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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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plz be honest with me...but ...as my prev post about a meet that went well but now he has becum abusive, plz can i ask if im in the wrong...here goes...
i met him had great nite , agreed to meet him again , and aslo maybe meet couples 2getha, we browsed couples, and sent each other possibilities...and anyway , he became a bit too pushy and started to talk about making a couples profile (ive met him once) and he was sending couples that if he had read there profile completley he wud have realised that we or they were not suitable so it cud ave been embarrasing if i had gone ahead and messaged them (he cudnt message bcos hes a single guy) anyway on reflectionj i decided not to meet him again as i began to feel a bit pressured...he has taken it really badly , saying i used him , i lied to him , ive taken him for a fool etc....and thats why he began to be abusive and threatened to come to my home and that he wasnt taking this lighly...anyway ive reported him , am i in the wroing here or do u not think when a single girl begins to feel not all is well she shud bail out??? i mean at the end of the day my intuition was right as he has got aggressive, imagine if he had got like this when i was alone wiv him.... |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"plz be honest with me...but ...as my prev post about a meet that went well but now he has becum abusive, plz can i ask if im in the wrong...here goes...
i met him had great nite , agreed to meet him again , and aslo maybe meet couples 2getha, we browsed couples, and sent each other possibilities...and anyway , he became a bit too pushy and started to talk about making a couples profile (ive met him once) and he was sending couples that if he had read there profile completley he wud have realised that we or they were not suitable so it cud ave been embarrasing if i had gone ahead and messaged them (he cudnt message bcos hes a single guy) anyway on reflectionj i decided not to meet him again as i began to feel a bit pressured...he has taken it really badly , saying i used him , i lied to him , ive taken him for a fool etc....and thats why he began to be abusive and threatened to come to my home and that he wasnt taking this lighly...anyway ive reported him , am i in the wroing here or do u not think when a single girl begins to feel not all is well she shud bail out??? i mean at the end of the day my intuition was right as he has got aggressive, imagine if he had got like this when i was alone wiv him...."
block , delete, report..move on |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
Cyprus |
"plz be honest with me...but ...as my prev post about a meet that went well but now he has becum abusive, plz can i ask if im in the wrong...here goes...
i met him had great nite , agreed to meet him again , and aslo maybe meet couples 2getha, we browsed couples, and sent each other possibilities...and anyway , he became a bit too pushy and started to talk about making a couples profile (ive met him once) and he was sending couples that if he had read there profile completley he wud have realised that we or they were not suitable so it cud ave been embarrasing if i had gone ahead and messaged them (he cudnt message bcos hes a single guy) anyway on reflectionj i decided not to meet him again as i began to feel a bit pressured...he has taken it really badly , saying i used him , i lied to him , ive taken him for a fool etc....and thats why he began to be abusive and threatened to come to my home and that he wasnt taking this lighly...anyway ive reported him , am i in the wroing here or do u not think when a single girl begins to feel not all is well she shud bail out??? i mean at the end of the day my intuition was right as he has got aggressive, imagine if he had got like this when i was alone wiv him...."
No, you are not in the wrong.
In swinging, one of the words we learn first is ..........NO.......
AFter all, swinging is about sexual liberation and freedom, it isn't "I'minlovewithyouafteronedate.com"
Stand firm, do not allow him to bully you. Block him, keep reporting him to Admin until they do something and if need be, report him to the police under the harassment laws.
They will understand and it won't be the first time they've had to help when a swinging experience has turned nasty.
NO-ONE has the right to make you feel pressurized or scared, he obviously thinks he can wear you down.
But always remember, for every prize knob within swinging, there are always 3 good guys.
If you need any further help, just ask the forum community........ there's always someone who knows what to do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"plz be honest with me...but ...as my prev post about a meet that went well but now he has becum abusive, plz can i ask if im in the wrong...here goes...
i met him had great nite , agreed to meet him again , and aslo maybe meet couples 2getha, we browsed couples, and sent each other possibilities...and anyway , he became a bit too pushy and started to talk about making a couples profile (ive met him once) and he was sending couples that if he had read there profile completley he wud have realised that we or they were not suitable so it cud ave been embarrasing if i had gone ahead and messaged them (he cudnt message bcos hes a single guy) anyway on reflectionj i decided not to meet him again as i began to feel a bit pressured...he has taken it really badly , saying i used him , i lied to him , ive taken him for a fool etc....and thats why he began to be abusive and threatened to come to my home and that he wasnt taking this lighly...anyway ive reported him , am i in the wroing here or do u not think when a single girl begins to feel not all is well she shud bail out??? i mean at the end of the day my intuition was right as he has got aggressive, imagine if he had got like this when i was alone wiv him....block , delete, report..move on "
Agree
Talking about it more will only make it worse.
If he doesn't take the hint next step is reporting him to the police. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is the third thread you've started on the same subject. I think you've had all the good advice you need and now you should let Admin deal with it from a Fabswingers site point of view. Tell the guy you've reported him and that if he wants all his family & friends to know about his swinging lifestyle then you'll happily explain it in court - if you're happy for YOUR friends & family to know about it too, that is.
Consider it a narrow escape and move on, I doubt this guy has the gumption to actually assault you and it's probably nothing more than a threat.
As said previously... block, report, move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have done the right thing, dont have anymore contact with him even if it means blocking him on your phone as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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anyone can have a change of heart,even people that have been swinging for years.its all about personal choice and what you feel and dont feel comfortable with,if your instincts said walk away from this situation,then you were most definately right,after all who knows you better than you?this guy has the problem not you,as onother forum reader has advised,report,delete and move on. |
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Agree totally
block the bugger and report and if need be call the cops that should slow him down.
Steve  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single girl your safety is paramount and personally i would never have a single guy back at my house, i would rather make an arrangement for a hotel adn have safety phone checks in place etc secure my personal safety. Just an observation, but like everyone says learn from your mistake block an move on!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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3 threads about the same subject from the same person so im closing 2 of them and leaving just the one |
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