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people who read messages and not reply, why do you do that?
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Not interested and don't want to risk the abusive reply probably |
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Do you mean in general? Or on here?
On here it means no.
In general, I will read a message and if I'm busy, will reply later. Sometimes I do forget to reply but I will message again later on. |
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"They don’t want to?
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But the OP is the King. How dare you not reply. |
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"Not interested maybe?"
Yeah I get that, but why not read and delete instead of reading the message and leaving it there ad infinitum. At least delete would confirm not interested. Sometimes people read then consider whether or reply or not. An instant delete would confirm no interest |
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By *rsMxCouple 7 days ago
Glasgow |
We normally try to send a polite no thanks message but when you receive messages that just say "shag tonight?" "phone sex" or the one that gave me the biggest ick (not dick ) "you NEED me"  - instant delete.
Lx |
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"Not interested maybe?
Yeah I get that, but why not read and delete instead of reading the message and leaving it there ad infinitum. At least delete would confirm not interested. Sometimes people read then consider whether or reply or not. An instant delete would confirm no interest"
People are dreadful aren't they? |
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I suppose because someone's decision to manage the message is about their choice, not what it tells the sender.
Delete your own message thread when you send it and you'll never know one way or the other, believe me it saves your imagination |
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By *batMan 7 days ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
How would they know if they wanted to reply or not until they'd read the message?
It's not a big deal for me.
Gbat |
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Sometimes it's not a question but a statement...
Hi
Love your pics
Mr has a nice bum
So I accept the statement and move on |
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Sometimes I have to many messages to reply to everybody but hate seeing the unread lit up. |
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Usually I don't reply to a low-effort message. I will almost always reply to an intriguing and genuinely tailored message. |
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Well for me it's if a guy messages me (totally fine with that, I enjoy a conversation) and says something like "wow, I'd love to ass r@pe that bitch in your photos while you throat fuck her".
Genuinely got that as a message today so yeahz deleted and profile blocked and removed all photos from my profile. |
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Abusive reply if you don’t, abusive reply if you do politely declining, then continue getting abuse from people you’ve never spoken to apparently about someone else! Or then they just pester you endlessly with messages even if you don’t reply
You can’t win 🤷🏼♀️ |
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Ignorance doesn’t exist in world Fab |
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"I suppose because someone's decision to manage the message is about their choice, not what it tells the sender.
Delete your own message thread when you send it and you'll never know one way or the other, believe me it saves your imagination "
That’s made me chuckle 😂 |
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they weren't arsed to read the epicly long mission statement that is my profile bio, pre messaging so i cba to reply to their message. Now everyones times wasted  
As others have said OP they probably weren't interested.  |
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"They don’t want to?
But the OP is the King. How dare you not reply. "
I just think that some questions can be answered with some logical thinking, y’know. |
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What ideas did you have OP?
I occasionally take my time with things. Potentially get distracted or am uncertain. |
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Usually because they've either not read my profile or they've attached dick pics.
Or it's a cringey message about what they want to do to me,when we've never even exchanged a hello before. |
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By *ML49Man 7 days ago
Burnley |
"Because no reply is a reply. "
What does a no reply mean and do you speak for everyone? |
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Sometimes it just feels good to get an acknowledgement that the effort you put into writing that long ass message is realized. I would even be happy that you deleted than just being left on read lol |
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Because there bloody ignorant. Just say no thanks and good luck, but don't be ignorant. |
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"I'm intrigued"
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Focus on the ones who do reply, for they vastly outnumber the ones who don't. The ones who don't reply should be respected and not interrogated.🌈 |
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OP - you haven’t replied to each person in this thread. Why not? |
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We used to reply to most.
Now we don't. We assume that most people understand that no reply = no thank you. |
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Because I have nothing pleasant or interesting to say in response 💜 |
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Because often they haven’t read my profile, where I clearly state my desires and they are not what I desire. |
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"OP - you haven’t replied to each person in this thread. Why not? "
🤣🤣 |
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Because I have to read the message to see what it says and once I have done that I have decided that I am not interested in what it says. On to the next one. |
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They might not simply have the time to write back to everyone that sends them a message. |
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"They might not simply have the time to write back to everyone that sends them a message."
Nah … if it can be read … then you can reply ….. Simple’s … |
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Because I don’t feel like chatting. I’m not interested in chatting. I don’t have the energy for chatting. |
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If it’s a first message I presume it’s simply that they’re not interested?? |
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By *ophie_GTV/TS 7 days ago
Gainsborough |
Because most of the messages received aren't worthy of a reply |
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By *ookie46Woman 7 days ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
This is why my filters are set at 99-99 |
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Because I don't owe you (a complete stranger who decided to message me) anything. |
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By *glyBettyTV/TS 7 days ago
About 3 feet away from the fence |
Some messages are just not worth replying to quite frankly |
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"Because often they haven’t read my profile, where I clearly state my desires and they are not what I desire. "
This goes for us too. Just read the profile, it's a lot quicker and less bother than writing a message and then being upset if you don't get a reply. |
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"Not interested maybe?
Yeah I get that, but why not read and delete instead of reading the message and leaving it there ad infinitum. At least delete would confirm not interested. Sometimes people read then consider whether or reply or not. An instant delete would confirm no interest"
Why does it need to be instant? Fab automatically deletes them after a couple of weeks. From a woman's/couples perspective, there is no way to please everyone. If we delete messages, we will either get abuse and block them, or they'll notice the deleted message and message from a new account a few days later, seemingly hoping we won't remember their face. If we don't reply, we will get message after message. If we block them at that point. They will try again on a new account.
Opening them and then just leaving them and responding at all seems to generate the least amount of abuse and attempted deception.
I've never checked my sent folder to see if someone has opened my messages, unless it's been someone we've already made arrangements with. Why would you sit there checking the status of messages you've sent to strangers feeling as though you need an answer from them???
To answer the question on why they're left on read, for us it could be any number of things. Sometimes we don't mind explaining. For example one guy who sent us a face pic and he looked like my (Mrs) brother. I also have a thing about people with the same name as the younger members of my family. I don't mind explaining that.
But if the reason we aren't interested in them is because they either haven't read our profile, or have read our profile and ignored the things we say we arent interested in, then we are less likely to explain because it will nearly always result in them taking it as an opportunity to try to convince us, refusal to understand they're not going to be the exception and even outright begging. I thought one bloke was going to start making suicide threats the other week after we replied "Thank you very much, you aren't right for us, but have a good day and happy gabbing" the way he was going on about his life full of rejection and loneliness and all because the mean women won't give him and his faceless profile that lists several things that are absolute no's and would be a violation to them a chance, because they're just shallow and he would never be good enough. It was bordering on trying to guilt trip us.
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"Because often they haven’t read my profile, where I clearly state my desires and they are not what I desire.
This goes for us too. Just read the profile, it's a lot quicker and less bother than writing a message and then being upset if you don't get a reply. "
In our experience most single men that message us which now numbers in the 1000s don't read profiles before messaging they seem far to focused on their own desires to worry about what the people they are messaging are looking for and even when they try to read them they only see what they want to see rather than what's there lol |
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"Not interested maybe?
Yeah I get that, but why not read and delete instead of reading the message and leaving it there ad infinitum. At least delete would confirm not interested. Sometimes people read then consider whether or reply or not. An instant delete would confirm no interest
Why does it need to be instant? Fab automatically deletes them after a couple of weeks. From a woman's/couples perspective, there is no way to please everyone. If we delete messages, we will either get abuse and block them, or they'll notice the deleted message and message from a new account a few days later, seemingly hoping we won't remember their face. If we don't reply, we will get message after message. If we block them at that point. They will try again on a new account.
Opening them and then just leaving them and responding at all seems to generate the least amount of abuse and attempted deception.
I've never checked my sent folder to see if someone has opened my messages, unless it's been someone we've already made arrangements with. Why would you sit there checking the status of messages you've sent to strangers feeling as though you need an answer from them???
To answer the question on why they're left on read, for us it could be any number of things. Sometimes we don't mind explaining. For example one guy who sent us a face pic and he looked like my (Mrs) brother. I also have a thing about people with the same name as the younger members of my family. I don't mind explaining that.
But if the reason we aren't interested in them is because they either haven't read our profile, or have read our profile and ignored the things we say we arent interested in, then we are less likely to explain because it will nearly always result in them taking it as an opportunity to try to convince us, refusal to understand they're not going to be the exception and even outright begging. I thought one bloke was going to start making suicide threats the other week after we replied "Thank you very much, you aren't right for us, but have a good day and happy gabbing" the way he was going on about his life full of rejection and loneliness and all because the mean women won't give him and his faceless profile that lists several things that are absolute no's and would be a violation to them a chance, because they're just shallow and he would never be good enough. It was bordering on trying to guilt trip us.
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We see this almost weekly the ones that set up new profiles with different ages ect in the hope you won't notice are the creepiest going how they can convince theirself that it's normal behaviour is crazy |
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By *nto_usCouple 6 days ago
Brandon |
Been blocked, after answering their question. (Was polite, and gave them a proper answer) - then for no reason blocked.
Now, we read the message, look at the profile, and if it doesn’t have the right feel, we don’t bother responding. No response = not interested (works both ways). |
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900 messages in your inbox. It's just impossible |
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Because if you reply politely with a no or whatever else you immediately get a message back. People think no means they've got a chance and they need to work on you 🙈😂 |
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"Because if you reply politely with a no or whatever else you immediately get a message back. People think no means they've got a chance and they need to work on you 🙈😂"
Exactly |
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By *r TriomanMan 6 days ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
It's a bit like getting fliers through your letterbox, if you're not interested, then you don't reply; the companies that sent them don't then go on a forum and start questioning your actions. |
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By *G74Woman 6 days ago
Blackburn |
I find when I've replied very politely no that it just opens the doors of communication and guys think they can talk me into wanting what only what they specifically can do for me 🙄 added to that I get a lot of messages not really looking for ME but just cause I'm showing as online and getting hit with the cut and paste message that they send every female in reach in among some probably very decent guys. But at 50 I k ow what I want and when I want it I go looking for it. I wont be "talked into" your fantasies for me ... I'm quite content living my own  |
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"Because if you reply politely with a no or whatever else you immediately get a message back. People think no means they've got a chance and they need to work on you 🙈😂"
Yeah the worst one we hear all the time is "age is just a number" lol and then they try and judge/comment that she only wants to meet someone say 5 years younger than her when they are desperate to meet her who is 15 20 years younger than them it's really very strange behaviour |
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"It's a bit like getting fliers through your letterbox, if you're not interested, then you don't reply; the companies that sent them don't then go on a forum and start questioning your actions."
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That's the worst analogy ever. |
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They are not here to give you emotional feed. Get over it. |
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"It's a bit like getting fliers through your letterbox, if you're not interested, then you don't reply; the companies that sent them don't then go on a forum and start questioning your actions.
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That's the worst analogy ever."
I think it's more like, you express an interest in ordering a takeaway. You might be looking for later today. You might be looking for next week.
You start getting popups for all the places near you. Also Claire's, the hot new kid on the block on Unst and Pete's in southern Guernsey.
You try to specify pizza within fifty miles of London, and Claire's pop up gets upset with you.
You try to specify gluten free and the pop ups tell you you're being too picky.
If you do find what you want, you're told you need more. You haven't tried your unicorn Joey's to know if you'll return, or go elsewhere, yet.
It's why many who download the app delete it and throw their phone into the sea for good measure |
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"It's a bit like getting fliers through your letterbox, if you're not interested, then you don't reply; the companies that sent them don't then go on a forum and start questioning your actions.
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That's the worst analogy ever.
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I think it's more like, you express an interest in ordering a takeaway. You might be looking for later today. You might be looking for next week.
You start getting popups for all the places near you. Also Claire's, the hot new kid on the block on Unst and Pete's in southern Guernsey.
You try to specify pizza within fifty miles of London, and Claire's pop up gets upset with you.
You try to specify gluten free and the pop ups tell you you're being too picky.
If you do find what you want, you're told you need more. You haven't tried your unicorn Joey's to know if you'll return, or go elsewhere, yet.
It's why many who download the app delete it and throw their phone into the sea for good measure "
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That's pretty much a more accurate measure of it. When I used to message women those messages were •solicited• because their profiles clearly stated they were looking to meet men, for socials and possibly 'more'. If however their profiles stated they were not looking to meet or only on here for the forums then, clearly, my message could be treated as unsolicited. Whether they reply or not is an entirely different matter. |
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Reasons we don't reply
The message proved that the sender didn't not read our profile.
The message is clearly a copy and paste job.
The message was rude.
The message was disrespectful.
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The message didn't interest them
They visited your profile and didn't find anything that interested them
They found a better offer  |
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Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
Pure ignorance! !!! |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
Pure ignorance! !!!"
You know what's ignorant?
Finding yourself in a new place and not acquainting yourself with the culture. Why it is the way it is, and how to best proceed
Even when these things are spelled out clearly in the FAQs, still insisting that it is them who are rude and not you. |
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Here you go, Big Robbo.
"There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?" |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
You know what's ignorant?
Finding yourself in a new place and not acquainting yourself with the culture. Why it is the way it is, and how to best proceed
Even when these things are spelled out clearly in the FAQs, still insisting that it is them who are rude and not you."
Still ignorance
Don't care what excuse you try and throw at me.
It takes all of 2 minutes to send a reply saying we are not what they are looking for.
Ignorance |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
You know what's ignorant?
Finding yourself in a new place and not acquainting yourself with the culture. Why it is the way it is, and how to best proceed
Even when these things are spelled out clearly in the FAQs, still insisting that it is them who are rude and not you.
Still ignorance
Don't care what excuse you try and throw at me.
It takes all of 2 minutes to send a reply saying we are not what they are looking for.
Ignorance "
Hundreds of guys before you have said the same. Hundreds of guys before you are also allowed to be wrong  |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
Pure ignorance! !!!"
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OP, for a moment I assumed you were relatively new to Fab and perhaps unaware of what actually prevails on here, and the administrative headache and frustration women (and couples) have to deal with. They are inundated with messages, literally hundreds, with no time or wherewithal to open or reply to each and every one.
Now you know. You have been apprised, because just a few moments ago you were •ignorant• of the facts.
And OP — no woman is worth boiling the urine of a gentleman. We have standards and healthy bladders. 🌈🌈 |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
Pure ignorance! !!!
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OP, for a moment I assumed you were relatively new to Fab and perhaps unaware of what actually prevails on here, and the administrative headache and frustration women (and couples) have to deal with. They are inundated with messages, literally hundreds, with no time or wherewithal to open or reply to each and every one.
Now you know. You have been apprised, because just a few moments ago you were •ignorant• of the facts.
And OP — no woman is worth boiling the urine of a gentleman. We have standards and healthy bladders. 🌈🌈"
If you're in a desert and no other options exist for hydration, boiled piss is better than death |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
Pure ignorance! !!!
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OP, for a moment I assumed you were relatively new to Fab and perhaps unaware of what actually prevails on here, and the administrative headache and frustration women (and couples) have to deal with. They are inundated with messages, literally hundreds, with no time or wherewithal to open or reply to each and every one.
Now you know. You have been apprised, because just a few moments ago you were •ignorant• of the facts.
And OP — no woman is worth boiling the urine of a gentleman. We have standards and healthy bladders. 🌈🌈
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If you're in a desert and no other options exist for hydration, boiled piss is better than death "
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I'm not going to get bogged down in semantics with you. That, and also I'm too tired to think of a suitable response for an antipodean smarty pants such as yourself. 💌 |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
You know what's ignorant?
Finding yourself in a new place and not acquainting yourself with the culture. Why it is the way it is, and how to best proceed
Even when these things are spelled out clearly in the FAQs, still insisting that it is them who are rude and not you.
Still ignorance
Don't care what excuse you try and throw at me.
It takes all of 2 minutes to send a reply saying we are not what they are looking for.
Ignorance "
It boils your piss when a stranger doesn't reply to an online message? Really?
Regarding the "2 minutes", if it takes 2 minutes to reply to your message saying "Thank you but you're not for us", then it's going to take 2 minutes to reply to each message.
at this moment we have 99 unread messages in our inbox, as well as hundreds of others, some we've replied to some we haven't. So, your "2 minutes" instantly becomes 3 hours, and that's ignoring the fact that during the time you're replying to all of those, you're visible as online now, so more people are messaging. We rarely get it below 100 tbh.
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
Pure ignorance! !!!"
With respect, it’s looking like you are ignorant of the culture here. Some literally get 500 messages on a busy day. At your 2 minute reply that’s 8 hours of no thanks replies before they’ve been read. You complain about it on your profile too. This attitude is alienating potential meets. When I just read your profile I genuinely thought you were trolling for a joke, which could have been funny, then I scrolled back up to see how long you’ve been here.
If you can’t accept that nobody owes you a reply. This may not be the site for you. |
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Big robbo,
Plenty here will delete your message without reading it because your profile pic is an unsolicited dick pic
Put your face on there if you want your messages read let alone replied to. |
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People can't be arsed to read a profile then get arsey about not getting a message reply. |
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Do people get messages? My inbox is drier than a nun in the Vatican |
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I used to try to reply with a polite thanks, but not interested, but have had some bad experiences from guys then being rude and abusive so I tend to just leave read and unanswered, or deleted.
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"im intrigued "
It's not that deep!! |
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Because the messages are usually painfully hard to reply to when there's not much to work with. I like an interesting chat, but I hate small-talk. I won't even open one's that are vulgar in the opening. |
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One of three reasons.
The sender has completely ignored what we’re looking for or has sent something crude as an opener.
Or we’re tired of pulling teeth to keep the conversation going from the one liner replies. |
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Didn't like what you'd written
Didn't like your photos
Didn't like your veris/or that you are not veri'd/or that you have too many veris from the wrong the type of people
Didn't like your profile text
Finished their wank
Meant to reply and forgot
Accidentally opened the mail
Couldn't be arsed to reply
Just didn't want to |
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To be fair when I first joined I found it strange. Not that people don't reply as obviously that is entirely up to them but that just keft them unread not just for a while but forever kind of thing. Now I learned not to see anything into it as is up to them how they manage their inbox. I just delete them, sometimes block too so don't bother anyone again by sending another message by mistake even though I don't realky send many messages. If they wanted to communicate, they would. |
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We try to reply to everyone but don’t bother with low effort accounts that have no profile pic or bio |
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It just means I'm not interested. Nothing else. |
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I must be strangely odd as to me getting no reply or getting a ‘no thanks’ are processed, by my brain, as exactly the same thing and in exactly the same way.
I see no discernible difference. |
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Because I don’t want to.
I get loads of messages and most of them are complete rubbish |
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Because I'm not interested I've tried replying and got abuse so don't bother now |
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Why do they do it ?
Because they can. |
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Worse is when you reply to a message or send a message in reply to a wink and get no response.
That elicits a block from me |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if it is just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
You know what ignorance is?
Finding yourself in a new place and not acquainting yourself with the culture. Why it is the way it is, and how to best proceed
Even when these things are spelled out clearly in the FAQs, still insisting that it is them who are rude and not you.
Still ignorance
Don't care what excuse you try and throw at me.
It takes all of 2 minutes to send a reply saying we are not what they are looking for.
Ignorance "
Charming
I can’t understand why you are not getting replies.
For the first months I replied to every message, slowly but surely, Saying something like:
“Thank you for texting me, lovely message but unfortunately you are not my type.”
It was a big effort sending hundred of messages during long wasting hours
For what?
Every single guy sent me back a message replying:
Why not your type? Taste me. You not going to regret it. Can we at least have a chat, be friends…
So instead of 900 messages I got 1800 in my inbox
And then the guys started texting me, why are you not chatting with me anymore? are you ok babe? And so that, until the classic “You are a fake slut, you are a wasting of time”
Then, when I got hidden they were able to continue bombarding me because they got a reply, from where they can continue message me from
Not anymore
I don't care you call me ignorant because you ignorantly believe that signing here allowed you to get whatever you want and treat women like a service
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I guess people read messages to see if they like the person who posted them. I can’t bet that 90% are not suitable. So no reply, no harm done. |
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Forums are great for spotting people to block
Amazing that people thinking sending a message (usually cut and paste) ENTITLES them to a response?
Maybe I should respond to all the junk mail we get too, ignorant not to ! |
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Depends on the message..
Blocks are faster than wasting my time on vileness or mediocre messages. If there's a legitimate message I generally respond. |
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"im intrigued "
Could be the 10th time messaging
Don't want to risk the abuse
Message was so bad don't even know what to reply
Zero effort message zero effort reply lol |
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"I guess people read messages to see if they like the person who posted them. I can’t bet that 90% are not suitable. So no reply, no harm done."
I can bet that probably as it's more like 95% aren't. |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if it is just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
You know what ignorance is?
Finding yourself in a new place and not acquainting yourself with the culture. Why it is the way it is, and how to best proceed
Even when these things are spelled out clearly in the FAQs, still insisting that it is them who are rude and not you.
Still ignorance
Don't care what excuse you try and throw at me.
It takes all of 2 minutes to send a reply saying we are not what they are looking for.
Ignorance
Charming
I can’t understand why you are not getting replies.
For the first months I replied to every message, slowly but surely, Saying something like:
“Thank you for texting me, lovely message but unfortunately you are not my type.”
It was a big effort sending hundred of messages during long wasting hours
For what?
Every single guy sent me back a message replying:
Why not your type? Taste me. You not going to regret it. Can we at least have a chat, be friends…
So instead of 900 messages I got 1800 in my inbox
And then the guys started texting me, why are you not chatting with me anymore? are you ok babe? And so that, until the classic “You are a fake slut, you are a wasting of time”
Then, when I got hidden they were able to continue bombarding me because they got a reply, from where they can continue message me from
Not anymore
I don't care you call me ignorant because you ignorantly believe that signing here allowed you to get whatever you want and treat women like a service
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All of this!!! |
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Because nobody owes you anything 🤷🏻♀️
I used to reply with “no thank you” or similar, which (very often) just leads to either abuse or “why not?” etc. The no reply should be enough of a response for anyone to understand. If I message someone and they don’t answer, message received! If I said hiya to someone in the street and they didn’t reply, I wouldn’t follow them badgering for a response! So why do people think it’s ok on here?
Seems some people sign up here with the expectation that they’ll get a constant flow of pussy and/or cock because ‘it’s a swingers site’. Yes it is, but people still have their tastes and maybe you’re just not it.
I feel like people who start posts like this do themselves no favours, quite the opposite! |
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Just the way it is. Yes it’s frustrating but I also understand that some people get so many messages they can pick exactly what they want.
Don’t get me wrong I prefer a polite response of rejection if I’m not for them- I usually follow up with a friendly “thanks for replying and letting me know, hope you find what you’re looking for and plenty of fun”
I’d much rather someone block me that read/unread the message - tells you the answers straight and also prevents a repeat further down the line |
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"Rude that's why "
Are you aware if someone replies to a message and then at a later date changes their message filters every person who they have replied to is not filtered out?
I would rather not reply and keep my filters working when I need or choose to use them thanks. |
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"Because nobody owes you anything 🤷🏻♀️
I used to reply with “no thank you” or similar, which (very often) just leads to either abuse or “why not?” etc. The no reply should be enough of a response for anyone to understand. If I message someone and they don’t answer, message received! If I said hiya to someone in the street and they didn’t reply, I wouldn’t follow them badgering for a response! So why do people think it’s ok on here?
Seems some people sign up here with the expectation that they’ll get a constant flow of pussy and/or cock because ‘it’s a swingers site’. Yes it is, but people still have their tastes and maybe you’re just not it.
I feel like people who start posts like this do themselves no favours, quite the opposite! "
This. All day long. |
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"Because there bloody ignorant. Just say no thanks and good luck, but don't be ignorant. "
It's not ignorance.
If I'm not interested I'm not replying. Replying encourages the "Why are you not interested?" Or "Let ne persuade you" messages which then leads to a block instead.
Also replying stops any future changes to my filters from blocking people.
If you can't understand that no reply means they are not interested then that's a you problem. |
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Because I don’t know what to say yet. I might be busy and not have the headspace to think or compose a decent reply, but might have a bit of time to quickly read new messages |
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"Nice tits" doesn't constitute a message. And if a guy thinks just two words are enough to get a meet, nevermind anything else, why should I use more to tell him not a chance! |
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Ild rather they deleted the message than just leave it,
They deleted it then I know I'm not to there liking,
Then I block them and know not to hassel them again with a message or a fab, |
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Agreed. As even coming from a guy I don’t understand personally why some would reply being horrible and saying harsh things like as you said “You are a fake slut” etc, etc. If you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say it or don’t be but hurt that you got told no, simple lol. Even if they do reply saying that you’re not their type, which again women don’t have to every time, it’s better to be polite and say something like “That’s understandable, hope you find what you’re looking for and happy fabbing”
With these types of sites it’s naturally the women that get a truck load more messages to go through so it doesn’t hurt for men to be patient instead of spam/bombarding them repeatedly. NeroLondon honestly just sounds stuck up and ignorant himself thinking that all men should be replied to and forgets the fact women receive hundreds if not thousands of messages and again is impossible for them to reply to every single one, if they don’t reply and delete your message after reading it then take that as the no and move on. At the end of the day we’re all on here for the same thing, to have a fun relaxing time with like minded people and not everyone is your type so just accept it.
I know I’m young myself and not been on here as long as most others but even then I know I’m not 100% gonna get a reply every time as everyone has their own preferences. |
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"im intrigued "
Ahhh this old chestnut.
Because I value the time I have and given the sheer volume of messages most women get on here - if we actually spent time replying to people we have zero interest in engaging with half our day would be eaten up by that activity alone.
Which I'm pretty sure for the most of us would have us mass exiting the site.
It's site rules for one that no reply means no interest - I mean if you make your shot in a club for example and the lady declines...you don't spend the whole night asking why, you just accept it.
Also surely someone not replying to you should be more than enough of an answer 
And finally you cannot possibly imagine the kind of crap we get back in simply saying not my type, not for me or not interested - you get the inevitable why? Like why does it matter why I'm not interested/not attracted - think of all the women you have judged or found not attractive and do you think explaining your lack of attraction to them is going to be constructive criticism for them? Nope.
Or we get the angry man response with them either reversing their original message saying we weren't even attractive or they weren't that interested or just downright calling us uptight/too fussy.
And the men on here who complain about not getting replies or even getting a no as response are ususally shooting themselves in the foot by whining about it, I wouldn't question something or chase up a reply if none is given. |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
You know what's ignorant?
Finding yourself in a new place and not acquainting yourself with the culture. Why it is the way it is, and how to best proceed
Even when these things are spelled out clearly in the FAQs, still insisting that it is them who are rude and not you.
Still ignorance
Don't care what excuse you try and throw at me.
It takes all of 2 minutes to send a reply saying we are not what they are looking for.
Ignorance "
And the women of this site thank you for showing your colours in forums because I can almost guarentee it's this mindset you have that is getting you mass blocked.
You say it takes 2 minutes to reply no....how about if you're having to say no over 300 times a day, are you fucking serious?
What's ignorant is you feeling entitled to our time and attention all because you got off your ass and messaged us....like the 1000's of other men on here.
Dude...have some dignity and don't come across so desperate just for a message back saying no
But again thank you for showing us who to block I love these posts for this reason |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
You know what's ignorant?
Finding yourself in a new place and not acquainting yourself with the culture. Why it is the way it is, and how to best proceed
Even when these things are spelled out clearly in the FAQs, still insisting that it is them who are rude and not you.
Still ignorance
Don't care what excuse you try and throw at me.
It takes all of 2 minutes to send a reply saying we are not what they are looking for.
Ignorance
And the women of this site thank you for showing your colours in forums because I can almost guarentee it's this mindset you have that is getting you mass blocked.
You say it takes 2 minutes to reply no....how about if you're having to say no over 300 times a day, are you fucking serious?
What's ignorant is you feeling entitled to our time and attention all because you got off your ass and messaged us....like the 1000's of other men on here.
Dude...have some dignity and don't come across so desperate just for a message back saying no
But again thank you for showing us who to block I love these posts for this reason "
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"im intrigued
Or we get the angry man response with them either reversing their original message saying we weren't even attractive or they weren't that interested or just downright calling us uptight/too fussy.
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They make me laugh. We had a guy message us, said things that were red flags by any standards, advertising he only has safe sex on his profile but messaging us saying he'd does BB really and would love to with us and to "ignore the safe sex only bit, it's just there for people who will turn you down if they know you do BB with others".
Told him absolutely no and made comments about how disgusting of him that was and somehow HE told US to "get gone" 😂😂😂 |
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I’ve done a really simple experiment this morning and sent a very polite thanks but no thanks to every message.
2 have come back with abuse
EVERY single other (with one exception) has replied with “let’s just chat/ I think I can persuade you / I’m worth it you’ll see / let’s get to know each other anyway / wanna watch me cum on cam”
Only one guy has replied with an ok thanks for letting me know. ONE
So that answers your question OP. The number who take a polite decline and don’t push are really fucking rare. |
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By *ony MannMan 6 days ago
Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover |
Speed read and think, not for me/us. Too many mails to reply to |
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By *pen2UMan 6 days ago
Telford |
I get why people not reply, but I find it much more respectful to reply even if it's to say no thanks or what have you. The person who sent the first message has taken their time out to message you, respond to them, it really doesn't hurt now does it? |
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"im intrigued "
How would we know whether the message warranted a reply without reading it?
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If you constantly get messages like 'hey' or 'what u into?' the novelty wears off pretty fast.
What's the point in replying to that? |
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"I’ve done a really simple experiment this morning and sent a very polite thanks but no thanks to every message.
2 have come back with abuse
EVERY single other (with one exception) has replied with “let’s just chat/ I think I can persuade you / I’m worth it you’ll see / let’s get to know each other anyway / wanna watch me cum on cam”
Only one guy has replied with an ok thanks for letting me know. ONE
So that answers your question OP. The number who take a polite decline and don’t push are really fucking rare. "
I’m curious to the age range of your experiment lol. |
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"I’ve done a really simple experiment this morning and sent a very polite thanks but no thanks to every message.
2 have come back with abuse
EVERY single other (with one exception) has replied with “let’s just chat/ I think I can persuade you / I’m worth it you’ll see / let’s get to know each other anyway / wanna watch me cum on cam”
Only one guy has replied with an ok thanks for letting me know. ONE
So that answers your question OP. The number who take a polite decline and don’t push are really fucking rare.
I’m curious to the age range of your experiment lol."
I've had abuse like this from mid 20s to mid 60s, if it helps.
(Before anyone says filters, no fucker can message me at the moment. Fully aware  ) |
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By *ony MannMan 6 days ago
Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover |
"I’ve done a really simple experiment this morning and sent a very polite thanks but no thanks to every message.
2 have come back with abuse
EVERY single other (with one exception) has replied with “let’s just chat/ I think I can persuade you / I’m worth it you’ll see / let’s get to know each other anyway / wanna watch me cum on cam”
Only one guy has replied with an ok thanks for letting me know. ONE
So that answers your question OP. The number who take a polite decline and don’t push are really fucking rare. "
And one will be in Eva's maybe list, anyone want to guess which? |
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"Agreed. As even coming from a guy I don’t understand personally why some would reply being horrible and saying harsh things like as you said “You are a fake slut” etc, etc. If you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say it or don’t be but hurt that you got told no, simple lol. Even if they do reply saying that you’re not their type, which again women don’t have to every time, it’s better to be polite and say something like “That’s understandable, hope you find what you’re looking for and happy fabbing”
With these types of sites it’s naturally the women that get a truck load more messages to go through so it doesn’t hurt for men to be patient instead of spam/bombarding them repeatedly. NeroLondon honestly just sounds stuck up and ignorant himself thinking that all men should be replied to and forgets the fact women receive hundreds if not thousands of messages and again is impossible for them to reply to every single one, if they don’t reply and delete your message after reading it then take that as the no and move on. At the end of the day we’re all on here for the same thing, to have a fun relaxing time with like minded people and not everyone is your type so just accept it.
I know I’m young myself and not been on here as long as most others but even then I know I’m not 100% gonna get a reply every time as everyone has their own preferences."
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"Not interested maybe?
Yeah I get that, but why not read and delete instead of reading the message and leaving it there ad infinitum. At least delete would confirm not interested. Sometimes people read then consider whether or reply or not. An instant delete would confirm no interest"
An instant 'read and delete' is quite often followed by abuse for being "rude". |
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By *pen2UMan 6 days ago
Telford |
Recieve abuse, delete and block? No halm in responding first.
People may think they're arrogant or whatever if there's no message? To mez that's worse as the ones who regards the message and ignores them probable aren't at all arrogant?
Hope that makes sense? I respond to all messages regardless of whether I'm interested or not. A simple no thanks is all it takes |
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"I’ve done a really simple experiment this morning and sent a very polite thanks but no thanks to every message.
2 have come back with abuse
EVERY single other (with one exception) has replied with “let’s just chat/ I think I can persuade you / I’m worth it you’ll see / let’s get to know each other anyway / wanna watch me cum on cam”
Only one guy has replied with an ok thanks for letting me know. ONE
So that answers your question OP. The number who take a polite decline and don’t push are really fucking rare.
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I’m curious to the age range of your experiment lol."
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The age range in Eva's experiment would be, I suspect, as stated within her profile for those men who can message her. It's a sample demographic but abuse comes from all age ranges, young and old.
The results from the experiment are compelling and not to be sniffed at. |
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"Recieve abuse, delete and block? No halm in responding first.
People may think they're arrogant or whatever if there's no message? To mez that's worse as the ones who regards the message and ignores them probable aren't at all arrogant?
Hope that makes sense? I respond to all messages regardless of whether I'm interested or not. A simple no thanks is all it takes "
Oh you sweet summer child. I'm glad you have that experience.
Mine is more like
Person: first message
Me: no thanks, but best of luck finding what you're looking for
Person: oh my god you disgusting troll diseased hag I was doing you a favour. I'm going to find out who you are and tell your boss! Blah blah blah
... And, if I'm showing up for a lot of people for some reason, another 20 messages by the time I've finished my no thank you.
Bollocks to that!
(Sometimes it's not abuse. Sometimes it's pleading or other manipulative stuff) |
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"Recieve abuse, delete and block? No halm in responding first.
People may think they're arrogant or whatever if there's no message? To mez that's worse as the ones who regards the message and ignores them probable aren't at all arrogant?
Hope that makes sense? I respond to all messages regardless of whether I'm interested or not. A simple no thanks is all it takes "
On the flip side, nobody should receive abuse in any form just because they're not interested. It clearly states in our profile that we're not looking for single men and that messaging at any other time other than when we have a meet up is just a wasted message. It also states that sending us dick pics will also result in no reply.
And yet the type of message we received the most? Messages from single guys with dick pics attached.
What's more rude/arrogant? Us not replying to a message which the sender already knows is unwanted, or the sender completely ignoring our clear wishes and doing it anyway?
As for there being no harm in responding anyway, yes there is. Because responding with a "no thanks" generates even more abuse. Rather than complaining about not getting message replies, instead how about having a go at the men who have caused the situation where women & couples don't reply to messages for fear of being verbally abused? |
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"Recieve abuse, delete and block? No halm in responding first.
People may think they're arrogant or whatever if there's no message? To mez that's worse as the ones who regards the message and ignores them probable aren't at all arrogant?
Hope that makes sense? I respond to all messages regardless of whether I'm interested or not. A simple no thanks is all it takes
Oh you sweet summer child. I'm glad you have that experience.
Mine is more like
Person: first message
Me: no thanks, but best of luck finding what you're looking for
Person: oh my god you disgusting troll diseased hag I was doing you a favour. I'm going to find out who you are and tell your boss! Blah blah blah
... And, if I'm showing up for a lot of people for some reason, another 20 messages by the time I've finished my no thank you.
Bollocks to that!
(Sometimes it's not abuse. Sometimes it's pleading or other manipulative stuff)"
This. If it's not the abuse, it's the manipulative, narcissistic, begging replies. Multiple times, every single day. |
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"Recieve abuse, delete and block? No halm in responding first.
People may think they're arrogant or whatever if there's no message? To mez that's worse as the ones who regards the message and ignores them probable aren't at all arrogant?
Hope that makes sense? I respond to all messages regardless of whether I'm interested or not. A simple no thanks is all it takes "
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"A simple no thanks is" NOT what it all takes.
I suggest that you review the entire thread to fully understand what most women have to endure when it comes to messages from men. |
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This. If it's not the abuse, it's the manipulative, narcissistic, begging replies. Multiple times, every single day. "
I recently had a guy send follow ups faster than I could read them, begging and taunting me to meet him. (It was one of those meet now situations, which I never do)
It was deranged. And completely ineffective as a strategy. |
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"I’ve done a really simple experiment this morning and sent a very polite thanks but no thanks to every message.
2 have come back with abuse
EVERY single other (with one exception) has replied with “let’s just chat/ I think I can persuade you / I’m worth it you’ll see / let’s get to know each other anyway / wanna watch me cum on cam”
Only one guy has replied with an ok thanks for letting me know. ONE
So that answers your question OP. The number who take a polite decline and don’t push are really fucking rare.
I’m curious to the age range of your experiment lol."
Guys within my age range - and message filters set as such. No newbies, must have pics and be within my age brackets.
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I'll reply if the message is sensible and not offensive or pushy. If not, I'll just delete (and block if necessary). Life's too short. |
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Because most people don’t read profiles and if they did they wouldn’t be getting upset about this |
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This. If it's not the abuse, it's the manipulative, narcissistic, begging replies. Multiple times, every single day.
I recently had a guy send follow ups faster than I could read them, begging and taunting me to meet him. (It was one of those meet now situations, which I never do)
It was deranged. And completely ineffective as a strategy. "
Yep one guy who messaged with the premise of “just a compliment” to which I said thanks, sent me over 15 messages in the space of 10 min.
Others see I’m online and that becomes an immediate flag for them to chase a reply over and over and over. I don’t often check my inbox now, usually once a day at most but I do love the forums. Either way I don’t deserve abuse for being online and not choosing to spend the entire time reading mail.
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This. If it's not the abuse, it's the manipulative, narcissistic, begging replies. Multiple times, every single day.
I recently had a guy send follow ups faster than I could read them, begging and taunting me to meet him. (It was one of those meet now situations, which I never do)
It was deranged. And completely ineffective as a strategy.
Yep one guy who messaged with the premise of “just a compliment” to which I said thanks, sent me over 15 messages in the space of 10 min.
Others see I’m online and that becomes an immediate flag for them to chase a reply over and over and over. I don’t often check my inbox now, usually once a day at most but I do love the forums. Either way I don’t deserve abuse for being online and not choosing to spend the entire time reading mail.
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Indeed. Imagine us using a site for ourselves |
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This. If it's not the abuse, it's the manipulative, narcissistic, begging replies. Multiple times, every single day.
I recently had a guy send follow ups faster than I could read them, begging and taunting me to meet him. (It was one of those meet now situations, which I never do)
It was deranged. And completely ineffective as a strategy.
Yep one guy who messaged with the premise of “just a compliment” to which I said thanks, sent me over 15 messages in the space of 10 min.
Others see I’m online and that becomes an immediate flag for them to chase a reply over and over and over. I don’t often check my inbox now, usually once a day at most but I do love the forums. Either way I don’t deserve abuse for being online and not choosing to spend the entire time reading mail.
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I was chatting with a couple refently but like you, I don't always read mails when I'm logged in - sometimes I just don't want to talk or chat. They sent me a message to say the very least I could do is message back when they can see I'm logged in. We ended pur correspondence |
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"I’ve done a really simple experiment this morning and sent a very polite thanks but no thanks to every message.
2 have come back with abuse
EVERY single other (with one exception) has replied with “let’s just chat/ I think I can persuade you / I’m worth it you’ll see / let’s get to know each other anyway / wanna watch me cum on cam”
Only one guy has replied with an ok thanks for letting me know. ONE
So that answers your question OP. The number who take a polite decline and don’t push are really fucking rare. "
Thanks for going to all this trouble and sharing the results. I’m rather shocked they were this poor. Happy to know I’m in the minority who just say “Thanks and all the best”. The rest of you need to do better.
Getting a “thanks for your message but your not for me” can actually be more disappointing. Seeing a reply in the inbox can get your hopes up. |
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"Because most people don’t read profiles and if they did they wouldn’t be getting upset about this"
This is spot on! I read every single profile that messages me, even those whose message is of no interest. The huge majority of people I hear from don’t read mine before messaging and that’s crystal clear by the simple fact they’ve sent it to begin with. Now that’s absolutely more rude than me not replying to someone who I’m clearly not seeking. |
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"Rude that's why "
Most people are so frustrating along with those who repeatedly view my profile who have the filters set so I can't message them lol |
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By *oneyVWoman 6 days ago
Cirencester |
Not interested and they haven’t read your profile ! …Also can get stupid messages back if try say no thanks nicely |
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"Rude that's why
Most people are so frustrating along with those who repeatedly view my profile who have the filters set so I can't message them lol "
Maybe they don't want you to message them? Viewing isn't an invitation |
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By *riel13Woman 6 days ago
Northampton |
"Rude that's why
Most people are so frustrating along with those who repeatedly view my profile who have the filters set so I can't message them lol "
Don't they have to look to see if you're what they are looking for? |
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Oh when we first got on I tried to reply to everyone, but it was too much.
It was never just simply left at "no thank you". All led to several more messages asking why or trying to convince us to change our mind.
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I'd rather try at least bothered to read the messages instead of leaving them unread and totally ignoring me. |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
Pure ignorance! !!!"
What's ignorant is sending a message without reading someone's profile and then expecting a reply. |
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I used to do it on purpose as I knew it pissed some people off |
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People that start forum threads and don't reply to every comment - rude.
Only joking but can you see the irony? |
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People who don't understand why someone doesn't reply.
Why don't you understand? |
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Lots of reasons. If a sender has clearly not read our profile, then why should we? |
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By *sWyldWoman 6 days ago
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Many reasons. Here are some of mine.
I just don't want to.
I don't have to.
I can't be bothered to reply.
I'm not interested in what they are saying.
I have no interest in them.
Real life took over and I forgot.
I replied in my head.
Their message didn't need a reply.
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"Many reasons. Here are some of mine.
I just don't want to.
I don't have to.
I can't be bothered to reply.
I'm not interested in what they are saying.
I have no interest in them.
Real life took over and I forgot.
I replied in my head.
Their message didn't need a reply.
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This!
Additionally:
I didn’t understand what they were saying.
I found their message rude.
It’s clear they haven’t read our profile.
They sent us a cock pic (if they’d read our profile they’d know we don’t want them).
They have nothing on their profile so can’t tell if they’re likely to be a timewaster.
They called me “babe”.
They want to “meet now”.
We’ve had 100 messages today and there’s had no effort.
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On the rare occassion we do reply even to say no thank you it's normally well received so maybe something we should try to do more |
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"Because no reply is a reply.
What does a no reply mean and do you speak for everyone? "
It's in the Q&a
No reply to a message = no/not interested (this that IS your reply) |
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"I’ve done a really simple experiment this morning and sent a very polite thanks but no thanks to every message.
2 have come back with abuse
EVERY single other (with one exception) has replied with “let’s just chat/ I think I can persuade you / I’m worth it you’ll see / let’s get to know each other anyway / wanna watch me cum on cam”
Only one guy has replied with an ok thanks for letting me know. ONE
So that answers your question OP. The number who take a polite decline and don’t push are really fucking rare. "
Plus every single person you’ve replied to is exempt if you block all men - as women are often told to do on the forum if they’re feeling under siege from messages - as according to the algorithm you’ve had a conversation. Exempting umpteen people a day makes it a useless tool in the long run.
Something that a lot of people, especially guys, don’t seem to often realise. |
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"im intrigued "
And please do share why you believe a invisible person with no information on their profile should expect a reply !?
I don't know what your messages are like but why should the recipient put effort into responding when you put zero effort into your profile (shop window). |
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I am sure everyone has their own reasons for it …. If I were to hazard a guess this may be my choices
No interest
Busy
Your message got lost in amongst the 10s/100s of others that came after yours
The sausages were burning and setting off the alarm
The dog was barking at the door
It’s just one of those things that not everyone can respond to everyone …. We can’t take offence …even if it can be frustrating …it’s just the fab way  |
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"im intrigued "
You have 6 threads around this subject, I'm curious, what are you not understanding?
J |
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I like to read the bs someone has sent me we all know guys say anything to get into your knickers |
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"im intrigued
You have 6 threads around this subject, I'm curious, what are you not understanding?
J"
I always forget about the little green arrow. |
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"im intrigued
You have 6 threads around this subject, I'm curious, what are you not understanding?
J
I always forget about the little green arrow. "
I'm new to the forums and didn't know the green arrow did anything. Thanks! |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
Pure ignorance! !!!"
One has to laugh at this kind if thinking! |
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"Ignorance! !!!!!!!
It takes 2 minutes to reply even if its just to say "not what looking for right now"
It really dose boil my piss that when someone takes the time to message a person, and they just delete it,
Pure ignorance! !!!"
The thing is
99.9% of men actually don't take the time
They don't send a picture/\read a profile/match the requirements and then think
Hi
Deserves a response.
Those get deleted
If someone actually puts effort in (I had a rare one on Saturday) they got a reply. A thank you but no thanks.
(If they message again with any whining it gets deleted and blocked) |
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This drives me wild why don't they just delete then everyone knows they aren't interested |
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I will always reply even if it's with just a thanks....manners cost nothing |
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"I will always reply even if it's with just a thanks....manners cost nothing "
Read above and plenty of others have written about what manners cost them in terms of time and being a target of abuse |
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No reply is a reply to be honest |
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"This drives me wild why don't they just delete then everyone knows they aren't interested "
Reading and not replying tells you the same thing. |
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Always try to reply and, if not interested, tactfully reply and say all the best. Occasionally though even a clear reply elicits a further enquiry so can see why a no reply can sometimes be better. If I'm interested it's quite clear by a flirty reply |
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"I will always reply even if it's with just a thanks....manners cost nothing "
I think it’s also manners to read a profile and not message if you are clearly not what the person is looking for. Especially messages like “I know I’m not what you’re looking for but…”
Initial messages describing in vulgar detail how they want to use me. On the few occasions I have replied thanks but no thanks like many posters above this has just led to further messages asking why not/trying to convince me or name calling |
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As a guy on here you need skin like rhino hide, never expect a reply, don’t take it to heart,
if I have a message read and deleted, I politely block that profile, for two reasons… 1 obviously they’re not interested in my profile and 2 I don’t accidentally message them again seeming like some fab stalker lol
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Yeah I have had quite a few read no reply but I assume it is what is I tried. They either aren't interested or are that they are bombarded with messages they are overwhelmed so don't reply straight away |
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"I will always reply even if it's with just a thanks....manners cost nothing
I think it’s also manners to read a profile and not message if you are clearly not what the person is looking for. Especially messages like “I know I’m not what you’re looking for but…”
Initial messages describing in vulgar detail how they want to use me. On the few occasions I have replied thanks but no thanks like many posters above this has just led to further messages asking why not/trying to convince me or name calling "
worst thing is so many people think this is normal behaviou and women and couples blocking them is the answer nah they exhibit predatory behaviour the answer isn't to sweep it under the carpet |
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"im intrigued
You have 6 threads around this subject, I'm curious, what are you not understanding?
J
I always forget about the little green arrow. "
The Green Arrow of Truth.
J |
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Listen to this chap ⬆️ and pay heed, for he is the all-seeing êyê 👁️ and our resident oracle. 💜 |
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••Epilogue••
Women should reply to ALL messages. Especially mine. ❣️ |
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