Hey ladies i could really do with a chat and talk regarding a issue i have absolutely no idea on and a hand with a situation, feels easier to talk to a stranger about it then anybody i know as they dont seem to care enough to talk at moment so please eaither write here or dm me if its ok we chat about my situation  |
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Start out with a little 1, a 2, a 1-2-3, a 3, a 5, a 4, a 3-2, 2, a 2-4-6, 2-4-6, 4, 2, 2, 4-7, 5-7, 6-7, 7... 7... 7... 7 7 7 7 7 7... seven. |
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By *eliWoman 2 weeks ago
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"Could you go into a few brief details on here then maybe get a few people's advice? Often helps to look at things from a few different perspectives."
Yep, do this OP. Hopefully as a group people will be able to offer advice/opinions and help and things improve at least a little for you soon. x |
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"Start out with a little 1, a 2, a 1-2-3, a 3, a 5, a 4, a 3-2, 2, a 2-4-6, 2-4-6, 4, 2, 2, 4-7, 5-7, 6-7, 7... 7... 7... 7 7 7 7 7 7... seven."
Alright Monica |
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Its hard to start explaining on a post whats gone off but ill try
For months we been getting close, im the nice guy, the one she has never had, been treated right by any other guy but she knows i do, but she has a lowlife scumbag, abusive woman beater, leeches of her and quits a job after a week or two, takes her cash and always fucks her off and fucks up. Wants mkre of a mother or maid than a gf and dont do shit with her. But she has had 4 or 5 times to get rid and doesnt. Now she pregnant to him and i said this few weeks back she only confirmed it yesterday or day befor, said she would never keep it but now is, but still wants me.
There is more but was hoping for maybe dm chat/phone call, kinda vent and try figure out. We have both fallen for eachother and she makes any excuse to see me or message but also dont. |
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"Its hard to start explaining on a post whats gone off but ill try
For months we been getting close, im the nice guy, the one she has never had, been treated right by any other guy but she knows i do, but she has a lowlife scumbag, abusive woman beater, leeches of her and quits a job after a week or two, takes her cash and always fucks her off and fucks up. Wants mkre of a mother or maid than a gf and dont do shit with her. But she has had 4 or 5 times to get rid and doesnt. Now she pregnant to him and i said this few weeks back she only confirmed it yesterday or day befor, said she would never keep it but now is, but still wants me.
There is more but was hoping for maybe dm chat/phone call, kinda vent and try figure out. We have both fallen for eachother and she makes any excuse to see me or message but also dont. "
Walk away right away. She will never stay with you. I cant message u but have it on good advice. Move on right away. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 2 weeks ago
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"Its hard to start explaining on a post whats gone off but ill try
For months we been getting close, im the nice guy, the one she has never had, been treated right by any other guy but she knows i do, but she has a lowlife scumbag, abusive woman beater, leeches of her and quits a job after a week or two, takes her cash and always fucks her off and fucks up. Wants mkre of a mother or maid than a gf and dont do shit with her. But she has had 4 or 5 times to get rid and doesnt. Now she pregnant to him and i said this few weeks back she only confirmed it yesterday or day befor, said she would never keep it but now is, but still wants me.
There is more but was hoping for maybe dm chat/phone call, kinda vent and try figure out. We have both fallen for eachother and she makes any excuse to see me or message but also dont. "
Seems she's made her choice. If she's keeping it then move on.
She currently has what she wants. Him, for whatever reason, and you. If she honestly wanted to leave him she would, especially as she has you ready and waiting in the wings. The fact she hasn't should tell you all you need to know.
Continuing contact won't change the situation. You'll just be 'that friend' that's there for her to vent to and use for sympathy when she chooses. If you're happy with that then crack on. But the only person that won't get what they want from this three person scenario is you. |
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She knows he gona fuck up again, amd she knows she has cicked him out multiple times but he dont leave and laughs it off, she has made him sleep in a tent in garden multiple times and he has left work multiple times and spinges off her, when i do try leave or i stop talking to her she turns up, her mates come see whats up or contact me, she comes to work to see me, and wont let it happen, same as when i blank her and am to busy on purpose she knows and finds a way to sort something out. Amd then its right back to talking again |
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By *bi HaiveMan 2 weeks ago
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"She knows he gona fuck up again, amd she knows she has cicked him out multiple times but he dont leave and laughs it off, she has made him sleep in a tent in garden multiple times and he has left work multiple times and spinges off her, when i do try leave or i stop talking to her she turns up, her mates come see whats up or contact me, she comes to work to see me, and wont let it happen, same as when i blank her and am to busy on purpose she knows and finds a way to sort something out. Amd then its right back to talking again"
It's entirely in your power to cut contact.
If you want to. |
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What you might have here OP is the less well spotted female narcissist.
She has formed a parasitic relationship with you. If the constant drama did not have an audience she would lose interest in it and move on. You are there to be her audience to all this drama.
Tolerate this is you want to of course. But make no mistake this is costing you. Time, mental peace, and likely any chance of building relationships with other people who might be genuinely interested. If you eat to pay that price just to serve her needs crack on.
Or cut ties and walk away. |
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Ok tough mum style advice.
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If he's an abuser what will he do if he finds out she's seeing you?
You don't want to cut contact, if you did you would have by now. This will drag on until someone gets very badly hurt emotionally and my money is on you. I really hope you're not giving her money.
Give her the number of helplines for abused women and tell her that you will be willing to help her when she leaves him for good.
Or, keep doing what you're doing and hope she changes. |
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To me I think she fills you full of lies so you’ll still wait in the wings for if she does decide she’s had enough of the guy fully. Of course he could be abusing her. But seen this scenario before not everything is black and white and based on one side to a story. |
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Here is my advice and it is possibly saving your life. You can TAKE it or TAKE it but don't leave it.
Get away from this association NOW. Get away from this woman NOW.
Start respecting yourself NOW.
You are not her rescuer. She is a woman not a child.
Turn your back. There is nothing for you but trouble.
Why are you asking women ? Men know things too. Some of them. Maybe 3 or 4. |
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"She knows he gona fuck up again, amd she knows she has cicked him out multiple times but he dont leave and laughs it off, she has made him sleep in a tent in garden multiple times and he has left work multiple times and spinges off her, when i do try leave or i stop talking to her she turns up, her mates come see whats up or contact me, she comes to work to see me, and wont let it happen, same as when i blank her and am to busy on purpose she knows and finds a way to sort something out. Amd then its right back to talking again"
Honestly? These situations never end good. You are the only person involved here who can break away without the maximum blow up in my opinion. I understand you feel for her but honestly mate it's a really messy situation for all. Walk away my friend.. thank me further down the line when you have met someone who got the qualities you have without the drama. Best of luck to you all hope the 3 of you find happiness and peace |
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"Correct! and she is not your responsibility and you are not her Dad.
She's an adult and has made her choices and is loving your attention."
Furthermore has recruited her friends to persuade him to change his mind when he appears to lose interest while indulging in stalker like behaviour. |
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Get out of that situation, she is playing you 2nd best don't be that guy you deserve better, your already questioning the situation so that tells you all you need to know, bounce and find the next  |
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Id be there for her no doubt, but when i do walk away or stop talking to her and tell her i get the calls of her in tears or she comes to see me and whats to know why and what she done. Even her mates have got in touch and said they all like me and me not talking to her is breaking her heart, she so u happy and upset im not there |
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Thankyou all, its pretty clear what needs to happen, i just need to figure out how to not have her coming to see me, or her friends saying she is super u happy, upset and kept herself away since ive stopped, like i say ive had this for three weeks and then get visits of a few people and her in tears to why ive not blanked but hardly spoke to her |
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"Id be there for her no doubt, but when i do walk away or stop talking to her and tell her i get the calls of her in tears or she comes to see me and whats to know why and what she done. Even her mates have got in touch and said they all like me and me not talking to her is breaking her heart, she so u happy and upset im not there"
Ok. Explain to her in unambiguous terms why you don't want to see her. Tell her you are going to block her number and her mates numbers and if she or her mates turn up at your workplace they will be asked to leave. *YOU* are the one in charge here, you're the one who needs to put strategies in place to stop this happening.
If you don't you are showing her she can continue and telling me that you want her to. |
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Just fell her what ever she thinks this is, it's finished and no more contact from her or her friends block them
you gota be straight to the point and don't feel guilty the whole situation sounds absolutely exausting would not give it anymore thought and bin the whole thing off, she is having a baby with that other guy also what a mess poor kid |
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