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By *eli OP Woman 4 days ago
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Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc. |
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If it's someone we've been chatting to and the attraction is there for both of us then yes, that sort of directness is very much welcomed.
If it's a message out of the blue from someone who has caught both our eyes previously then the directness would still be very much appreciated, but we'd at least need to chat first to see if there's an attraction with the personality too |
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I have once. Not generally my thing. Not shyness or anything… it’s genuinely just because I couldn’t organise a piss up in a brewery 😂
I’m not a fan of social/meet/playdate
I go with date/drink/fuck/overnighter (the latter is rare) |
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I prefer direct , mainly because I’m too old to understand or realise if someone is flirting , I usually think they are taking the mickey. So even with a direct approach I’d be suspicious but not too suspicious to say no if I liked them 😂 and we aren’t in the Victorian ages it’s nice to be asked sometimes
Bonus question, well that depends on what kind of meeting it is , Could have multiple meanings
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I'd be surprised at first lol some people like the direct approach, it's like filling out your profile some think it's too much and others not enough, it's hard to balance it out lol |
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By *ony MannMan 4 days ago
Lagos, Portugal// Andover |
Yes, I would welcome such an advance and probably say yes. |
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I'd be genuinely suspicious if I got that message as it is very rare that woman would be so direct in my experience x
If I'm wrong, then my DM are open, ha ha |
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I like direct, purely because it shows a level of confidence that I find extremely attractive |
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I would interpret it as a "I would like to get to know you more/better", as opposed to an invitation for immediate carnal activities.
I would engage in substantial chat and expedite a social, but it wouldn't be sex until we were genuinely ready. Does this sound too wishy-washy sensible? |
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I'd have to put my head back on, my tongue back in, and try somehow to get the blood back to my brain.
But I'd then question the seriousness. "Is this a wind up" would be my first question. And then if she was serious, well then I'd be happy as a happy thing and ask when? |
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I like when a woman asks to see me. I get bored of one way situationships and I eventually check out. If people don’t ask to meet up I eventually will stop asking.
In terms of how I’d respond, usually something like ‘when?  ’ or ‘Send me some dates’ so it forces them to commit rather than continue to string me along. |
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Absolutely i prefer women to be direct, it's so much more fun as i am also very direct can get hot real quick , but has to be attraction aswell as banter with it |
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By *an8iMan 4 days ago
Bilston |
Id prefer them to be direct because I'm not the best at reading people plus I wouldn't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable |
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I don’t think I have. I think I’ve maybe led people to arrange them but I don’t think I’ve been direct. It’s not that I’m not confident to do so, I’m just terrible at organising anything. Im just a girl |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 days ago
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If they haven't sent me a photo of their boobs next to a sky remote, then I'm not even going to waste my time replying 🤷🏽♂️ |
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It is quite often me that organises sex meets with those I've already had a social with.
If it helps, I get turned down quite a bit. |
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I try to be direct, it's often well received but it is more an invitation to get to know each other than an immediate invite to my bed.
Obviously, not everyone appreciates the direct approach.. but you know, nothing ventured, nothing gained 🤷♀️ |
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I'd think it too good to be true, and she's waiting with her mates or partner for my reaction to laugh at.
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O yes. We would love to just get on with it.
Kind of how we met. We sat down close to each other. He said hi. She said hi. 5 minutes later we were naked. |
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I'd probably think this is a wind up. |
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"It is quite often me that organises sex meets with those I've already had a social with.
If it helps, I get turned down quite a bit. "
By men who think you are too good to be true? |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 days ago
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"If it's someone we've been chatting to and the attraction is there for both of us then yes, that sort of directness is very much welcomed.
If it's a message out of the blue from someone who has caught both our eyes previously then the directness would still be very much appreciated, but we'd at least need to chat first to see if there's an attraction with the personality too"
Yes, some sort of connection is understandable - you couldn't go in dry, so to speak. |
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"With an established FB/FWB yes, I have done it…
With someone I fancy, erm, no…  🫣🫣🫣"
With someone I fancy and there’s not been that kind of interaction I meant.  |
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I think if it was so direct I would be more taken back and perhaps wonder if it was a wind up. If it was along the lines of really wanting to get to know you more I would appreciate that as I do find it hard to gauge people's level of interest. Never can tell if it's joking flirty, flirty flirty or just being nice 🤣🤣 |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 days ago
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"I have once. Not generally my thing. Not shyness or anything… it’s genuinely just because I couldn’t organise a piss up in a brewery 😂
I’m not a fan of social/meet/playdate
I go with date/drink/fuck/overnighter (the latter is rare)"
In the nicest way, I could have guessed this was your post before I saw the username.
Oh, I like your categories! I think social is slowly becoming less used for me unless it's a group social. |
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At first suspicious. Miracles rarely happen. But yes I absolutely like directness. Being a bit dense I appreciate it. |
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Id likely think it was a trap and delete the message. |
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I had one the other day didn't know what to say! Took me by suprise. I appreciate directness after we have chatted a bit. It can be a bit of a delicate balance I think. |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 days ago
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"I prefer direct , mainly because I’m too old to understand or realise if someone is flirting , I usually think they are taking the mickey. So even with a direct approach I’d be suspicious but not too suspicious to say no if I liked them 😂 and we aren’t in the Victorian ages it’s nice to be asked sometimes
Bonus question, well that depends on what kind of meeting it is , Could have multiple meanings
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That's kind of what inspired this thread really. Women making that move, initiating sex - it's not that common is it? Not sure if that's a good/bad thing. Not sure why more women don't. I don't, sometimes. |
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I would immediately be forced to utter; ‘Good Lord Madam!’ 🫣😜 |
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Once mutual attraction has been established through meeting in person, that is how I generally function 😳 |
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I get it a lot, gets to be quite boring.🤷🏻♂️ 🥪 |
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I would always have loved and respect hé. |
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By *sWyldWoman 4 days ago
Edinburgh |
I've done it a few times . Only when I think the feeling is mutual.
However, I've also been rejected and now its put me off |
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"I have once. Not generally my thing. Not shyness or anything… it’s genuinely just because I couldn’t organise a piss up in a brewery 😂
I’m not a fan of social/meet/playdate
I go with date/drink/fuck/overnighter (the latter is rare)
In the nicest way, I could have guessed this was your post before I saw the username.
Oh, I like your categories! I think social is slowly becoming less used for me unless it's a group social. "
It’s the lack of organisational skills isn’t it? Look some people like dating/fucking a chaotic mess 🤣🤣. Thankfully |
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"I prefer direct , mainly because I’m too old to understand or realise if someone is flirting , I usually think they are taking the mickey. So even with a direct approach I’d be suspicious but not too suspicious to say no if I liked them 😂 and we aren’t in the Victorian ages it’s nice to be asked sometimes
Bonus question, well that depends on what kind of meeting it is , Could have multiple meanings
That's kind of what inspired this thread really. Women making that move, initiating sex - it's not that common is it? Not sure if that's a good/bad thing. Not sure why more women don't. I don't, sometimes."
I think times have shifted a little , social interaction is a lot different, mainly via text or sites , so it is difficult to judge context. Perhaps it’s a generational thing from me , and I miss the meaning or any subtext so a bit of flirting and fun is nice , but sometimes being clear about what you want could be beneficial on all sides , I’m a guy and I know if I was as direct it wouldn’t be accepted in most cases. But I suppose it also depends on the type of person aswell a confident person wouldn’t think twice I guess |
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I would enjoy that very much! I enjoy a women who knows what she wants |
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The one opinion I have which perhaps goes against what some people might expect (idk) is that I find it extremely boring how women get away with saying they’re too shy or afraid of rejection to ask men out or message them first whilst simultaneously relying on that from men in order to get what they want. |
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Hell yes, I’d love that, such a turn on, I’m horny thinking about it |
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If we had already been chatting then I would absolutely be up for it. I'd be very sceptical if it was written as a first message though.
In general though, I like women being more direct. I can sometimes let things fizzle out out of fear of coming across as too pushy or having a fear of rejection so having that taken out of my hands would be mint 😂 |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 days ago
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"I like direct, purely because it shows a level of confidence that I find extremely attractive"
Oh that's a good point! Yes, the confidence is sexy - having that direct communication and someone feeling comfortable enough to say it. |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 days ago
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"I like when a woman asks to see me. I get bored of one way situationships and I eventually check out. If people don’t ask to meet up I eventually will stop asking.
In terms of how I’d respond, usually something like ‘when? ’ or ‘Send me some dates’ so it forces them to commit rather than continue to string me along. "
So you want the reciprocated clear interest... do you find women aren't as clear/good at committing to things as you'd like? |
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This has only happened to me a couple of times and ended up being time wasters.
Soooo, I'd call it 'improbable'.
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"I like when a woman asks to see me. I get bored of one way situationships and I eventually check out. If people don’t ask to meet up I eventually will stop asking.
In terms of how I’d respond, usually something like ‘when? ’ or ‘Send me some dates’ so it forces them to commit rather than continue to string me along.
So you want the reciprocated clear interest... do you find women aren't as clear/good at committing to things as you'd like?"
Some are. In MY experience most are. But very often a woman will ask to meet me and if I just say ‘oh I’m up for that’ it’s followed up with non commitment and eventually me having to follow up to suggest dates etc.
also women in MY experience are rubbish at expressing feelings or interest in you but tbf comments on the forums about women not approaching men or telling them they fancy them (from my other thread) also validate that women generally are just like that and rely on us telling them first. |
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"The one opinion I have which perhaps goes against what some people might expect (idk) is that I find it extremely boring how women get away with saying they’re too shy or afraid of rejection to ask men out or message them first whilst simultaneously relying on that from men in order to get what they want. "
Fuck those bitches and their excuses🙌 |
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I wish women were more direct and I do believe some know they can be without feeling they shouldn’t.
I’d be flattered, massively flattered and would jump at the chance of turning up the heat between us.
These chances are far between, and good times shouldn’t be missed. I wish we were all a little more honest and understand that we are not on this spinning ball for a long time, take your chance of being happy even if it’s only for 15 mins in the back of my car…  |
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There's only a few people that I'd be comfortable enough messaging, that direct. Even a couple of those, I hold back. Maybe I don't feel like they're being genuine? Or I think that ship has sailed, and I cba being let down and feeling like abit of a twat tbh! 🤣 I wish Idgaf, but there we go 🙈
I guess I'd called it a "meet" or just say "when we meet" as to not have to call it anything 🤷♀️🤣 |
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We’ve had a few ladies message us.
Generally we look to see what’s going on in their profile - sparse, detailed and/or whether they are our type.
We wouldn’t jump into bed with them but a date would be organised so we can see what they are like in person.
If all things go well then a ‘play date’ is arranged.
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"The one opinion I have which perhaps goes against what some people might expect (idk) is that I find it extremely boring how women get away with saying they’re too shy or afraid of rejection to ask men out or message them first whilst simultaneously relying on that from men in order to get what they want. "
What a point that is! 👏 |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
Are you, A-D*unk, B-blind, C- having a laugh |
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I find it really hard to be that blunt because I'm the blocker in actually getting to meet. I want to but rarely find the time so won't initiate so I don't waste their time.
Makes it really hard when I have free time though because I don't enjoy random most of the time. Not sure why I'm still here |
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"The one opinion I have which perhaps goes against what some people might expect (idk) is that I find it extremely boring how women get away with saying they’re too shy or afraid of rejection to ask men out or message them first whilst simultaneously relying on that from men in order to get what they want. "
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That's been love's modus operandi since the beginning of time, unfortunately.
I agree with you 100% because it's a totally accurate observation. |
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Every man’s fantasy! It’s sadly never happened to me and never will! But if it really happened, I would hardly say no! |
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"I’d be suspicious."
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And I would agree with this too. |
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Welcome to my inbox/whatsapp/telegram. I can’t open it for gorgeous femmes wanting to see me.
I’m just one man! |
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Aye, go on then. I'll even by a chippy tea 🤓 |
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I'd be open to a direct approach from a woman, frankly the dating dance of woman waiting for the man is not always understood by both parties. It's refreshing to have a direct approach, what is the worst that they're going to say? I'm not attracted to you.
When you've been rejected a few times the inhibitions fall away for me. In my youth I was afraid of rejection. Now I think hell yeah, do it. Life is short. Carpe Diem!
Seize the day. |
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"I would interpret it as a "I would like to get to know you more/better", as opposed to an invitation for immediate carnal activities.
I would engage in substantial chat and expedite a social, but it wouldn't be sex until we were genuinely ready. Does this sound too wishy-washy sensible?"
Snap!! I'm pretty confidence and can handle a no well. I've always turn a negative into a positive.
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 4 days ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I'd have to be polite and tell her to join the queue and I'll let her know when it's her turn |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 days ago
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"I would interpret it as a "I would like to get to know you more/better", as opposed to an invitation for immediate carnal activities.
I would engage in substantial chat and expedite a social, but it wouldn't be sex until we were genuinely ready. Does this sound too wishy-washy sensible?"
It doesn't sound too wishy-washy, no. You know what works for you. I was thinking more... you've had a "social", spoken for some time etc... more often than not it's the man who'll take the erm lead when it comes to suggesting things, isn't it? |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 days ago
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"If they haven't sent me a photo of their boobs next to a sky remote, then I'm not even going to waste my time replying 🤷🏽♂️"
Fair. Got to know they measure up. |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
Highly Doubtful but I'd probably say "OK, but let's just meet up and no expectations"
And Yes, it'd be a "Meet" |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
When can I expect the message |
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I would…. I’m hoping a married friend of mine is that direct….  |
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By *ypersoonMan 4 days ago
WHITCHURCH, Shropshire |
Never had a offer like that so as to how I'd react if I got such, I'll sum it up in emojis:  |
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I'll check my diary but I'm sure I have dates available this week. |
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It was a sudden surprise but arrangements have been made in the summer given the distance and direct is the way forward if both have similar interests |
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I’d be cautious outside fab, as it’s not something I’d typically expect, but I’d definitely be open to meeting and seeing where things go. |
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By *T2022Man 4 days ago
Manchester |
yes i would welcome and respond . Hoping it wasnt fake |
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By *.T.Man 4 days ago
Glasgow |
On the basis it was someone I fancied, I would be clearing the diary and booking a hotel if she couldn't host and wasn't near me. I would absolutely accept the offer. It would make a refreshing change to be prey instead of predator.
I would call it a meet as we would meet up.
p.s. Any ladies that want a guaranteed meet with me, open with Meli's words💘 |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 days ago
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"I get it a lot, gets to be quite boring.🤷🏻♂️ 🥪"
It's a hard life being a stud muffin. Stay strong. |
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I would assume it's either a fake account, she wants to bring her husband along, she never meets anyone in person and just gets off on planning.
Real women don't send those messages |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 days ago
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"The one opinion I have which perhaps goes against what some people might expect (idk) is that I find it extremely boring how women get away with saying they’re too shy or afraid of rejection to ask men out or message them first whilst simultaneously relying on that from men in order to get what they want. "
Why would they not expect you to have that opinion? I think it can be rather boring as well.
Do you know what it reminds me of? In threads when lots of people say in, don't send messages and then get upset when they don't get anything.
I suppose it depends on the person really. The reasons behind it. |
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I appreciate I seem to be an outlier, but yes, that’s how most of my connections have been made. To my knowledge nobody has turned me down cos they thought I wasn’t real.
Mrs TMN x |
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"The one opinion I have which perhaps goes against what some people might expect (idk) is that I find it extremely boring how women get away with saying they’re too shy or afraid of rejection to ask men out or message them first whilst simultaneously relying on that from men in order to get what they want. "
Women get away with it? How do they get away with it? |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
If we've met in person and there's mutual attraction then that is pretty much me. I am often the suggester of things/stuff. I have very much gone from askee to asker. Maybe I'll wait to be chased a bit for a change. 🫣
Bonus point - things/stuff are euphemisms I've used. I would also describe these as meeting a friend/date/hotel date depending on the dynamic. |
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"Every man’s fantasy! It’s sadly never happened to me and never will! But if it really happened, I would hardly say no! "
Actually, there was one time and I did say no! We got as far as being naked together on her bed after only meeting two hours earlier in a church. I bottled out for two distinct reasons in spite of her begging for it:
a) she was too d*unk
b) she was begging me to cum inside her pussy without a condom and when I asked how she wouldn’t get pregnant she refused to explain. That was a deal-breaker right there! Gorgeous woman! Still adore her but just as well we didn’t as she’s now one of my bosses! Might have got very awkward! |
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out of the blue?
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out of the blue but someone I know?
- I'd open dialogue...
a FWB/FB?
- "tell me where and when" |
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Ye, I av no problem with women being forward.. power to the elbow and all that .. |
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Yes, I've been the one to approach men specifically to have sex |
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I'll answer when it happens to me |
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I've always wished a woman was that forward, not had it happen though. I've always been the one to make the first move |
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Yes I've made some let's fuck approaches, some we were in bed an hour later, some we were uncompatible, some only like to online chase not physically catch.
It's always a meet |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
I would absolutely love for women to be this direct. Subtle flirting is lost on me... even really blatant flirting usually goes unnoticed.
Cal |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc.
I would absolutely love for women to be this direct. Subtle flirting is lost on me... even really blatant flirting usually goes unnoticed.
Cal"
I can confirm. I was very direct and it worked
Nita |
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"I would interpret it as a "I would like to get to know you more/better", as opposed to an invitation for immediate carnal activities.
I would engage in substantial chat and expedite a social, but it wouldn't be sex until we were genuinely ready. Does this sound too wishy-washy sensible?
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It doesn't sound too wishy-washy, no. You know what works for you. I was thinking more... you've had a "social", spoken for some time etc... more often than not it's the man who'll take the erm lead when it comes to suggesting things, isn't it?"
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Ah, I now understand. In that case - yes - in my experience on Fab I've always instigated the 'next chapter'. If I don't, then quite simply...nothing happens.....•°⁰·..... |
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If I fancied her I'd reply with "fuck yes please! When and where?"
Ruby |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
sent my number |
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If I’ve established that I’d like to kiss (fuck) them, then yes I have put wheels in motion with both men and women. I don’t do it all the time but if it feels right, why not! |
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Yh definitely get brownie points if with the guy (or you should) if you're direct. I prefer women who know what they want so prefer the direct approach! I like calling them playdates or the classic link up! |
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I don’t think I have ever gotten a message from a woman saying ‘Lets fuck!’ But if I did it wouldn’t be a complete red flag as long as i was happy she wasn’t a complete battenburg!! |
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I’d run out and buy a lottery ticket, I would think of myselfe as being that lucky. I quite like a direct approach. All adults, and if that’s what she wanted and there was an attraction from looking at her profile. Not daft enough to say no.
Can’t see me ever getting that sort of message, but there’s hope |
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Definitely wish more women would send a first message,then I wouldn't be wasting time on people that arnt interested |
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I’ve approached a few guys in my time & been direct with them, it’s scares most of them off tbh |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?"
Jesus Christ yes. That's basically the only way someone gets to fuck me 😂 I need a solid green light from a woman. |
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I haven’t sent such a direct message as an opener but I have been direct with someone I had been chatting to and it was well received. |
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I'm looking forward to opening my inbox over the next few days to see a big yellow screen of messages from women showing their desire for my sexy ass.
😆 🤣 😂 |
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I’d die and think I’d gone to Heaven! |
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I'd be so stunned with disbelief that I even got a message I'd probably keel over |
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"I’ve approached a few guys in my time & been direct with them, it’s scares most of them off tbh"
Scares them off? Really? You? What on earth do they find scary about you? Do you imitate a tiger or something? You look drop dead gorgeous! I might pinch myself and wonder if I’d gone to heaven but I wouldn’t be scared off! I’d be flattered and honoured and absolutely willing to do anything you wished! |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
My response would be "Hell Yeah"
I absolutely love it when a woman is open enough to be that direct with me, it's a massive and instant turn on and I only wish it happened more often.
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Only in my dreams but I would reply yeah why not? |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
When I was a lot younger, maybe 24, I can remember walking in to a very busy bar, going straight to the bar to order a drink and a woman coming up to me and say "Come and dance with me, if you're a good kisser you can take me home and fuck me up the arse".
Needless to say I never finished the pint and we went straight to hers.....something that ended up being a late night regular visit for us both!
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
Direct straight to the point is the best no one wants a pen pal |
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By *mf123Man 3 days ago
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Id say you really do make my engine run hot but my days of fucking beautiful strangers are over as much as id feel great at the time im too addictive you would fall in love with me and emotion is the devil |
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"I’ve approached a few guys in my time & been direct with them, it’s scares most of them off tbh"
You approached the wrong guys darling |
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I would tell her I would be at hers in 3 minutes and give her the best 2 minutes of her life 😅 |
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"I would interpret it as a "I would like to get to know you more/better", as opposed to an invitation for immediate carnal activities.
I would engage in substantial chat and expedite a social, but it wouldn't be sex until we were genuinely ready. Does this sound too wishy-washy sensible?"
Agree here. I'd be the same. The direct approach from a girl is a potent turn on and id not be holding back if there was genuine attraction and I knew them fairly well. Most of my gfs exs and meets its been the woman that does most of the chasing .. I'm not very good at picking up the signals tbh .. I'm always scared it's a yes means no cock tease taking the piss kinda thing that could end up in regretful sex or at least embarrassment. So I'm very guarded if it's from a woman I don't feel I know well enough..
Much prefer the date drink laugh sex overnighter wake up together breakfast kinda thing. Always found referring to a meet or a date as a 'fuck' rather crude for my liking but I'd go with it for a good laugh and a good time. Life is short. |
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By *l_JJMan 3 days ago
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I respect directness, but I also enjoy a bit of build-up. Attraction is more than just words—it’s chemistry. That said, if I was already interested, I’d be all for a 'intimate exchange of chemistry'. |
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I have definitely and do regularly. I don't think I specify meet or fuck. But it's generally clear from the conversation ie. I'll book a hotel and can't wait to get my hands on you. If it's not a fuck then I'll make it clear that the meet is to get to know the person better.
Its only after I've met them and done the kiss test as such...
problem is availability and location sometimes means it takes quite a while to organise. If it doesn't happen for a while I start to lose interest. Even with the messaging... |
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I was in a band and came off stage and went outside to get some air as I was hot as hell and wet with sweat and this woman walked up to me and just said 'I want to fuck you'!
Well I couldn't disappoint her could I...well I hope I didn't haha |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
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By *_FynnMan 3 days ago
Near You |
"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
Yes
Its hot af
As for naming it.... mutual needs met
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By *olte121Man 3 days ago
just up the road and first left |
I’d probably fall off my chair and injure myself
Once recovered I’d live the direct approach. |
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By *MattyMan 3 days ago
Naked coffee house near you - Wiltshire - Swindon |
It's only sayin what is wanted or needed and it would be hot as fuck if it happened to me, meanwhile back in the my real world ....lol |
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Delete, because it would never happen on here, at least not without some kinda transaction, last thing kinda like this ended with “I’m free now, it’s £140” |
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I love it when a woman is direct. I’d immediately respond and jump at the chance, once I’d got over the shock. I’d call it a meet with benefits |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"If we had already been chatting then I would absolutely be up for it. I'd be very sceptical if it was written as a first message though.
In general though, I like women being more direct. I can sometimes let things fizzle out out of fear of coming across as too pushy or having a fear of rejection so having that taken out of my hands would be mint 😂"
Yeah, as a first message perhaps not... I wasn't really thinking about it as a first message because it reads too much like a man impersonating a woman.
What happens if you're both too worried about coming across as pushy? |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"I don’t think I have. I think I’ve maybe led people to arrange them but I don’t think I’ve been direct. It’s not that I’m not confident to do so, I’m just terrible at organising anything. Im just a girl "
I really wanted a "don't forget" in there. 🩷 You're good at being direct. Someone else will do the organising whilst you look pretty. |
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By *r TriomanMan 3 days ago
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It's never happened but if it did and I liked their profile and I was free then yes, I'd go for it; if I didn't like their profile, I'd do the "thanks but no thanks" no response, response, in other words, I'd ignore it. |
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I had this a few years back, i do like a women who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to ask, i responded asking about meeting up for a social first and if we click we would take things further, she wanted me to go direct to hers for a coffee and chat, after the coffee we made our way to the bedroom 😊 |
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By *hief ScoutMan 3 days ago
Wild Border Country of Herts & Middx ! |
Think my first response would be to ask if it would be before or after her Specsavers appointment |
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I'd say, "Sure. I'll get my people to talk with your people and come up with some ideas."
Nah, I'd tell her I would LOVE to fuck, ask if she was thinking here and now or some later time, and we would definitely arrange it quickly. |
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Works for me if a lady was this forward , though it’s quite rare I find |
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I would welcome that very much OP. Of course it would need to be a woman I’m attracted to! |
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As much as I would appreciate a woman making the first move, because of how rare it is (in my experience) I would automatically think it was a scam especially online. |
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Yes would definitely like the direct approach.
Would perhaps feel like a wind up but would only take a little chatting to confirm it’s real. |
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I'd say bring it on and I like the direct approach x |
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By *ony MannMan 3 days ago
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I really enjoy a confident woman, so I would consider the advance. |
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I'd sooner nothing vulgar as an opening message but equally I like direct. We are all on here because we like sex and not searching for pen pals. |
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Yeah I'd say let's Organize something soon but the likelihood is that hardly any single women reply to me ...? |
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Hacked …. So many beautiful women and rarely get a response let along someone reaching out |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
I love the idea.
It’s great to know.
You can always decline.
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
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Here's how it goes usually guys with guys who want to meet me:
Him - we should get together
Me - ok, where?
Him - I dunno
Me - (booking.com, Trainline) how's that?
Him - amazing, I'll fuck your brains out
Me - cool, let's do that
Him - ghosty baybeh |
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"Or messaged saying "I'd really like to fuck you, we should organise something" (or words to that effect).
How would you respond? Do you like when a woman is direct?
Women - have you organised a "meet"?
Bonus question - what do you call it? A meet, a fuck etc."
Direct - absolutely, as to what to call it - anything you like |
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It's happened twice to me. Once at a house party. A woman said she's gonna fuck me. I'd said we'll see who's fucking who. That was a good session. Another time in the pub but it was a mates sister so I declined and put it down to drink. She was a hot light skin so was half tempted. |
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I love that kind of directness, it's how I got together with my last gf |
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I'm absolutely useless at picking up on subtle hints, always have been. If you want anything from me you'd have much more chance if you're direct. I'd appreciate it too, too much time wasted on skirting around any topic. |
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I love it when it happens.
It happened, well words to that effect, on Monday.
I said: are you asking me to go on a spa weekend with you?
She said: duh... yes
Then she teased me for blushing.
Then I said sure I'd love to go on a spa weekend with you. |
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If I know someone fancies me than I am more confident in instigating sex. It's the not knowing if they would be receptive part that I studggle with.
I also don't want someone to fuck me just because I asked and they just thought "might as well, it's a shag". If they don't actively want to then I'd rather not. It's much easier to gauge face to face, though I still struggle with working out when someone is being friendly or flirty. |
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"If I know someone fancies me than I am more confident in instigating sex. It's the not knowing if they would be receptive part that I studggle with.
I also don't want someone to fuck me just because I asked and they just thought "might as well, it's a shag". If they don't actively want to then I'd rather not. It's much easier to gauge face to face, though I still struggle with working out when someone is being friendly or flirty. "
*struggle ffs |
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I would really appreciate her directness with words that come from years ago for me. I have been so involved in life that the sexual side of things went into hibernation for years. If I was now fortunate enough to be in this position, I would have to pluck up the courage to reward her directness with honesty about how out of practice I am. Yeah. |
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"If we had already been chatting then I would absolutely be up for it. I'd be very sceptical if it was written as a first message though.
In general though, I like women being more direct. I can sometimes let things fizzle out out of fear of coming across as too pushy or having a fear of rejection so having that taken out of my hands would be mint 😂
Yeah, as a first message perhaps not... I wasn't really thinking about it as a first message because it reads too much like a man impersonating a woman.
What happens if you're both too worried about coming across as pushy? "
We'd just never have sex! 😂
But to be fair, I am trying to be a bit more bold in changing that. If we've chatted for a while, I will try and feel things out for meeting in person and will try to make that happen. |
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If it was a first message our first thought would be its a male masquerading as a single woman 🤣🤣 |
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I organise meets, or whatever anyone wants to call them - messaging bores me after a very short time and I don't see the point in chatting for a long time, especially when there's only one side putting the effort in  |
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I assume most women do not want to fuck me, and I don’t always pick up the signals if they do, so a direct declaration is appreciated. If we are already talking, of course. I can’t imagine a total random will ever get in touch just to say she wants to fuck me. |
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If we are talking just organising an initial 'social' meet I am often the first person to instigate that when the person is local and I want to see if there is any IRL chemistry, I'm not looking for penpals. But I never guarantee I will fuck them and wouldn't dream of sending someone an opening message of "I want to fuck you, up for it?" without having met 😅 if we meet and there's chemistry tho I will often ask if they want to come back to mine. |
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By *j1981Man 24 hours ago
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"I organise meets, or whatever anyone wants to call them - messaging bores me after a very short time and I don't see the point in chatting for a long time, especially when there's only one side putting the effort in "
Cut to the chase... |
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Women should do this more, bring it on |
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I prefer women who have the confidence and drive to take a more direct approach. A guy can waste a great deal of time on here sending fruitless messages, it's about time the shoe was on the other foot. |
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"I prefer women who have the confidence and drive to take a more direct approach. A guy can waste a great deal of time on here sending fruitless messages, it's about time the shoe was on the other foot. "
And it's a meet, calling it a fuck is a tad presumptious. |
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By *eli OP Woman 23 hours ago
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"It's happened twice to me. Once at a house party. A woman said she's gonna fuck me. I'd said we'll see who's fucking who. That was a good session. Another time in the pub but it was a mates sister so I declined and put it down to drink. She was a hot light skin so was half tempted. "
What's a light skin? Could Google, don't really want to. |
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By *eli OP Woman 23 hours ago
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"Welcome to my inbox/whatsapp/telegram. I can’t open it for gorgeous femmes wanting to see me.
I’m just one man! "
It's such a hard life, hope you can survive the ordeal. |
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I have been fairly direct with people in the past, and if I see someone I fancy I'm not afraid to tell them so. I probably wouldn't take it to "I'd like to fuck you" but I've certainly told people online they make me horny and I'd like to meet up with them to see if it carries over into real life.
I can't flirt and I'm rubbish with hints (giving and receiving) so I find directness is the best for me. |
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If a woman I fancied sent a message like that, I’d probably respond with something playful like, "Wow, love the directness! I’m totally down to chat about how we can make that happen." Honestly, I think it’s refreshing when someone is straightforward. It shows confidence, which is super attractive!
And as for organising a "meet," yeah, I've definitely had women do that! It’s all about the vibe, right? Some people might casually call it a "hangout," while others might use terms like "hookup" or, well, just "a good time." Totally depends on how comfortable everyone is with each other.
But I think there's something cool about having that open line of communication. Keeps it fun and light! |
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I had such message a couple of days ago and we are meeting for a coffee on Monday.
I really appreciate assertive and direct women. It's a turn on.
It doesn't happen very often but when it does it's super hot.
I'm pretty good with boundaries so if an interlude is called for to establish mutual in person attraction then I've no problem saying it. |
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By *eli OP Woman 22 hours ago
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"I assume most women do not want to fuck me, and I don’t always pick up the signals if they do, so a direct declaration is appreciated. If we are already talking, of course. I can’t imagine a total random will ever get in touch just to say she wants to fuck me."
Yeah, I wasn't so much thinking about total randoms... how could you fancy them if you didn't really know them?
Direct declarations can be wonderful things - if they're welcome, it makes things far easier to understand. I think it's kind of sad that there's an almost... expectation for men to initiate. Like when women do. I should probably be a bit bolder at times
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By *olte121Man 6 hours ago
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Well that’s what I’m here for. Connections and fun times |
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Funny enough Mrs Misfit was picking my brains the other day how you make that transition from chatting to a guy to fucking him. My advice to her was just be clear and direct. Just tell him you want to fuck. Because at least from a male perspective I think most of us like an uncomplicated direct approach. It's also very really refreshing.
So I think from the above you get an idea of my response from such a question if I fancied the lady. We're not particularly complicated creatures when it comes to fornication.
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Would absolutely love a message like that |
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By *eli OP Woman 5 hours ago
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"Just tell him you want to fuck "
Wise words Misfits, you make it sound so delightfully simple.
Maybe it is. |
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