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Heya all, I’m not sure if this is just me but I always feel on the forums like everyone sort of knows each other and I feel like the odd one out? Are you guys familiar from clubs etc or is there a better way to get to know the forums regulars?  hi by the way! |
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"Welcome! Yes, it definitely does have regulars. A lot of people have got to know each other through posting here and also from group socials. "
ah I see, I always get that kind of vibe! I’m not on her daily but I try to post now and again! It’s nice to get to know you all to Be honest! Do forum meet up groups happen often?
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Hey OP and welcome to the forums. I was in exactly the same position as you a few years ago, but you just get involved and folk will gradually get to know and understand you. And, as Julie says, get to organised socials because many of us do. They’re good fun and nice to meet people in their filthy flesh. |
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Hello and welcome OP. 🌈
Longevity and being prolific on here creates familiarity, kinship and friendships. Quite often these are reinforced by meeting at fab organised socials and soirées where people get to know one another better.
We were all new once and felt left out because we didn't know anyone and didn't fully grasp the carmarderie, the 'in jokes' or the backstory of whatever people were talking about. 🩶
Stay awhile. Don't be a stranger. 🙂 |
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Wow I wasn’t expecting such a warm welcome thank you everyone that commented that makes allot of sense! I’ll just keep at it on the forums and I hope to see you all chatting about lots of filthy fab topics soon if there’s a midlands forums meet up drop me a invite |
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Yup does have regulars. Like most situations in life, it’s prob best to not become too involved. Someone recently mentioned that there’s a chat group of regulars who share photos of people they’re talking to, discuss the messages they send, gossip about each other etc.
Seems like a nightmare |
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"Wow I wasn’t expecting such a warm welcome thank you everyone that commented that makes allot of sense! I’ll just keep at it on the forums and I hope to see you all chatting about lots of filthy fab topics soon if there’s a midlands forums meet up drop me a invite "
Have a look at the ‘Meets, requests and parties’ forum and you can see/search for socials nearby. |
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By *oxy-RedWoman 2 weeks ago
pink panther territory |
Well op I find the forums very welcoming especially the lounge,there are regulars who you get to know sometimes via the forums or on a more chat on a 1 to 1 basis,I used to be a lurker but I join in more now
Oh and welcome 😊 |
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By *a LunaWoman 2 weeks ago
South Wales |
I’m a forum regular in that I’ve been on site using the forums since 2016.
I only know one other forum poster because we met. Other than that, I don’t know anyone and tend to keep myself to myself. |
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"Wow I wasn’t expecting such a warm welcome thank you everyone that commented that makes allot of sense! I’ll just keep at it on the forums and I hope to see you all chatting about lots of filthy fab topics soon if there’s a midlands forums meet up drop me a invite "
You’ve been posting on the forums for over 6 months? |
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By *aitonelMan 2 weeks ago
Away for Christmas |
"Yeah it’s very cliquey OP - hence messages tend to get ignored and there’s a lot of in jokes. Nothing you can do about it sadly. "
There are far more in jokes and actual long lived connections/friendships than actual cliques. Very few actually exclude others, but like minded individuals regulars or not will always band together to challenge those that quite clearly and often try to intentionally cause controversy and air poor taste views.
I've had people tell me I'm part of the clique in the past. Yet I often, despite having been around for years, can get ignored in posts and threads just as much as any newcomer.
It's just highly personality based and takes time for people to be noticed and associated as a recognisable personality and individual. You need to put effort in to be noticed. |
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"Yeah it’s very cliquey OP - hence messages tend to get ignored and there’s a lot of in jokes. Nothing you can do about it sadly.
There are far more in jokes and actual long lived connections/friendships than actual cliques. Very few actually exclude others, but like minded individuals regulars or not will always band together to challenge those that quite clearly and often try to intentionally cause controversy and air poor taste views.
I've had people tell me I'm part of the clique in the past. Yet I often, despite having been around for years, can get ignored in posts and threads just as much as any newcomer.
It's just highly personality based and takes time for people to be noticed and associated as a recognisable personality and individual. You need to put effort in to be noticed. "
I just post what I post |
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By *oxy-RedWoman 2 weeks ago
pink panther territory |
"Yeah it’s very cliquey OP - hence messages tend to get ignored and there’s a lot of in jokes. Nothing you can do about it sadly.
There are far more in jokes and actual long lived connections/friendships than actual cliques. Very few actually exclude others, but like minded individuals regulars or not will always band together to challenge those that quite clearly and often try to intentionally cause controversy and air poor taste views.
I've had people tell me I'm part of the clique in the past. Yet I often, despite having been around for years, can get ignored in posts and threads just as much as any newcomer.
It's just highly personality based and takes time for people to be noticed and associated as a recognisable personality and individual. You need to put effort in to be noticed. "
That's exactly it |
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By *hav02Man 2 weeks ago
Glasgow/London |
After your 100th forum topic you get invited to the hidden forum where monthly meetup tours are organised that are essentially fantasy-come-true for everything you see and discuss with other forumites 
Why do you think those "i fancy you" forums are so popular!?  |
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By *tr8MrEMan 2 weeks ago
Shireoaks, Worksop |
"Definitely regulars lol Hiyah.. I like forums because people actually interact by typing sentences and prove they can read headlines or other responses and form words. Truly rare phenomenon.."
Which always beats "fancy a fuck" in DM |
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People meet at organised social events so do have an idea who each other are rather than a reply on a forum. Peeps are also friendly/supportive of others they've chatted online for a bit, whether it's genuine or misplaced is anyone's guess, but unless your chatting about bin sex or a finger up the bum when someone's asleep, chat about whatever you like - even then you'll probably still get a forum pass |
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By *sWyldWoman 2 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
Welcome to the madhouse.
Some of us have been around a long time, maybe even too long.
Don't worry about not knowing people, just jump in and say hi. In general most are friendly.
There are sometimes lounge get togethers which will be posted about in the meets and events section.
Sometimes though you just might get chatting and click with people enough to even have sex!
Enjoy! |
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By *B69Woman 2 weeks ago
Wiltshire |
Join in the threads OP, eventually people will become familiar and you will get chatting, I’ve never attended an organised social with other forum users but still have people on here I would call friends. |
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By *ags73Man 2 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"I know exactly what you mean. It’s not a dig or a criticism of other users, but as a newbie who’s new to fab and to the scene it can sometimes feel a bit intimidating to get involved!"
Just post when a topic interests you. Not everything will. |
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"Heya all, I’m not sure if this is just me but I always feel on the forums like everyone sort of knows each other and I feel like the odd one out? Are you guys familiar from clubs etc or is there a better way to get to know the forums regulars? Hi by the way! "
Hi hope you are getting klunge and just take part as though you are a regular you may get ignored initially and this may continue until you've been here years but eventually when you're old and grey and over 50 you'll realise it doesn't matter . |
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But stick around and you'll see the circles of friends in play.
The Forum Clique (and cake?)
I have been a frequent poster for 10 years but still feel like an outsider. "
You're an insider to me . |
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Some people have been on and off here for years.
Some have met for the sex and some just socially.
Be true to yourself and chip in as and where you want and you’ll soon see people responding to you
That said I can count my true friends on one hand and none are on here.
It’s not about being popular (maybe it is for some) but it’s about being who you are |
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I’ll agree with the general consensus most have already stated! Yeah of course there are regulars and people who know each other! I’ll be candid, Christ I was terrified and slightly intimidated posting on the forums initially, but just be yourself and post what you want! You can’t and won’t interact with or get along with everyone, so don’t try! It’s a very warm and welcoming community here if you give it time! |
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The majority on the forums are regular.
Some are a bad dose of diarrhea.
Like others I've been accused of being part of the clique which is hilarious because I can count on one hand the number of forumites I've actually met and I only chat to one person who contributes to the forums.
If anything, because a lot of what I say on here tends to go against the grain and I've seen evidence that my name gets mentioned now and again in chat groups as a result of that, it's more than likely I'm on a clique hitlist.
It's all about perception and some people confuse productivity with popularity. |
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By *ir tootMan 2 weeks ago
Burton-on-Trent |
"Morning OP
Just jump on in and join in wherever you feel like it. It’s what I did and you’ll soon feel like part of the furniture "
Same here, wait wait wait a minute...
If I'm a regular now wtf type of furniture am I??? 🤔  |
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"Morning OP
Just jump on in and join in wherever you feel like it. It’s what I did and you’ll soon feel like part of the furniture
Same here, wait wait wait a minute...
If I'm a regular now wtf type of furniture am I??? 🤔 "
A tatty old leather armchair 🤣 |
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By *ir tootMan 2 weeks ago
Burton-on-Trent |
"Morning OP
Just jump on in and join in wherever you feel like it. It’s what I did and you’ll soon feel like part of the furniture
Same here, wait wait wait a minute...
If I'm a regular now wtf type of furniture am I??? 🤔
A tatty old leather armchair 🤣"
I'm sorry why is the 10 year old mattress talking?
(I tried ok I'm no good with comebacks)
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"Morning OP
Just jump on in and join in wherever you feel like it. It’s what I did and you’ll soon feel like part of the furniture
Same here, wait wait wait a minute...
If I'm a regular now wtf type of furniture am I??? 🤔
A tatty old leather armchair 🤣
I'm sorry why is the 10 year old mattress talking?
(I tried ok I'm no good with comebacks)
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Ooooft! Harsh! Though I suppose you’re right, I am like a mattress! Everyone’s had a go on it hahaha 😎 |
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By *_Mr.K_xMan 2 weeks ago
North Worcestershire |
Welcome OP!
Yes there definitely are regulars. People get to know each other through here often and at meets, events and socials. I have been here for a few years on and off so I still only consider myself a 'semi- regular'
But it's good to hear from you and asking the question 😎😊
Merry Crimbo btw |
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"Yeah it’s very cliquey OP - hence messages tend to get ignored and there’s a lot of in jokes. Nothing you can do about it sadly.
There are far more in jokes and actual long lived connections/friendships than actual cliques. Very few actually exclude others, but like minded individuals regulars or not will always band together to challenge those that quite clearly and often try to intentionally cause controversy and air poor taste views.
I've had people tell me I'm part of the clique in the past. Yet I often, despite having been around for years, can get ignored in posts and threads just as much as any newcomer.
It's just highly personality based and takes time for people to be noticed and associated as a recognisable personality and individual. You need to put effort in to be noticed. "
This is absolutely spot on. And I think there are some things that I think help if you want to join in the lounge and get noticed as a man (because it's definitely easier as a woman). These are just my opinion so take or leave.
A name that isn't gross or bland.
A photo that is good and reasonably distinctive. Have a few others but keep it as your main photo until people get to recognise you.
Be yourself (unless yourself is a miserable, desperate complainer - you'll be remembered for the wrong reasons)
Observe - see the hot button topics and how it's actually quite rare for a thread to have conversation. It's a lot of people just sharing their own thoughts.
In terms of the 'clique', I'm in a couple of Alumni groups and they are nice places to be. Talking about fabbers who are not in the group is not allowed. I've never seen face photos shared without knowledge. Maybe it does go on but it's not something I would ever want to be a part of. |
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"Everyone is always welcome to join in the Games Forum. The Politics Forum gets very heated. "
Hence why I avoid the Politics Forum. It can get very heated and personal all because you might have differing opinions. |
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Hello and welcome op.
I'm a forum regular for obvious reasons but also because I've been here and contributing for years. I think I've only met one person from the forum face to face and that was years ago, I only chat privately with maybe three people and I'm often passed over in threads. It's the way these things work.
People come and go, faces and personalities change much like any physical gathering place. There will be some who try to include everyone, others who only talk to people they're attracted to and hope to have sex with, some who just want to stir things up.
Stick around, you might like it |
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"What are Alumni groups please ?"
After an organised social there's often a post event group usually on telegram or discord. If it's a host that runs regular events then the group has a mix of people from several different events. |
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OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations..
In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago |
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations..
In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago "
That’s a great analogy  |
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations..
In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago "
Ahhh. I remember the nocturnal too. Perhaps it should come back.
And bang on for your analogy. Xx |
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations..
In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago
Ahhh. I remember the nocturnal too. Perhaps it should come back.
And bang on for your analogy. Xx"
I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people |
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By *ags73Man 2 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"I'd also say you get out, what you put in - so make an effort to interact, follow up, be a decent human being, remember everyone has something going on in their lives..and don't be a cunt "
This. |
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations..
In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago
Ahhh. I remember the nocturnal too. Perhaps it should come back.
And bang on for your analogy. Xx
I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people "
I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening.
A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment. |
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"I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people
I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening.
A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment. "
You two are talking yourself into a job so well here!  |
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations..
In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago
Ahhh. I remember the nocturnal too. Perhaps it should come back.
And bang on for your analogy. Xx
I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people
I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening.
A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment. "
I guest hosted for Jim a few times, but have steered clear of relaunching for *reasons*.
I'd be happy to pitch in every so often  |
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"I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people
I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening.
A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment.
You two are talking yourself into a job so well here! "
Haha I'd love to do it, but time is sometimes a challenge..a weekly one I could commit to, especially if shared with Julie  |
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations..
In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago
Ahhh. I remember the nocturnal too. Perhaps it should come back.
And bang on for your analogy. Xx
I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people
I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening.
A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment.
I guest hosted for Jim a few times, but have steered clear of relaunching for *reasons*.
I'd be happy to pitch in every so often "
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"I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people
I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening.
A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment.
You two are talking yourself into a job so well here!
Haha I'd love to do it, but time is sometimes a challenge..a weekly one I could commit to, especially if shared with Julie "
Oooft. *bites lip* 🥵🫦 |
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I’ve just managed to get a bug fixed on my profile so i can finally post on the forums!
Took me since I’ve had this profile to get the fabs team to sort it out.
Now i see the regulars on here as I’m trying to interact regularly too. Everyone seems nice ! |
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