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Experienced Dom looking for female Subs .
Possibly online fun also would be considered.
Would also be up for dominating female half of a couple online.
Possibly up for meeting the right couples, who would be willing to let the female half be dominated in person, with her man watching.
Possibly open to meeting a couple, if female half is submissive, and her man is a cuck.
Anyone fits any of the above get in touch ,
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What kind of dominating are you looking to do?
What kind of experience do you have that you speak of?
Do you have any references from current or former subs, or friends from events that could give a social reference? |
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"What kind of dominating are you looking to do?
What kind of experience do you have that you speak of?
Do you have any references from current or former subs, or friends from events that could give a social reference?"
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Weird that you make no reference to this side of you anywhere
But, assuming you are the experienced Dom you say you are do you not think some more detail is required?
What type of Dom are you. What type of sub you are looking for. How does your version of online only work. How do you built trust and communication.
So many more questions
But I wish you well
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By *ags73Man 2 weeks ago
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"What kind of dominating are you looking to do?
What kind of experience do you have that you speak of?
Do you have any references from current or former subs, or friends from events that could give a social reference?"
Ohh like a dom list.
Top Dom (I feel the need, the need to punish..)
Good Dom
Mediocre Dom
Bad Dom is top Dom is guess 🤷♂️ |
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"What kind of dominating are you looking to do?
What kind of experience do you have that you speak of?
Do you have any references from current or former subs, or friends from events that could give a social reference?
Ohh like a dom list.
Top Dom (I feel the need, the need to punish..)
Good Dom
Mediocre Dom
Bad Dom is top Dom is guess 🤷♂️"
A Dom that isn't really a Dom...Con-dom |
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By *ags73Man 2 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"What kind of dominating are you looking to do?
What kind of experience do you have that you speak of?
Do you have any references from current or former subs, or friends from events that could give a social reference?
Ohh like a dom list.
Top Dom (I feel the need, the need to punish..)
Good Dom
Mediocre Dom
Bad Dom is top Dom is guess 🤷♂️
A Dom that isn't really a Dom...Con-dom"
One that’s bad with instructions
Conundr-dom |
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"What kind of dominating are you looking to do?
What kind of experience do you have that you speak of?
Do you have any references from current or former subs, or friends from events that could give a social reference?
Ohh like a dom list.
Top Dom (I feel the need, the need to punish..)
Good Dom
Mediocre Dom
Bad Dom is top Dom is guess 🤷♂️
A Dom that isn't really a Dom...Con-dom"
Nooo..... A dim-Dom  |
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"A new dom born today parapadomdom rapadomdom rapadomdommmmmmmmmmmm .....
keeping the season alive.
Johnny Mathis. Dunno how strict he was?"
I was thinking more Bowie n Bing..... the singer not the search engine |
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Mention the D word on here you just get the BDSM police turn up & abuse you ^ all the experts above sheeping away , each new comment gives the next one a little bit more confidence to have a dig….
Just do your thing , you shouldn’t need to advertise, if you’re good you will be a natural funny magnet |
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"A new dom born today parapadomdom rapadomdom rapadomdommmmmmmmmmmm .....
keeping the season alive.
Johnny Mathis. Dunno how strict he was?"
He sang about when we come. So maybe into orgasm control? 🤔 |
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"Mention the D word on here you just get the BDSM police turn up & abuse you ^ all the experts above sheeping away , each new comment gives the next one a little bit more confidence to have a dig….
Just do your thing , you shouldn’t need to advertise, if you’re good you will be a natural funny magnet "
Or maybe they're drawing attention to some huge red flags. Because someone inexperienced might read that and believe him. And not know the sort of discussions they should be having. |
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"Mention the D word on here you just get the BDSM police turn up & abuse you ^ all the experts above sheeping away , each new comment gives the next one a little bit more confidence to have a dig….
Just do your thing , you shouldn’t need to advertise, if you’re good you will be a natural funny magnet "
Yes. Jokes about terminology and asking clarifying questions is abuse. Don't stand for it OP. Truly shocking behaviours from the forumites here 😉💜 |
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"Mention the D word on here you just get the BDSM police turn up & abuse you ^ all the experts above sheeping away , each new comment gives the next one a little bit more confidence to have a dig….
Just do your thing , you shouldn’t need to advertise, if you’re good you will be a natural funny magnet
Or maybe they're drawing attention to some huge red flags. Because someone inexperienced might read that and believe him. And not know the sort of discussions they should be having. "
Oh like a public service ? I get it now, my mistake…. |
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"Mention the D word on here you just get the BDSM police turn up & abuse you ^ all the experts above sheeping away , each new comment gives the next one a little bit more confidence to have a dig….
Just do your thing , you shouldn’t need to advertise, if you’re good you will be a natural funny magnet
Or maybe they're drawing attention to some huge red flags. Because someone inexperienced might read that and believe him. And not know the sort of discussions they should be having.
Oh like a public service ? I get it now, my mistake…."
Yep. Good subs like to help out other subs. And a good Dom would have no objection to clarifying. |
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"Oh like a public service ? I get it now, my mistake…."
More just caring about other humans. I know there's plenty of heads ups that I'd have appreciated when I first entered the scene rather than learning the hard way, and I'm grateful for the ones that did make it to me before I discovered issues for myself.
Call it paying it forward.
Generally I find the only people who take issue with such discussions within the community are those who lose out by people being made aware of those red flags 💜 |
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"Mention the D word on here you just get the BDSM police turn up & abuse you ^ all the experts above sheeping away , each new comment gives the next one a little bit more confidence to have a dig….
Just do your thing , you shouldn’t need to advertise, if you’re good you will be a natural funny magnet
Or maybe they're drawing attention to some huge red flags. Because someone inexperienced might read that and believe him. And not know the sort of discussions they should be having. "
Agree/disagree with you (sorry not very festive of me). If a sub thought that the OP was suffice to plunge further with them, then they really do need to give their head a wobble and do their own research.
My mini rant (not at you, just a general one).
Just because I'm submissive does not mean I'm dumb and that I don't do my own research. That I don't question Dominants and that will follow their instructions without any thought. Funny how many Dom's don't like pro active subs, apparently doesn't make me a sub! I'm not going to allow any Dom, Dick or Harry do the things I like, without thinking about my own safety. There's a constant stream of posts about Dim Dom's, when I think there are just as many Silly Subs who are walking red flags too. |
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By *ags73Man 2 weeks ago
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"Oh like a public service ? I get it now, my mistake….
More just caring about other humans. I know there's plenty of heads ups that I'd have appreciated when I first entered the scene rather than learning the hard way, and I'm grateful for the ones that did make it to me before I discovered issues for myself.
Call it paying it forward.
Generally I find the only people who take issue with such discussions within the community are those who lose out by people being made aware of those red flags 💜"
well said.
I was piss taking in my posts on the thead, but safety and seeing no one gets a rise taken out of them is really important |
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"Mention the D word on here you just get the BDSM police turn up & abuse you ^ all the experts above sheeping away , each new comment gives the next one a little bit more confidence to have a dig….
Just do your thing , you shouldn’t need to advertise, if you’re good you will be a natural funny magnet
Or maybe they're drawing attention to some huge red flags. Because someone inexperienced might read that and believe him. And not know the sort of discussions they should be having.
Agree/disagree with you (sorry not very festive of me). If a sub thought that the OP was suffice to plunge further with them, then they really do need to give their head a wobble and do their own research.
My mini rant (not at you, just a general one).
Just because I'm submissive does not mean I'm dumb and that I don't do my own research. That I don't question Dominants and that will follow their instructions without any thought. Funny how many Dom's don't like pro active subs, apparently doesn't make me a sub! I'm not going to allow any Dom, Dick or Harry do the things I like, without thinking about my own safety. There's a constant stream of posts about Dim Dom's, when I think there are just as many Silly Subs who are walking red flags too. "
I know exactly what you mean. But I worry that enough people read 50 Shades and think that's how it's meant to be. It's absolutely on the sub to do their own research and ask their questions. But sometimes a little signposting from those who have walked the path doesn't go amiss. |
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I read somewhere many years ago there are over 70 different types of D and s.
What works for some definitely does not work for others.
Take impact…a light smack or a deep purple bruise. It all falls under impact but is clearly very different.
Therefore I have no issues in saying that partial alignment is hard to find (amazing when you do) and total alignment even rarer
So if someone states they are looking for a D or an s, once again, I feel greater clarity is needed |
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"Mention the D word on here you just get the BDSM police turn up & abuse you ^ all the experts above sheeping away , each new comment gives the next one a little bit more confidence to have a dig….
Just do your thing , you shouldn’t need to advertise, if you’re good you will be a natural funny magnet
Or maybe they're drawing attention to some huge red flags. Because someone inexperienced might read that and believe him. And not know the sort of discussions they should be having.
Agree/disagree with you (sorry not very festive of me). If a sub thought that the OP was suffice to plunge further with them, then they really do need to give their head a wobble and do their own research.
My mini rant (not at you, just a general one).
Just because I'm submissive does not mean I'm dumb and that I don't do my own research. That I don't question Dominants and that will follow their instructions without any thought. Funny how many Dom's don't like pro active subs, apparently doesn't make me a sub! I'm not going to allow any Dom, Dick or Harry do the things I like, without thinking about my own safety. There's a constant stream of posts about Dim Dom's, when I think there are just as many Silly Subs who are walking red flags too.
I know exactly what you mean. But I worry that enough people read 50 Shades and think that's how it's meant to be. It's absolutely on the sub to do their own research and ask their questions. But sometimes a little signposting from those who have walked the path doesn't go amiss. "
I agree with you in the main. I sometimes feel the message that subs need to be pro active is often lost.
Not relevant to you, you know your onions.
Submissive if you think it's something you want to try, do your own damn research. Would you let a bloke you found on the internet, do your hair and make up for an important event without doing your own research first? If the answer is no, then same applies in BDSM where instead of your hair and face looking a mess, you could end up with an injury. |
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I do agree that if someone makes a wrong comment (or a comment perceived to be wrong) about BDSM they can be hung out to dry by maddened crowds. I am not a fan of that approach, but that has not been done on this thread.
But the background to the maddenecd crowds is that BDSM is a practice where non consensual physical and emotional abuse is rife under the pretext of being "a dominant". Too many people state ' I am an experienced dominant' but have nothing or are unwilling to back up that statement.
Even if someone where to say to me they were an experienced submissive, I would quiz that statement. Particularly due to porn, and media portrayals the words "dominant" and "submissive" as nouns are near meaningless. I don't blame 50SOG, go onto Amazon books and search BDSM fiction 100s of formulaic novels will be found.
It is the obligation of both sides of the D/s slash to do their background checks and be honest about their experiences. They also need to get educated about red flags.
As an example I am very "shibari police" when it comes to rope. I have friends that have been hurt by "experienced riggers". I always advise people being tied to learn the basics of tying as there are people who will hold themselves out as experts but are unsafe and dangerous.
So it is important that both sides have agency to ask questions, and threads like this gives agency and shows people the questions to ask.
Therefore noone should be upset if they have their experience politely challenged. In any case it should be part of the preliminary negotiation/discussion process
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