly and polite chap.
Don't let a few arseholes bother you. People who need to laugh at the expense of others are often very sad pathetic individuals, pity them.
Have a break, re-charge your batteries and as one of the decent ladies suggested, visit clubs etc.
Report abusive people as they aren't wanted on here.
Chin up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sheesh, considering some of the "woe is me" threads some of the other posters have started in the past (who have posted on this thread), you'd think they'd have a bit more sensitivity.
Take some time out OP, you're not missing out on much clearly "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP I've noticed you on the forum and you've always seemed a happy friendly and polite chap.
Don't let a few arseholes bother you. People who need to laugh at the expense of others are often very sad pathetic individuals, pity them.
Have a break, re-charge your batteries and as one of the decent ladies suggested, visit clubs etc.
Report abusive people as they aren't wanted on here.
Chin up "
Thank you so much for your kindness, i appreciate your suggestions and your support xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"part of me empathises with what you are saying OP, and a part of me tells you to go get out there to clubs and socials and be known in real life. expecting what you want to fall in your lap, because of a profile and a few pics isnt realistic.
there are a huge number of people on the scene, lots of which arent even on here. if you want to be part of it, then go be part of it. change how you use this site if its not working for you x
most importantly, be well and be happy x"
This definitely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP I've noticed you on the forum and you've always seemed a happy friendly and polite chap.
Don't let a few arseholes bother you. People who need to laugh at the expense of others are often very sad pathetic individuals, pity them.
Have a break, re-charge your batteries and as one of the decent ladies suggested, visit clubs etc.
Report abusive people as they aren't wanted on here.
Chin up "
And this
I don't think people sometimes realise how much words can hurt. I appreciate we all need to be resilient and have fun and all, but you know some people are lonely and this is a foray into being brave in its own right - for people to abuse that, or not think about the impact of their actions is a shame. But OP, onwards and upwards. I wish you all the best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP I've noticed you on the forum and you've always seemed a happy friendly and polite chap.
Don't let a few arseholes bother you. People who need to laugh at the expense of others are often very sad pathetic individuals, pity them.
Have a break, re-charge your batteries and as one of the decent ladies suggested, visit clubs etc.
Report abusive people as they aren't wanted on here.
Chin up "
Yes chin up OP, don't let it get to you, . XXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP I've noticed you on the forum and you've always seemed a happy friendly and polite chap.
Don't let a few arseholes bother you. People who need to laugh at the expense of others are often very sad pathetic individuals, pity them.
Have a break, re-charge your batteries and as one of the decent ladies suggested, visit clubs etc.
Report abusive people as they aren't wanted on here.
Chin up "
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"OP I've noticed you on the forum and you've always seemed a happy friendly and polite chap.
Don't let a few arseholes bother you. People who need to laugh at the expense of others are often very sad pathetic individuals, pity them.
Have a break, re-charge your batteries and as one of the decent ladies suggested, visit clubs etc.
Report abusive people as they aren't wanted on here.
Chin up
And this
I don't think people sometimes realise how much words can hurt. I appreciate we all need to be resilient and have fun and all, but you know some people are lonely and this is a foray into being brave in its own right - for people to abuse that, or not think about the impact of their actions is a shame. But OP, onwards and upwards. I wish you all the best. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My old Mum used to say 'If you can't say anything nice to say, don't say anything'. Never understood the mentality of someone who takes time out to send an abusive message. I think the proffessionals call it 'transference'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im regretting joining this site, all i get is message after message deleted not even read
The spiteful, hurtful comments about my profile and gallery, the blocks for no apparent reason, it's brought back all the depression and self loathing
Im only posting this so anyone who reads it will think twice about behaving unsympatheticaly to another user
Those who have to me and read this, shame on you "
Don't let this site get to you please.
Focus on your real life and immediate friends and family if possible.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP I've noticed you on the forum and you've always seemed a happy friendly and polite chap.
Don't let a few arseholes bother you. People who need to laugh at the expense of others are often very sad pathetic individuals, pity them.
Have a break, re-charge your batteries and as one of the decent ladies suggested, visit clubs etc.
Report abusive people as they aren't wanted on here.
Chin up
And this
I don't think people sometimes realise how much words can hurt. I appreciate we all need to be resilient and have fun and all, but you know some people are lonely and this is a foray into being brave in its own right - for people to abuse that, or not think about the impact of their actions is a shame. But OP, onwards and upwards. I wish you all the best. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP I've noticed you on the forum and you've always seemed a happy friendly and polite chap.
Don't let a few arseholes bother you. People who need to laugh at the expense of others are often very sad pathetic individuals, pity them.
Have a break, re-charge your batteries and as one of the decent ladies suggested, visit clubs etc.
Report abusive people as they aren't wanted on here.
Chin up
And this
I don't think people sometimes realise how much words can hurt. I appreciate we all need to be resilient and have fun and all, but you know some people are lonely and this is a foray into being brave in its own right - for people to abuse that, or not think about the impact of their actions is a shame. But OP, onwards and upwards. I wish you all the best. "
Wise words Estella. Even the strongest of us can be taken aback by cruel asides. May be words on a screen but it can have an effect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im regretting joining this site, all i get is message after message deleted not even read
The spiteful, hurtful comments about my profile and gallery, the blocks for no apparent reason, it's brought back all the depression and self loathing
Im only posting this so anyone who reads it will think twice about behaving unsympatheticaly to another user
Those who have to me and read this, shame on you "
If it's making you feel that bad I would suggest you leave
That's not a sarcastic reply but if you have suffered with depression in the past and the rejection is bringing those feelings back its just not worth staying
Sex isnt worth that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP I've noticed you on the forum and you've always seemed a happy friendly and polite chap.
Don't let a few arseholes bother you. People who need to laugh at the expense of others are often very sad pathetic individuals, pity them.
Have a break, re-charge your batteries and as one of the decent ladies suggested, visit clubs etc.
Report abusive people as they aren't wanted on here.
Chin up "
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im regretting joining this site, all i get is message after message deleted not even read
The spiteful, hurtful comments about my profile and gallery, the blocks for no apparent reason, it's brought back all the depression and self loathing
Im only posting this so anyone who reads it will think twice about behaving unsympatheticaly to another user
Those who have to me and read this, shame on you "
Whilst I have never experienced any of this I do at times find this site frustrating.
As suggested maybe have some time away, hide your account and focus on what's important!
Don't let this site get to you in such a way!
I wish you well OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP I've noticed you on the forum and you've always seemed a happy friendly and polite chap.
Don't let a few arseholes bother you. People who need to laugh at the expense of others are often very sad pathetic individuals, pity them.
Have a break, re-charge your batteries and as one of the decent ladies suggested, visit clubs etc.
Report abusive people as they aren't wanted on here.
Chin up
And this
I don't think people sometimes realise how much words can hurt. I appreciate we all need to be resilient and have fun and all, but you know some people are lonely and this is a foray into being brave in its own right - for people to abuse that, or not think about the impact of their actions is a shame. But OP, onwards and upwards. I wish you all the best.
Wise words Estella. Even the strongest of us can be taken aback by cruel asides. May be words on a screen but it can have an effect. "
Agreed, and I have no doubt that I have been guilty of it too. Which makes me sad. Yes, the anguish that throwaway comments can cause should not be underestimated, thing is everyone's just dealing with their own struggle and own hurt and often deeply unaware of their influence on others -- both positive and negative. And you know it is 50:50, we should also not let other people affect us so much too. It's difficult though on a site like this when often what you're attempting is to make connection with people in order to be intimate, and that surely requires letting others in and being open to the possibility of hurt. Sigh. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Im regretting joining this site, all i get is message after message deleted not even read
The spiteful, hurtful comments about my profile and gallery, the blocks for no apparent reason, it's brought back all the depression and self loathing
Im only posting this so anyone who reads it will think twice about behaving unsympatheticaly to another user
Those who have to me and read this, shame on you "
I understand where your coming from fella .
there is no ego boost for your average guy on these sorts of site like there is for your average woman .
but there are a few things you can do to try and not let site life get to you instead of leaving fella .
after all your here just looking for a bit of adventure and excitement if you leave that hole is still going to exist in your life .
so back to things you can do to not let reality of life on a site like this for a average guy get to you .
op invest no emotions into your search and put no stock or emotion into a complete strangers opinion of you after all they don't know you really do they so there opinion of you based on a few words and a couple of pictures is really meaningless for the reason above .
next take expectation out of your search by that I mean treat search as nothing more than a distraction from your day to day life if something happens great if it doesn't oh well there's always next time .
remember if you expect nothing to come from you being here and your treat it as just a bit of silly fun .you will take expectation out of the equation . remember expectation is the bedfellow of disappointment if you expect nothing you can not be disappoint by a out come and there fore not upset by that out come .
try to start thinking like this op and slowly you will find yourself no at all bothered by any think that goes on online but remember your trying to change your way of thinking doing something like that takes time and there will be ups and downs until you reach the point where what happens online will not effect you because once you reach that point you will realise on line is not real .
nor are the emotions that crop up from the actions of others online real by default ,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im regretting joining this site, all i get is message after message deleted not even read
The spiteful, hurtful comments about my profile and gallery, the blocks for no apparent reason, it's brought back all the depression and self loathing
Im only posting this so anyone who reads it will think twice about behaving unsympatheticaly to another user
Those who have to me and read this, shame on you
I understand where your coming from fella .
there is no ego boost for your average guy on these sorts of site like there is for your average woman .
but there are a few things you can do to try and not let site life get to you instead of leaving fella .
after all your here just looking for a bit of adventure and excitement if you leave that hole is still going to exist in your life .
so back to things you can do to not let reality of life on a site like this for a average guy get to you .
op invest no emotions into your search and put no stock or emotion into a complete strangers opinion of you after all they don't know you really do they so there opinion of you based on a few words and a couple of pictures is really meaningless for the reason above .
next take expectation out of your search by that I mean treat search as nothing more than a distraction from your day to day life if something happens great if it doesn't oh well there's always next time .
remember if you expect nothing to come from you being here and your treat it as just a bit of silly fun .you will take expectation out of the equation . remember expectation is the bedfellow of disappointment if you expect nothing you can not be disappoint by a out come and there fore not upset by that out come .
try to start thinking like this op and slowly you will find yourself no at all bothered by any think that goes on online but remember your trying to change your way of thinking doing something like that takes time and there will be ups and downs until you reach the point where what happens online will not effect you because once you reach that point you will realise on line is not real .
nor are the emotions that crop up from the actions of others online real by default ,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP I've noticed you on the forum and you've always seemed a happy friendly and polite chap.
Don't let a few arseholes bother you. People who need to laugh at the expense of others are often very sad pathetic individuals, pity them.
Have a break, re-charge your batteries and as one of the decent ladies suggested, visit clubs etc.
Report abusive people as they aren't wanted on here.
Chin up
Well said "
Thanks RoxiAnne |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lmao.. where the heck is that really tiny violin when you need it? "
Nice reply to someone who with the sounds of it suffers with depression
I've had a handful of people throwing insults and giving me abuse in another thread for stating some fannys are nice and some are growlers" but here we have a woman publicly belittling a guy and no one bats an eyelid 
Speaks volumes about some of the people on this site |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"lmao.. where the heck is that really tiny violin when you need it?
Nice reply to someone who with the sounds of it suffers with depression
I've had a handful of people throwing insults and giving me abuse in another thread for stating some fannys are nice and some are growlers" but here we have a woman publicly belittling a guy and no one bats an eyelid
Speaks volumes about some of the people on this site "
So you slag off a woman's parts and don't expect to be pulled up on it?
Plus have you not seen the positive comments on this thread?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"lmao.. where the heck is that really tiny violin when you need it?
Nice reply to someone who with the sounds of it suffers with depression
I've had a handful of people throwing insults and giving me abuse in another thread for stating some fannys are nice and some are growlers" but here we have a woman publicly belittling a guy and no one bats an eyelid
Speaks volumes about some of the people on this site "
I believe if you read the comments, then people have mentioned that there's no need for some comments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whilst I understand that you are feeling low OP, and that the cruel messages you have received are not pleasant; it is the nature of the beast.
It is far better to be rejected and blocked off-hand, than to invest your deepest or darkest thoughts with someone; only to be treated with contempt and then ignored.
The problem we face (as singles) is that we are caught between the land and the ocean; sometimes we stray into the deeps, we stray out of a place where we can stand and trust in others
You see you can be the guy that gets rejected off-hand, or the one that is rejected when someone else more desirable comes along; then the distance grows and you are left in the deep with no way back to the shore......
In summary, it is better to stay in the shallows, perhaps not put so much of yourself into your fab life..... this I too need to learn; maybe one day I will |
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Lack of replies/deleted and being blocked is normal Fab protocol here.
Never expect messages to be replied. Nor for people who aren't compatible with you to engage in anything other than blocking you - then you won't be disappointed. It's needed like this for most people to stay afloat, under a constant onslaught of messages and interest.
Personal attacks are different. Men especially need to have thick skins to do well here: it's a tough life/process. But some disrespect and many attacks break Fab site rules and should be reported by us all, if in the Forum, or by individuals if in their mail.
No product or service is likely to match everyone, at every stage of their life. Use wisely and appropriately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From what I have learnt from the forums, I personally couldn't do this if I were a single male - especially if being blocked is the reward for sending a message. It might be worth going out there to clubs etc. I think you'll find that a more relaxed atmosphere. You might not get success immediately, but you will build up connections and it snowballs from there. The guys we know on Fab do ok, but they don't rely on Fab. It's parties and clubs and getting yourself known that usually makes it work. Sorry Fabs getting you down  |
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Women get so many messages and it's hard to keep up. I automatically delete anyone who's out of my preferred age. Too far away or have a cock for thier profile pic (I find it annoying)
Hate the dick head who are rude but don't expect attention for every message you send out.
And btw it happens to girls too.
If you can't hack it take a break.
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"Having had a read through I feel I'm missing out
I've had the blocks and deleted messages but not a single bit of abuse.
Who do I write to to complain?"
Not me, you appalling rancid excuse for an elderberry.... |
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over a year ago
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The spiteful, hurtful comments about my profile and gallery, the blocks for no apparent reason, it's brought back all the depression and self loathing
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OP.
This site can be fucking brutal.
But that's NOT your fault.
If the site is making you feel like what you just said that I've quoted, then you need to get off here because that doesn't sound fun.
What you are describing is the nature of fab, for BOTH sexes.
It really can be brutal by nature for every single person who exists on here. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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I honestly think that if you are a single male who lacks self-confidence, Fabs is possibly not for you. That said, I wasn't all that confident about my body when I first joined and Fabs has helped in that regard.
What I never lacked though was confidence in my personality - I have had plenty of messages deleted without reply, and of those that have replied, a fair number have been distinctly uninspiring, it bothers me not.
I have never had an abusive message though, and I find the notion that "we all get them" faintly unsettling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having had a read through I feel I'm missing out
I've had the blocks and deleted messages but not a single bit of abuse.
Who do I write to to complain?
Not me, you appalling rancid excuse for an elderberry...."
Marvellous - full house now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never had an abusive message though, and I find the notion that "we all get them" faintly unsettling. "
Oh I have.
I got a proper bad one. A real WTF moment.
When someone I met turned them down, they decided it was MY fault.  |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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I have never had an abusive message though, and I find the notion that "we all get them" faintly unsettling.
Oh I have.
I got a proper bad one. A real WTF moment.
When someone I met turned them down, they decided it was MY fault. "
So... some random was turned down by one of your meets and blamed you?
I'd take it as a compliment.
"Yes, I AM that good" |
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"Im regretting joining this site, all i get is message after message deleted not even read
The spiteful, hurtful comments about my profile and gallery, the blocks for no apparent reason, it's brought back all the depression and self loathing
Im only posting this so anyone who reads it will think twice about behaving unsympatheticaly to another user
Those who have to me and read this, shame on you
It gets like that sometimes OP. Maybe consider taking a break from the site for a while if it's affecting you like that, I have to do that sometimes too.
Feel better soon"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never had an abusive message though, and I find the notion that "we all get them" faintly unsettling.
Oh I have.
I got a proper bad one. A real WTF moment.
When someone I met turned them down, they decided it was MY fault. "
How?!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never had an abusive message though, and I find the notion that "we all get them" faintly unsettling.
Oh I have.
I got a proper bad one. A real WTF moment.
When someone I met turned them down, they decided it was MY fault.
So... some random was turned down by one of your meets and blamed you?
I'd take it as a compliment.
"Yes, I AM that good" "
haha.
It was a couple and they blocked me before I could respond to ask them what the fuck they were on and if I could have some of it.  |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
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I have never had an abusive message though, and I find the notion that "we all get them" faintly unsettling.
Oh I have.
I got a proper bad one. A real WTF moment.
When someone I met turned them down, they decided it was MY fault.
So... some random was turned down by one of your meets and blamed you?
I'd take it as a compliment.
"Yes, I AM that good"
haha.
It was a couple and they blocked me before I could respond to ask them what the fuck they were on and if I could have some of it. "
To quote Muhammad Ali - "I'm the greatest! I'm a bad man, and I'm Pretty!"... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I honestly think that if you are a single male who lacks self-confidence, Fabs is possibly not for you. That said, I wasn't all that confident about my body when I first joined and Fabs has helped in that regard.
What I never lacked though was confidence in my personality - I have had plenty of messages deleted without reply, and of those that have replied, a fair number have been distinctly uninspiring, it bothers me not.
I have never had an abusive message though, and I find the notion that "we all get them" faintly unsettling. "
I reached a point a while back when getting a nice message was unsettling.
OP, if you are still reading this then stop. Take a proper break and find your feet again. It's easy to lose perspective when feeling unwell.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To quote Muhammad Ali - "I'm the greatest! I'm a bad man, and I'm Pretty!"...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jC2ZY2loo74
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That's from lock Stock and two smoking barrels. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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To quote Muhammad Ali - "I'm the greatest! I'm a bad man, and I'm Pretty!"...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jC2ZY2loo74
That's from lock Stock and two smoking barrels. "
Is it? I know it from....er James Brown. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lmao.. where the heck is that really tiny violin when you need it?
Nice reply to someone who with the sounds of it suffers with depression
I've had a handful of people throwing insults and giving me abuse in another thread for stating some fannys are nice and some are growlers" but here we have a woman publicly belittling a guy and no one bats an eyelid
Speaks volumes about some of the people on this site "
Sometimes it speaks volumes to ignore the throwaway negative comments & take heed of the postive ones.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im regretting joining this site, all i get is message after message deleted not even read
The spiteful, hurtful comments about my profile and gallery, the blocks for no apparent reason, it's brought back all the depression and self loathing
Im only posting this so anyone who reads it will think twice about behaving unsympatheticaly to another user
Those who have to me and read this, shame on you
I understand where your coming from fella .
there is no ego boost for your average guy on these sorts of site like there is for your average woman .
but there are a few things you can do to try and not let site life get to you instead of leaving fella .
after all your here just looking for a bit of adventure and excitement if you leave that hole is still going to exist in your life .
so back to things you can do to not let reality of life on a site like this for a average guy get to you .
op invest no emotions into your search and put no stock or emotion into a complete strangers opinion of you after all they don't know you really do they so there opinion of you based on a few words and a couple of pictures is really meaningless for the reason above .
next take expectation out of your search by that I mean treat search as nothing more than a distraction from your day to day life if something happens great if it doesn't oh well there's always next time .
remember if you expect nothing to come from you being here and your treat it as just a bit of silly fun .you will take expectation out of the equation . remember expectation is the bedfellow of disappointment if you expect nothing you can not be disappoint by a out come and there fore not upset by that out come .
try to start thinking like this op and slowly you will find yourself no at all bothered by any think that goes on online but remember your trying to change your way of thinking doing something like that takes time and there will be ups and downs until you reach the point where what happens online will not effect you because once you reach that point you will realise on line is not real .
nor are the emotions that crop up from the actions of others online real by default ,
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This is the best response ever, in fact it should be one of the T&C's a single male profile has to read and tick before they learn the hard way.
The empathetic opening makes me think you are a professional counselor?
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