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Do you feel any guilt cheating on your partner?
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If I loved someone I wouldn't be able to cheat. I wouldn't want to. I'd try to fix whatever problem we had, then make a decision as to whether I stay or go.
Having sex with someone else would only add to my stress. |
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Why be in any form of relationship or understanding with someone if your going to cheat ?
People get hurt through being cheated on ..
It creates serious trust issues in some people....
Weak men cheat ... |
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I was very close to cheating, but managed to stop it before it got beyond the point of no return. Managed to kick me into having a proper discussion with my ex, and agreed the relationship wasn’t working.
If you cheat then so be it, it is what it is, but be honest with it, a lot of people don’t want to play with people in a relationship, some don’t mind, don’t let someone else be involved in something they want nothing to do with. I see a lot of people say in their profile they are attached and that’s sound.
I personally do get involved with people that are attached, I had a lot of success on an affairs website (especially as I am single and makes the logistics easier), I kind of like the excitement of it, I know this makes me a bit of a cunt, but it was a kink of mine. |
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"I doubt the ones who are cheating will answer this op tbh. "
I will.
There’s always guilt. There has to be. To avoid guilt completely you’d need to be an actual sociopath, not comprehending that other people have feelings. |
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"Each to there own
But no I've never cheated,im strictly a one man woman
though swinging couples don't class it as cheating if they both agree to play with others"
It’s definitely not cheating if you and your partner are in agreements with what’s occurring and are able to discuss things openly. It’s only cheating if you do anything behind someone back, and keep secrets, if your partner wouldn’t like it if they knew then it’s cheating.
I’ve known swinging couples actually cheat on their partner. I’ve met the lady of a couple a few times without her partner knowing, they only use to play together, so this was definitely cheating (I.e she didn’t tell him that I was fucking her). |
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"I doubt the ones who are cheating will answer this op tbh.
I will.
There’s always guilt. There has to be. To avoid guilt completely you’d need to be an actual sociopath, not comprehending that other people have feelings."
Thanks for answering that RTG.
It tends to be people blaming their other halves for why they're here, on many threads I've seen. |
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By *oxy-RedWoman 3 weeks ago
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"Each to there own
But no I've never cheated,im strictly a one man woman
though swinging couples don't class it as cheating if they both agree to play with others
It’s definitely not cheating if you and your partner are in agreements with what’s occurring and are able to discuss things openly. It’s only cheating if you do anything behind someone back, and keep secrets, if your partner wouldn’t like it if they knew then it’s cheating.
I’ve known swinging couples actually cheat on their partner. I’ve met the lady of a couple a few times without her partner knowing, they only use to play together, so this was definitely cheating (I.e she didn’t tell him that I was fucking her)."
Exactly my thinking to |
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"It tends to be people blaming their other halves for why they're here, on many threads I've seen. "
Yeah, and that doesn’t sit well with me. It’s cowardice, isn’t it? Refusal to take responsibility for their own actions. I decide if I’m going to cheat. Me. I’m the only person to blame. |
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"Why be in any form of relationship or understanding with someone if your going to cheat ?
People get hurt through being cheated on ..
It creates serious trust issues in some people....
Weak men cheat ..."
But not women obviously?
I suppose they are strong women for being able to express themselves in your eyes?
Maybe not a gender appropriate line to add? |
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By *ornycougaWoman 3 weeks ago
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"Why be in any form of relationship or understanding with someone if your going to cheat ?
People get hurt through being cheated on ..
It creates serious trust issues in some people....
Weak men cheat ...
But not women obviously?
I suppose they are strong women for being able to express themselves in your eyes?
Maybe not a gender appropriate line to add?"
Indeed. Here's one who will admit to it. Being 100pc honest, I felt guilty after I was caught and dealing with trying to rebuild a relationship seeing just how much it had hurt him. I never did it again even though our relationship was unhappy and toxic for many years after that. The guilt would have been too much for me. |
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"So is wanking classed as cheating ?when she doesn’t know about it ?"
To some it will be. Because psychopaths
But no, it's simple self pleasure.
The one exception I will say is if it is wanking in the presence of another man or woman and they are the basis for that pleasure. The other person (or persons) is key to it all. |
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"Yeah, ‘cheating’ is all about there being another person. Or people.
It doesn’t even need to be consummated - I’m sure we’ve all heard of ‘emotional affairs’."
Yep. I've seen loads of those going on especially at work. Work husband or wife.
Personally I find emotional affairs almost worse than physical. |
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"It tends to be people blaming their other halves for why they're here, on many threads I've seen.
Yeah, and that doesn’t sit well with me. It’s cowardice, isn’t it? Refusal to take responsibility for their own actions. I decide if I’m going to cheat. Me. I’m the only person to blame."
I've never seen you say anything derogatory about your wife on the forums or blame anyone.
I do get annoyed when I see men and women slate their partners or refer to them as prides or boring etc.
I also think there's another side to the story that we never hear about too. |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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I haven't cheated but she has cheated on me on multiple occasions and admitted so, and therefore I am not cheating I have permission to do what I deem necessary for me! |
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I cheated on my ex many years ago. Did I feel guilty, not really, maybe a little sad that I crossed that line but the love had gone long before. I am a true believer if you love someone then you just can’t cheat on them no matter what. |
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I (M) cheated on my partner many moons ago. I feel differently about it to how I do now. I wasn't really ever guilty about it until after we actually split up and it being one of the 'hidden' reasons for the break up.
I was very bored and unfulfilled in life and the excitement made things fun. But I know it was a poor thing to do and it shows the lack of maturity and control I had at that moment in time. |
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By *ony MannMan 3 weeks ago
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I can't cheat on my dear Lady, she has made it impossible. "Do what you want with who you want, I will." That is our agreement, but it is far more fun when we are all in the same bed. |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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While I wouldn't be the one cheating, I do have empathy for some situations that people find themselves in.
I've spoken to a few people (and met some) over the years, who have resorted to looking elsewhere for attention and affection. Not everything is as black and white as one might think.
Sometimes people find they are in a situation where they are afraid to let go or can't leave, for various reasons (i.e. children, financial stability, illnesses, afraid of what the future might bring and so on).
The conversations I've had have been very eye-opening about the things that couples can go through.
I've actually helped quite a few out of shit situations (some without meeting). My ex-girlfriend was with someone when we first met. That relationship was incredibly toxic and she had no self esteem whatsoever, for someone absolutely wonderful and gorgeous.
She was looking for a way out, but wasn't sure of how to go about it, until she met me. Even though we eventually broke up, she still maintains that I saved her.
So yeah, not every cheater is the classic "greedy and wanting more" person that one might think. Sometimes it's not always as easy as just leaving. |
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"I doubt the ones who are cheating will answer this op tbh.
I will.
There’s always guilt. There has to be. To avoid guilt completely you’d need to be an actual sociopath, not comprehending that other people have feelings.
Thanks for answering that RTG.
It tends to be people blaming their other halves for why they're here, on many threads I've seen. "
I think they're is difference between blaming and explaining.
"I have to cheat because my spouse isn't interested" is blaming
"My spouse isn't interested so I've chosen to look else where" is an explanation.
I suspect there are people who get no guilt - as someone else said, sociopaths do exist. For everyone else they're will be a range of guilt levels.
For me, it caused me to realise my relationship couldn't be saved (she flat out refused to even go to counselling for many years before I left), caused huge feelings of guilt, feelings of not being good enough etc and resulted in a breakdown that has left scars ever since.
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Nope none whatsoever because I know I’ve given it all I can to try rectify the situation. Not everything is as cut and dried as people like to make out ‘oh if you love him how could you do it!’ Sometimes it’s just not about love or love just isn’t enough! |
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"Each to there own
But no I've never cheated,im strictly a one man woman
though swinging couples don't class it as cheating if they both agree to play with others
It’s definitely not cheating if you and your partner are in agreements with what’s occurring and are able to discuss things openly. It’s only cheating if you do anything behind someone back, and keep secrets, if your partner wouldn’t like it if they knew then it’s cheating.
I’ve known swinging couples actually cheat on their partner. I’ve met the lady of a couple a few times without her partner knowing, they only use to play together, so this was definitely cheating (I.e she didn’t tell him that I was fucking her)."
Exactly this. If open and agreed nothing wrong with it but communication is key.
Shame so many still take the easy option and cheat rather than actually have a conversation that could potentially lead to better things especially when it comes to bi or experimenting men cheating behinds wives and partners back. The signs are always there - too tired for sex, cum filled boxers front and back, always secretive and defensive if asked anything
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I cheated on my ex and didn’t feel any guilt.
We had 3 kids together but his friends and a bottle of vodka were more important than his family.
That was 19 years ago. Stayed single ever since mostly. |
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"My boyfriend loves me cheating on him and then telling him about it a few days later "
Whilst that is very hot, that isn’t cheating really though, if your partner is fine with it once they find out then it’s just normal fun.
Cheating is, if your partner found out what you did, they would be hurt and feel betrayed.
Whilst what you are doing is very kinky, it’s definitely not cheating.
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