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I came out of a relationship because of this being one of the many reasons why I left. It made me feel like I was doing something wrong and made me feel unsexy. It was always in the back of my mind  |
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"I came out of a relationship because of this being one of the many reasons why I left. It made me feel like I was doing something wrong and made me feel unsexy. It was always in the back of my mind "
This why I've posted this subject..it's caused a few issues with my friends relationships.. |
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"I came out of a relationship because of this being one of the many reasons why I left. It made me feel like I was doing something wrong and made me feel unsexy. It was always in the back of my mind "
It really wasn't you, coming from someone with the same condition. |
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There’s been times when I’ve not cum when we’ve met others - not because of not being excited or turned on but because of everything whirring around in my head.
It’s never been a problem and I’d hope it wasn’t a problem for anyone - just like I wouldn’t think I wasn’t turning a lady on if she didn’t orgasm.
Our minds are a wonderful thing but at times they can be the biggest blocker!
The more people focus on an orgasm as the end game the more it’ll always be an issue.
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DE...
Delayed Ejaculatuon. Unfortunately I suffer from this aswell..
Route cause is probably watching too much porn and wanking every day at 51.. lol.
But also a healthy diet helps.
I manage to abstain from 👊💦 for a while and it does help. |
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I would avoid as he'd make me sore with prolonged fucking, stamina is all good and well as long as he knows when to stop. Me having to make him stop because he's hurting me is not a nice end to a meet. |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on. "
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind. |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind. "
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind. "
I think communication is key when you’re intimate with someone. |
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By *end1Man 1 week ago
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To me as a guy cumming is not top of my list. I'm lucky I can pretty much cum on demand I can go 3 hours non stop or the standard 30 minute before shooting a load.my priority is we both have fun and the lady is left fully satisfied. |
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Although an orgasm isn’t the end goal for me, I enjoy the whole experience regardless. I’ve been with someone that most of the time couldn’t cum and I must admit I felt deflated, like we hadn’t finished. I guess I just assume it’s so much easier for a guy to cum so if it don’t happen I can’t help thinking I’ve failed |
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"Although an orgasm isn’t the end goal for me, I enjoy the whole experience regardless. I’ve been with someone that most of the time couldn’t cum and I must admit I felt deflated, like we hadn’t finished. I guess I just assume it’s so much easier for a guy to cum so if it don’t happen I can’t help thinking I’ve failed "
At first you can put it down to a one off..but if happens over and over..it can feel like you've failed
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I have experienced this a lot this year and I have no idea why?
I've literally had the time of my life over the past 12 months and my mind has been blown in ways I didn't even it could be blown.
So it's a complete mystery to me.
Maybe it's just a phase? But in the meantime and for research purposes I'm happy to keep on trying,😁
I can report back in 12 months with the latest findings,🤣
I'll always tell any partner about it before we do the mango fandango so it's no drama. |
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I have failed to cum once or twice. Nothing to do with how sexy the lady was (ok there was this one time...) but on the whole it's a mindset and sometimes unexplainable so if I was a lady I wouldn't worry that it's you in general. Especially looking at the lovely ladies above. It's a man thing not a you thing. Then add a layer of rubber on top of that and it gets harder. Well harder in some respects. |
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It's happened between us and also when meeting someone from here. But it wasn't unexpected, it was known to be likely and it wasn't an issue at all. It's never been an issue between us either because we both know we find each other very sexy indeed, just sometimes our bits don't connect with how we're actually feeling, for whatever reason. |
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By *apio51Man 1 week ago
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Porn was the main problem for me. I think age plays a part too.
I've been off the porn for several years now and things are much better, however I do still have times when I can't orgasm. Even when I'm on my own. It happened a couple of times with my last partner...the weird thing is that even though I didn't orgasm, there came a point where I felt like it was the natural end to the sex - the feeling was mutual and it helped that she had climaxed also.
But, like someone already said, it's got nothing to do with you ladies. |
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Total honesty… it frustrates the heck out of me… I have a fwb who just doesn’t have the stamina I need and gets tired half way through and gives up before he can cum… so I I struggle to get off anyways and (he believes I get off every time) I just want him to get off and enjoy our fun so when it takes him so long/he gives up it is not the end result I want |
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I get this from time to time. Some times it's because I want her to orgasem first then I have gone past the point and can just keep going. But when this happens its about change. Either go back to kissing more and start slow again or take 5 and tell them indeed a drink. |
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Not being able to come, especially for guys, can be caused by all sorts of genuine reasons, like medication etc. It's not necessarily because they're not into you.
Often we wimminz don't come but presumably we still were turned on the person we were with? Do we expect our partners to be upset if we can't achieve orgasm? |
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This is where communication matters. If he explained to me it’s a known issue for him then I would understand and it wouldn’t bother me. If he didn’t communicate that then yes it would be an issue. |
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I appreciate it can be down to a lot of factors. If it happens now and again with someone it isn't a constant issue with then it doesn't bother me at all. If it's every time then I can start to resent it 💜 |
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"A few friends have mentioned that they sometimes struggle to cum during sex..
Various reasons..it has it advantages but also negative..just curious to what you think "
I don't think it has a bearing on good sex ,the fact you can last is surely of greater interest to most women ,who wants a quick cummer ? |
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It really depends on the reasons. Antidepressants for example can cause issues reaching climax. In those cases it doesn’t bother me.
If I’m forewarned and reassured that they are still having a good time.
If I can sense and see their pleasure even without climax, then it’s all good. If they’re hung up about it, then nothing kills the mood faster or makes me feel inadequate.
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I wouldn't think anything. I think we are all mature enough to know that these things happen and it's no ones fault. It's not because I'm doing anything wrong or because they aren't 'manly' enough, it's either a mind or body problem that's out of their control.
Men need to find partners that will make them feel comfortable enough when the sex doesn't go as planned to be cool with it. And women need to stop making it about them, it's not and it's more frustrating for the man than them. |
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"A few friends have mentioned that they sometimes struggle to cum during sex..
Various reasons..it has it advantages but also negative..just curious to what you think "
Do you struggle to cum Op it's not a problem for most woman so don't let it rule your thoughts and make it worse just get stuck into the SEX. |
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Like with most things, communication and honesty are key here. Long time ago, if the guy didn't cum with me, or if he had to "help" himself cum by having a wank, I would take it personally, in exactly the same way others have said. However, I got educated since, and gained more experience. It has nothing to do with finding me attractive enough - they are having sex with me, so of course they must be finding me attractive! Or they are just very desperate lol. But some men (mainly the "one-shot wonders", who can only cum once and that's that for the day) want to prolong the experience for as long as possible, giving their partner as much pleasure as they can before they cum themselves. As they are aware that, once they cum, they will no longer be interested in anything sexual, probably would just want to have a snooze for a while. So they delay the moment as much as they can, until sometimes they go too far and are unable to cum.
Then there is the fear of premature ejaculation- men train themselves to be able to go for long without cuming. Again, that can backfire and cause inability to cum while having sex.
I think if we all communicated more freely, a lot of insecurities and worries could be avoided or resolved very quickly. |
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"Like with most things, communication and honesty are key here. Long time ago, if the guy didn't cum with me, or if he had to "help" himself cum by having a wank, I would take it personally, in exactly the same way others have said. However, I got educated since, and gained more experience. It has nothing to do with finding me attractive enough - they are having sex with me, so of course they must be finding me attractive! Or they are just very desperate lol. But some men (mainly the "one-shot wonders", who can only cum once and that's that for the day) want to prolong the experience for as long as possible, giving their partner as much pleasure as they can before they cum themselves. As they are aware that, once they cum, they will no longer be interested in anything sexual, probably would just want to have a snooze for a while. So they delay the moment as much as they can, until sometimes they go too far and are unable to cum.
Then there is the fear of premature ejaculation- men train themselves to be able to go for long without cuming. Again, that can backfire and cause inability to cum while having sex.
I think if we all communicated more freely, a lot of insecurities and worries could be avoided or resolved very quickly. "
Its not a problem for me I see it as a bonus when I first started on Fab a few years back I could last 8 hours and I'd say all of the women I went with enjoyed that aspect now I maybe last 2/3 hours but if super turned on could cum but once I cum it's down to pleasing her not that wasn't my focus all along . |
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Personally I struggle with it. I’ve had it happen a couple of times, and although I totally liked the guys I didn’t feel like meeting them again. Just felt awkward and like I wasn’t doing it for them x |
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By *a LunaWoman 1 week ago
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Well, first off, communication is key. A small heads up can do wonders, particularly if it’s a regular thing/is related to medication etc.
But, I have to say that I’ve now reached that point in life where I don’t want to be shagging for hours with no end in sight. I like and need my sleep!
For me, a guy cumming is a turn on in itself. I like toying with their jizz. I wear it as a badge of sexual satisfaction.
Selfish I know. 🤷🏻♀️ |
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I kinda feel relieved I'm not the only one that experiences this. As I'm on anti-depressant I sometimes find not taking it before a meet can sometimes help but experienced this issue long before I started on them. I make sure when meeting people I let them know in advance this is an issue as it was a contributing factor to me splitting with an ex and I didn't know i had the condition at the time |
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Used to be in a relationship with a girl who liked to watch me trying to hold back then just make me cum anyway.
She definitely enjoyed the control she had over me and how powerless I was to resist. |
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"DE...
Delayed Ejaculatuon. Unfortunately I suffer from this aswell..
Route cause is probably watching too much porn and wanking every day at 51.. lol.
But also a healthy diet helps.
I manage to abstain from 👊💦 for a while and it does help. "
Exactly this. Wanking can for some desensitise and he gets used to cumming in that way. An ex partner had this,the only time he came during sex is when he stopped wanking for a week and it nearly killed him  |
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By *ony MannMan 1 week ago
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I will not call it struggling to cum, buti do find I last long with a woman who is enjoying sex to the full.
The more they are enjoying the longer I last.
As for wanking, yes I've been know to and I'm quick.
BJ, it takes a very skilled woman to get me off that way but I do enjoy yhe trying. As for others wanking me, it's normally painful as they pull the foreskin back way to far. Ladies do make sure you know what you are doing before wanking a man. |
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"But some men (mainly the "one-shot wonders", who can only cum once and that's that for the day) want to prolong the experience for as long as possible, giving their partner as much pleasure as they can before they cum themselves. As they are aware that, once they cum, they will no longer be interested in anything sexual, probably would just want to have a snooze for a while. So they delay the moment as much as they can, until sometimes they go too far and are unable to cum. "
Ah now that is something I haven't considered -i guess I just assumed all men can repeat with enough enticement. That makes sense |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance"
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing |
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I too really struggle to cum with others, and have to take things 'in-hand' so to speak. I always warn partners in advance. The advantage is nice long sessions, but have always felt in the back of my mind that I am letting them down by not cumming. This has affected me all my life and definitely has impacted some relationships. |
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I’ve never seen cumming as the indicator of a good play date. There are about 100 other things to prioritise and many times I’ve stopped after a good day or afternoon / evening without cumming because I feel satiated in so many other ways.
I find chasing the O to be missing the point of intimacy. |
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I have learnt that having a connection and attraction to the person really helps. Without the connection it can be hard work but that doesn't mean I'm not enjoying it. In fact giving pleasure, hearing her moan and making cum for the 5th time is equally as enjoyable at my own climax. |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing"
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳 |
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Tbf when I was really shy it was difficult not because she wasn't sexy she was but younger me less exp u tried so hard not to cum to early, but now I enjoy foreplay sooo much then il get up after I've eaten out and just go with the flow if I cum I cum aslong as I've pleased her :D
Trust me ladies it's not you he's probably trying to impress you, or pills may stop???
I'm happy to re load n go again lol |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳"
Isn't the guy saying stuff like that just a line though? |
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"For all you women who feel you're not sexy enough, it's definitely not you I can assure you. "
Totally agree.
And even if we are not hard we still want pleasure you by exploring your mind and touching your body. |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳"
Tbf that would be hot I've not came in a condom that often nor from a blowjob haha |
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"For all you women who feel you're not sexy enough, it's definitely not you I can assure you.
Totally agree.
And even if we are not hard we still want pleasure you by exploring your mind and touching your body. "
I mean, sometimes it probably is us.
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By *eliWoman 1 week ago
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Most of the time (there have been a handful) when it has happened in the past I don't mind. There are so many reasons as to why someone wouldn't come and I really enjoy the journey. There's so much pressure around having an orgasm and I know when I feel like it's the only reason someone is doing something I struggle to orgasm/end up faking it. As long as someone is present in the moment, enjoying themselves and it's been discussed before, I don't see it as a reflection of me.
The only time I have minded is when someone was too fucked out from the night before and despite lying, I knew they'd had sex with someone. Their heart/cock wasn't it. That was an awful feeling. As was the realisation I'd have to get a test done in a couple of weeks. 
Sometimes men watch too much porn/wank a lot and that can desensitise them. Edging for a couple of weeks can normally help fix that.
You can normally tell when things have naturally reached a climax, when both parties are sated even if a climax isn't involved. Sex is about far more than the orgasm. It's that connection and intimacy and desire feedback loop that really does it for me. |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳
Isn't the guy saying stuff like that just a line though? "
His OH was there and she was really surprised, so in that instance I believed him (that he didn't usually cum in a condom) |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳"
Why does this not surprise me 🤣 |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳
Isn't the guy saying stuff like that just a line though? "
Sometimes it might be an attempt to get you to go bare. But there is a definite difference with condoms and it's worth knowing that it might be an issue for him. |
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"Most of the time (there have been a handful) when it has happened in the past I don't mind. There are so many reasons as to why someone wouldn't come and I really enjoy the journey. There's so much pressure around having an orgasm and I know when I feel like it's the only reason someone is doing something I struggle to orgasm/end up faking it. As long as someone is present in the moment, enjoying themselves and it's been discussed before, I don't see it as a reflection of me.
The only time I have minded is when someone was too fucked out from the night before and despite lying, I knew they'd had sex with someone. Their heart/cock wasn't it. That was an awful feeling. As was the realisation I'd have to get a test done in a couple of weeks.
Sometimes men watch too much porn/wank a lot and that can desensitise them. Edging for a couple of weeks can normally help fix that.
You can normally tell when things have naturally reached a climax, when both parties are sated even if a climax isn't involved. Sex is about far more than the orgasm. It's that connection and intimacy and desire feedback loop that really does it for me."
Wow that's bad bless you!
Yes when I was beginning you think How do I last like like porn... wank loads to try n not shoot to fast if you go too far can ruin it also you're right |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳
Isn't the guy saying stuff like that just a line though?
Sometimes it might be an attempt to get you to go bare. But there is a definite difference with condoms and it's worth knowing that it might be an issue for him. "
Absolutely some people say anything to manipulate the situation, if I can't cum jack me off after that works lol |
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"For all you women who feel you're not sexy enough, it's definitely not you I can assure you.
Totally agree.
And even if we are not hard we still want pleasure you by exploring your mind and touching your body.
I mean, sometimes it probably is us.
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳
Isn't the guy saying stuff like that just a line though?
His OH was there and she was really surprised, so in that instance I believed him (that he didn't usually cum in a condom)"
That'll be because be was REALLY turned on. I'm the same with condoms. |
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"For all you women who feel you're not sexy enough, it's definitely not you I can assure you.
Totally agree.
And even if we are not hard we still want pleasure you by exploring your mind and touching your body.
I mean, sometimes it probably is us.
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Maybe compatible?
At my age (52) it's biology or physiology. I have never had a one night stand so learned that I need that 2 way connection. Old school flirting, a naughty message, seductive looks. I agree with previous message about porn, social media desensitising us. |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳
Isn't the guy saying stuff like that just a line though?
His OH was there and she was really surprised, so in that instance I believed him (that he didn't usually cum in a condom)
That'll be because be was REALLY turned on. I'm the same with condoms."
The feeling inside a condom could never compare with the feeling on being inside a woman, skin 2 skin. |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳
Isn't the guy saying stuff like that just a line though?
His OH was there and she was really surprised, so in that instance I believed him (that he didn't usually cum in a condom)
That'll be because be was REALLY turned on. I'm the same with condoms."
Yeah, first meets maybe too - add to the excitement? |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳
Isn't the guy saying stuff like that just a line though?
His OH was there and she was really surprised, so in that instance I believed him (that he didn't usually cum in a condom)
That'll be because be was REALLY turned on. I'm the same with condoms.
The feeling inside a condom could never compare with the feeling on being inside a woman, skin 2 skin. "
Yep, thems the rules tho xx |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳
Isn't the guy saying stuff like that just a line though?
His OH was there and she was really surprised, so in that instance I believed him (that he didn't usually cum in a condom)
That'll be because be was REALLY turned on. I'm the same with condoms.
Yeah, first meets maybe too - add to the excitement?"
Your bum and back will do the job. |
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The guys that I've met that have had issues with this, it's always been psychological.
Fire example... One had watched too much porn/masturbated too much.
Another had an unplanned pregnancy, he was terrified of getting anyone else pregnant. |
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"The guys that I've met that have had issues with this, it's always been psychological.
Fire example... One had watched too much porn/masturbated too much.
Another had an unplanned pregnancy, he was terrified of getting anyone else pregnant."
Yeah I get that, but I feel that's why chemistry is key, talk to eachother so much more fun |
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on.
Yeah, pretty much this. Unless it was discussed prior, then I wouldn’t mind.
Yeah I had a meet where the guy shared that he rarely came in a condom, so I knew the score in advance
This is true it feels good bur nothing like feeling real thing
Doggy style did it 😆😆 I think it was seeing my ass 🥳
Isn't the guy saying stuff like that just a line though?
His OH was there and she was really surprised, so in that instance I believed him (that he didn't usually cum in a condom)
That'll be because be was REALLY turned on. I'm the same with condoms.
The feeling inside a condom could never compare with the feeling on being inside a woman, skin 2 skin. "
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"The guys that I've met that have had issues with this, it's always been psychological.
Fire example... One had watched too much porn/masturbated too much.
Another had an unplanned pregnancy, he was terrified of getting anyone else pregnant."
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In some ways this is a rather sad thread so glad I stopped reading after a few posts. No wonder so many people, whether men ir women, suffer from low self esteem and such like. I must learn to stick to threads about cake only. Over and out  |
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"In some ways this is a rather sad thread so glad I stopped reading after a few posts. No wonder so many people, whether men ir women, suffer from low self esteem and such like. I must learn to stick to threads about cake only. Over and out "
Actually I think it's been really enlightening and I'm glad people are being so open and vulnerable |
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By *ornycougaWoman 1 week ago
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"I came out of a relationship because of this being one of the many reasons why I left. It made me feel like I was doing something wrong and made me feel unsexy. It was always in the back of my mind "
Same. My self esteem is higher now than it was back then but i know it would still be triggering |
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By *aitonelMan 1 week ago
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"I came out of a relationship because of this being one of the many reasons why I left. It made me feel like I was doing something wrong and made me feel unsexy. It was always in the back of my mind
Same. My self esteem is higher now than it was back then but i know it would still be triggering "
The most important part to lowering the impact of the trigger is prior discussion.
If a guy knows he likely won't cum easily/at all and let's it be known then that helps with the self esteem side of it I'm sure. But if he says nothing and it's just not happening then it's of course going to be a big knock to confidence.
Hobestly the world of sex is fucking horrible when you think about it. |
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By *ouple49Couple 1 week ago
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"At the back of my mind I'd be thinking that I wasn't sexy enough to turn him on. "
That’s exactly what Lucy thinks at times, but it’s not usually the case. If he’s been hard enough to play but has been managing to delay shooting it sometimes goes beyond at times and gets to be impossible due to being desensitised, so not a true reflection on how sexy someone is. But we’re all human and it feels like a disappointment I now. I sometimes end up in that position too, but the play has always been superb. |
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"I came out of a relationship because of this being one of the many reasons why I left. It made me feel like I was doing something wrong and made me feel unsexy. It was always in the back of my mind
Same. My self esteem is higher now than it was back then but i know it would still be triggering
The most important part to lowering the impact of the trigger is prior discussion.
If a guy knows he likely won't cum easily/at all and let's it be known then that helps with the self esteem side of it I'm sure. But if he says nothing and it's just not happening then it's of course going to be a big knock to confidence.
Hobestly the world of sex is fucking horrible when you think about it. "
bang on this |
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By *ouple49Couple 1 week ago
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"In some ways this is a rather sad thread so glad I stopped reading after a few posts. No wonder so many people, whether men ir women, suffer from low self esteem and such like. I must learn to stick to threads about cake only. Over and out
Actually I think it's been really enlightening and I'm glad people are being so open and vulnerable "
Mind you cake is always good x |
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I take ages. Cammy turns me on. She is the best partner I have ever had yet there are many time when I know its not going to happen that way and I will ask her to play with me. In a club I can just enjoy the sex without the orgasm. It is what it is |
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