I do apologise if this has come up before, however ....
Is there a difference between people that are into swinging in an attempt to save a relationship, by bringing others into it, or those that are very secure in their relationship, and swinging is an extension of that trust.
I only ask after various conversations it appears this way, and whilst not the only reasons, it appears to be the predominant one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do apologise if this has come up before, however ....
Is there a difference between people that are into swinging in an attempt to save a relationship, by bringing others into it, or those that are very secure in their relationship, and swinging is an extension of that trust.
I only ask after various conversations it appears this way, and whilst not the only reasons, it appears to be the predominant one"
Great post!
IMHO swinging can never fix a damaged relationship, but may give it the final push.
In a loving trusting relationship swinging can enhance people's lives - but at the end of the day I do not swing to have better sex, I have the best at home - I swing because I love the diversity of people we meet; some are so interesting and from such different walks of life. Some folks we met are so calm and pleasant in the face of really bad life experiences, and talking to them you would never know they had a bad deal. I actually draw some inspiration from some of the people I met and talk to on this site. |
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By *adchickCouple
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people that are into swinging in an attempt to save a relationship, by bringing others into it, "
They are dangerous people to know or get close to. You CAN'T fix a relationship by swinging. You may change it, you may give it a different perspective but having sex with other people doesn't fix a relationship, it gives it different problems.
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or those that are very secure in their relationship, and swinging is an extension of that trust."
The perfect kind of swingers. No jealousy, no emotion, only fun, honesty and good times.
Swinging is about trust and honesty. If a marriage is in trouble..... it's normally because of mistrust and dishonesty!
So yes..... there are massive differences between those two types of swingers. |
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people that are into swinging in an attempt to save a relationship, by bringing others into it,
They are dangerous people to know or get close to. You CAN'T fix a relationship by swinging. You may change it, you may give it a different perspective but having sex with other people doesn't fix a relationship, it gives it different problems.
or those that are very secure in their relationship, and swinging is an extension of that trust.
The perfect kind of swingers. No jealousy, no emotion, only fun, honesty and good times.
Swinging is about trust and honesty. If a marriage is in trouble..... it's normally because of mistrust and dishonesty!
So yes..... there are massive differences between those two types of swingers."
Thank you I totally agree, as a single man, I do realise the difference, it just appears sometimes others didn't, and whilst I am old, bold and ugly enough to look after myself, just concerned some people may not see it |
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Recently talked to someone who had spent the evening at a swingers club trying to mediate between a couple who had just started swinging. It was his birthday, and as their relationship had hit a very rough patch, she decided to take him to a swingers club as a pressie, then she got all bent out of shape because he wanted to play with other women.... silly girl.... what did she expect? The analogy "kid in a sweet shop" comes to mind!!
IMHO swinging in a trusting, loving relationship brings people even closer, but in an already disintegrating relationship it just hastens the end. |
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Sometimes one person in the relationship wants to introduce swinging in order to fix things - other times both agree it might help.
If the key word is that they need swinging to "repair" as previous posters have stated then a better way forward would be taking stock, reflecting and to do this perhaps engage in counselling. |
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