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What is about younger women that you like? I'm talking women in their early to late 20's |
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After checking out your profile.
My answer is - everything  |
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They're near enough the same age as me  |
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"They're near enough the same age as me "
I don't because they're definitely not 🤣 |
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I’m an outlier.
Always preferred the older lady. Youngest I’ve ever had was only 3yrs younger 🤷🏽♂️ |
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In the case of older people specifically seeking younger.
For some it's purely the aesthetic. Media for many years has focused on women under 30 as the epitome of beauty and fertility. Any over that as mothers or crones.
For some it's the naivety and pliable nature of someone who doesn't have the life experience they do. Not to say someone who is 24 is incapable of using their reasoning or judgement. Just they don't yet tend to grasp their own worth or agency and will rely on the older person to let them know what's normal and tolerable 💜 |
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Because they are generally fitter |
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Love the energy and attitude to just doing anything or going anywhere , I like being introduced to new music and culture & of course delicious bodies like yours OP ! |
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"I’m an outlier.
Always preferred the older lady. Youngest I’ve ever had was only 3yrs younger 🤷🏽♂️"
2 yrs under for me |
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Younger is I guess a thrill of having someone a lot younger interested. We enjoy passing on our experience too.
We are both in our 50’s but we are young minded - we still go to dance club events and look after ourselves.
So usually people our age don’t have the same outlook so younger works for us.
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"Love the energy and attitude to just doing anything or going anywhere , I like being introduced to new music and culture & of course delicious bodies like yours OP ! "
Hmm culture is one thing but connection is a whole new level and it’s all about connection
For me |
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By *WANDTGCouple 4 days ago
Borough of Greenwich |
It's all about preferences, we don't find younger women more appealing. More our own age or a 10 year swing either end of it |
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I don't understand the question.
Men want to fuck all the women.
All of them!
Hot is hot. A body is just a transport system for a sexy spirit. |
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Speaking as a pleasure Dom, it’s that feeling of protecting her/taking her under my wing, as the older, experienced male…..
Having her on my arm out in public, and people look at you, working out whether you’re her father, is she your PA, or even a working girl….
Younger women look stunning in lingerie (look at the OP’s pics for example), as well as LBD’s etc….
The maxim “You’re as young as the woman you feel” is absolutely spot on! Their youth really does ‘rub off’ on to you…..
I should point out; my inbox is always open for younger ladies to……chat 😉 |
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"After checking out your profile.
My answer is - everything "
I had to check her profile, lol she is a mighty fine specimen |
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Their sweet slim pretty pussy x |
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"What is about younger women that you like? I'm talking women in their early to late 20's"
Honestly stuck for an answer... maybe yoga pants? |
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About 20 years too young for me
No offence |
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Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!! |
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Not all of us. I much prefer women my own age or older. It's very rare I prefer photos of their younger selves. |
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I like them for who they are and whatever age |
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"I like them for who they are and whatever age "
So did jimmy saville 🤢 |
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"I like them for who they are and whatever age
So did jimmy saville 🤢"
We had to go there didn’t we? ….😔 |
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"I like them for who they are and whatever age
So did jimmy saville 🤢
We had to go there didn’t we? ….😔"
It’s creepy |
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By *aizyWoman 4 days ago
west midlands |
"Tight V…   "
I do like a tight v neck jumper on a man. |
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"Tight V…
I do like a tight v neck jumper on a man."
That’s what i also mean |
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I used to think I liked younger women, which at 63 is most to be honest.
What I actually like is a "young" attitude and outlook, enthusiasm, and a passion for experiences, either new, or with new people.
What I would hate is someone without the mental ability to make sensible, well thought through and reasoned choices.
That is another realm altogether. |
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As long as they have a sexy figure, wet clean tasty pussy..and a personality not of a wet lettuce age isn't a thing for me |
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By *ripfillMan 4 days ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
The thing that I like is - ladies will get older more mature and have even better sex !
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When it comes to appreciating younger women, it's really about celebrating the vibrant sexual energy that comes with youth. Their passion and zest for life can be incredibly magnetic. It's like being around a bright flame—their enthusiasm often ignites a deeper connection and invites exploration of desire. But let's be honest, this appreciation isn't exclusive to age; every woman, regardless of her age, brings her own unique energy, creativity, and allure to the table. It's all about enjoying the dance of connection, where every step, no matter who leads, can spark something beautiful! |
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"What is about younger women that you like? I'm talking women in their early to late 20's"
Cripes no woman around my own age or older please young woman kill me  |
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Honestly. Some of the answers are just🤮 |
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"Honestly. Some of the answers are just🤮"
Aren't they just 💜 |
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"Honestly. Some of the answers are just🤮
Aren't they just 💜"
I would agree. But that's probably because I'm a wizened crone. 😂 |
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"Honestly. Some of the answers are just🤮
Aren't they just 💜
I would agree. But that's probably because I'm a wizened crone. 😂"
Ide rather meet u than a 20 year old |
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So many judgy people in here. I though this place would be more accepting of people’s preferences. |
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"Honestly. Some of the answers are just🤮
Aren't they just 💜
I would agree. But that's probably because I'm a wizened crone. 😂"
Totes.
I'm sure the memories of older men deliberately and maliciously trying to take advantage when we were too young to know better is just bitterness that they don't want to do it now after all.
Curse these reasonable adults that treat us like actual humans. I want an old dude that isn't willing to work on himself to lust after meeee 😭😭 |
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I don't understand why folks have to make an age gap conversation into something creepy and weird.
With the exception two women I think every partner in my life has been within a few years of whatever age I was at at the time. So for me I reckon common ground counts for a lot in what I find attractive.
But I've been with someone twenty years younger than me and it was amazing. And I've been with someone 20yrs older than me and it was amazing.
The OP is 24 and gorgeous. There's nothing creepy or weird about a man of any age thinking she's attractive.
*Disclaimer - People ACTING creepy and weird is a different story.
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"I don't understand why folks have to make an age gap conversation into something creepy and weird.
With the exception two women I think every partner in my life has been within a few years of whatever age I was at at the time. So for me I reckon common ground counts for a lot in what I find attractive.
But I've been with someone twenty years younger than me and it was amazing. And I've been with someone 20yrs older than me and it was amazing.
The OP is 24 and gorgeous. There's nothing creepy or weird about a man of any age thinking she's attractive.
*Disclaimer - People ACTING creepy and weird is a different story.
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I think that's a key thing.
You just want something pretty to fuck, they're up for it, all good.
You happen to fall for someone with decades of age gap, it happens.
It's the actively seeking younger women for relationships that's creepy. Whatever justification is put on it falls apart pretty quickly.
Just wanting to bang someone you find attractive is perfectly normal 💜 |
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Think it's their sense of adventure
Everything is new and a turn they haven't been jaded
That said older women have experience and know what they want
And tend to have less inhibitions as seen it all b4
So.what I think I'm saying is ALL women are sexy lol |
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By *rKnightsMan 4 days ago
Nott,in,your,mums,forrest |
Personally, it’s morally for someone my age to fuck a woman that age. |
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I do enjoy the fence sitters getting splinters 🤣 |
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The OP is indeed very attractive. It's the fitter, better bodies, more energetic rubbish, I know so many older men and women who have loads of energy, great physiques and so on. As another poster above said, seeking out someone younger, when you are 30 plus years older is a bit creepy, to me anyway. |
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Genuine mutual attraction? Have at it!
But so often there's a power differential. The older person taking advantage of inexperience, the younger taking advantage of the older's gullibility. |
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We wouldn't meet people in their 20s....Mr especially. |
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Truthfully it's your young fit body's,firm tits tight bum and the fact you,d let a older guy have sex with you |
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I think it has a lot to do with power and control, this only applies to men who actively seek out younger women. They are easier to manipulate. |
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"I think it has a lot to do with power and control, this only applies to men who actively seek out younger women. They are easier to manipulate."
Yes.
Some younger women are easier to manipulate. Some older men are easier to manipulate. |
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By *mandoMan 4 days ago
Shrewsbury |
That door can swing both ways..
Sometimes the younger person sees an older person as being someone they can manipulate, use for free drinks and get free rides everywhere and 'borrow' money from for things, never to be returned.
I think people sometimes forget that.
But if you can find someone who actually respects you and loves you for you, then you can genuinely have a mutual relationship and be each others best friend..
Then it can workout. |
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"What is about younger women that you like? I'm talking women in their early to late 20's"
I like this question. It’s well-timed.
I like all sorts of women at all sorts of ages. I can genuinely say that for me it’s more about the person than their age. But … obviously I like you OP, you know that. And I’m kind of sort of almost seeing a woman barely older than you as well. So clearly younger women figure in my preferences somewhere.
I watched the new TV show with John Hamm last night - Your Friends & Neighbors (excuse the American spelling, it is what it is). And there’s a brilliantly written scene where a younger woman picks him up in a bar. Literally talks him into bed with her. And it’s fantastic. Beautifully played.
In it, he’s actually trying to explain to her why it won’t work between them in the long run, but he starts off with why it *will* work right now, at their respective ages. I’m going to try and quote it, as best I can.
“By and large, guys your age are idiots. Narcissistic man-boys far out of their depth with you, in conversation and in bed. So, by comparison, a man my age looks like the perfect antidote, right? I’m thoughtful, I’m wise, I’m more of a man - whatever that means these days. And you’re, what, 20-something years younger than me? So at this moment in time, it works. I have money, you have freedom. We could learn things from each other, in conversation and in bed. You’ll find me very interesting, because I have two decades’ worth of stories more than you. And I’ll find you very interesting because you live your life in the moment with the kind of reckless immediacy I lost a billion years ago. So we’ll have no trouble keeping each other entertained.” |
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"I think it has a lot to do with power and control, this only applies to men who actively seek out younger women. They are easier to manipulate."
Observing men around my age who pursue much younger women that is certainly the case. |
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I think it's pretty much for me a taboo area, which brings out the inner rebel in me |
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You teach them about drill & trap
&
they can teach you about jazz |
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Young women have the rest of their lives to live and enjoy that’s the good thing about them |
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"What is about younger women that you like? I'm talking women in their early to late 20's
I like this question. It’s well-timed.
I like all sorts of women at all sorts of ages. I can genuinely say that for me it’s more about the person than their age. But … obviously I like you OP, you know that. And I’m kind of sort of almost seeing a woman barely older than you as well. So clearly younger women figure in my preferences somewhere.
I watched the new TV show with John Hamm last night - Your Friends & Neighbors (excuse the American spelling, it is what it is). And there’s a brilliantly written scene where a younger woman picks him up in a bar. Literally talks him into bed with her. And it’s fantastic. Beautifully played.
In it, he’s actually trying to explain to her why it won’t work between them in the long run, but he starts off with why it *will* work right now, at their respective ages. I’m going to try and quote it, as best I can.
“By and large, guys your age are idiots. Narcissistic man-boys far out of their depth with you, in conversation and in bed. So, by comparison, a man my age looks like the perfect antidote, right? I’m thoughtful, I’m wise, I’m more of a man - whatever that means these days. And you’re, what, 20-something years younger than me? So at this moment in time, it works. I have money, you have freedom. We could learn things from each other, in conversation and in bed. You’ll find me very interesting, because I have two decades’ worth of stories more than you. And I’ll find you very interesting because you live your life in the moment with the kind of reckless immediacy I lost a billion years ago. So we’ll have no trouble keeping each other entertained.”"
As much as I'm a fan of Mr hamm, this makes me despise the kind of man he's playing |
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I think a lot of us are at our most interesting, and most interested in the world, around our mid to late 20s. I know I was. And that energy, outlook, attitude, or whatever you want to call it, can be attractive. And on some people, sexy too. |
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I'd say late 20’s would be on the limit for me. However I love the contrast of the young innocent look while simultaneously being a dirty cock lovin slut. Having said that, 30 and 40’s women can also have an innocent look too. |
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Two years ago I met someone from here who was 23. I didn't meet her because she was specifically 23 or because she was a "younger woman", I met her because our paths converged, the circumstances were fortuitous and because of the maturity in her sensibilities. Perhaps it was happenstance.
What is about younger women that I like? Nothing. I don't explicitly hanker for •younger women• (quite rare in fact). I just hanker for women, period. |
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By *end1Man 4 days ago
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Ive always preferred younger I've had 2 children where both mothers was in their 20s and I was in my 40s. Have also played with 5 or 6 other women with big age gaps.(all legal) ive never been with an older woman just doesn't float my boat. |
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I guess nothing is off the table if there's connection. Both sides can teach each other something |
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"I think a lot of us are at our most interesting, and most interested in the world, around our mid to late 20s. I know I was. And that energy, outlook, attitude, or whatever you want to call it, can be attractive. And on some people, sexy too."
Ooft, hard disagree! I was pretty self centred in my twenties. I think the level of self-awareness I have now has made me infinitely more interested in the world too.
Mrs TMN x |
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"I think a lot of us are at our most interesting, and most interested in the world, around our mid to late 20s. I know I was. And that energy, outlook, attitude, or whatever you want to call it, can be attractive. And on some people, sexy too.
Ooft, hard disagree! I was pretty self centred in my twenties. I think the level of self-awareness I have now has made me infinitely more interested in the world too.
Mrs TMN x"
I would agree with this. I work with some 20 somethings. They are on their phones 24/7. Lazy for the most part and have no interest in much, other than social media and tik tok etc.
Back then as a 20 something, if I was on a so called sex site in my 20's, I'd be really doubting my choices. All I can remember is going to uni, meeting people, pubs,clubs etc etc organically....
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By *a LunaWoman 4 days ago
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Younger women? They’re shiny. Like a new car smell but with tighter skin and zero emotional/life baggage. Men? Well they are just like City foxes. They see something sparkly and bam, they’re crawling the streets (or Tinder, or Fab) to get to it.
It makes them feel good about themselves, in a nutshell.
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"I think a lot of us are at our most interesting, and most interested in the world, around our mid to late 20s. I know I was. And that energy, outlook, attitude, or whatever you want to call it, can be attractive. And on some people, sexy too.
Ooft, hard disagree! I was pretty self centred in my twenties. I think the level of self-awareness I have now has made me infinitely more interested in the world too.
Mrs TMN x
I would agree with this. I work with some 20 somethings. They are on their phones 24/7. Lazy for the most part and have no interest in much, other than social media and tik tok etc.
Back then as a 20 something, if I was on a so called sex site in my 20's, I'd be really doubting my choices. All I can remember is going to uni, meeting people, pubs,clubs etc etc organically....
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Gosh, that reads a bit dismissively. I don’t think all people in their twenties are lazy and uninterested, any more than I think they are all interesting and interested in the world. I think people are much more diverse than that  Speaking for myself I know I was more inward looking at that age, but I was also dipping my toe into swinging via the internet |
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Being 74 I would love to lick a 20 year old fanny it would be so soft and juicy |
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"I think a lot of us are at our most interesting, and most interested in the world, around our mid to late 20s. I know I was. And that energy, outlook, attitude, or whatever you want to call it, can be attractive. And on some people, sexy too.
Ooft, hard disagree! I was pretty self centred in my twenties. I think the level of self-awareness I have now has made me infinitely more interested in the world too.
Mrs TMN x
I would agree with this. I work with some 20 somethings. They are on their phones 24/7. Lazy for the most part and have no interest in much, other than social media and tik tok etc.
Back then as a 20 something, if I was on a so called sex site in my 20's, I'd be really doubting my choices. All I can remember is going to uni, meeting people, pubs,clubs etc etc organically....
Gosh, that reads a bit dismissively. I don’t think all people in their twenties are lazy and uninterested, any more than I think they are all interesting and interested in the world. I think people are much more diverse than that Speaking for myself I know I was more inward looking at that age, but I was also dipping my toe into swinging via the internet "
Not meant to be dismissive. Referring to some I work with. I have 20 something children who aren't like that! |
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"What is about younger women that you like? I'm talking women in their early to late 20's"
I prefer older woman 🤷♂️ love a good naughty mature woman 😈 |
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"Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!! "
I'm assuming the same goes for women who get with men the same age as their sons.
I see that a lot on here, but they don't seem to get branded with the creepy terminology |
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"Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!!
I'm assuming the same goes for women who get with men the same age as their sons.
I see that a lot on here, but they don't seem to get branded with the creepy terminology "
It’s true. What’s that about, do you think? |
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"Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!!
I'm assuming the same goes for women who get with men the same age as their sons.
I see that a lot on here, but they don't seem to get branded with the creepy terminology
It’s true. What’s that about, do you think?"
I'm not sure. I think for both genders it's to do with ego and the appeal is that they like that they're still see as attractive to the younger ones.
I'm not sure why men are considered creepy, though. Maybe on a whole men are just considered more creepy full stop🤷♂️ |
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"Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!!
I'm assuming the same goes for women who get with men the same age as their sons.
I see that a lot on here, but they don't seem to get branded with the creepy terminology
It’s true. What’s that about, do you think?
I'm not sure. I think for both genders it's to do with ego and the appeal is that they like that they're still see as attractive to the younger ones.
I'm not sure why men are considered creepy, though. Maybe on a whole men are just considered more creepy full stop🤷♂️"
*seen |
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Late 20s is about as young as I'm comfortable with. What I like about girls of that age is when they're genuine. I.e. not a bot or other fake profile, not trying to get OF subs and not catfishing. |
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"Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!!
I'm assuming the same goes for women who get with men the same age as their sons.
I see that a lot on here, but they don't seem to get branded with the creepy terminology
It’s true. What’s that about, do you think?
I'm not sure. I think for both genders it's to do with ego and the appeal is that they like that they're still see as attractive to the younger ones.
I'm not sure why men are considered creepy, though. Maybe on a whole men are just considered more creepy full stop🤷♂️"
I think the power imbalance that can be there - not always- between an older man and a younger woman plays into it being seen as creepy. I don’t know about the other way round. |
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"Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!!
I'm assuming the same goes for women who get with men the same age as their sons.
I see that a lot on here, but they don't seem to get branded with the creepy terminology
It’s true. What’s that about, do you think?
I'm not sure. I think for both genders it's to do with ego and the appeal is that they like that they're still see as attractive to the younger ones.
I'm not sure why men are considered creepy, though. Maybe on a whole men are just considered more creepy full stop🤷♂️
I think the power imbalance that can be there - not always- between an older man and a younger woman plays into it being seen as creepy. I don’t know about the other way round."
Maybe. I don't know the answer, but isn't the power imbalance there with most men and women, regardless of age? |
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I always preferd a milf when I was young |
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By *end1Man 4 days ago
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"Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!!
I'm assuming the same goes for women who get with men the same age as their sons.
I see that a lot on here, but they don't seem to get branded with the creepy terminology "
there are younger women who prefer the older guy. I've had 2 relationships and had 2 children both mothers are 20+ years younger and we are still good friends. |
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By *mandoMan 4 days ago
Shrewsbury |
"I always preferd a milf when I was young "
Me too! 😎 |
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Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️ |
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"I think it has a lot to do with power and control, this only applies to men who actively seek out younger women. They are easier to manipulate."
I can talk only for myself but if I find a woman attractive she's just attractive, regardless of her age |
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"Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!!
I'm assuming the same goes for women who get with men the same age as their sons.
I see that a lot on here, but they don't seem to get branded with the creepy terminology
It’s true. What’s that about, do you think?
I'm not sure. I think for both genders it's to do with ego and the appeal is that they like that they're still see as attractive to the younger ones.
I'm not sure why men are considered creepy, though. Maybe on a whole men are just considered more creepy full stop🤷♂️
I think the power imbalance that can be there - not always- between an older man and a younger woman plays into it being seen as creepy. I don’t know about the other way round.
Maybe. I don't know the answer, but isn't the power imbalance there with most men and women, regardless of age?"
Not sure what you mean? |
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Not been with a twenty something since my twenties 🤣.
I accept that younger women don’t go for older guys. |
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Would have nothing in common. They'd probably do my head in. |
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"Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!!
I'm assuming the same goes for women who get with men the same age as their sons.
I see that a lot on here, but they don't seem to get branded with the creepy terminology
It’s true. What’s that about, do you think?
I'm not sure. I think for both genders it's to do with ego and the appeal is that they like that they're still see as attractive to the younger ones.
I'm not sure why men are considered creepy, though. Maybe on a whole men are just considered more creepy full stop🤷♂️
I think the power imbalance that can be there - not always- between an older man and a younger woman plays into it being seen as creepy. I don’t know about the other way round.
Maybe. I don't know the answer, but isn't the power imbalance there with most men and women, regardless of age?
Not sure what you mean?"
I think it depends what you mean by power imbalance, but in some form, it's usually there. Whether it's physical or mental.
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"Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!!
I'm assuming the same goes for women who get with men the same age as their sons.
I see that a lot on here, but they don't seem to get branded with the creepy terminology
It’s true. What’s that about, do you think?
I'm not sure. I think for both genders it's to do with ego and the appeal is that they like that they're still see as attractive to the younger ones.
I'm not sure why men are considered creepy, though. Maybe on a whole men are just considered more creepy full stop🤷♂️
I think the power imbalance that can be there - not always- between an older man and a younger woman plays into it being seen as creepy. I don’t know about the other way round.
Maybe. I don't know the answer, but isn't the power imbalance there with most men and women, regardless of age?
Not sure what you mean?
I think it depends what you mean by power imbalance, but in some form, it's usually there. Whether it's physical or mental.
What did you mean?"
You think there’s a power imbalance in every relationship? |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️"
I think that as many women have grown up regularly navigating unsolicited attention from older men (I know I did) it colours the perception of those dynamics. Even when an age-gap relationship is healthy and consensual, it can be hard to separate it from that wider context of discomfort that so many women have experienced.
It’s not that older men liking younger women is automatically creepy, but the association is already there for a lot of people because of those past experiences.
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"What does anyone mean? That is the question."
The million dollar question 🤔 |
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"Oh goodness me
The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP
I know one well!!!
I'm assuming the same goes for women who get with men the same age as their sons.
I see that a lot on here, but they don't seem to get branded with the creepy terminology
It’s true. What’s that about, do you think?
I'm not sure. I think for both genders it's to do with ego and the appeal is that they like that they're still see as attractive to the younger ones.
I'm not sure why men are considered creepy, though. Maybe on a whole men are just considered more creepy full stop🤷♂️
I think the power imbalance that can be there - not always- between an older man and a younger woman plays into it being seen as creepy. I don’t know about the other way round.
Maybe. I don't know the answer, but isn't the power imbalance there with most men and women, regardless of age?
Not sure what you mean?
I think it depends what you mean by power imbalance, but in some form, it's usually there. Whether it's physical or mental.
What did you mean?
You think there’s a power imbalance in every relationship?"
Not all. And it depends what you mean by power. Physically, then I'd say say a good portion. |
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Someone enlighten me: What's "power imbalance"? |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
I think that as many women have grown up regularly navigating unsolicited attention from older men (I know I did) it colours the perception of those dynamics. Even when an age-gap relationship is healthy and consensual, it can be hard to separate it from that wider context of discomfort that so many women have experienced.
It’s not that older men liking younger women is automatically creepy, but the association is already there for a lot of people because of those past experiences.
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Thank you, Nell, I was struggling with putting this into words. It’s the wider societal context.
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"What does anyone mean? That is the question.
The million dollar question 🤔"
I could do with a million dollars
Nobody really knows what they mean🤔🤣 |
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"Someone enlighten me: What's "power imbalance"?"
When you like the lights off during sex and she wants them on.💡 |
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Apologies for derailing somewhat, OP!
Power imbalance in relationships - when one of the parties uses their position of strength against the other person. |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
I think that as many women have grown up regularly navigating unsolicited attention from older men (I know I did) it colours the perception of those dynamics. Even when an age-gap relationship is healthy and consensual, it can be hard to separate it from that wider context of discomfort that so many women have experienced.
It’s not that older men liking younger women is automatically creepy, but the association is already there for a lot of people because of those past experiences.
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Hmmm.. I think this is more society than individual experiences.. just my opinion.
Women are CONSTANTLY putting up with unwanted attention from men in general; the wrong men. The ones that fall under ‘wronguns’ context: that doesn’t change no matter their age. What deems them ‘creepy’ maybe because they’re less attractive? Who knows. |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
I think that as many women have grown up regularly navigating unsolicited attention from older men (I know I did) it colours the perception of those dynamics. Even when an age-gap relationship is healthy and consensual, it can be hard to separate it from that wider context of discomfort that so many women have experienced.
It’s not that older men liking younger women is automatically creepy, but the association is already there for a lot of people because of those past experiences.
Hmmm.. I think this is more society than individual experiences.. just my opinion.
Women are CONSTANTLY putting up with unwanted attention from men in general; the wrong men. The ones that fall under ‘wronguns’ context: that doesn’t change no matter their age. What deems them ‘creepy’ maybe because they’re less attractive? Who knows."
While we’re on the topic.. the amount of younger men that have to put up with unwanted attention from older women because society deems it more acceptable is shocking. ‘Funny’ when an older woman does it… not so much the other way. |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
I think that as many women have grown up regularly navigating unsolicited attention from older men (I know I did) it colours the perception of those dynamics. Even when an age-gap relationship is healthy and consensual, it can be hard to separate it from that wider context of discomfort that so many women have experienced.
It’s not that older men liking younger women is automatically creepy, but the association is already there for a lot of people because of those past experiences.
"
I think you're probably right, Nell. Maybe that's what it is. However, I'm sure lots of men have experienced the same with older women(I did) too. Probably not as young as when women recieve this unsolicited attention, but it certainly happens for men too. |
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"Apologies for derailing somewhat, OP!
Power imbalance in relationships - when one of the parties uses their position of strength against the other person. "
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Thanks.
What's a "position of strength"? |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
I think that as many women have grown up regularly navigating unsolicited attention from older men (I know I did) it colours the perception of those dynamics. Even when an age-gap relationship is healthy and consensual, it can be hard to separate it from that wider context of discomfort that so many women have experienced.
It’s not that older men liking younger women is automatically creepy, but the association is already there for a lot of people because of those past experiences.
I think you're probably right, Nell. Maybe that's what it is. However, I'm sure lots of men have experienced the same with older women(I did) too. Probably not as young as when women recieve this unsolicited attention, but it certainly happens for men too."
Oh, I know young men get that unwanted attention too. My brother and I compared notes when we were early 20' |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
I think that as many women have grown up regularly navigating unsolicited attention from older men (I know I did) it colours the perception of those dynamics. Even when an age-gap relationship is healthy and consensual, it can be hard to separate it from that wider context of discomfort that so many women have experienced.
It’s not that older men liking younger women is automatically creepy, but the association is already there for a lot of people because of those past experiences.
Hmmm.. I think this is more society than individual experiences.. just my opinion.
Women are CONSTANTLY putting up with unwanted attention from men in general; the wrong men. The ones that fall under ‘wronguns’ context: that doesn’t change no matter their age. What deems them ‘creepy’ maybe because they’re less attractive? Who knows.
While we’re on the topic.. the amount of younger men that have to put up with unwanted attention from older women because society deems it more acceptable is shocking. ‘Funny’ when an older woman does it… not so much the other way."
I think we were typing at the same time |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
I think that as many women have grown up regularly navigating unsolicited attention from older men (I know I did) it colours the perception of those dynamics. Even when an age-gap relationship is healthy and consensual, it can be hard to separate it from that wider context of discomfort that so many women have experienced.
It’s not that older men liking younger women is automatically creepy, but the association is already there for a lot of people because of those past experiences.
Hmmm.. I think this is more society than individual experiences.. just my opinion.
Women are CONSTANTLY putting up with unwanted attention from men in general; the wrong men. The ones that fall under ‘wronguns’ context: that doesn’t change no matter their age. What deems them ‘creepy’ maybe because they’re less attractive? Who knows."
I would agree with Nell. I know when I was in my late teens, early 20's, I was approached a lot by men in their 40's, 50's. My daughter is in her 20's. She has a boyfriend in his 20's. She goes out with her friends into town and is 'hit on' more by men 20, 30 years older, than anyone of her age. I find that 'creepy'. So does she. |
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"Tight V…
I do like a tight v neck jumper on a man."
Brilliant response |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
I think that as many women have grown up regularly navigating unsolicited attention from older men (I know I did) it colours the perception of those dynamics. Even when an age-gap relationship is healthy and consensual, it can be hard to separate it from that wider context of discomfort that so many women have experienced.
It’s not that older men liking younger women is automatically creepy, but the association is already there for a lot of people because of those past experiences.
I think you're probably right, Nell. Maybe that's what it is. However, I'm sure lots of men have experienced the same with older women(I did) too. Probably not as young as when women recieve this unsolicited attention, but it certainly happens for men too.
Oh, I know young men get that unwanted attention too. My brother and I compared notes when we were early 20' "
If you don't mind me asking, has it coloured the perception of those dynamics for your brother? |
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"I like them for who they are and whatever age
So did jimmy saville 🤢"
Please don’t say things like that. I always respect and expect others to do so. Am not into anything like what you might imply in anyway whatsoever |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
I think that as many women have grown up regularly navigating unsolicited attention from older men (I know I did) it colours the perception of those dynamics. Even when an age-gap relationship is healthy and consensual, it can be hard to separate it from that wider context of discomfort that so many women have experienced.
It’s not that older men liking younger women is automatically creepy, but the association is already there for a lot of people because of those past experiences.
I think you're probably right, Nell. Maybe that's what it is. However, I'm sure lots of men have experienced the same with older women(I did) too. Probably not as young as when women recieve this unsolicited attention, but it certainly happens for men too.
Oh, I know young men get that unwanted attention too. My brother and I compared notes when we were early 20'
If you don't mind me asking, has it coloured the perception of those dynamics for your brother?"
I'm not sure as it's a conversation we had 20 years ago. He was pestered by women and men at times, whereas I was only pestered by men apart from on one occasion in a night club when it was an older woman. I do remember him saying that he found it less threatening when it was a woman.
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Also throwing a spanner in the works..
As women get older on the norm they get less and less attention generally from any demographic of men. Does this taint views slightly? Potentially.
My older friend says she would love to still be getting the attention she got 25 years ago… so I guess we’re all different and it’s too easy to label men creepy😀 |
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"...it’s too easy to label men creepy😀"
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Data from dating apps shows that men aged from 20 to 50 consistently rate women aged 20 to 22 most attractive. Women aged 20 to 50 find men of a very similar age most attractive. Possibly a skewed data set but that's pretty wild. |
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"As women get older on the norm they get less and less attention generally from any demographic of men. Does this taint views slightly? Potentially.
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I'm so happy I logged on and read this. |
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"...it’s too easy to label men creepy😀
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Agreed."
I find it easy to label everybody. I’m very judgy and quite good with words. |
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"Apologies for derailing somewhat, OP!
Power imbalance in relationships - when one of the parties uses their position of strength against the other person.
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Thanks.
What's a "position of strength"?"
Nero, have you lost the ability to understand words?
Could be financial, physical, intellectual for example. |
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"Data from dating apps shows that men aged from 20 to 50 consistently rate women aged 20 to 22 most attractive. Women aged 20 to 50 find men of a very similar age most attractive. Possibly a skewed data set but that's pretty wild. "
It is a little wild but multiple studies have shown the same thing so its not a data issue. |
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"Also throwing a spanner in the works..
As women get older on the norm they get less and less attention generally from any demographic of men. Does this taint views slightly? Potentially.
My older friend says she would love to still be getting the attention she got 25 years ago… so I guess we’re all different and it’s too easy to label men creepy😀"
Yep. This wizened old crone is just bitter. 😂 |
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"...it’s too easy to label men creepy😀
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Agreed.
I find it easy to label everybody. I’m very judgy and quite good with words."
Also true, however. Some labels given by individuals are simply that, essentially an opinion. A lot of labels are given by society and not individual experiences. You will have a lot of people piping up and agreeing with society’s standards regarding labels, a lot less for a personal label  |
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"Also throwing a spanner in the works..
As women get older on the norm they get less and less attention generally from any demographic of men. Does this taint views slightly? Potentially.
My older friend says she would love to still be getting the attention she got 25 years ago… so I guess we’re all different and it’s too easy to label men creepy😀"
I disagree older women get less attention, the way they dress, attitude etc etc from what I have seen |
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Isn't the question why are some men just not attracted to women of a similar age? |
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"Isn't the question why are some men just not attracted to women of a similar age?"
If they're a similar age they've usually seen through all our shit.  |
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"Isn't the question why are some men just not attracted to women of a similar age?"
Nope. There’s no suggestion of exclusively being attracted to one age group or another. |
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Let’s not forget.. conditioning and shaping.
Social media now.
Back then.. page 3.. porn VHSs.. etc etc..
All a similar type, young, gorgeous, chiseled body’s- personally I feel it plays a big part in the whole society’s version of attractive and who we should fancy |
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"Let’s not forget.. conditioning and shaping.
Social media now.
Back then.. page 3.. porn VHSs.. etc etc..
All a similar type, young, gorgeous, chiseled body’s- personally I feel it plays a big part in the whole society’s version of attractive and who we should fancy "
Totally. Especially as male models and actors are allowed to age. Not so much for women. |
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As a young women who likes older men, I think older men like the energy we offer/youthfulness x |
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"Let’s not forget.. conditioning and shaping.
Social media now.
Back then.. page 3.. porn VHSs.. etc etc..
All a similar type, young, gorgeous, chiseled body’s- personally I feel it plays a big part in the whole society’s version of attractive and who we should fancy
Totally. Especially as male models and actors are allowed to age. Not so much for women. "
Very true. Very shitty of that world. Although have you seen Nicole Kidman in Babygirl🥵🥵 |
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"Apologies for derailing somewhat, OP!
Power imbalance in relationships - when one of the parties uses their position of strength against the other person.
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Thanks.
What's a "position of strength"?
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Nero, have you lost the ability to understand words?
Could be financial, physical, intellectual for example."
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No, I'm just trying to understand it all 💗, sometimes there is an omission of context or an attribution of labels and terminologies.
I'm just trying ascertain whether I am a creepy man because I met 23 year old. All I know is that we had lunch, we drank coffee, we binged on noodles and smoothies, we talked excessively, there was sexual frisson, there was more chemistry between us than you would find in a laboratory, we bonked, and we bonked some more, we showered together the next morning and we brunched...she giggled, I laughed, she guffawed and I chortled.
It was just...normal.
I don't recall any power imbalance.
You said it can be "physical"? I'm 5' 7" and she was 5' 11". I think I capitulated.
What would be the terminology in this case?
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"Apologies for derailing somewhat, OP!
Power imbalance in relationships - when one of the parties uses their position of strength against the other person.
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Thanks.
What's a "position of strength"?
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Nero, have you lost the ability to understand words?
Could be financial, physical, intellectual for example.
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No, I'm just trying to understand it all 💗, sometimes there is an omission of context or an attribution of labels and terminologies.
I'm just trying ascertain whether I am a creepy man because I met 23 year old. All I know is that we had lunch, we drank coffee, we binged on noodles and smoothies, we talked excessively, there was sexual frisson, there was more chemistry between us than you would find in a laboratory, we bonked, and we bonked some more, we showered together the next morning and we brunched...she giggled, I laughed, she guffawed and I chortled.
It was just...normal.
I don't recall any power imbalance.
You said it can be "physical"? I'm 5' 7" and she was 5' 11". I think I capitulated.
What would be the terminology in this case?
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I’m not an expert, nor am I the arbiter of who is creepy or not 🤷♀️ |
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What would be the terminology in this case?
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Defensive? |
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I take it yoga pants wasn't the right answer |
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"So many judgy people in here. I though this place would be more accepting of people’s preferences. "
Exactly and especially from those who have absolutely no idea what others are like. They should not jump to sweeping judgments |
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The figure, smooth skin.. all firm .. so the chance this old fucker as of clocking off with one, is remote |
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By *avie65Man 4 days ago
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From afar quite a lot, but in reality nothing. They would be younger than my daughters and that is just a no no. |
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I think it's something primal that can't quite be quantified. Something left over from our baser instincts. We override it with reason and societal norms, doesn't mean it isn't still there. |
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I'm not a fan to be honest
Maybe I'm just too old these days |
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By *ornyAndy17Man 4 days ago
central scotland, Newcastle, all around the uk |
Everything about u |
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I almost never notice women under 40.
But when I do, the things I then like about young women (early to mid 20s) is when they haven't followed the herd into absurd levels of make up, tattoos, and that sort of thing. When they have high levels of confidence in their natural beauty. It's quite a rare thing. |
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i like all ladies, each brings something to the party |
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As a dad with two girls in there 20s I couldn’t even think about looking for someone of that age it would feel totally wrong, 35 would be the youngest for me x |
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"The thing that I like is - ladies will get older more mature and have even better sex !
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I don't think there's a correlation between older or more mature means better sex. Sometimes when this is said I wonder if it's the same sentiment as "fat birds fuck better bc they have to try harder"  |
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I had a rule of 3 years younger growing up. But now early 20s I would love to see as the generation below me I think are so much more confident and mature minded. |
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On here? They're rare, but I think they may have more similarities / get my references, and the most important bit - likely won't have their min filter at 30 or 35 or 40 or 45 - although that's still possible! |
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I dare say it is the boost to the ego, that they still have something to entice a younger person to be with them. |
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The thing I enjoy most about girls in their 20s is that they tend to be still in that party girl phase where they like going out clubbing and on the pull . May sound creepy but more often than not its a sure thing |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️"
But this is Fab; the site which wrote the book on double standards
This thread is titled “Question for the men”, yet we have so many women chipping in with kink shaming………sometimes you wonder why (as a guy) you bother with this site….. |
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This thread is titled “Question for the men”, yet we have so many women chipping in with kink shaming………sometimes you wonder why (as a guy) you bother with this site….. "
I never knew so many women would be invested in such a subject when they often try to point out how she doesn’t matter. It certainly doesn’t when it suits them. |
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"No one should be kink shaming  "
I don't think that's happened |
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"Younger women? They’re shiny. Like a new car smell but with tighter skin and zero emotional/life baggage. Men? Well they are just like City foxes. They see something sparkly and bam, they’re crawling the streets (or Tinder, or Fab) to get to it.
It makes them feel good about themselves, in a nutshell.
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Underrated post. Men 'like City foxes' is very good. |
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Kink shaming? I've not seen that on this thread. |
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I suspect a thread about women liking younger men, of which there are many on Fab, would have gone very differently! 🤣 |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
But this is Fab; the site which wrote the book on double standards
This thread is titled “Question for the men”, yet we have so many women chipping in with kink shaming………sometimes you wonder why (as a guy) you bother with this site….. "
I don't see women 'chipping in' as you call it. I see women commenting on an open forum post. I also don't see any kink shaming |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
But this is Fab; the site which wrote the book on double standards
This thread is titled “Question for the men”, yet we have so many women chipping in with kink shaming………sometimes you wonder why (as a guy) you bother with this site…..
I don't see women 'chipping in' as you call it. I see women commenting on an open forum post. I also don't see any kink shaming "
^chipping in |
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"Kink shaming? I've not seen that on this thread. "
Don't worry. It's like the gay agenda and Santa.
It doesn't have to exist, people can claim its presence anyway 💜 |
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Attitude, energy, liveliness, body x |
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Yes I meant in society in general , sadly there is a lot of kink shame
One of my preferences is older men, however, I do have to say since joining fab it’s almost as if every older man assumes I should want to fuck them 🤔🤔 |
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" Interesting that a cougar is deemed ‘hot’ yet an older man attracted to younger is creepy?
OP you are beautiful.
I think it is an impossible generalised topic to discuss.
There are ‘wronguns’ in all walks of life. 100% some older men will be after younger to influence negatively.
However I think on the whole it varies. Typically younger bodies obviously look way different and socially are sought after - rightly or wrongly.
You’ll see hot young girls modeling most things, on magazines, in programmes, movies.
Therefore they are deemed society’s crème de la crème.
Personally, I get judged constantly for liking older men.
However, all my female friends are also older. I do not have anything in common with people my own age due to life experience in a short time, fast career and responsibilities.
It’s a good forum thread OP.
However stop the judgement about creepy old men 😉 nobody judges anyone else for seeking society’s version of beautiful. 😉❤️
But this is Fab; the site which wrote the book on double standards
This thread is titled “Question for the men”, yet we have so many women chipping in with kink shaming………sometimes you wonder why (as a guy) you bother with this site…..
I don't see women 'chipping in' as you call it. I see women commenting on an open forum post. I also don't see any kink shaming
^chipping in "
I'll pop up the shop and get you some sweeties |
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Assumption as they say is the mother of all fuck ups
I’m attracted to women of all ages not just young .. an attractive face figure personality.. can be 20 or 60 ..
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This thread is titled “Question for the men”, yet we have so many women chipping in with kink shaming………sometimes you wonder why (as a guy) you bother with this site…..
I never knew so many women would be invested in such a subject when they often try to point out how she doesn’t matter. It certainly doesn’t when it suits them. "
Yep,I have way more women friends than man friends on this site. If I was younger and a lot of older women were talking from the same page I might pay attention. 🤷♀️ |
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I enjoy variety which is one of the main bonuses in an ENM lifestyle so I like younger sometimes. Stamina is a part of that. |
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By *att71Man 3 days ago
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Variety is the spice of life i guess for most, all age groups float many boats , especially on here lol |
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I have nothing to discuss or in coming with the majority of girls in their early 20s, and this ego-fueling thread just supports it |
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This was a question about men liking younger women not the other way around, and even then it's nowhere near on the same scale. Not really sure why some people are brining it up it to justify men who exclusively go for younger women. |
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That being said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with two consenting adults having sex, it's the fact some men wouldn't go for people their own age, and no it's not kink shaming. |
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By *4ttcMan 3 days ago
Cheltenham |
"This was a question about men liking younger women not the other way around, and even then it's nowhere near on the same scale. Not really sure why some people are brining it up it to justify men who exclusively go for younger women. "
You are 100% my type and what I look for.
I just prefer 20-35 as it's my type. Never had a thing for older women  |
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Soft skin, want to learn how2 please a mature gentleman, fresh meat so to speak x |
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"This was a question about men liking younger women not the other way around, and even then it's nowhere near on the same scale. Not really sure why some people are brining it up it to justify men who exclusively go for younger women. "
I think it's fair to point out some hypocrisy in those who label older men as creepy while in other threads they celebrate older women who prefer young men, and on Fab if not the wider world there are plenty of those. Either way an interesting thread OP. |
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"That being said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with two consenting adults having sex, it's the fact some men wouldn't go for people their own age, and no it's not kink shaming."
I’m coming in late to this discussion, so forgive me if this has already been addressed and I’ve missed it, but why is it an issue if some men are attracted to women who are younger? |
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"Kink shaming? I've not seen that on this thread.
Don't worry. It's like the gay agenda and Santa.
It doesn't have to exist, people can claim its presence anyway 💜"
Shaming doesn't have to be abusive...it can very well be passive aggressive or masked as a joke...comments such as "The creepiest posts are from guys whose daughters are the same age as the OP" is very much shaming, and many of you ladies have latched to this specific argument in the discussion...or the power imbalance (which is only a problem when the man is older) because plenty of "cougars " have opened threads about liking younger men, but barely any women on the forum call that out (maybe because you have to be loyal to the sisterhood) or empowering women is more important than a strict sense of morality. If you type in "cougar" in the search bar on fab, you get hundreds of profiles of women wanting younger men (in their 20s and early 30s)...is that equally creepy? Or less creepy because women cannot be as predatory as men? Either way it is an interesting conversation to be had (maybe on a different thread, as the OP question was addressed towards men, and not if the ladies like or dislike the answers) ...but hey WE BE HAVING OPINIONS. |
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