No, I have in the past cheated on partners, I have in the past been cheated on, I didn't enjoy either side of it, but at least I know through experience.

What is important to me now didn't really matter to me those years back when I did cheat, my priorities have changed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"yet another thread on cheating as it seems to be the main topic tonight!

if you could cheat on your partner/wife/husband/gf, etc etc and get away with it..........WOULD YOU???"
no i wont cheat on a partner

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By *eorge17Man over a year ago

Leven

"i am going to watch shameless "

that karen is cheating on her husband

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To this date, even after what I have been through, I am still of the opinion what the other person does not know does not hurt.

HOWEVER, one must be prepared to live with the consequences of being found out!

Hence I don't do it myself, as being cited as a homewrecker for the second time is too much for me to bear.

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By *umourCouple over a year ago

Rushden

No, never! Too much to lose... Not talking material things, but Les is the light of my life and we have been together for ever... Nothing will jeopardise that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, never! Too much to lose... Not talking material things, but Les is the light of my life and we have been together for ever... Nothing will jeopardise that"

30 years together here and wishing for many many more so not going to ever put that at risk

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By *ornyandnymphoCouple over a year ago

poole

Anybody who cheats deserves to loose everything. We've been married 22 years and if one of us cheated that would be the end of our marriage.

Is it worth it for a shag?? NO

Horny shags me everyday anyway lol

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

wow... okay I have been wondering whether to say anything in this debate, whether to say anything for fear of hurting some of the closet people i am too online....

I am active on another swinging website, and a lot of people who were there in those forums will remember a situation with regards to a specific member who use to be on that site..... really respected member of the site, of the forums, I don't think a bad word had ever been said about the person, was liked at munches and socials alike......

no one knew this person was married..... we had all been at a party with them one saturday night, getting an e-mail on the monday morning asking me if they had been drinking (to which the answer was no, drinking water and coffee all night) and then to find out this person had died in a road accident after they left...

then their "partner" found out about the site... came on and wrote things in the forums that will stick with me for as long as I am around....the pain, the anger, the loss of someone who meant a lot to them.....

and it is at times like that, that within our own little "swinging world" that you do realised there are other people that are affected,

I am not going to judge anyone, its not my place to.. i don't know peoples lives... peoples motives.... but the one thing that will stick with me is a sense that people out there can be hurt by others actions, directly or indirectly.... and that is no part of what I want from my life, or the scene, or the world in general.....

sean xxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No the realationship i have with my fantastic lady is more than enough for me

Also would i if we didnt swing???

No again xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

never

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

only in monopoly if im the banker

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"yet another thread on cheating as it seems to be the main topic tonight!

if you could cheat on your partner/wife/husband/gf, etc etc and get away with it..........WOULD YOU???"

who the hells going to reply yes to that? lmao

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"yet another thread on cheating as it seems to be the main topic tonight!

if you could cheat on your partner/wife/husband/gf, etc etc and get away with it..........WOULD YOU???"

The paradox of this question is this:

To 'get away' with something means never telling a living soul what you've done. Having said that, it is human nature to let others know what you've been upto. Humans like to shock, to be viewed differently to what they are percieved to be. We like to tell secrets.

The OP poses the question: If you could get away with cheating on your partner, would you?

To answer anything but 'No' to this question means that you have potentially exposed yourself to being caught, thereby increasing the risk of not getting away with it.

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By *hoseboots1952Couple over a year ago

grangemouth

no i wouldnt. first, i wouldnt be able to lie that well. second, whats the point in risking a break up for one night of passion? too much to lose, and the secret would eat away at me.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple over a year ago

Bolton

No, even if your partner didn't find out you'd still be guilty of cheating, there's no way I'd do it, I have too much respect for Steve to lie to him about anything. Z

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

no i wldnt ever cheat on my partner no matter.we hve grt relationship so why ruin a gud think u hve just for a bit of extra fun whn i hve that already with him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

nope xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have been with the same guy since the age of 15 and apart from our swinging playtime, I've never looked at another guy so the answer is a definate no xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. - The OP said IF I could get away with it. So...... yes.

Nothing happens.

Ask the question do I think it's right to cheat then NO.

Ask the question would I cheat the answer is NO

But the phrase 'getting away with it implies that no one finds out and that it doesn't affect me physically or emotionally.

If there are NO negative consequences guaranteed ..... the answer is YES. Course I would.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. - The OP said IF I could get away with it. So...... yes.

Nothing happens.

Ask the question do I think it's right to cheat then NO.

Ask the question would I cheat the answer is NO

But the phrase 'getting away with it implies that no one finds out and that it doesn't affect me physically or emotionally.

If there are NO negative consequences guaranteed ..... the answer is YES. Course I would. "

So given the right opportunity you would cheat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. - The OP said IF I could get away with it. So...... yes.

Nothing happens.

Ask the question do I think it's right to cheat then NO.

Ask the question would I cheat the answer is NO

But the phrase 'getting away with it implies that no one finds out and that it doesn't affect me physically or emotionally.

If there are NO negative consequences guaranteed ..... the answer is YES. Course I would.

So given the right opportunity you would cheat

People don't cheat because they know it's wrong. They know it's wrong because it causes pain, lessens character, ruins lives, destroys the self etc etc ....

The OP's Q was fairly simplistic and removed all these negatives.

That changes everything. If it no longer harmed anyone then YES. I'd have extra sex partners as no harm would be caused.

Bonks ... Don't say that it would be wrong. How can it be if ALL negative consequences have been removed?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What I mean is what I said first.

NO. I would NOT cheat on someone I loved.

Having ALL consequences removed for all parties and making the act of cheating totally harmless is a totally different ballgame NOT an opportunity.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not a chance! No way! Never!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

No i wouldnt cheat on Jay in a million years. If i have a meet that ive forgotten to mention i cant settle until after ive told him the next day. Ive not always been a good girl but then ive never loved them like i love him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What I mean is what I said first.

NO. I would NOT cheat on someone I loved.

Having ALL consequences removed for all parties and making the act of cheating totally harmless is a totally different ballgame NOT an opportunity. "

Are you sure now

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By *eclan_and_AimeeCouple over a year ago

dunblane, stirling

"yet another thread on cheating as it seems to be the main topic tonight!

if you could cheat on your partner/wife/husband/gf, etc etc and get away with it..........WOULD YOU???"

YES!!!

everytime we go to the pub and play pool, when Aimee's not looking I put the balls she has potted back on the table!!

And dont even get me started on Trivial Pursuits!

or have I totally misinterpretated the thread meaning?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always cheat on my left hand with my right hand but only when the left hand is not looking....Shhhh Left hand is gonna do the full stop.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"yet another thread on cheating as it seems to be the main topic tonight!

if you could cheat on your partner/wife/husband/gf, etc etc and get away with it..........WOULD YOU???

who the hells going to reply yes to that? lmao"

I just opened this thread and thought I had better scroll down before posting... "like anyone is gonna admit it in here" lol

However a survey of 46,000 UK people shows a much different % to what you'll find in this thread lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"yet another thread on cheating as it seems to be the main topic tonight!

if you could cheat on your partner/wife/husband/gf, etc etc and get away with it..........WOULD YOU???

who the hells going to reply yes to that? lmao

I just opened this thread and thought I had better scroll down before posting... "like anyone is gonna admit it in here" lol

However a survey of 46,000 UK people shows a much different % to what you'll find in this thread lol"

oh yeah, I've noticed there's less replies in my thread on it.

far less willing to admit past mistakes but point the finger me thinks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

Sales of halos on Ebay have rocketed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sales of halos on Ebay have rocketed

Only because they're out of beach balls, where is Pussy tonight?.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i couldnt bring myself to cheat on someone, ive been cheated on and then forgiven the person and still wouldnt have cheated i think if your willing to cheat you shouldnt be with that person

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