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I want this woman but....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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She's attached  I see her most days and we have a chat and flirt.. But I've been thinking of leaving her a note with my number on it with a short message..
I need your help ladies.. How should I word it? I'm hoping she fancies me so if you fancied a guy and he was to leave his number and a message what would you like to read..
This is not a fantasy as I'm definitely leaving her my number, I just wanna make her wonder and be tempted
I'll keep this post updated with how it progresses.. Good or bad..
I don't want to never know and have what ifs..
What have you done to me fab!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally think it's wrong, if she's attached and you're doing this for your own personal gain then, no.
If she wanted to she would take it to the next level. |
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sounds like you both get on quite well as it is
If I was in her shoes I would rather keep things as they are as I would find it quite uncormfortable and a little awkward if you progressed with the leaving the number thing but that's just me I guess
Hope things work out for you though however you decide to proceed  |
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I wouldn't deliberately leave your number. I wouldn't deliberately get involved with someone who is attached, but that's my personal view for me. It doesn't make anyone happy long term and if its short term and she's interested then she'll come looking for your number. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have found from experience there is nothing that ruins a bit of harmless banter between people than when one of them changes things by wanting to take it further than is possible
If you try to take it further she may not appreciate it seeing as you know shes attached,then again she might,only you know if its worth it |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
Cyprus |
How about...
Hey you
I fancy the pants of ya. So if ya fancy cheating on ya fella, then ring this number and i'll slip you a length.
Don't worry, i'm discrete....i've only told all the FAB swingers forumites about you.
077........;..... |
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Something I don't understand is the differing attitudes towards cheating or in this case encouraging someone else to. Some posters who request advice on how to attract men or women even though they say they have a partner are given advice and even praised for asking in a sensible way, yet others are told not to do it. I truly don't understand have I missed something? |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Something I don't understand is the differing attitudes towards cheating or in this case encouraging someone else to. Some posters who request advice on how to attract men or women even though they say they have a partner are given advice and even praised for asking in a sensible way, yet others are told not to do it. I truly don't understand have I missed something?"
Some people are judgmental, some are not....some people forget what they have posted previously, some don't.  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I don't know you or the lady involved, but if she is happily married (and you have not said otherwise) do you really want to run the risk of her discussing you with her husband?
Leave it be. Just because we're friendly, doesn't mean we want sex. |
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"Something I don't understand is the differing attitudes towards cheating or in this case encouraging someone else to. Some posters who request advice on how to attract men or women even though they say they have a partner are given advice and even praised for asking in a sensible way, yet others are told not to do it. I truly don't understand have I missed something?Some people are judgmental, some are not....some people forget what they have posted previously, some don't. "
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"Something I don't understand is the differing attitudes towards cheating or in this case encouraging someone else to. Some posters who request advice on how to attract men or women even though they say they have a partner are given advice and even praised for asking in a sensible way, yet others are told not to do it. I truly don't understand have I missed something?"
I believe that someone unhappy in their relationship is going to cheat, whether or not we help them out, whereas someone actively asking advice to try and get someone else to cheat is kind of on a different level to me.
I try to stay out of it though. Mostly. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Something I don't understand is the differing attitudes towards cheating or in this case encouraging someone else to. Some posters who request advice on how to attract men or women even though they say they have a partner are given advice and even praised for asking in a sensible way, yet others are told not to do it. I truly don't understand have I missed something?"
Without seeing the threads you are talking about I suppose no one can comment.
Maybe put the threads up so we can see  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Something I don't understand is the differing attitudes towards cheating or in this case encouraging someone else to. Some posters who request advice on how to attract men or women even though they say they have a partner are given advice and even praised for asking in a sensible way, yet others are told not to do it. I truly don't understand have I missed something?Some people are judgmental, some are not....some people forget what they have posted previously, some don't. "
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"i took reading it as shes on here attached
was i wrong?  "
If she's on here then that's completely different, but I took it as he sees her IRL and she's given him no encouragement. |
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Without seeing the threads you are talking about I suppose no one can comment.
Maybe put the threads up so we can see "
I thought it was bad form to mention other threads directly. It was just.a general observation made over the last 3 or 4 days. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Without seeing the threads you are talking about I suppose no one can comment.
Maybe put the threads up so we can see
I thought it was bad form to mention other threads directly.."
But you didn't think it bad form to mention it.
I would still love to see what you are talking about though, so any chance of mailing us the threads please |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"i took reading it as shes on here attached
was i wrong?
If she's on here then that's completely different, but I took it as he sees her IRL and she's given him no encouragement."
So would you now say she is fair game if she is on here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i took reading it as shes on here attached
was i wrong?
If she's on here then that's completely different, but I took it as he sees her IRL and she's given him no encouragement.
So would you now say she is fair game if she is on here?"
I think being honest if shes on here and shes looking for fun and the partner is aware and is ok with it why not!
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"i took reading it as shes on here attached
was i wrong?
If she's on here then that's completely different, but I took it as he sees her IRL and she's given him no encouragement.
So would you now say she is fair game if she is on here?
I think being honest if shes on here and shes looking for fun and the partner is aware and is ok with it why not!
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Yep, nothing wrong with that for me either.
What about if the OP is going to be asking behind the mans back as it sounds from the first post...would it be ok too? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"i took reading it as shes on here attached
was i wrong?
If she's on here then that's completely different, but I took it as he sees her IRL and she's given him no encouragement.
So would you now say she is fair game if she is on here?"
Not fair game, but being on a swinger site is more likely to be construed as looking for sex than having a friendly work relationship. |
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By * n zCouple
over a year ago
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"Something I don't understand is the differing attitudes towards cheating or in this case encouraging someone else to. Some posters who request advice on how to attract men or women even though they say they have a partner are given advice and even praised for asking in a sensible way, yet others are told not to do it. I truly don't understand have I missed something?"
I believe I know of one such thread you are describing and the C word wasn't mentioned once ...........
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"i took reading it as shes on here attached
was i wrong?
If she's on here then that's completely different, but I took it as he sees her IRL and she's given him no encouragement.
So would you now say she is fair game if she is on here?
Not fair game, but being on a swinger site is more likely to be construed as looking for sex than having a friendly work relationship."
Even if she has a partner? As it sounds like the OP isn't looking to include the partner.
Now obviously the woman he is talking about if she is on here could play alone...but I am asking more if she only plays as a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She's attached I see her most days and we have a chat and flirt.. "
OP kind of indicates it's not Fab contact but a real life daily meet in some context. That being the case we are not talking swinger with or without permission.
Dangerous ground, we are both terrible flirts in normal life, have often flirted with work colleagues, bar staff friends etc. but would be horrified if any wanted to go further than some friendly flirting, that would be the cut all contact moment.
Don't know your intentions, if it's a night of lust then your conscience has to deal with the potential consequences that you could screw up a life time of the relationship she is in..
OR if she wants out you may just be the person holding the door.
OR if you want a relationship, are you sure?
Just think it through, there are more reasons for playing the what if game than a night of lust. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"i took reading it as shes on here attached
was i wrong?
If she's on here then that's completely different, but I took it as he sees her IRL and she's given him no encouragement.
So would you now say she is fair game if she is on here?
Not fair game, but being on a swinger site is more likely to be construed as looking for sex than having a friendly work relationship.
Even if she has a partner? As it sounds like the OP isn't looking to include the partner.
Now obviously the woman he is talking about if she is on here could play alone...but I am asking more if she only plays as a couple."
That's why I thought it was more likely that he was talking about a woman off site. Sometimes I read between the lines (rightly or wrongly) and it didn't come across that he was talking about a woman on here.
If its a couples profile, surely leaving a message would run the risk of being read by the husband first anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just to put a male perspective. .
I have done it in Vanilla world.
I got on with her really well, until the day I gave her one of "those notes".
She had a boyfriend and ever since that it was awkward to be even in the same room as eachother.
This is going back 7 years though.
If your already friends/get on...then be fucking careful.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to put a male perspective. .
I have done it in Vanilla world.
I got on with her really well, until the day I gave her one of "those notes".
She had a boyfriend and ever since that it was awkward to be even in the same room as eachother.
This is going back 7 years though.
If your already friends/get on...then be fucking careful.
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i lost a good friend this way it ended messy and i swear now i will never do it again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As she has more to lose I would hold back and wait, if she decides to take things further then on her own head be it, in the meantime just enjoy the banter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She's attached I see her most days and we have a chat and flirt.. But I've been thinking of leaving her a note with my number on it with a short message..
I need your help ladies.. How should I word it? I'm hoping she fancies me so if you fancied a guy and he was to leave his number and a message what would you like to read..
This is not a fantasy as I'm definitely leaving her my number, I just wanna make her wonder and be tempted
I'll keep this post updated with how it progresses.. Good or bad..
I don't want to never know and have what ifs..
What have you done to me fab!!! "
Nice...
How about respecting the fact she is in a relationship?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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how about she's not into cheating on her fella, you leave her your number, she goes straight home and shows him the note next day he comes and punches you in the nose
fuck it yeah, go for it lol |
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OP, there is a distinct line between a bit of friendly banter and 'flirting' and one of the parties being attached and wanting a fling..
would suggest you leave well alone....
if she initiates more than flirting or suggests it then thats a different matter..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks guys.. From reading all the replies on here I think I should leave well enough alone... However I'm gonna leave her my number and say I lost something nearby and if it's handed in could she let me know... Then if she is interested she may make a move.
If not no harm no foul
I agree with most of your views but I have always believed we are not owned by a relationship. Sometimes we settle because we have to.. Kids house etc and a bit of fun is what excites us all.. I'm just hoping she wants some excitement too.. Cake and eat it
I originally asked if you were to receive a random I fancy you from a semi stranger, what way would you like it to be worded... Never mind haha  |
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