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I'm naturally passive.
I don't find myself sexually attracted to passive men.
Maybe it's a Yin Yang thing, that makes us gravitate towards each other.
I can give someone I'm into a dominant experience, that's for their pleasure, and I'll enjoy it because I'm giving them what they need.
I'm not interested in a man who calls himself Master or Dom, as they've tended to be more interested in dishing out pain than mutual pleasure.
I don't mind pain in an erotic situation. I'm not a body to be abused by a sadist. |
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Firstly what my idea of submission looks like will be different to someone else’s. Hell mine will be different depending on partner and whether I or they are submitting.
In its most basic form it’s the surrendering of control and power to a dominant figure.
How much control, how much power and the acts performed will depend on each individuals limits, boundaries and the type of trust and bond they with each other.
The things I’ll explore with someone I know well and trust is very different from someone I don’t know well or don’t see frequently.
The actual acts though… that’s down to people’s own kinks and limits and I’m not sure I’m ready to list every one of mine for the purpose of illustration. However the essence of mine are always with the control, orchestration and manipulation of pleasure at the heart. Someone else will be along to tell you it’s all about pain or humiliation… we all have our own interests |
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I have had a thing about post orgasm torture for a very long time.
There was one video I used to watch a lot with a man tied to a kind of rack, suspended horizontally off the floor.
He had a great body, nice cock and was tied to the rack by leather straps on his thighs and arms with his legs and arms dangling down.
He had a gimp mask on and half way through the young woman working on his cock put a thing in his mouth to gag him (I forgot the name of them) to quieten him down.
As she wanked him with oil his body writhed and he whimpered, because he wasn't allowed to cum.
This went on for a while until she said do you want to cum and he nodded and cried out through the mask yes.
He exploded, and she used his semen to keep wanking him, which sent him crazy. He was crying out, throwing his head back and arching his body with convulsions. All the time she was smiling and gently laughing as she spoke to him.
I want to do that. |
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"Some cowards in here already.
I'll tie you face down and happily fuck your arse, Pickle.
Maybe a little wax play?
Nobody is allowed to fuck my arse.
Wax play I think I’ll enjoy.
Coward."
That all you got? Pffft. |
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"Some cowards in here already.
I'll tie you face down and happily fuck your arse, Pickle.
Maybe a little wax play?
Nobody is allowed to fuck my arse.
Wax play I think I’ll enjoy.
Coward.
That all you got? Pffft. "
You want handcuffs? |
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"Some cowards in here already.
I'll tie you face down and happily fuck your arse, Pickle.
Maybe a little wax play?
Nobody is allowed to fuck my arse.
Wax play I think I’ll enjoy.
Coward.
That all you got? Pffft.
You want handcuffs?"
And see above. |
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"Some cowards in here already.
I'll tie you face down and happily fuck your arse, Pickle.
Maybe a little wax play?
Nobody is allowed to fuck my arse.
Wax play I think I’ll enjoy.
Coward.
That all you got? Pffft.
You want handcuffs?"
I hit that freak, she put me in cuffs
It trigger my trauma, I tell her to stop it. |
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I'm still hoping for more meaningful comments on this thread. Definitely don't want a novel. But give it to me in chapters.
I had an unexpected submissive experience the other day and it left me feeling very confused and conflicted. I guess hearing other people's experiences might help? |
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Gets ready to start writing a dissertation....
I think as someone said earlier, what one person deems submission might be different to what the next person deems submission. I think it's quite a personal and complex thing, but is essentially about power and control and doesn't need to involve S&M (I prefer a pleasure Dom personally as I am not much of a masochist)
I don't find my sexuality fixed in any way and how I feel and what I enjoy fluctuates and changes and how I feel depends on who I am playing with as well. I used to believe I was 100% submissive, now I would describe myself as a sub leaning switch and have had fun exploring my dominant side a bit more. |
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As a sub I like the exhilarating rush of giving someone control over me, of not knowing what they will do next, of trusting them completely to push me but not beyond my limits, I like the endorphin rush of a spanking or breath play, I like the feeling of being used and of bringing pleasure to someone even if I don't get pleasure myself, I like pushing someone's buttons and having them ravage me and show me who is the boss  |
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I've got a very submissive personality. I'm always letting people go before me at the tills or holding the door open for the elderly lady that takes FOREVER to get to the door. People pleasing and just being a general doormat come naturally. Not sure that's quite what you meant  |
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To me, being submissive is about giving yourself over completely. And it’s about completely trusting someone. There’s other things but I think that’s about dynamic. I think generally it’s those things. X |
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"What does it mean to be submissive (in your opinion, I don’t want googled definitions)?
Are you? Do you seek people that are?
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In the sex / adult interaction context... Isn't it different for everyone and each different situational relationship? Feelings can be very different to doings. There's the ann summers / 50 shades flavours of "do this do that don't even stop for a cough"... Slap, tie, paddle, costume, then there's the more subtle less visible and nuanced emotional flavours of power exchange, then there's the pro side of contracts and agreements and sure that's only scratching the surface... Tapping out. |
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By *HUSH-Man 3 weeks ago
London |
I’m not heavily into power play but I’d say there’s some things I enjoy that could be deemed as submissive.
Having my face sat on. A woman moving her hips and using my tongue to get herself off is incredibly sexy and I really enjoy the view.
I’ve also had an experience where I’ve had my neck grabbed as she was on top fucking me. I was surprised but also turned on by it. Her letting go like that, her instincts taking over and getting from me what she wanted.
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"What does it mean to be submissive (in your opinion, I don’t want googled definitions)?
Are you? Do you seek people that are?
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I'm most definitely not submissive in any way.
Compatible with me subs will subconsiously behaviour change in my presence. Uncompatible subs don't.
For me, submission is someone who relinquishes complete control of themselves to me. I can do whatever I wish to them and they completely trust that I will protect, nurture and care for themselves always. Not just after I have finished with my craft 
Compatible subs can take years to find, then one day bang. It's a match made in heaven. The deep connection is absolutely amazing  |
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To me it's not all about giving up control, it's just not how I view it. I always some aspect of control even if I relent some control. In my opinion you have control of you have consented and have a way of stopping what is happening.
Submission to me is about a mind space where I can allow myself to at my most vulnerable. For me personally it's when I can stop being so alert to danger and allow myself to switch off for a period of time.
For me it is different to endorphin rush I occasionally chase, for the fun of it. |
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"I have had a thing about post orgasm torture for a very long time.
There was one video I used to watch a lot with a man tied to a kind of rack, suspended horizontally off the floor.
He had a great body, nice cock and was tied to the rack by leather straps on his thighs and arms with his legs and arms dangling down.
He had a gimp mask on and half way through the young woman working on his cock put a thing in his mouth to gag him (I forgot the name of them) to quieten him down.
As she wanked him with oil his body writhed and he whimpered, because he wasn't allowed to cum.
This went on for a while until she said do you want to cum and he nodded and cried out through the mask yes.
He exploded, and she used his semen to keep wanking him, which sent him crazy. He was crying out, throwing his head back and arching his body with convulsions. All the time she was smiling and gently laughing as she spoke to him.
I want to do that."
So hot!
Im not submissive, i do enjoy just letting people have their way though. I’d say i’d be a good candidate for a pleasure dom who wants to just explore my body in a nice way. |
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For me, it's humiliation.
It's Small Penis Humiliation (SPH) it's having to pleasure someone without having a choice in the matter.
It's being used in public etc.
That's my kink & it needs someone who can control the environment so that you can do whatever is required because you trust that person to keep you safe. |
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"To me, being submissive is about giving yourself over completely. And it’s about completely trusting someone. There’s other things but I think that’s about dynamic. I think generally it’s those things. X"
Yes. I'm not into the pain or bdsm side but I like to give control completely to him and do as I'm told |
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