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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

2 Weeks weve been arranging this meet miss single lady, with hours til the meet you ask, "i got a friend,sort of fuck buddy, is it ok to bring him along?

Yeh why not. Were soft,gullable and love the idea of being lied to and having another cock just there intentionally to fuck my partner as you equally want fucking by me...

Well, yes thats cool here as long as...

A.he can suck waynes cock so i can watch.

B.Take it up his tight ass too,

and

C.dont mind filming,taking pics of us 2 enjoying what he isnt, my sexy lady or fella!!

Are we wrong to think that a fuck buddy may not care why they are there, as long as he/she gets another fuck under the belt..

If we wanted to meet a couple tonight then hey, we would of.

Not a woman and a man with no emotional tie to each other that are just there to make sure they cum,oh and hard.

Coming with maybe no care or respect for the other couple deep down being as they are, in reality single. yes of course bring him,sure he can ride my sexy lady's ass roar, as you tell me to fuck yours equally as hard, no cares how each of you as buddies are being treated as each pounds away.

This,unlike may we add, how a couple with an emotional bond to each other would care on how each other are being treated..

Lets face it, he is there to fuck the other women 99.9% of the time,as is the she the other guy.Cool if thats ok all round and all been open from the start,but ffs,we talked to you as a single bi lady wanting a couple.Why say single lady profile,say, tell all you want then, piff paff poof drop the, i got a friend you'd both like too.lol

Like we said,fine if he will do other stuff in return asked of him for the lady's pleasure,sights and sounds before he gets the lady he so wants.Im guessing he'd say no to it, to waynes massive sigh of relief as he's not bi in any way like.haha

Anyway, what we ask is this. Single fem turns into fuck buddies, are we wrong to slate them sooooo much?We are not slating fb's in general,just stealth ones posing as single ladies.

Who would still go through with it just for the sake of a meet? Who else as a prob with fb's rather than couples?Just curious like..

We thought we'd ask as we hit our 3rd stealth like fb couple should of been single lady profile/chat earlier.It got a strait red,block and unlucky from us where as if they'd been honest they may of got a meet as a couple as both were mmmm...

Oh well.....

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By *harpDressed ManMan  over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

While I agree you've been disrespected by the F in question, and understand how frustrating that will have been so close to the meet...

...I don't necessarily agree with your definition of fuckbuddy. I'd see it as a friend (geuinely, and about whom I cared on that level) with whom I regularly had 1-1 sex with, in addition to any mutually agreed swing situations.

Sorry for the tangent...

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By *andKCouple  over a year ago

Norfolk

I suspect by the time it came to the meet the 'fuck buddy' would turn up on his own making some excuse why the female couldn't make it as I doubt there ever has been a single girl all along.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Being lied to and the status suddenly changing is not on. If she has a fuck buddy that she would like to bring along, it should be clearly stated in the profile or they should have a couples profile.

I dont think all fuck buddies are as you state though. There are genuine people who swing together who are not married but have a deep mutual respect for each other and are there to look after each other. I dont think it is entirely correct that they will do whatever they fancy with not a thought for the other people - I should imagine they too have rules on what they will do and see in relation to their partner - after all some are partners, they may not live together etc but they do have respect.

some as you say are just coupling up and doing whatever without a thought - its just about finding the right ones.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

i can see your point about stealth buddies. As sharpy says though, not all fb relationships and so shallow and convenient. I have a fb and i get as much pleasure from seeing him with someone else as i do seeing my husband in the same situation.

However, if i am chatting to someone on this profile then my intention is to meet alone. On my profile with hubby the intention is to meet together and on my fb profile (where we do state that we're fbs) then the intention there is for us to meet as a couple.

My suggestion would be not to tar all with the same brush. We're not all liars with partners hiding away to be sprung out at the last minute.

Hope you have more luck soon xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Not given much thought of fuck buddies before, thought they were just guys/girls that fuck anyone but being on here, ive changed that idea and agree with Sharpy, especially as i meet a guy i met through here regularly for sex and we are friends

On another note though, i was exchanging messages with a guy and arranged to meet up, he changed the time/date twice due to family, got no problem with that but his last text was about bringing his mate "fit genuine guy" along that stopped me meeting him, whether its for a social or not, unless ive met both, i wouldnt appreciate bringing a mate along and i think this guy thought he (and his mate) would have a good time

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Well personally i would be hesitant about meeting the pair of you on my own. Your profile has some aggressive capitals in and your post here isn't exactly soft is it. She may have wanted a guy along to ensure her safety.

I rarely meet couples now as i have come across so many who just want a play thing and are quite aggressive at times.

Just another viewpoint that's all.

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By *ylde FloozyWoman  over a year ago

preston

I don't find your profile aggressive DD, I know how hard it is to try and get some people on here to understand and respect what you are looking for...

As for your problem, I fully respect the fact that people have fuck buddies, and that they enjoy being together, why shouldn't they, after all, swinging is all about enjoying yourself with other people, but I have encountered it the other way.

I have been speaking to a single guy, who suddenly wanted to bring along another female, and while I am bi, I am bi when I choose to be, I really don't appreciate speaking to someone and getting excited about a meet for them to suddenly turn around and move the goal posts. ..

This is so not on, at least be honest from the start then everyone is aware of what is happening.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't find your profile aggressive DD, I know how hard it is to try and get some people on here to understand and respect what you are looking for...

As for your problem, I fully respect the fact that people have fuck buddies, and that they enjoy being together, why shouldn't they, after all, swinging is all about enjoying yourself with other people, but I have encountered it the other way.

I have been speaking to a single guy, who suddenly wanted to bring along another female, and while I am bi, I am bi when I choose to be, I really don't appreciate speaking to someone and getting excited about a meet for them to suddenly turn around and move the goal posts. ..

This is so not on, at least be honest from the start then everyone is aware of what is happening.

"

If you look at what the op had been asked the woman they were chatting said she had a FB and asked if it was ok to bring him along. They could have said no quite simply. She could have then made a decision if she still wanted to meet them on her own. Thats not disrespecting the OP its the woman stating what she would rather do.

What we don't know is who contacted who first and what was said as its a point of view from just one side.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I agree with Savanna, why not just say no thanks to the fb but say you still want to meet her alone. If she says no well end of story and move on.

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By *ylde FloozyWoman  over a year ago

preston


"I don't find your profile aggressive DD, I know how hard it is to try and get some people on here to understand and respect what you are looking for...

As for your problem, I fully respect the fact that people have fuck buddies, and that they enjoy being together, why shouldn't they, after all, swinging is all about enjoying yourself with other people, but I have encountered it the other way.

I have been speaking to a single guy, who suddenly wanted to bring along another female, and while I am bi, I am bi when I choose to be, I really don't appreciate speaking to someone and getting excited about a meet for them to suddenly turn around and move the goal posts. ..

This is so not on, at least be honest from the start then everyone is aware of what is happening.

If you look at what the op had been asked the woman they were chatting said she had a FB and asked if it was ok to bring him along. They could have said no quite simply. She could have then made a decision if she still wanted to meet them on her own. Thats not disrespecting the OP its the woman stating what she would rather do.

What we don't know is who contacted who first and what was said as its a point of view from just one side."

No, they had arranged to meet a single lady who suddenly decided that she wanted to meet as a couple, their point was, if they wanted to meet a couple they would have advertised for a couple.

Thats the way I read it anyway.

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By *ylde FloozyWoman  over a year ago

preston


"I agree with Savanna, why not just say no thanks to the fb but say you still want to meet her alone. If she says no well end of story and move on."

Why waste two weeks chatting and arranging a meet when she could have said so in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Can see why a lot of single ladies won't meet couple now

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

On the first question - the late addition, I would have said "we have been looking forward to meeting you on our own for the last two weeks we have been arranging it so we would like to carry on with this plan but happy to meet you again with your FB in the future" see how genuine the initial contact really was.

With regards to FBs in general, we don't meet people in this sort of relationship.

Many are like average couples but we have had many experiences (seen it loads when we used to run the B+B by Chameleons and when I worked at Chams)

of FB's getting together and the guy has no real interest in the woman he is with.

He doesn't care if she is happy and comfortable with the situation, he has no real emotional contact with the woman and is really only there to shag the other woman, in our case Sasha.

Sometimes they don't even find the woman they are with attractive but agreed to get together so he could have more fun as a couple.

OK some are more genuine and do have feelings for the woman they are with but not like people in relationships.

When we meet, paramount for me is that Sasha is comfortable and having fun, I think this is important, Sasha in turn loves to see me having fun and gets pleasure from that.

Sounds like I am having a go only at the Male FBs here but let's be honest, women don't need a man to get into clubs cheaper or get in on couples only nights or to find couples willing to meet them so yes, the situations above happen less with females.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I agree with Savanna, why not just say no thanks to the fb but say you still want to meet her alone. If she says no well end of story and move on.

Why waste two weeks chatting and arranging a meet when she could have said so in the first place."

She may have had second thoughts after chatting. She may have thought if she took a FB then she would have felt more comfortable. Do you not chat to someone for a while and form an opinion on them? I do. I will then meet or not or on the odd occasion meet with a friend if i am 50/50.

Chatting for 2 weeks isn't a waste if you value your safety.

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By *heWolfMan  over a year ago

warwickshire


"

With regards to FBs in general, we don't meet people in this sort of relationship.

Many are like average couples but we have had many experiences (seen it loads when we used to run the B+B by Chameleons and when I worked at Chams)

of FB's getting together and the guy has no real interest in the woman he is with.

He doesn't care if she is happy and comfortable with the situation, he has no real emotional contact with the woman and is really only there to shag the other woman, in our case Sasha.

Sometimes they don't even find the woman they are with attractive but agreed to get together so he could have more fun as a couple.......

Sounds like I am having a go only at the Male FBs here but let's be honest, women don't need a man to get into clubs cheaper or get in on couples only nights or to find couples willing to meet them so yes, the situations above happen less with females.

"

That's not "FB's in general" though, as you stated as the top of the quote, the way it reads is that you have encountered these relationships at Chameleons (or the B&B).

With the greatest respect, I'd suggest FBs "in general" are buddies, mates, friends, mutually satisfactory arrangements with no strings attached, totally different to two people hooking up in a club, where no woman will ever have a problem finding someone to have sex with, no matter who she is, there will always be a bloke desperate enough to take on the job. It's a 2-way thing or it isn't a FB relationship, both parties benefit. As you point out, a woman in a club doesn't really gain anything, so I'd hesitate to call this a "FB relationship", per se.

I actually think it's unfair to dismiss FB relationships off-hand, there are PLENTY of long-term married couples who are out there swinging where one partner isn't 100% into it, or one of them looks forward to swapping the fat lump they are stuck with because they can't afford a divorce.

If you think of it like that, a FB relationship is more suited for this sort of thing, it is two people wholly into exploring new sexual horizons, there won't be any deep-seated jealousies or hang-ups. As with any meets, you should be able to tell when chatting all together if someone is there just to jump your partner or if they are there as a companion to watch someone's back and ensure they are safe. If you don't see the couple opposite as balanced individuals, say "thanks but no thanks", simple.

The point with the OP about moving the goalposts stands, but maybe it's not a cynical ploy. Perhaps the woman was a newbie, was more than nervous? It's theoretically risky for a single bloke to put himself in a situation where he's minus his trousers with strangers, for a woman it's tenfold. Perhaps she just needed someone to hold her hand whilst she dipped her toe (or other body parts), this was just another type of Safety Contact, like single women should all have with first contact meets. (You DO have them, don't you ladies? You know, someone you phone at midnight to say all is well, and if the call isn't made, the Safety hits the panic button?). If this were the case, she should have sharpened her communication skills, I can see why the OP was racked off.

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By *heWolfMan  over a year ago

warwickshire


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OK some are more genuine and do have feelings for the woman they are with but not like people in relationships."

Just to go back to Jed's post, because it is something I feel very strongly about (and because I split my last reply in case people just fell asleep half way through!)Perhaps a thread hijack, but meh!

If I wanted a wife, I'd have one. If I have a FB, it doesn't mean that I care any less for her health, safety and happiness than if I was having to go to her parents' house every Sunday and had a mortgage with her. No, I don't really care about her dilemmas in Sainsbury's, that's wife territory, but her welfare IS my concern, especially if I want repeat performances, at the very least it might compromise MY health down the line.

Frankly, I can't imagine NOT having respect and concern for a FB, I think that is a Fuck-Wit Buddy, not a Fuck Buddy you are thinking of.

Anyone who finds themself with someone who has no real concern for them apart from access to more partners needs to show some self-respect and tell them to clear off, there are plenty of good, decent people out here that want no-strings fun with someone they can trust.

I'll state categorically here and now that anyone I have sex with, even a spontaneous club shag, automatically deserves and gets my utmost respect, I'll not do anything they don't seem to enjoy or which might be dangerous, and I'll watch their back whilst they play with others, it's my duty as a gentleman and a responsible adult. I'll stick up for them, make sure they get home safely if we've been out, I just don't want to have their freezing feet on my back every night, or nagging at me to clear the shed.

In fact, I've been known to weigh in and watch the welfare of women to whom I have no connection, on more than one occasion pulling up blokes who think that because they are in the round room at Chams, in the dark, they don't need to rubber up. I'd like to think that everyone would do the same too, it's about being a good person (notwithstanding my many other faults that make me an arsehole!!).

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

roll up , roll up single guys.

a single fem has misbehaved .

tut, tut single fem, yu will give them all a bad name lol .

and before you know it, there will be a block all single fems option and profile with NO SINGLE FEMS, if we want one, WE WILL CONTACT YOU.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

You could have just said, "No thanks. Come on your own as agreed or not at all."

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire

I agree completely with what wolf says. I care about my regular fbs and i know they care about me.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Your right, our experience has been general and unfortunately most FBs at the club go unoticed because they are as normal as any other couple in the club, it IS only the ones who don't really care about the person they are with that "flag up"

We met one FB couple who came to us having implied that they were in a full time relationship and that was a disaster that wouldnt go away for months

We will meet FBs that we know a little about but again what puts us off FBs is that we only seem to get the crap mails from them, you know the ones, there is even another current thread about them

Hi, I have a friend who would love to lick your pussy

Me and my FB would love to meet you

Wanna meet up with my FB and me for some fun

You check out the profile and its a single male with no details of his supposed FB on his profile

There are also the single males who request meets as a 4some with thier FBs and if you agree they then try to find a woman who is willing to join them to meet you.

As I said there are many great FB couples around but we dont like to use websites to find them.

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By *ummy mummyWoman  over a year ago

southampton-ish

whenever I have had a fb he has always cared about my pleasure as much, in a lot of cases more than his own, whether it was 1on 1 or if we met up with a couple in a club. I have also gone to clubs as a couple with someone, but more of just being like each other;s date for the night if that makes sense, but if we played with couples they were very much aware of that fact

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

OK some are more genuine and do have feelings for the woman they are with but not like people in relationships.

Just to go back to Jed's post, because it is something I feel very strongly about (and because I split my last reply in case people just fell asleep half way through!)Perhaps a thread hijack, but meh!

If I wanted a wife, I'd have one. If I have a FB, it doesn't mean that I care any less for her health, safety and happiness than if I was having to go to her parents' house every Sunday and had a mortgage with her. No, I don't really care about her dilemmas in Sainsbury's, that's wife territory, but her welfare IS my concern, especially if I want repeat performances, at the very least it might compromise MY health down the line.

Frankly, I can't imagine NOT having respect and concern for a FB, I think that is a Fuck-Wit Buddy, not a Fuck Buddy you are thinking of.

Anyone who finds themself with someone who has no real concern for them apart from access to more partners needs to show some self-respect and tell them to clear off, there are plenty of good, decent people out here that want no-strings fun with someone they can trust.

I'll state categorically here and now that anyone I have sex with, even a spontaneous club shag, automatically deserves and gets my utmost respect, I'll not do anything they don't seem to enjoy or which might be dangerous, and I'll watch their back whilst they play with others, it's my duty as a gentleman and a responsible adult. I'll stick up for them, make sure they get home safely if we've been out, I just don't want to have their freezing feet on my back every night, or nagging at me to clear the shed.

In fact, I've been known to weigh in and watch the welfare of women to whom I have no connection, on more than one occasion pulling up blokes who think that because they are in the round room at Chams, in the dark, they don't need to rubber up. I'd like to think that everyone would do the same too, it's about being a good person (notwithstanding my many other faults that make me an arsehole!!). "

Ah what a lovely post and what a lovely gentleman you seem to be. I agree with you, in my opinion, if a guy agrees to accompany a woman to a club or a meet then he has to take care of her and look after her welfare - id expect that I think - perhaps im just one of those old fashioned girls - who knows.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman  over a year ago

evesham

i have just been in a similar situation and will put it from my side of the coin (single fem profile with a FB profile too)

was contacted on this profile by a couple that looked like a good meet, i said i would be interested in playing with them but also mentioned the fact that i have a friend on here that i am looking to meet couples with.

They came back to me very politely and said that they were only interested in meeting single fems etc - no vile attack on why fb couples are no good blah blah blah

i replied saying thats fine i understand and am still interested in meeting on my own. they put a little 'no last minute can my friend join in messages' to which i replied 'of course not, now i know how you play i will respect your boundaries'

thats what this game is all about in the end, respecting peoples lives, boundaries etc

i dont think all FB couples are the same as the OP states - i dont want to meet just anyone and watch my FB bang someones wife hard, i want to meet people that interest us and enjoy the moment with them and he is the same

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"While I agree you've been disrespected by the F in question, and understand how frustrating that will have been so close to the meet...

...I don't necessarily agree with your definition of fuckbuddy. I'd see it as a friend (geuinely, and about whom I cared on that level) with whom I regularly had 1-1 sex with, in addition to any mutually agreed swing situations.

Sorry for the tangent..."

I second that. My fb is a dear friend and we talk even when we're not meeting.

we just don't want commitment.

but our only interest is not sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Well personally i would be hesitant about meeting the pair of you on my own. Your profile has some aggressive capitals in and your post here isn't exactly soft is it. She may have wanted a guy along to ensure her safety.

I rarely meet couples now as i have come across so many who just want a play thing and are quite aggressive at times.

Just another viewpoint that's all. "

With total respect of your viewpoint,aggressive isnt our forte. Not in anyway at all.We dont admit to being saints, possessing that halo of perfection either.we just say things how they are sometimes so there are no misunderstandings. If this makes us aggressive then we are guilty as charged, but may we defend ourselves a little though here.Our problem wasnt fb's in general,more the stealth type that appear down the chat line.As we said,"if she had been honest from the start we may of met both" but from the start, porkies were told leaving no trust in any words after that.We did say there and then,politely, that we were no longer interested and left it at that.We understand people have fb's for personal reasons and believe some feelings are present between them, its just our preference to not meet them,we feel more secure that way.We are neither putting down single ladies.We take onboard the concerns they have about couples and respect them as it must be daunting going alone to meets with couples.Also in no way now, or ever have we looked at single ladies as play things for both of us.All three individual wants, and no no's from a poss meet are discussed and if anyone isnt happy with something,maybe safety,maybe another reason then we poss wouldnt meet,or if asked if a man can join her for her own peace of mind, then we'd maybe agree and ask if it would still be mff or if she wanted him to join in.He can be there and watch and maybe, be invited to join us at some point if he so wishes.Surely though, if he's only there for safety he wouldnt be there to join in.Open to interpretation that one really.

We've read some totally valid and some way off the mark replies to our post.One thing is definate for sure,we have taken all them in,got them onbnoard and possibly learnt a little from them too.Maybe too,its about time profiles of single ladies stopped hiding the male friend or fb,whichever the case may be in that profile and just were honest from the off.Then again,if all were honest on fab from the start like the vast majority of people, wouldnt that be a miracle...hehe.Problem then becomes that,it would just be to easy and take away that,is he/she genuine or not side of things which sometimes,does provide that need to be aware,safe and weary of people,ensuring everyone gets all they genuinely want........

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It’s no wonder you hear many couples saying single bi fems are like hens teeth after reading this thread

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By *adchickCouple  over a year ago

Cyprus

We arranged to meet a single male, right age, right area, right timings etc.

24 hours before meet, he rings and says that he's bringing his 'new' fuck buddy who is 19, bi-curious and wants someone to teach her!!!!!!!!!

Wrong age (younger than my kids), we very rarely do couples, fuck buddy my foot...... etc....

Jason spoke to him and told him that it wasn't going to happen and lying point blank about being a single male just wasn't 'cricket.'

The abuse we got was unbelievable.

I was a fat slag and should be grateful that someone/anyone would want to shag me. We should be gateful that a 19 year old would want to play with us! and we should be grateful that the 'single' male was prepared to 'get it up' and fuck me (the fat slag)

It isn't just single females that change the rules to suit themselves....

And we WON'T meet fb's...... one is normally emotionally attached whilst the other isn't, they could be married to other people and we WON'T meet cheaters.... the list goes on. FFS, we don't even meet single females so why they thought we'd be interested in a 19 year old is beyond me!

Don't be disheartened.... shit happens and people lie. Get over it and forget it. There are alot of nice people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

there are lots of comments on here about fuck buddies getting together to get more fun, not caring about the other etc etc.

please dont tar us all with the same brush. my buddy and i have a couples profile on here, have known each other years, look out for each other and care for each other without having a full on relationship.

w'd never fuck people we didnt find attractive, and that goes for our single profiles also

anyone that does fuck people they dont fancy - thats another thread altogether!

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