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Hello fellow pervs and pervettes,
after a little advice!
I use another (similar) site and have been talking to a guy who usually works abroad but is currently back in the UK. I am sure he's genuine, seen him on cam etc and I know he's planning on seeing other people while he's back over here too.
A week or so ago he messaged me saying he would like to make a detour to where I live on a journey from Scotland to the south, today/tonight, when I said yeah sure, he said he'd book a room at such and such a hotel (named one in town centre).
All fine and dandy, said he was looking forward to meeting me etc. As I'm online every day and he would usually be too there didn't seem to be any urgency in sorting out the finer details.
So now it's saturday, meant to be meeting him tonight, we haven't arranged a meeting time, we haven't swapped phone numbers, and he hasn't logged in for 3 days.
Until what time do I give him before I give it up as a bad job??
Thoughts welcome! But I would really like to do SOMETHING tonight. |
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"I'd say now....  "
Harsh lol but thanks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he's not logged on for 3 days I would make alternative arrangements  |
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Forget him and look elsewhere... |
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"I'd say now....
Harsh lol but thanks "
Its not that harsh..He aint logged on for 3 days..Nothing has been arranged and you are going to waste a day...I'd say sod it and arrange something else.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say now too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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meet me instead..heres ma number x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say now.... "
I think I'd probably say now too, although something might have cropped up if he's not been online for three days. |
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Yes only thing making me think three days isn't that odd is cos it was a few days between logins earlier this week.
But yes I might well start thinking of alternative arrangements...
Thanks for the input! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say now too sweetie
Sad but true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Now!!
Id have been making other arrangements he should have given you a time and contacted today at least |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Now as not logged on in 3 days I would give it up as a bad bet xx sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say now....
Harsh lol but thanks
Its not that harsh..He aint logged on for 3 days..Nothing has been arranged and you are going to waste a day...I'd say sod it and arrange something else.."
It happens sometimes that you can't log on for three days in a row (broken computer/bad internet connection/health/personal problems/wife  etc.)
If you're sure he's genuine, give him a chance (just my opinion  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say now too, make other arrangements, if he's travelling that far he'd have needed to set off by now, surely he'd message you before leaving? Maybe something has come up?
Don't waste your evening |
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I'm just as at fault for not sorting a time sooner or asking to swap numbers, but yeah some sort of contact maybe yesterday or this morning would have been nice lol, how does he know nothing has come up at my end after all. |
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It happens sometimes that you can't log on for three days in a row (broken computer/bad internet connection/health/personal problems/wife etc.)
If you're sure he's genuine, give him a chance (just my opinion )"
I'm not 100% sure he's genuine, I know he is who he says he is cos talked to him on cam etc but he's not met anyone from the site yet and maybe he's got cold feet. So I don't know if he's genuine in terms of turning up for meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Send him a message explaining that you're considering making other plans then start making them! If he wanted to meet he would have began making plans to meet you at his earliest opportunity.
crystal |
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If I'm genuinely intending to meet someone I always make sure I have their number before the day... |
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"If I'm genuinely intending to meet someone I always make sure I have their number before the day..."
But I was genuinely interested and didn't ask for his number either. Probably cos I access the sites in much the same way I access text messaging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Send him a message explaining that you're considering making other plans then start making them! If he wanted to meet he would have began making plans to meet you at his earliest opportunity.
crystal"
Seems like the best plan to me so far: I don't think he should be categorized as a timewaster just yet!! (This was a message from the Single Men defense League ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Poor mans maybe been knocked down by the proverbial bus..... Hope not x |
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"Poor mans maybe been knocked down by the proverbial bus..... Hope not x"
Don't get me wrong, really don't want something bad to have happened! But having organised parties and group stuff before I have heard every excuse going lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who want to make definite plans do log on, do ensure their phone number is left. I would look elsewhere too. |
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It is amazing how many men completely do not understand the concept of a phone call,, the talky speaky thing?
I will NOT meet without a voice conversation on a displayed number!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just as at fault for not sorting a time sooner or asking to swap numbers, but yeah some sort of contact maybe yesterday or this morning would have been nice lol, how does he know nothing has come up at my end after all."
heheheheh @ up ur end
heheheh sorry |
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By *ixplayMan
over a year ago
tamworth & Edinburgh |
iv got a similar problem, I was supposed to be meeting a couple in tamworth tonight, iv messaged, text & phoned them & got no reply so im thinking should I give up on it & look for fun else where |
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"It is amazing how many men completely do not understand the concept of a phone call,, the talky speaky thing?
I will NOT meet without a voice conversation on a displayed number!!!
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I never talk on the phone prior to a meet, I am phobic of talking on the phone and avoid it where at all possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"iv got a similar problem, I was supposed to be meeting a couple in tamworth tonight, iv messaged, text & phoned them & got no reply so im thinking should I give up on it & look for fun else where"
or have a wank |
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"I'm just as at fault for not sorting a time sooner or asking to swap numbers, but yeah some sort of contact maybe yesterday or this morning would have been nice lol, how does he know nothing has come up at my end after all.
heheheheh @ up ur end
heheheh sorry"
You're conveniently ignoring the 'at' then 
The only thing likely to be 'up my end' at the moment is a lovely large plastic phallic object. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd make alternative arrangements. If he contacts you now, you'll be running around like a headless chicken getting yourself ready |
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I'd say now too.
By way of comparison, I got chatting to a lady on here some weeks ago and we arranged a meet for tonight.
We have intermittantly sent messages via this site, exchanged phone numbers and texted, followed up with a phone conversation earlier this week and the odd message reaffirming that the meet is on, including the hotel name etc.
I have every expectation that the lady will be where she said she will be, and I'm sure she's sure that I'll turn up because of that interchange of messages that reassured us both. Conversely if I hadn't have heard from her or she from me, I doubt the meet would go ahead because of concerns of a no show, so to speak.
Best of luck and hope tonight works out as good for you as I anticipate my night will be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just as at fault for not sorting a time sooner or asking to swap numbers, but yeah some sort of contact maybe yesterday or this morning would have been nice lol, how does he know nothing has come up at my end after all.
heheheheh @ up ur end
heheheh sorry
You're conveniently ignoring the 'at' then
The only thing likely to be 'up my end' at the moment is a lovely large plastic phallic object."
A large plastic phallic object.... Sounds like you're describing me (yeah, I'm made up in plastic: deal with it ) |
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"I'd make alternative arrangements. If he contacts you now, you'll be running around like a headless chicken getting yourself ready"
Nah I have lots of time and the hotel he has supposedly booked in is only 5 mins away in a taxi. If he does message me before something else comes up I will tell him in no uncertain terms that he will just have to wait while I get ready lol. |
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By *ixplayMan
over a year ago
tamworth & Edinburgh |
"iv got a similar problem, I was supposed to be meeting a couple in tamworth tonight, iv messaged, text & phoned them & got no reply so im thinking should I give up on it & look for fun else where
or have a wank"
mutual wank with others is a lot more fun than on your own, share the bodily fluids |
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A large plastic phallic object.... Sounds like you're describing me (yeah, I'm made up in plastic: deal with it )"
A very realistic feeling plastic if that is the case! |
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I would have long given up. No contact three days or on day of meet. I would take it can't be that interested as would of kept in touch. |
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lol..If someone who I had arranged a meet with then did not contact me for 3 days and nothing was arranged then messaged to say meet me at this time..I'd say on yer bike!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he's not logged on for 3 days prior to a meet then either something has cropped up, he's changed his plans and not told you or he's bottled it. I'd have expected some confirmation of the meet arrangements by now. Send him a message asking if it's still on and in the, meantime start making alternative plans. Hope you get something sorted x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol..If someone who I had arranged a meet with then did not contact me for 3 days and nothing was arranged then messaged to say meet me at this time..I'd say on yer bike!!"
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Well I'm a big softie and would never be able to say 'on your bike' to someone I actually like lol of course if I find out he's fucking me about then that's a different matter 
I've messaged him saying I am concerned about lack of contact and that I don't know if he actually still plans to come down or not. I haven't said what I'm going to do as a result of that lol I haven't decided if I want to make other arrangements or just go buy some wine,change into something unsuitable and faceplant on the lawn in the sun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd make alternative arrangements. If he contacts you now, you'll be running around like a headless chicken getting yourself ready
Nah I have lots of time and the hotel he has supposedly booked in is only 5 mins away in a taxi. If he does message me before something else comes up I will tell him in no uncertain terms that he will just have to wait while I get ready lol."
Typical bloody woman! haha.
As long as there's a tv playing sport I'm sure he'll be fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A large plastic phallic object.... Sounds like you're describing me (yeah, I'm made up in plastic: deal with it )
A very realistic feeling plastic if that is the case! "
Indeed: I'm sure you'd love to keep this very particular "object" in your drawer |
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"Typical bloody woman! haha.
As long as there's a tv playing sport I'm sure he'll be fine. "
I'm not that much of a typical woman lol but it doesn't take that long to have a shower and a shave and dry my hair and put some clothes .on.... I might even put on a little makeup lol |
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"Indeed: I'm sure you'd love to keep this very particular "object" in your drawer "
Are you referring to you in general, or your cock? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Indeed: I'm sure you'd love to keep this very particular "object" in your drawer
Are you referring to you in general, or your cock? "
Anything you want m'dear, absolutely anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Typical bloody woman! haha.
As long as there's a tv playing sport I'm sure he'll be fine.
I'm not that much of a typical woman lol but it doesn't take that long to have a shower and a shave and dry my hair and put some clothes .on.... I might even put on a little makeup lol "
haha! Pushing the boat out then? |
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"Typical bloody woman! haha.
As long as there's a tv playing sport I'm sure he'll be fine.
I'm not that much of a typical woman lol but it doesn't take that long to have a shower and a shave and dry my hair and put some clothes .on.... I might even put on a little makeup lol
haha! Pushing the boat out then? "
Just not really a makeup kinda girl, especially when we have warm weather. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bit of a lie actually I do like makeup but only do one extreme or the other, heavy makeup (dark eyeshadow, lots of mascara and eyeliner, red lippy) or none. |
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Personally, I'm not into stalker like behaviour.
Arrange meet, contact day before to confirm, no response c'est la vie.
Life really is too short to waste time on people not interested in you. |
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"I would have long given up. No contact three days or on day of meet. I would take it can't be that interested as would of kept in touch."
Exactly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would have long given up. No contact three days or on day of meet. I would take it can't be that interested as would of kept in touch.
Exactly! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What site were you on I've bin on afew where all people want to do is wast your time xxx |
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Just another site, which I can't name on here ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol..If someone who I had arranged a meet with then did not contact me for 3 days and nothing was arranged then messaged to say meet me at this time..I'd say on yer bike!!"
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"Hello fellow pervs and pervettes,
after a little advice!
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Until what time do I give him before I give it up as a bad job??
Thoughts welcome! But I would really like to do SOMETHING tonight."
Here is the best advice you will ever get.
Don't believe a word anyone says, believe their actions.
Base YOUR decisions on their actions, not their words.
Anyone can talk up a storm, meet ya later babes, gonna rock your world, you're the one that I want (ONJ) and all that jazz... it's like e-bay, any asshole can sign up for an account and bid.
Until they turn up with cash money for the item they just bought off you at the agreed time and place, don't go out of your way or change your plans one iota.
Also never pass up a definite "5" for a maybe "8", if the "8" can't be trusted to turn their owrds into actions and turn up as agreed or whatever else they said to you they would do, then they can't be trusted for anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just another site, which I can't name on here ..."
I'd stick to this one least you can report time wasters |
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"Here is the best advice you will ever get.
Don't believe a word anyone says, believe their actions.
Base YOUR decisions on their actions, not their words.
Anyone can talk up a storm, meet ya later babes, gonna rock your world, you're the one that I want (ONJ) and all that jazz... it's like e-bay, any asshole can sign up for an account and bid.
Also never pass up a definite "5" for a maybe "8", if the "8" can't be trusted to turn their owrds into actions and turn up as agreed or whatever else they said to you they would do, then they can't be trusted for anything."
Well I'd not meet anyone who gave me the 'gonna do this/that/the other/'rock your world' bollocks anyway lol cos that just bores the socks off me.
I don't get the 5/8 thing? Who's 5, who's 8?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Defo now ,
if you don't get any word off some one at least a few days before a meet I would be putting it down to , not happning. |
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"I'd stick to this one least you can report time wasters "
It's not a bad site all round and I've got many friends on there, I used to do a lot of meets from it in the past but now mostly use it for socialising, I wasn't even looking for a meet tbh we'd just got to know each other and as he was passing this way suggested a meet up.
It's owned by the same people as this site and also has a reporting system |
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Oh and I have given up on it and am now looking into ways of getting to and from Cupids |
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"Here is the best advice you will ever get.
Don't believe a word anyone says, believe their actions.
Base YOUR decisions on their actions, not their words.
Anyone can talk up a storm, meet ya later babes, gonna rock your world, you're the one that I want (ONJ) and all that jazz... it's like e-bay, any asshole can sign up for an account and bid.
Also never pass up a definite "5" for a maybe "8", if the "8" can't be trusted to turn their owrds into actions and turn up as agreed or whatever else they said to you they would do, then they can't be trusted for anything.
Well I'd not meet anyone who gave me the 'gonna do this/that/the other/'rock your world' bollocks anyway lol cos that just bores the socks off me.
I don't get the 5/8 thing? Who's 5, who's 8? "
I think what he means if you give someone 5 out of 10 don't dismiss a meet for an 8 out of 10 as they 8 out of 10 might not be trusted... |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I would have said nothing was arranged for definite so plan something else. |
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"I think what he means if you give someone 5 out of 10 don't dismiss a meet for an 8 out of 10 as they 8 out of 10 might not be trusted..."
Ah right...that makes it sound like I had a load of offers for tonight |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just becouse he hasnt logged into fabb doesent actualy meen he wouldnt recieve a notici ation from u or others so i would mesage him and see if any despon e but it xoes seem that u may be doing something other than this guy hope all works out hunn |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Similar has happened to me in the past .... i waited and waited but no contact was made. i ended up wasting the night n watching bloody casualty ! id put it down to experience and dont hang around ....go make alternative plans . x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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always have a back up plan |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would look elsewhere not hearing from him yet today says it all. You have given him more than enough time. |
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