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"you make great points pearl. I do have a heart and on this occasion it goes out to both young boys abused and especially to the young boy who said to his friend ' you go on and leave me here to die '. xx" That one sentence from that little boy made my heart break I agree they were let down They had a hellish upbringing probably worse then any of us can imagine That does'nt make any of it right though,they must have had some good influences in their lives too Im sure they went to school and understood the differences between right and wrong? I think the parents should be punished too,I was talking to hubby about this and the whole case turned our stomachs,he said what most of us probably feel with children that he would hunt down anyone that did anything like that to our children and he would hunt the parents down too Whether that is right or wrong that is how you feel as a parent and you just can't help feeling that way As these boys spend the next few years incarcerated I just hope that some good is done for them so that when they come out they will be decent human beings For the 2 that were attacked I hope that with love and support they can both get past the horror of what happened and both lead happy contented lives | |||
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"thing is lots of children have a bad upbringing Lots of children are brought up around violence Lots of children are abused Lots of children go without bare essentials such as love, warmth, food, shelter They dont all CHOOSE to be violnet and its a cop out to say just because they had it tought thats its an excuse for their bad behavior Cos guess what There is no excuse, no validation no matter what They are scum I hope the victims never forgive them and hound them till their dying day " excellent post and i totaly agree. | |||
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"Just an idle thought, Approx 1-3% of the population are psychopaths/sociopaths, Approx 2,000 Fab members are online now. Statistics suggest approx 20 to 60 of those could be psychopaths/sociopaths " are there any mp,s on here | |||
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"Just an idle thought, Approx 1-3% of the population are psychopaths/sociopaths, Approx 2,000 Fab members are online now. Statistics suggest approx 20 to 60 of those could be psychopaths/sociopaths are there any mp,s on here " Dunno??? have you seen anyone claim the £5.00 per month gold membership as " EXPENSES" ???? | |||
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"Why do people keeping blaming the world and his wife for what is the fault of the parents. Parents who dont obviously care, who are not bothered that their offspring run amok. And expect others to put the problem right. Like the social services.and schools. The caseloads of social workers grow each day. Not just with young thugs but with the older generation who require help and in my mind have more rights to it than parents who dont or wont work and expect the country to do what they fail to do. The country didnt fail them. Their so called parents did. And the victims pay the price.AS always " What she said ^^^^ Plus, for me, teaching a child right from wrong is a requirement from the parents. If a child is taught this and still acts like these nasty pieces of work did, then in my mind they are evil. I can never get my head around the fact that someone would want to inflict so much pain onto someone, it just beggars belief for me. | |||
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"Im shocked once again at the legal system of this country. Have followed thisstory since it first broke and honestly believed after the Jamie Bulger case that these 2 would have been held " at her Majestys pleasure ", in other words, till the queen says they should be let out. What do they get ??..5 years...5 YEARS !!... I really do feel so sorry for the victims and there familys and hope to god that they can some how get over this and make their lives something so much better !" And the women who let her brain dead son pass away by turning of his life support after being told he would never recover and would spend the rest of his life in hospital having a machine breath for him got life....go figure | |||
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"its nowt to do with government these boys knew deep down what they were doing was wrong I do hope they get picked on in where they are A bully will always meet a bigger bully enentually" Local authorities have admitted this was preventable. These tossers, authorities, are not doing their jobs. It`s the same excuses every time. | |||
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"Why not put the parents into jail too. for the full life sentance. They are as guilty in my eyes. " You are soooo right there. | |||
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"its nowt to do with government these boys knew deep down what they were doing was wrong I do hope they get picked on in where they are A bully will always meet a bigger bully enentually Local authorities have admitted this was preventable. These tossers, authorities, are not doing their jobs. It`s the same excuses every time." But why should the blame be put on the authorities ? The schools, the social services, the neighbours etc. ????? I was a right little cow growing up, gave my mother grey hair etc. but i wasnt violent or a vandal. I came in late and answered back. It didnt warrant getting someone else in to take the blame. I got a clout round the earhole from me mom and god help me if i did it again. Why the hell is it everyone elses problem but the parents ? | |||
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"The police are looking to prosecute the parents. Apparently, they are taking advice as to what they can do to ensure a conviction. Well..... that's what Sky News are reporting at this moment." So they should,they deserve it too | |||
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"fuckin hang the we bastards sorry for my talk but we need to start punishing people" bit strong for a 10 and 11 year old | |||
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"Have a heart! They are children afterall. How would you feel if you were locked up at that age and be told you'll never get out and enjoy freedom again??? Their parents failed them. The society failed them. We the tax payers failed them! Why didn't the Social Services do something about them? Instead of allowing them to rot with their abusive parents???!!! Why didn't their neighbours/relatives etc. do something about them? To rescue them from such hellish upbringing???!!! I sincerely hope they can have a fresh start in life without any prejudice, and put the unfornate events leading to their downfall behind them. They are young, and they can still have a good future, if they are allowed to do so. And before anyone jumps up and down and asks about what about the victums? I feel sorry for them for being the victums. However, I do not buy the "an eye for an eye" mentality, sorry! " i suspect jamie bulgers mum disagrees with you pearl | |||
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"I think it is quite possible that some people can be 'born evil' I have no evidence to prove this theory, but I believe it is possible. I know of 1 person in particular who grew up with his 2 brothers in a family where both the parents worked and the family had a very good standard of living, holidays, nice clothes, well looked after etc etc etc. They wern't spoiled but they were brought up the right way, to have respect, manners and to know right from wrong - the whole 9 yards. 2 of the lads gew up to be model citizens, but the brother, the 1 to which I refer, grew up to be a proper little shit, into drugs, all manner of petty crime, pinching cars, burglary the lot ... he ended up in and out of jail - much to the dispair of his parents. Now we can have all the fancy talk in the world, all the reasons and excuses under the sun why these 2 behaved the way they did, but at the end of the day they were and still are and probably always will be a couple of little bastards. It's high time we started to just accept the fact that some people are born to be bad, quit listening to the talk by the well paid 'experts', bang them up and chuck away the key. " ahh the nature v nurture debate lol I think evil comes from within, 99.9% of serial kiilers come from good homes and had normal upbringing, theres no evidance at all to saw children who was sexually abused will grow up to sexually abuse, no evidance to show that children who are beaten by their parents will beat the own kids, inface children who have such up bringing are more inclined to self harm than harm others | |||
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"Have a heart! They are children afterall. How would you feel if you were locked up at that age and be told you'll never get out and enjoy freedom again??? Their parents failed them. The society failed them. We the tax payers failed them! Why didn't the Social Services do something about them? Instead of allowing them to rot with their abusive parents???!!! Why didn't their neighbours/relatives etc. do something about them? To rescue them from such hellish upbringing???!!! I sincerely hope they can have a fresh start in life without any prejudice, and put the unfornate events leading to their downfall behind them. They are young, and they can still have a good future, if they are allowed to do so. And before anyone jumps up and down and asks about what about the victums? I feel sorry for them for being the victums. However, I do not buy the "an eye for an eye" mentality, sorry! i suspect jamie bulgers mum disagrees with you pearl " its a very hard one, how long do you punish someone for for what they did when they was 10?! If it was my child i have to admit i would want them dead, but as its not my child so i suppose i can look at it as an outsider, to me its not prison they need its help and if they get the help they need while they are locked up and turn into 'normal' adults whats the point in keeping them locked up? because of their age its a very difficult one | |||
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"fuckin hang the we bastards sorry for my talk but we need to start punishing people bit strong for a 10 and 11 year old " what about the 2 kids they tortured | |||
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"But why should the blame be put on the authorities ?" And why not? That bunch of no hoper's had 31 chances, 31 opportunities to prevent this offence from taking place, if the parents are not up to the requirements / responsibility of being parents, then those empowered to "Have children's interests at heart" need to be held accountable. Being known as “parents” doesn't always justify the title | |||
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"fuckin hang the we bastards sorry for my talk but we need to start punishing people bit strong for a 10 and 11 year old " why let them cost us millions over five years so they can come out and murder or rape no lets get hard on scum and treat them like it yhey boys will have to live with it all there lifes they 2 scum get five years were the justice in that | |||
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"But why should the blame be put on the authorities ? And why not? That bunch of no hoper's had 31 chances, 31 opportunities to prevent this offence from taking place, if the parents are not up to the requirements / responsibility of being parents, then those empowered to "Have children's interests at heart" need to be held accountable. Being known as “parents” doesn't always justify the title " My point exactly, well said. Lock the parents up too. | |||
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"Have a heart! They are children afterall. How would you feel if you were locked up at that age and be told you'll never get out and enjoy freedom again??? Their parents failed them. The society failed them. We the tax payers failed them! Why didn't the Social Services do something about them? Instead of allowing them to rot with their abusive parents???!!! Why didn't their neighbours/relatives etc. do something about them? To rescue them from such hellish upbringing???!!! I sincerely hope they can have a fresh start in life without any prejudice, and put the unfornate events leading to their downfall behind them. They are young, and they can still have a good future, if they are allowed to do so. And before anyone jumps up and down and asks about what about the victums? I feel sorry for them for being the victums. However, I do not buy the "an eye for an eye" mentality, sorry! " Im sorry , i couldn`t disagree more . the justice system in this country is a joke . 5 years is a joke . it should have been life without parole. these two thugs are evil ,and are only going to grow up into more dangerous thugs upon release from their cosy 5 years inside with their playstations. the problem in this country is the liberal wishy washy lefties are totally against anyone being given a harsh punishment. These two should be kept in a young offenders home till they are eighteen ,then transfered to an adult prison for the rest of their lives . | |||
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"the law has it stands is stacked against the victim .these animals will be let out in 5 yrs time with new id,new home and cash on tap from the state.this is not fantasy this is how we deal with high profile crimalals in the uk.crime here pays .the victims will get nothing." Excellent post ,and i agree with every word | |||
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"hmmmmmmm..now until the culprits have undergone in depth psychological analysis, i am not really going to get too involved in this one. yes, i think its despicable behaviour, and my heart goes out to the victim who really could of been anyone. which lends credence to my point.....sometimes people(murders, abusive persona's, schizophrenics, alcoholics, smokers, recreational drug users etc) operate outside accepted normality. i agree that when such people over step the mark then they should be segregated from society for an acceptable amount of time for their behaviour to be analysed and hopefully rectified.... yet again another sad issue, but the problems lie much deeper than you think sometimes. its unacceptable behaviour, but behaviour that needs to be analysed in depth. yes there could be fault lying at the feet of the parents, but also an uncontrollable mental issue that is not noticed also..... " Since when have smokers been been outside accepted normality and how do you equate a smoker to a murderer, schizophrenic etc? Sentencing in this country is a joke and will be while the law remains too afraid to upset any particular group but first and foremost the dreaded Human Rights brigade | |||
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"the justice system in this country is a joke . 5 years is a joke . " We the people are a joke, not the system, if the public really cared about “Justice” Mps surgeries would be bursting at the seems re constituents queuing up demanding a tougher stance. | |||
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"the law has it stands is stacked against the victim .these animals will be let out in 5 yrs time with new id,new home and cash on tap from the state.this is not fantasy this is how we deal with high profile crimalals in the uk.crime here pays .the victims will get nothing." Too bloody right it is .. I had my van stolen about 3 years ago. I got the van back with damage that I had to pay for, tools that had been pinched which I had to replace, all in all it cost me over a grand, not to mention the time I wasn't able to work while I got the van fixed up and replaced my gear. The little bastard who was caught - what did he get ? A Communnity Rehabilitation Order.! I wasn't even allowed to attend the hearing in case I found out the culprits name - because the little darling was under the age of 18 ! I don't rate my experience anywhere close to that of those poor kids who suffered at the hands of these little fuckers, but it does go to prove that the victim is the last person who receives any consideration under our current judicial system It's a fucking joke it really is | |||
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"its nowt to do with government these boys knew deep down what they were doing was wrong I do hope they get picked on in where they are A bully will always meet a bigger bully enentually Local authorities have admitted this was preventable. These tossers, authorities, are not doing their jobs. It`s the same excuses every time." Ultimatey it is the parents responsibilty to bring up their children , not the authorities. | |||
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"i counselled a client few years ago who had a personality disorder brought about by his attempt to give up smoking.... he had major psychological problems from a result. as crazy as it sounds, it actually happens to millions worldwide. same goes for drugs etc.......sorry bit its something i do for a living, and to be honest this post will attract more people who post in anger about the sentence, but with little knowledge about the underlying facts of the enforcers behaviour. was it just on a whim or something more complex. if you have the answers then your to make a wonderful career!!!!!!!!!!!!" see thats the whole problem though, a lot of these psychological problems are invented to shift blame to someone or something else, with your experience you should be aware of the blame culture that exists so potently today | |||
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"its nowt to do with government these boys knew deep down what they were doing was wrong I do hope they get picked on in where they are A bully will always meet a bigger bully enentually Local authorities have admitted this was preventable. These tossers, authorities, are not doing their jobs. It`s the same excuses every time. Ultimatey it is the parents responsibilty to bring up their children , not the authorities." I absolutely agree. Authorities are not responsible for bringing up children, nor are schools, nor are neighbours........... the parents are. Its the same as all the parents moaning about the schools being shut due to the weather............ Schools are not unpaid babysitters, they are there to teach children facts, figures and english etc........ not to teach them right from wrong or to teach them that bullying is bad. They are there to get them through exams and to give them an EDUCATION...not to teach them morality and to babysit whilst the parents go to work. That is a parents responsibility. | |||
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"im sorry, i dont know if this makes me a bad person or not, and im not agreeing with what they have done in the slightest but deep down inside i cant help but think...but these are just children, and in a way i almost feel sorry for children like this, i mean what kind of a life must they have for them to feel its ok to do such things? how lonely and empty must their lifes and thoughts be? is it just me or does anyone else feel that people who are driven to such things must have some kind of mental instability? and if so do they not need help not hate?" You are not a bad person... far from it. The acts they have committed are hideous, that is unquestionable. The fact remains they are just children. If the news story was the parents leaving them and going on holiday for a week the uproar would be about children not being old enough to be responsible.... yet now many want to judge them as responsible adults… we can’t have it both ways. They are far from adulthood. There are very real changes they are yet to go through in terms of how they think, feel guilt, way up risk. How they think right now is as a child... and the blueprint for how they think has largely been drawn by the greatest influencing factor on their life so far... their home (assuming they are not sociopaths). | |||
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"its nowt to do with government these boys knew deep down what they were doing was wrong I do hope they get picked on in where they are A bully will always meet a bigger bully enentually Local authorities have admitted this was preventable. These tossers, authorities, are not doing their jobs. It`s the same excuses every time. Ultimatey it is the parents responsibilty to bring up their children , not the authorities. I absolutely agree. Authorities are not responsible for bringing up children, nor are schools, nor are neighbours........... the parents are. Its the same as all the parents moaning about the schools being shut due to the weather............ Schools are not unpaid babysitters, they are there to teach children facts, figures and english etc........ not to teach them right from wrong or to teach them that bullying is bad. They are there to get them through exams and to give them an EDUCATION...not to teach them morality and to babysit whilst the parents go to work. That is a parents responsibility. It is the responsibility of the parents, you`re right with that. But when the parents are like this who then should be looking after the childrens wellfare? The local authorities. They knew there was a risk and done bugger all about it. " | |||
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"Ultimatey it is the parents responsibilty to bring up their children , not the authorities." Of course it's the parents responsibility, but when those fortunate to have the title of parents fail, that's the time those empowered to act should act, the said agencies are there as a safety net for the child, they failed, not only did they fail these 2 offenders, they failed the victim, not only did they fail the victim, they failed they victims family, shame on them. | |||
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"its nowt to do with government these boys knew deep down what they were doing was wrong I do hope they get picked on in where they are A bully will always meet a bigger bully enentually Local authorities have admitted this was preventable. These tossers, authorities, are not doing their jobs. It`s the same excuses every time. Ultimatey it is the parents responsibilty to bring up their children , not the authorities. I absolutely agree. Authorities are not responsible for bringing up children, nor are schools, nor are neighbours........... the parents are. Its the same as all the parents moaning about the schools being shut due to the weather............ Schools are not unpaid babysitters, they are there to teach children facts, figures and english etc........ not to teach them right from wrong or to teach them that bullying is bad. They are there to get them through exams and to give them an EDUCATION...not to teach them morality and to babysit whilst the parents go to work. That is a parents responsibility. " I disagree slightly here, I believe that it is the parents and the community that raises a child. When I was a child the local bobby would give us a clip around the ear if we did anything wrong and would be at my house speaking to my parents before I arrived home. We looked out for each other, those were innocent times when I was given the opportunity to have my childhood. The most violent viewing on TV being Tom n Jerry and I still love that cartoon to this day. Children these days tend to be socially inept and interact with their peers with a computer screen between them, this removes body language and other social stimuli. I would,t be a kid today if you paid me. | |||
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"Ultimatey it is the parents responsibilty to bring up their children , not the authorities. Of course it's the parents responsibility, but when those fortunate to have the title of parents fail, that's the time those empowered to act should act, the said agencies are there as a safety net for the child, they failed, not only did they fail these 2 offenders, they failed the victim, not only did they fail the victim, they failed they victims family, shame on them. " I just think sometimes it is too easy to blame everyone else including the authorities. IF these kids had been took into care, would that have stopped them being evil as to do what they did? Or would it have been too late for them already after the upbringing they endured. | |||
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"I just think sometimes it is too easy to blame everyone else including the authorities" But the authorities in this case had 31 chances to act, they failed 31 times, 7 children under the same organisation have lost their life since 2004, how much are they allowed to get away with? "IF these kids had been took into care, would that have stopped them being evil as to do what they did?" We'll never know, the ironic part about it is they won't be allowed out now until it's proved their "safe" "Or would it have been too late for them already after the upbringing they endured" Some children from various backgrounds who've had a raw deal during their upbringing, go on to make a success of their lives. | |||
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"Ultimatey it is the parents responsibilty to bring up their children , not the authorities. Of course it's the parents responsibility, but when those fortunate to have the title of parents fail, that's the time those empowered to act should act, the said agencies are there as a safety net for the child, they failed, not only did they fail these 2 offenders, they failed the victim, not only did they fail the victim, they failed they victims family, shame on them. I just think sometimes it is too easy to blame everyone else including the authorities. IF these kids had been took into care, would that have stopped them being evil as to do what they did? Or would it have been too late for them already after the upbringing they endured. " IF they are sociopaths... nope it wouldn't have changed them... BUT hopefully people would have been picked up on some telltale signs of their being a potentially serious psychological disorder. IF they are not sociopaths... no it wouldn't have been a quick fix instant correction for years of conditioning. It would have been the start of a very long process... IF indeed the process started at all. BUT, there is a chance they could have intervened enough to have prevented what has happened. IF’s and BUT’s hey! | |||
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"anyone got the full story that you know of for me to look at please?" You may find something under Google / BBC / Newsnight / injunction. Doncaster hierarchy obtained an injunction against BBC2 Newsnight broadcasting there failings, however, that injunction has now been lifted. | |||
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"the buck stops with the parents if they didn't give a good homelife or teach their children the right way to behave." We'll agree to disagree on this one Rugby all I will say is no point in having a safety net if all we do is pass the buck back to the originators door | |||
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"The two boys wont be locked up!! They will be in a 52 week placement somewhere on the coast line. They will live in a very large house with beautiful surroundings (part of their treatment, they will have their own bedroom (the bedroom doors wont be locked for safety reasons) but there will be surveilance cameras monitoring them 24 hours a day). They will be bought new clothes, they will have the best education, probably 1:1 tuition, pocket money, plastation, mobile phone etc they will want for nothing. In a few years time, the case will be in an Archive somewhere. What will the victims get - absolutely nothing. There is no justice in this country." exactly those poot victims of theirs will be told to move on and forget I hope these evil boys fester in their own bile Age is not excuse upbringing is no excuse Ignorance is no excuse They are plain evil and what they did was horific If they did it to your child, I'm sure the liberals here would be feeling somewhat differently | |||
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"Those who sit and seethe because of so called failures in the system need to spend a day in the life of... " As an anonymous forum, members history is not up for discussion, however, no one knows anyone's past, we all have our own reasons for reasons for what we believe in | |||
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"Im just not willing to slap a failure sign on anyone without knowing the full facts. " The facts are there Peaches, 7 child deaths since 2004!! all under the watch of Doncaster hierarchy | |||
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"As you said..the hierarchy. Those on the front line vary rarely make the final decisions . " I've never, ever held those on the front line accountable for what has taken place, look through my postings on this thread, I've always held the hierarchy accountable for what's taken place, and will continue to do so. Children don't ask to come into this world, however, society has a duty to take action as and when required, IF it's in the interest of the child. | |||
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"And hope it wont ever happen again, but sadly it probably will. " Until such times as those empowered to act are charged with neglect, sadly I agree, no doubt it will happen again | |||
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"the buck stops with the parents if they didn't give a good homelife or teach their children the right way to behave. We'll agree to disagree on this one Rugby all I will say is no point in having a safety net if all we do is pass the buck back to the originators door " But isn't the safety net only used when there becomes a problem? Most parents manage to bring up their children in a loving home that don't need the safety net. This couple didn't bring up their children as normal people would....so although the safety net might well have acted sooner ( going by what people have said ), they are not responsible for how the parents brought their children up. | |||
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"No matter what we all feel (personally I feel quiet sick at the whole thing) we unfortunately have to live with it, as do the poor victims - and no, I am not equating our collective feelings to the them, although the obvious anger spilling out into this thread indicates we have all been affected too. However, throughout history there have been evil doings, and sadly there will always be evil doings. This will not be the last case like this because that is just the way things are. This is a mad world we live in where sexual activity is in all forms is treated as a sort of secret, underground thing that we are not allowed to see easily (even though it represents the most natural and intense human activity in most of it's forms) whereas you can see on telly all sorts of murder and mayhem at any hour of the day. What is more obscene? Making love or disobeying the great commandment, 'Thou shalt not kill'? And then we wonder at people who are or become evil." The commandment is the most obscene and comical. It blindly assumes everyone is a Christian or even a believer. It's ironic to hear God quoted when less than 5% of the population go to church. | |||
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"Im shocked once again at the legal system of this country. Have followed thisstory since it first broke and honestly believed after the Jamie Bulger case that these 2 would have been held " at her Majestys pleasure ", in other words, till the queen says they should be let out. What do they get ??..5 years...5 YEARS !!... " You should read between the lines _afthalf, they are effectively being held at Her Majesty's pleasure. Ignore the five years, it's only come about due to a change in sentencing practice that means a 'lifer' has to be told the minimum length of sentence he will serve at the sentencing stage. They received 'indeterminate sentences', that's the important bit, so will only be let out when they are deemed fit to be, which as others have pointed out is likely to be substantially more than 5 years given the nature of their sociopathy. | |||
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"how much is a noose and a trap door these days" Would you apply that to these 2 offenders? There's no getting away from the crime they committed, horrendous as it was, these 2 are still children, children who were failed by their parents, children who were failed by the system, children who believed behaving in a thuggish manner was acceptable because no one, no one was willing to take responsibility for them. | |||
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"I know its an open forum, you have NO need to keep reminding me. " Where do I keep reminding you? | |||
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"Bi 1 i dont think your going to win on this. Emotions are running high and many of us are parents and the thought that someone could do this to one of your kids is enough to merit any horrendous punishment available. or not in this case. Their will always be those at the top who MAY have been able to make a difference.? In this case....I think not. " I agree, the thought of anyone doing anything alike to my kids is frightening, but just as frightening is my kids doing that to anyone, as parents it has been proven here that we could be stood on any side of this disgusting crime. How would people feel if it was their kids that did this and not their kids that received the torture?. | |||
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"the kids have somne responsibility ffs if they can choose a video game or choose a chocolate bar or choose to torture someone or not They made a choice They need to pay for making a bad choice" My postings are clear in this thread, I've agreed with all what you say, just the level of punishment I have a difference with. | |||
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"Come on people, let's not get into an argument about this. We are all horrified with what has happened, hence why I have mainly kept out of this. We all have reactions to such evil doings, and are likely to act in a passionate way. Like I stated, people here tend to think about how they would feel if it happened to their kids, but what if it was their kids that did it?. " i have answered this question | |||
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"Come on people, let's not get into an argument about this. We are all horrified with what has happened, hence why I have mainly kept out of this. We all have reactions to such evil doings, and are likely to act in a passionate way. Like I stated, people here tend to think about how they would feel if it happened to their kids, but what if it was their kids that did it?. i have answered this question" I know, just thought it was a valid question that puts a different tilt on it and so worth asking again. | |||
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"If it were my kids that did it I would probably disown them" Off course you would, any level headed / responsible parent would, but the parents of these 2 are not responsible / level headed parents lime you or others. | |||
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"If it were my kids that did it I would probably disown them " But, would you, really? or would you wonder what you had done wrong and try to correct the wrong?. I have no idea what I would do, or how I would respond to either side. I imagine if it happened to my child I would lose my rag a little and hurt whoever I thought was truly to blame, hopefully I will never have reason to find out my reactions. | |||
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"If it were my kids that did it I would probably disown them Off course you would, any level headed / responsible parent would, but the parents of these 2 are not responsible / level headed parents lime you or others. " in your opinion is 5 yrs too harsh a sentence | |||
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"Ive lost the plot somewhere i really have. " you should run for government then | |||
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"Ive lost the plot somewhere i really have. " That's common knowledge Peaches, but what's that got to do with this thread?. Is this the longest thread to stay on topic?. until now. | |||
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"in your opinion is 5 yrs too harsh a sentence" No it's not, they need to be kept in a secure environment until such times as they as redeemed safe, but people saying they need to be hanged, etc., etc.,. is nothing short of blood thirsty. Not long ago in Afghanistan 2 12 year old boys were publicly hanged for shop lifting, this was the punishment under Shraria Law, forget about politics / religion, is that punishment acceptable? because that the punishment some are asking for. | |||
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"lets hope your young never develop any abnormal behaviour that is physically beyond their control!........... " Is this meant for me ????? if so...may i add my son is now grown up, well adjusted and perfectly ok. thanks to good parenting. And i dont apreciate this post. I have tried not to put this debate on a personal level and would appreciate you doing the same. | |||
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"in your opinion is 5 yrs too harsh a sentence No it's not, they need to be kept in a secure environment until such times as they as redeemed safe, but people saying they need to be hanged, etc., etc.,. is nothing short of blood thirsty. Not long ago in Afghanistan 2 12 year old boys were publicly hanged for shop lifting, this was the punishment under Shraria Law, forget about politics / religion, is that punishment acceptable? because that the punishment some are asking for. " no kids are going to get hanged in the uk and its not worth debating and its not something i or anyone else would want but what we do want is fairer sentences for serious offences.yes i would bring back capital punishment for murder without question simply becauce at present there is absolutley no detterent for murderers.can you please tell me who is asking for capital punishment for shoplifting .we dont have shraria law and this aint afghanistan so can you please keep it on topic | |||
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"no kids are going to get hanged in the uk and its not worth debating and its not something i or anyone else would want" Really???????????? 4 hours ago, you posted this: "just how much is a noose and a trap door these days if they need someone for the job i'm available." Your contradictory posts above is one reason why it's difficult to have an intelligent debate with some. | |||
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"it got pretty personal way back in this post after reading it, which is a shame really.... wasn't actually meant to be overly personal. everyone has and is entitled to their opinions, as we all have a say on the matter. this was always going to be an argument rather than a debatable post, as more often than not, most people just don't understand the UNDERLYING complications of the offenders....! ps:- wasn't relating to behavioural conditioning of children. more toward what they have to work with from birth, which is undetectable and can be triggered at any time in their lives.....! so easy to put a noose around their necks and turn a blind eye to their uncontrollable issues. olde england here we come!" I was expressing my opinion. i was not and never was "personal" to anyone. Its an emotive subject and closer to some than others. end of. | |||
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"no kids are going to get hanged in the uk and its not worth debating and its not something i or anyone else would want Really???????????? 4 hours ago, you posted this: just how much is a noose and a trap door these days if they need someone for the job i'm available. Your contradictory posts above is one reason why it's difficult to have an intelligent debate with some." maybe you need to read that post again becauce i said murderers and unless i'm mistaken the kids that were attacked are still alive.i do not wish for these kids to be hanged but i have no wish for them to be on the streets in 5 yrs time either. | |||
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"maybe you need to read that post again becauce i said murderers and unless i'm mistaken the kids that were attacked are still alive" Oh, so when you posted this at me: "can you please keep it on topic" You decided to take this thread off topic numerous hours earlier knowing full well it's not about murderer's!!! "i have no wish for them to be on the streets in 5 yrs time either." And neither do I, where in this thread have I said anything different? | |||
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"I know my opinions differ from many, in as much as i dont hold the state etc responsible. So im agreeing to let my opinions lie on this matter rather than offend or upset anyone on the forums. It doesnt make my opinions go away however, its just that im not in to annoying anyone. even myself on this topic. " I echo your opinion and have done on the thread. | |||
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"it got pretty personal way back in this post after reading it, which is a shame really.... wasn't actually meant to be overly personal. everyone has and is entitled to their opinions, as we all have a say on the matter. this was always going to be an argument rather than a debatable post, as more often than not, most people just don't understand the UNDERLYING complications of the offenders....! ps:- wasn't relating to behavioural conditioning of children. more toward what they have to work with from birth, which is undetectable and can be triggered at any time in their lives.....! so easy to put a noose around their necks and turn a blind eye to their uncontrollable issues. olde england here we come!" According to pscyologists in one of the papers today, it could be down to just their upbringing. They were brought up in a violent homelife and just followed suit, not knowing that it is wrong as that is all they know. I am always wary of everytime someone does anything wrong there is someone out there who will make an excuse as to why they do it. They even invented a new illness for a man once who hammered his mum and dad to death, then went out and spent all their money on their cards. For me, whatever they want to call it, it boils down to the same thing. Not everyone is evil enough to do these crimes, and to suggest that everyone who does has amental illness, insults every other person who does have a mental illness but who don't go round trying to or killing people. *mods hat on* I know it is a very intense debate but keep it clean please. | |||
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"I am always wary of everytime someone does anything wrong there is someone out there who will make an excuse as to why they do it" Giving an excuse is one thing, providing a reasonable explanation is another, problem is most people confuse a reasonable explanation as an excuse. "For me, whatever they want to call it, it boils down to the same thing. Not everyone is evil enough to do these crimes, and to suggest that everyone who does has amental illness, insults every other person who does have a mental illness but who don't go round trying to or killing people" How can they be "normal"? it's not natural to kill people, those who do must be mentally unstable, thus having a mental illness. | |||
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"I am always wary of everytime someone does anything wrong there is someone out there who will make an excuse as to why they do it Giving an excuse is one thing, providing a reasonable explanation is another, problem is most people confuse a reasonable explanation as an excuse. For me, whatever they want to call it, it boils down to the same thing. Not everyone is evil enough to do these crimes, and to suggest that everyone who does has amental illness, insults every other person who does have a mental illness but who don't go round trying to or killing people How can they be "normal"? it's not natural to kill people, those who do must be mentally unstable, thus having a mental illness." but as it hasn't been said they have a mental illness, they must be classed as normal..but evil. | |||
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"I am always wary of everytime someone does anything wrong there is someone out there who will make an excuse as to why they do it Giving an excuse is one thing, providing a reasonable explanation is another, problem is most people confuse a reasonable explanation as an excuse. For me, whatever they want to call it, it boils down to the same thing. Not everyone is evil enough to do these crimes, and to suggest that everyone who does has amental illness, insults every other person who does have a mental illness but who don't go round trying to or killing people How can they be "normal"? it's not natural to kill people, those who do must be mentally unstable, thus having a mental illness. but as it hasn't been said they have a mental illness, they must be classed as normal..but evil." Due to their age and as they've not developed it's difficult to class them as “mentally unstable” no doubt forensic psychologists / psychiatrist will be queueing up to give up their opinion. I don't believe their evil, Huntley (adult) Hindley (adult) Brady (Adult) were all evil, but these pair of kids, no I don't believe at this stage they're evil, that doesn't place me in the do good brigade, or a liberal, just someone who looks at it from a different angle. | |||
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"So if you don't think battering someone to near death is evil..what do you personally class it?" I would class these pair as mentally unstable because of their age, I'm not making excuses for them, but when brutal acts of violence are carried by adults such as Fred & Rosemary West, the actions by them pair truly was evil, I'm not here to win anyone over, just my opinion | |||
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"but if it comes about that they are not mentally unstable, then for me they are still evil" Once they've been mentally evaluated which will take many years if they are then labelled evil then they should never, ever be released | |||
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"Does evil exist on its own? ( no mental defect ) " Depends how evil is defined, is every one who commits a crime evil I would hope not, of course it then depends on the crime. | |||
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"Does evil exist on its own? ( no mental defect ) Depends how evil is defined, is every one who commits a crime evil I would hope not, of course it then depends on the crime." That's not an answer, lol. If replying to that question then surely it's how you define evil, whoever answers it. | |||
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"Does evil exist on its own? ( no mental defect ) Depends how evil is defined, is every one who commits a crime evil I would hope not, of course it then depends on the crime." Evil isnt a legal definition or a clinical description, its most common use is in good vs evil, as in god vs the devil. If its usage means " bad people" then yes evil exists, if it means evil as in god vs devil then thats a whole different debate. | |||
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"So maybe we should ask what peoples definition of evil is?" *** nodding *** | |||
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"That's not an answer, lol. It wasn't meant to be " Smart arse!! | |||
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"That's not an answer, lol. It wasn't meant to be Smart arse!! " *If you're going to Barnsley, I'll buy you one * | |||
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"That's not an answer, lol. It wasn't meant to be Smart arse!! *If you're going to Barnsley, I'll buy you one *" I'm not going. | |||
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"So maybe we should ask what peoples definition of evil is?" For me, someone who dedicates time in planning their crime I would consider evil, I don't believe those who act on the spur of the moment are in the same league, just how I see it, although I'm willing to be educated. | |||
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"Didn’t most of us look at our parents/guardians as God’s in some way when we were growing up? Wasn’t their word THE law at some point? Didn’t most of us get taught something by them that we later found out to be a pile of pants? Our neighbour’s son had ringworm and my mum told us that ringworm was a tiny worm under the skin that burrowed in a circle… we believed it at the time as we didn’t know any better. I remember doing the cycling proficiency test at junior school… my friend would still cycle the wrong way up a one-way street… why? “Because my mum says I have to come this way home” she’d always reply. Of course ignoring a one-way street sign and thinking a fungal infection is really a worm which goes around in a circle all day is a million and one miles away from what these two boys did. But imagine growing up in an environment (for example) where you have only seen disagreements resolved by violence. Where you’ve been told if someone picks on you make sure you hurt them! You go to school for the first time and do what you have been taught by your parents “hit the fucker if they give you grief”. The teacher tells you it’s wrong to hit little Kevin and gives you a letter to take home. Your parents tell you “Fuck the teacher! You batter the little c*nt!” you tell your parents “I don’t want to, the teacher said it was bad”… so your parents start shouting at you, calling you a little shit for being a coward and encourage your sibling to fight with you. Get the idea yet? Probably not! Because I doubt any of us can imagine what it’s really like to be a 10 year old child and the whole 10 years of your life being like that. But I’d hope most of us can appreciate how fucked up we’d be in terms of working out what is the right thing to do when we’ve never been taught it by our parents in the first place. The parents moulded these two children… unless they are indeed born sociopaths in which case the parents ignored it and contributed further. My personal opinion is… there’s more than one issue here and we shouldn’t be trying to choose one. All of the issues need addressing. The parents should be held ‘responsible’ for their part in nurturing the behaviour of their children. I have every sympathy for parents who do their best and seek all the help they can if their children go off the rails. As far as I can tell the parents of these two children never put them on the rails to begin with and that was the parent’s choice, the children had no choice in that matter. The authorities need to be held to account for failing their purpose. As someone has already said… there isn’t much point in having a safety net if the holes are too big to catch those who are falling. Whether it be funding, protocol or mismanagement which lead to their failing, the questions must be asked and the holes in the net made smaller. The perpetrators need to be removed from society (as they have been) and professionally assessed. If it was nature which caused their behaviour they should be kept away from society for the remainder of their lives. If it was nurture which caused their behaviour they should be rehabilitated over a long period of time and not even considered for release until it is achieved beyond any doubt. As for punishment if it was the latter…. Well what more should we ask for beyond what will be (at the very least) their whole childhood and adolescence being denied them in one way or another mostly down to other people’s choices. And last, but certainly not least, the victims and those who love them. I sincerely hope they get the help and support they will need to go forwards and eventually regain happiness in their lives; something the preaching of seeking vengeance for the rest of their lives will certainly not bring. I don’t believe they need to find forgiveness, I do believe they need to eventually have understanding of why it happened. But they are a long, long way off from that stage. Of course this is all just my opinion. " And one i agree with polo,if these kids were as has been reported ,brought up in a environment of violence and sexual imagery not meant for there young eyes,a loveless home with a feral dog eat dog mindset then its hardly surprising they behaved as they did. It is easy to indoctrinate kids to believe and behave how you want them to,lots of examples through history ie,the Hitler youth who killed many people in the name of their country and genuinely believed what they was supporting was normal and good,bullying and violence was encouraged as good little Aryans they believed they should rule the world and destroy anything that got in the way. There were 8 million of them who after the post war deprogramming, went on to lead fruitful lives (the current pope was a member) Kids believe what we tell them,say it enough times and the synapses are formed and to them it becomes "normal" Couple that with a lack of parental love and you have a scenario where they will export what they have learnt into society and have no idea its wrong,its all they know. For me this is at the door of the parents and a social services who should of removed them to a place of safety far earlier in there lives. with the parents taken to court for neglect of parental duties. Thank god the little lads who were the victims survived.If i was a parent i would want the kids old man done and sent down if only for giving em dope on the morning of the attack.. What a fucked up sorry excuse for a man he is !!!! grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr | |||
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"as bad as this may sound, they may need more than just behavioural counselling. but to be blunt yes, they do need to be analysed to enable themselves & therapists to understand their motives from the source. i can see why so many people have replied with 'throw them away and lock the key & eye for an eye etc'...... but what if these youths and many like them actually have abnormalities they are totally unaware of as was their parents???? it really could be anyone in this situation. a child reared in a laboratory correct upbringing by their parents will learn/imitate good behaviour, but if there are underlying psychological/biological deformities then its a tough call really...... i dont condone such acts of violence, but these culprits may well like many others be at the mercy of something they cannot control...." Well you'll be glad to hear they've lodged an appeal and expect compensation too | |||
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" a child reared in a laboratory correct upbringing by their parents will learn/imitate good behaviour, but if there are underlying psychological/biological deformities then its a tough call really...... " I have a couple of friends who raised their child in a secure loving family home, mum was always there for the child coming home from school, made sure he got a home cooked lunch, dad encouraged his football, swimming, tennis to boys championships level, scouts etc. Yet this same son was a heroin addict a thief and broke their hearts many a time, and every time they asked where did we go wrong? They still torture themselves and ask how a child of a loving secure family has degenerated into the wreck of humanity he now is. He has been assessed and assessed but no physical/psychological abnormality has been detected. | |||
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" a child reared in a laboratory correct upbringing by their parents will learn/imitate good behaviour, but if there are underlying psychological/biological deformities then its a tough call really...... I have a couple of friends who raised their child in a secure loving family home, mum was always there for the child coming home from school, made sure he got a home cooked lunch, dad encouraged his football, swimming, tennis to boys championships level, scouts etc. Yet this same son was a heroin addict a thief and broke their hearts many a time, and every time they asked where did we go wrong? They still torture themselves and ask how a child of a loving secure family has degenerated into the wreck of humanity he now is. He has been assessed and assessed but no physical/psychological abnormality has been detected." This is completely different. This person decided to take drugs and harm himself - the the two boys however inflicted torture and pain on two other children. Lots of decent people have fallen victim to drugs and then crime to pay for their habit - it has got nothing to do with their upbringing. Your friends brought their child up in what you describe as a loving home - the other boys were in, I believe, a Foster placement, which means they had been removed from their parents by a group of professionals asigned to their case. This means that the boys Social Worker has parental responsibility for the Children - it was the Social Workers responsibility and the other professionals asigned to the case to place the boys in the correct placement according to their needs. In my opinion, the professionals made a huge mistake - going on what the children had done prior to the attack on the two boys, they should have been placed in a secure unit not a Foster placement. If they had of been correctly placed, the terrible attack on the two innocent children would never have happened. | |||
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" a child reared in a laboratory correct upbringing by their parents will learn/imitate good behaviour, but if there are underlying psychological/biological deformities then its a tough call really...... I have a couple of friends who raised their child in a secure loving family home, mum was always there for the child coming home from school, made sure he got a home cooked lunch, dad encouraged his football, swimming, tennis to boys championships level, scouts etc. Yet this same son was a heroin addict a thief and broke their hearts many a time, and every time they asked where did we go wrong? They still torture themselves and ask how a child of a loving secure family has degenerated into the wreck of humanity he now is. He has been assessed and assessed but no physical/psychological abnormality has been detected. This is completely different. This person decided to take drugs and harm himself - the the two boys however inflicted torture and pain on two other children. Lots of decent people have fallen victim to drugs and then crime to pay for their habit - it has got nothing to do with their upbringing. Your friends brought their child up in what you describe as a loving home - the other boys were in, I believe, a Foster placement, which means they had been removed from their parents by a group of professionals asigned to their case. This means that the boys Social Worker has parental responsibility for the Children - it was the Social Workers responsibility and the other professionals asigned to the case to place the boys in the correct placement according to their needs. In my opinion, the professionals made a huge mistake - going on what the children had done prior to the attack on the two boys, they should have been placed in a secure unit not a Foster placement. If they had of been correctly placed, the terrible attack on the two innocent children would never have happened." Sorry I realise it is different and I went off topic. I was just attempting in my clumsy way to illustrate that he didn't follow/imitate his parents good examples xx | |||
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" a child reared in a laboratory correct upbringing by their parents will learn/imitate good behaviour, but if there are underlying psychological/biological deformities then its a tough call really...... I have a couple of friends who raised their child in a secure loving family home, mum was always there for the child coming home from school, made sure he got a home cooked lunch, dad encouraged his football, swimming, tennis to boys championships level, scouts etc. Yet this same son was a heroin addict a thief and broke their hearts many a time, and every time they asked where did we go wrong? They still torture themselves and ask how a child of a loving secure family has degenerated into the wreck of humanity he now is. He has been assessed and assessed but no physical/psychological abnormality has been detected. This is completely different. This person decided to take drugs and harm himself - the the two boys however inflicted torture and pain on two other children. Lots of decent people have fallen victim to drugs and then crime to pay for their habit - it has got nothing to do with their upbringing. Your friends brought their child up in what you describe as a loving home - the other boys were in, I believe, a Foster placement, which means they had been removed from their parents by a group of professionals asigned to their case. This means that the boys Social Worker has parental responsibility for the Children - it was the Social Workers responsibility and the other professionals asigned to the case to place the boys in the correct placement according to their needs. In my opinion, the professionals made a huge mistake - going on what the children had done prior to the attack on the two boys, they should have been placed in a secure unit not a Foster placement. If they had of been correctly placed, the terrible attack on the two innocent children would never have happened." From what little there is to read or has been reported, it seems they were with foster parents for 3 weeks before the attack. They were with their parents up until then. By the sounds of it , yes, social services should have stepped in earlier, but ultimately it was their parents responsibility to bring up their own children , and they failed. | |||
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"Not that it matters much but the mother of these boys, a know drug addict, had been asking social services for two years to take the boys away, because she couldn’t cope, she knew they were out of control, and told social services on numerous occasions, these pleas were all ignored until three weeks before the crime took place, any only then did they step in because she threatened to kill herself if they didn’t remove the boys. Now too add insult to injury she's theatening to sue social services " Untill something bad happens social services are not really that bothered, i had a friend who tried to get help with her son, they said because she was sencible enough to know she needed help that she wasnt the sort of person they help out and that she should be able to sort it herself anyway her son aged 15 raped his younger sister oh and then social servies stepped in and took the bloody girl away and left him at home now had they listerned to the mother cry for help in the first place that girl would have never suffered what she did and been taken away fron her home and the son could have been given the help he needed, but stories like this are typical of social servies, their hands seem tied untill a child actually gets hurt or worse dies | |||
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"I remember thinking when this story broke, how can children at such a young age, inflict such horror on other children, blame has to be with the parents." not always, to an extend yes but i have two teenagers that are only 11 months apart, my eldest is great, never had any problems at school with her, never had any complaints outside school about her, never had the police round because of her, you dont know you have her most of the time, the yonger one went thro a real bad spell a couple of years ago, kicked out of school regular for bullying other kids, for hitting teachers, for stealing, i used to have to sleep with my money, if it wasnt nailed down she'd take it, she drank, smoked, was having sex, came to the point i used to have to take her to school and pick her up so i knew where she was and what she was doing, she went months without going out the house, but every now and again escaped out the window, i was at my nerves end with her, i fully expected her to end up pregnat or on drugs, she was also voilent towards me, now i never bought my daughter up to be like that, i always used to say how can i have two kids, bring them up the same and them be so very very different? i did everyting i could for that child, because despit how she was i loved her very much and refused to give up on her, she saw child psychologist the lot, luckly now shes older shes come throw the other side if her behaviour, but i do not blame myself for how she went, i did everything to help her but some people just dont want help i think blaming the parents is just an easy option, but its not always the parents fault | |||
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"I remember thinking when this story broke, how can children at such a young age, inflict such horror on other children, blame has to be with the parents. not always, to an extend yes but i have two teenagers that are only 11 months apart, my eldest is great, never had any problems at school with her, never had any complaints outside school about her, never had the police round because of her, you dont know you have her most of the time, the yonger one went thro a real bad spell a couple of years ago, kicked out of school regular for bullying other kids, for hitting teachers, for stealing, i used to have to sleep with my money, if it wasnt nailed down she'd take it, she drank, smoked, was having sex, came to the point i used to have to take her to school and pick her up so i knew where she was and what she was doing, she went months without going out the house, but every now and again escaped out the window, i was at my nerves end with her, i fully expected her to end up pregnat or on drugs, she was also voilent towards me, now i never bought my daughter up to be like that, i always used to say how can i have two kids, bring them up the same and them be so very very different? i did everyting i could for that child, because despit how she was i loved her very much and refused to give up on her, she saw child psychologist the lot, luckly now shes older shes come throw the other side if her behaviour, but i do not blame myself for how she went, i did everything to help her but some people just dont want help i think blaming the parents is just an easy option, but its not always the parents fault" You could bring up two children in the exact same way but they may still end up totally different and who knows, one always being in trouble. Normal parents care about what happens to their children and bring them up knowing right from wrong. If one of those children falls to the wayside,then that is toally different in my eyes. But if the parents brought their children up the way thes parents of these kids did, then I blame the parents. | |||
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"Of course it was lenient, but then again thats what happens when the CPS drop attemted murder charges " Exactly ! Lets hope the review comes up trummps and a punishment is issued that matches the crime | |||
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"its all too easy to blame parents for any child having abnormal behaviour, its the easiest out there is. the buck dont always stop with the quality of parenting, if a child has much more complexed abnormalities within that hasn't been detected, the the child/or adult will listen to..............No one. no matter how good a parent you think you are! " It won't matter how many times you say it, it still hasn't been said that these boys have a mental condition. And I will say again, if they havn't got a mental condition then the buck stops with the disgusting way they were brought up. | |||
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" a child reared in a laboratory correct upbringing by their parents will learn/imitate good behaviour, but if there are underlying psychological/biological deformities then its a tough call really...... I have a couple of friends who raised their child in a secure loving family home, mum was always there for the child coming home from school, made sure he got a home cooked lunch, dad encouraged his football, swimming, tennis to boys championships level, scouts etc. Yet this same son was a heroin addict a thief and broke their hearts many a time, and every time they asked where did we go wrong? They still torture themselves and ask how a child of a loving secure family has degenerated into the wreck of humanity he now is. He has been assessed and assessed but no physical/psychological abnormality has been detected. This is completely different. This person decided to take drugs and harm himself - the the two boys however inflicted torture and pain on two other children. Lots of decent people have fallen victim to drugs and then crime to pay for their habit - it has got nothing to do with their upbringing. Your friends brought their child up in what you describe as a loving home - the other boys were in, I believe, a Foster placement, which means they had been removed from their parents by a group of professionals asigned to their case. This means that the boys Social Worker has parental responsibility for the Children - it was the Social Workers responsibility and the other professionals asigned to the case to place the boys in the correct placement according to their needs. In my opinion, the professionals made a huge mistake - going on what the children had done prior to the attack on the two boys, they should have been placed in a secure unit not a Foster placement. If they had of been correctly placed, the terrible attack on the two innocent children would never have happened. From what little there is to read or has been reported, it seems they were with foster parents for 3 weeks before the attack. They were with their parents up until then. By the sounds of it , yes, social services should have stepped in earlier, but ultimately it was their parents responsibility to bring up their own children , and they failed." They were with their parents but they were removed from the parents care probably under the category of neglect. However, it is obvious Social Services did not place these children in the correct plae to suit the boys needs - therefore Social Services are also guilty of neglect - they had a duty of care towards these boys - if they had put them in a safer placement, this would never have happened. I agree, its is the parents responsibility to bring their children up correctly but often these chidren are born into household where the parents are often uneducated, unemployed and living off the state. They probably dont know their arse from their elbow - the professionals however, took the boys away from their parents and placed them with Foster Parents who also neglected their needs. These two boys were high risk children who should never have been allowed outside the house unless supervised by a responsible adult. It should have been part of their Care Plan. So I am sorry, the Care system has a lot to answer for in this case. | |||
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"if they haven't got any form of mental condition you'll instantly lay the blame at the parents? so there is no such thing as being influenced by outside stimuli, environment and society having its say in shaping and transforming behaviour? the blame wont just be put on parents these days, as there is simply more to it than that to be honest. psyche evaluation is always the way to go.... sometimes parents aren't to blame, but its easier to in the end! shame tho.... thread over ha " are you a paid psychotherapist/ psychologist or in your third semester studying it? | |||
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"if they haven't got any form of mental condition you'll instantly lay the blame at the parents? so there is no such thing as being influenced by outside stimuli, environment and society having its say in shaping and transforming behaviour? the blame wont just be put on parents these days, as there is simply more to it than that to be honest. psyche evaluation is always the way to go.... sometimes parents aren't to blame, but its easier to in the end! shame tho.... thread over ha " Indeed 'some' parents aren't to blame... 'some' parents are... and 'some' parents are just one of many contributing factors. To what degree would you say the behaviour of these parents could have had in influencing these boys (assuming there is no genetic prefrontal cortex dysfunction) ... theoretically of course? | |||
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"if they haven't got any form of mental condition you'll instantly lay the blame at the parents? so there is no such thing as being influenced by outside stimuli, environment and society having its say in shaping and transforming behaviour? the blame wont just be put on parents these days, as there is simply more to it than that to be honest. psyche evaluation is always the way to go.... sometimes parents aren't to blame, but its easier to in the end! shame tho.... thread over ha are you a paid psychotherapist/ psychologist or in your third semester studying it?" I learnt child behavioural idiocyncrasies in my second year, the first time I went to uni. But no one has all the answers. You can throw as much psychology into this debate as you like, but it still won't lead us away from the fact that right or wrong, the parents need to take the majority of the blame here. After all, the mother is a known drug addict. | |||
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"if they haven't got any form of mental condition you'll instantly lay the blame at the parents? so there is no such thing as being influenced by outside stimuli, environment and society having its say in shaping and transforming behaviour? the blame wont just be put on parents these days, as there is simply more to it than that to be honest. psyche evaluation is always the way to go.... sometimes parents aren't to blame, but its easier to in the end! shame tho.... thread over ha " Yes. In this case I would put the blame at how the children were brought up...or dragged up. It isn't the childrens fault they had parents who neglected them, but it also isn't anyone else's fault that the parents treated them the way they did. But the influence came from their parents by what has been reported. We can all blame the media, telly, computer games, the internet......but the kids only get to see what their parents allow. And nope, thread isn't over | |||
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"We could argue this till the cows come home and not one of us will have all the answers. My only hope in all this is... Parents should now be held somewhat responsible for their childrens actions and be punished along with said kids. And that said governments start listening to the masses when it comes to sentencing criminals. I know....its a dream but we have to have our dreams dont we....... " I echo every sentiment in that sensible post........ but just to add, lets hope that the authorities listen when they get a cry for help in the future. | |||
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