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"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat  "
Don't be silly....its not cheating if their relationship is good in every other way or they still love/respect their partner  |
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By *enk15Man 17 hours ago
Evesham |
"What’s the point !"
Because there is more to a relationship/marriage than sex 🤷♂️
Some people go off/don't want/can't have sex for many reasons.
If my partner turned around and said she doesn't want to have sex anymore, I'd still want to spend the rest of my life with them... I'll just get my sex from other people. |
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I was in a sexless relationship, separate rooms too & in the end I had to call it a day, it was very sad though.
Out of interest, are there ladies on here that aren't getting any at home? Genuinely interested to see if it's a similar amount as it seems to be mostly guys in that situation.
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By *vaRose43Woman 17 hours ago
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage? "
Me 🙋🏻♀️
"what’s the point"
There’s more to marriage than physical sex. There are other ways to be intimate together. Perhaps your view is that I should just leave my best friend, best companion and biggest ally just because he’s poorly? Get fucked.
"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat "
I’m here with my husbands full blessing, consent and knowledge. We’ve never had a closed relationship.
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Lol.
I am a man apparently 🥸🥸🥸
Sexless does not mean cheating. In mine he knows, he even met a FWB of mine yesterday as he picked me up for a much-needed coffee. I am allowed freedom and… sex. It wasn’t overnight though and if took time to get here.
And as someone said, a marriage is so, so much more than sex. So much more. I have been shown so much more love and devotion in this last 2 months and I am grateful for that. ❤️ |
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"What’s the point !
Because there is more to a relationship/marriage than sex 🤷♂️
Some people go off/don't want/can't have sex for many reasons.
If my partner turned around and said she doesn't want to have sex anymore, I'd still want to spend the rest of my life with them... I'll just get my sex from other people."
This!! |
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage?
Me 🙋🏻♀️
what’s the point
There’s more to marriage than physical sex. There are other ways to be intimate together. Perhaps your view is that I should just leave my best friend, best companion and biggest ally just because he’s poorly? Get fucked.
More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat
I’m here with my husbands full blessing, consent and knowledge. We’ve never had a closed relationship.
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Fair play to the both of you above with permission x.  .
Makes a change from some who play the victim
****steps back and awaits the abuse 😂 |
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"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat
Don't be silly....its not cheating if their relationship is good in every other way or they still love/respect their partner "
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"I honestly believe that being sexless us the norm . Whether single or married. You get a few couples who are active but those are 8n the minority. Also , being on fab distorts reality ."
I think thats age related as well, once over 40, mental/physical health starts deteriorating. There are a ton of sexless with consent marriage/partnership on here, but they are far outweighed by the ones who dishonestly use people, to enable their cheating  |
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I was in a sexless marriage for a number of years. We are separated now no blame just life kids work perimenopause all got in the way. We are better friends now than we were when we were together. It’s funny how life works out |
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By *myLou999 OP Woman 15 hours ago
Walton le Dale |
"I honestly believe that being sexless us the norm . Whether single or married. You get a few couples who are active but those are 8n the minority. Also , being on fab distorts reality .
I think thats age related as well, once over 40, mental/physical health starts deteriorating. There are a ton of sexless with consent marriage/partnership on here, but they are far outweighed by the ones who dishonestly use people, to enable their cheating "
Guess that's me then, my profile is upfront and clearly states I'm in a sexless marriage. So I'm a cheater without consent. |
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"I honestly believe that being sexless us the norm . Whether single or married. You get a few couples who are active but those are 8n the minority. Also , being on fab distorts reality .
I think thats age related as well, once over 40, mental/physical health starts deteriorating. There are a ton of sexless with consent marriage/partnership on here, but they are far outweighed by the ones who dishonestly use people, to enable their cheating
Guess that's me then, my profile is upfront and clearly states I'm in a sexless marriage. So I'm a cheater without consent."
Nobody knows your circumstances but yourself, OP. Let people think whatever they like. |
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I have been married now for 35 years but since het illnesses, depression anxiety, menopause, 15 or so yeats have been sexless i never ever put any blame on her and we have talked about it but it does get frustrating sometimes. |
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By *gf301Man 13 hours ago
canterbury |
Yep... Been a few years now... Illnesses, menopause, and I guess the stresses and strains of modern life... We've discussed the reasons, and I'm permanently hopeful that something might come back. Maybe I'm delusional... I don't come here to physically meet, just chat (when someone is willing to connect), so I don't think I'm cheating... But maybe your opinion is different... |
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Everyone has different desires
And in our case
Katie needed more sex
And perhaps to some people’s dismay
She cheated on me
But we worked through it
And are still together
And I’ve had the pleasure of sharing her and watching her be the slutty lady she was before we met
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage?
Sexless can probably be managed lack of intimacy is a bigger problem.
Speaking from experience."
That's so true.
I was in a sexless marriage too, but I was the one who didn't want sex for reasons I won't go into. I told my ex-husband he had my blessing to find sex elsewhere since I knew he was unhappy and seeing that caused me pain, but he refused. There was always love, but ultimately, that wasn’t enough. Over time, the lack of sex led to a lack of all intimacy because every touch started feeling like pressure for it to lead to sex, and when I said no, it often ended in sulking or arguments. After two years of no sex at all, we agreed to separate then divorce. It was really hard. Unentangling lives is complicated and difficult, especially when there are children, but we're both much happier for it now.
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"Why stay????
Love
Companionship
Shared history
Family stability
Maintaining a lifestyle you're used to
Hope for change
Fear of change
Fear of loneliness
Habit
Fear of conflict"
Agree with all of that. Would guess the children are major reason in a lot of cases, definitely was in mine. |
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"Why stay????
Love
Companionship
Shared history
Family stability
Maintaining a lifestyle you're used to
Hope for change
Fear of change
Fear of loneliness
Habit
Fear of conflict
Agree with all of that. Would guess the children are major reason in a lot of cases, definitely was in mine. "
It might work for some families, but it wouldn't have worked for us. My ex remarried and the kids have grown up seeing what a mutually affectionate, respectful, and loving relationship looks like. They'd have not seen that had we stayed together. |
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"Why stay????
Love
Companionship
Shared history
Family stability
Maintaining a lifestyle you're used to
Hope for change
Fear of change
Fear of loneliness
Habit
Fear of conflict
Agree with all of that. Would guess the children are major reason in a lot of cases, definitely was in mine.
It might work for some families, but it wouldn't have worked for us. My ex remarried and the kids have grown up seeing what a mutually affectionate, respectful, and loving relationship looks like. They'd have not seen that had we stayed together."
I agree with the above reasons and I left the family home as I no longer fancied or loved the wife and the home was not a happy one where I wanted my kids to grow up. I offered many options early on for us to e plots our sexual parameters but she didn’t want to explore. A few months after I left she had several men in a short space of time then found one to remarry once we had divorced. |
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"Why stay????
Love
Companionship
Shared history
Family stability
Maintaining a lifestyle you're used to
Hope for change
Fear of change
Fear of loneliness
Habit
Fear of conflict
Agree with all of that. Would guess the children are major reason in a lot of cases, definitely was in mine.
It might work for some families, but it wouldn't have worked for us. My ex remarried and the kids have grown up seeing what a mutually affectionate, respectful, and loving relationship looks like. They'd have not seen that had we stayed together."
I agree with the above reasons and I left the family home as I no longer fancied or loved the wife and the home was not a happy one where I wanted my kids to grow up. I offered many options early on for us to e plots our sexual parameters but she didn’t want to explore. A few months after I left she had several men in a short space of time then found one to remarry once we had divorced. |
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I have a sexless marriage but it's a happy one, he's aware I'm on here, we have an ethical non monogamous relationship, he's more asexual so has very little to no interest, we love each other and have been together 24 years so far. Honest open communication and an open mind are the way forward in my opinion xx |
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"I have a sexless marriage but it's a happy one, he's aware I'm on here, we have an ethical non monogamous relationship, he's more asexual so has very little to no interest, we love each other and have been together 24 years so far. Honest open communication and an open mind are the way forward in my opinion xx"
Excellent way forwards.
I never understand why partners are here cheating, and not just talking to their own partners prior to looking elsewhere for sex.
Isn't total honesty and respect what we sign up for in a relationship?? |
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I joined here as I'm in a sexless marriage (but not loveless). I realised though that I was thinking with my dick rather than my brain, and that I don't want to meet behind my OH's back. Fortunately I hadn't met anyone at that point, although I was talking with someone with a view to arranging a meet. I need to find the right time to have a conversation, and if that leads to permission to play then I will amend my profile. As it is I'll stay on here in window shopping mode at least until my site supporter status ends.
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