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By *EAT..85 OP Woman 5 days ago
Nottingham |
If you could choose, what age would you want to die at?
How many generations of your family would you hope to see born, how many world changes would you want to be there for? Would you cap it to coincide with a loved one? |
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By *EAT..85 OP Woman 5 days ago
Nottingham |
"Before I'm incapable.
Extreme old age isn't pretty if you can't look after your own basic needs.
I don't want to be alone. "
Perhaps I should add if you were in good health!
I 100% agree with you based on health. |
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By *929Man 5 days ago
newcastle |
Being honest I only really care to live long enough to see my kids into adulthood of which they aren’t far off now, after that I don’t care how soon i die, I’d never off myself but wouldn’t be bothered if it was sooner rather than later |
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"Before I'm incapable.
Extreme old age isn't pretty if you can't look after your own basic needs.
I don't want to be alone.
Perhaps I should add if you were in good health!
I 100% agree with you based on health. "
In very good health probably in to my 90s but I don't want my kids to feel responsible for my well being or obligated to look after me. I'd go in to assisted living rather.
I already feel I've seen enough world events to last me several life times and to show me that history really does just keep repeating itself. |
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Just realised that my life insurance now covers me for suicide... 
And with a history of dementia in the family I've already primed a couple of close friends that if I ever get to the point I need a care home then I want a one-way ticket to Switzerland.
Apart from that, so long as I'm not a burden on others and have all my faculties I'll hold onto the kids inheritance as long as I can. |
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I'd go for falling off a mountain aged 90 after learning rock climbing aged 85.
In truth it'll probably be within the next 5 years sitting in my van in traffic losing my temper at some gdd damn awful driver and popping an artery in my brain.
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It’s a tough one.
My Dad is in his 80s and terminally ill, so I have thought about this.
I would say I’d like to go just before being in constant pain and unable to look after myself.
But what if I got better? Even for a while?
Also, I’ve been with someone whilst they died slowly and in pain and I’d rather go out in a bang.
It’s all a bit weird.
You’d think we’d have a better way to do it by now. Bit like pregnancy and birth. It all gets a bit medieval. |
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By *a LunaWoman 5 days ago
South Wales |
Before I start wishing I was dead.
My Nan lived until her 90’s but she was on so much medication for various ailments and stuff that she’d reached the point when she’d had enough and would tell anyone who would listen she’d had enough!
So before that please. |
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"Not until the New Year hopefully
After you’ve had a go on me.
Wise choice
Oh yeah, at least 3 quality minutes into the new year
For you…..I’ll eat a couple ‘o extra weetabix and go 4 minutes. "
I love this ..🤣🫦 |
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"If you could choose, what age would you want to die at?
How many generations of your family would you hope to see born, how many world changes would you want to be there for? Would you cap it to coincide with a loved one? "
Around 1430 and if I could be resurrected by 1435, that would be mega. Have the school run at 1500… |
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I'm not particularly arsed. I've got no kids, no concerns about leaving anyone.
I'd rather outlive my mum because I don't want her having to wrap up my affairs and clear out my flat when part of my estate can pay for that to be done by someone who isn't grieving.
Ideally I'd like to go on the first Sunday in January of whichever year. Enjoy the Christmas break and pop off before I have to go back into work. Perfect. |
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By *oxy-RedWoman 5 days ago
high on a hill with a lonely goat herd |
I guess when my times up as we really dont have any say in the matter
My Dad passed at 84,And my Mams 89 and doing good so will I have the luxury of living that ling who knows  |
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I've always told my family that I want to visit Dignitas when I'm 70 years old ...hopefully before I'm sick or incapable of thought or in pain
It always seemed far away
But I'm 60 in February and it seems very near so I'm a bit confused about it |
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By *andSxxCouple 5 days ago
Birmingham |
"Before I'm incapable.
Extreme old age isn't pretty if you can't look after your own basic needs.
I don't want to be alone. "
You are absolutely right.
It is not age related. My mother is 75 years old. She have is in a lot of pain. And chemo therapy is not helping her either. She said she wanted to die. But they don't give that easily, not even on prescription.
For my part, when my time comes. Quickly, without long suffering. Preferably in bed, after I've cum 1 or 2 times with a woman.😂
mr xx |
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"Before I'm incapable.
Extreme old age isn't pretty if you can't look after your own basic needs.
I don't want to be alone.
You are absolutely right.
It is not age related. My mother is 75 years old. She have is in a lot of pain. And chemo therapy is not helping her either. She said she wanted to die. But they don't give that easily, not even on prescription.
For my part, when my time comes. Quickly, without long suffering. Preferably in bed, after I've cum 1 or 2 times with a woman.😂
mr xx"
Best wishes to your mum and family.
My dad's 97, nearly 98. He's fir, independent and mobile but horribly lonely. He doesn't want to die but he's finding life difficult. |
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I couldn’t possibly say. If I chose 85 now, I’m sure I’d get there and think, “I’m not ready yet!”
If I said, “before I’m in pain and need a lot of care,” it would feel like a disservice to my dad. He’s been in constant pain and in need of care for 30 years, and yet he’s still so grateful for life. None of us see him as a burden.
When it happens, it happens. Hopefully not for a very long time, and that’s a pretty wonderful thing to be able to say as someone who for years didn’t want to be alive at all. |
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"If you could choose, what age would you want to die at?
How many generations of your family would you hope to see born, how many world changes would you want to be there for? Would you cap it to coincide with a loved one? "
said thing is it want to die at least once a day |
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By *os19Man 5 days ago
Edmonton |
A young man I worked with a couple of years ago said he wanted to get to 80 that way in theory he would have had a good life with hopefully good health.A few months ago I heard that within a month he had lost his Grandmother in her 80’s and his mum in her early 60’s. |
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I'd like to say once my children have reached adulthood and have their own lives but I'm fully aware there's no good age to lose a parent so, before I become incapable of looking after myself.
Although the way I'm feeling atm, maybe someone should just put me out to pasture now and be done with it |
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By *EAT..85 OP Woman 5 days ago
Nottingham |
Thanks for all of the input people.
So this thread didn't go quite how I'd intended it, because I didn't put in my opening post that your health would be impeccable. It was more a question of, if you could live healthily forever, how long would you want to live. What would you hang around for! |
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By *EAT..85 OP Woman 5 days ago
Nottingham |
For those people that have posted and are genuinely feeling low, and like they want to die today or anytime soon for whatever reason, please seek help out talk to someone. The Samaritans can offer counsel and support routes. Or text SHOUT 85258 if you just want to text someone and get support. |
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By *ruebameMan 3 days ago
from the womb and tryout to get back |
I think I'll be ready to go when I'm around 67 by then I'll probably be fucked anyway with my job taking its toll on me already don't want to end up being someone else's burden  |
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Given free choice I’d rather have not been born than go through death. All the deaths I’ve seen involve the body really fighting it, which creates pain and misery. I can’t really understand why people have children, it seems to be purely selfish |
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"If you could choose, what age would you want to die at?
How many generations of your family would you hope to see born, how many world changes would you want to be there for? Would you cap it to coincide with a loved one? "
I wanted to die 7 years ago after my soulmate suddenly did. You still have to stay strong Merry Xmas |
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By *ripfillMan 2 days ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
Interesting thread I want to die when I’m not capable of looking after myself and when I become a burden on others,
When I can’t wipe my own bottom
That’s when I think it’s time to turn off the lights
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By *ripfillMan 2 days ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
"Some of you are gonna have a nasty shock about the whole health/disability/burden thing. You don't get to choose. It chooses you and you just have to roll with it.
Pun possibly intended ♿"
I just hope Dignitas it’s more available to defined deserving cases |
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"Some of you are gonna have a nasty shock about the whole health/disability/burden thing. You don't get to choose. It chooses you and you just have to roll with it.
Pun possibly intended ♿
I just hope Dignitas it’s more available to defined deserving cases "
If it wasn't such a financial burden on my family to cease being a disability burden on my family, I'd already have gone |
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Seriously. Any one of you who is presently not disabled or ill or infirm could find that changes in an instant today, tomorrow, overnight. Instead of wishing to be dead, why couldn't we think about how we could improve the world so that being disabled creates much less of a burden?
I am a burden because of structural obstacles.
I am a burden because of the immense cost of mobility equipment, assistive technology and care.
I am a burden because the world expects everyone to be a net financial contributor (which I am, at the expense of my health).
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By *ndoogMan 2 days ago
worthing |
Made more money than I remember.
Spent more than I've ever earnt .
Just loved once , since November.
Each time I guess I'll learn.
And I know I'll never stop this aching heart,
From ever stopping me from falling apart .
I never want to take a dance with death
I never want to take the LAST Breath
Before I get ill .
Happy now . |
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By *ndoogMan 2 days ago
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"Seriously. Any one of you who is presently not disabled or ill or infirm could find that changes in an instant today, tomorrow, overnight. Instead of wishing to be dead, why couldn't we think about how we could improve the world so that being disabled creates much less of a burden?
I am a burden because of structural obstacles.
I am a burden because of the immense cost of mobility equipment, assistive technology and care.
I am a burden because the world expects everyone to be a net financial contributor (which I am, at the expense of my health).
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By *sWyldWoman 2 days ago
Edinburgh |
This is something I do worry about. My dad was just 52 and his mum only 42.
In reality I hope long enough to be that wild woman who should know better but is old enough not to care.
I don't want a care home and if I start to need care, I have told my boys to lace my food. |
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By *ripfillMan 2 days ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
"Seriously. Any one of you who is presently not disabled or ill or infirm could find that changes in an instant today, tomorrow, overnight. Instead of wishing to be dead, why couldn't we think about how we could improve the world so that being disabled creates much less of a burden?
I am a burden because of structural obstacles.
I am a burden because of the immense cost of mobility equipment, assistive technology and care.
I am a burden because the world expects everyone to be a net financial contributor (which I am, at the expense of my health).
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Please forgive me I should’ve been clearer in my reply, as my father did suffer from an incurable type of disease a form of cancer which was making his life particularly painful and was supported only by drugs and daily care in the v late stages of his life
In The inevitability of his death … then certainly it would have been kinder to offer for him an earlier exit from this world , he wanted it to be that, but he was not allowed his choice !
I apologise if there are any thoughtless comments made it was not intended .. I personally i want a choice - I do not want to suffer or live a prolong life in a vegetable state
I would not want to be a Burden for longer than necessary to my family .
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I'm 39 and have needed some level of assistance or care from my family since I was 31.
My family say I'm not a burden but I never believe them.
A lot of comments here make me feel like I'm right.
The way our society views those needing assistance or care as a burden is horrible. |
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"I'm 39 and have needed some level of assistance or care from my family since I was 31.
My family say I'm not a burden but I never believe them.
A lot of comments here make me feel like I'm right.
The way our society views those needing assistance or care as a burden is horrible. "
Despite what people say,I agree with you. On the whole our society is unkind towards people with additional needs of any kind whether physical disabilities, mental health needs or even financial needs. I have often seen it even on here and always challenge it as can't stand people like that. Having said that there are still a lot of people who care and will do their best to support others in a very altruistic manner.  |
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"This is something I do worry about. My dad was just 52 and his mum only 42.
In reality I hope long enough to be that wild woman who should know better but is old enough not to care.
I don't want a care home and if I start to need care, I have told my boys to lace my food. "
I'll be lacing my own food - it's too much on others to ask them to do it.
Although preferably I'd get myself up to the North Pole and have a wrestle with a Polar Bear.
Cuddles, fun, last bit of energy, and a good meal for the big hairy thing.
Unless it then gets a taste for other human flesh, in which case I need to rethink this.
But - Polar Bear wrestle as the last act?
Hell yeah 👊 xx |
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"I'm 39 and have needed some level of assistance or care from my family since I was 31.
My family say I'm not a burden but I never believe them.
A lot of comments here make me feel like I'm right.
The way our society views those needing assistance or care as a burden is horrible.
Despite what people say,I agree with you. On the whole our society is unkind towards people with additional needs of any kind whether physical disabilities, mental health needs or even financial needs. I have often seen it even on here and always challenge it as can't stand people like that. Having said that there are still a lot of people who care and will do their best to support others in a very altruistic manner. "
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By *C44Man 1 day ago
Newbourne |
After having been alone and single and isolated for so long I don't want to get to the age where I can't see that changing then have to face being alone through that. If I don't start a family or find love I wouldn't want to live past retirement. |
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"i have said since i was 20 that people only die because they accept it as an inevitability, i refuse to accept that, i will live forever or die trying..."
I mean, it's definitely an intriguing way to look at things. I'm sure my aunt, who pre deceased my birth, just accepted the inevitability when she was struck by a drink-driver, whilst crossing the road at a marked crossing. She was 16. That's why she died, obviously |
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"If you could choose, what age would you want to die at?
How many generations of your family would you hope to see born, how many world changes would you want to be there for? Would you cap it to coincide with a loved one? "
Id like to be around as long as someone needs me and wants my company.  |
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When the pain becomes too much to control. That’s it.
Speaking as someone who lives with chronic pain, who’s had level 10 screaming, vomiting and passing out pain. If I get there and it can’t be controlled, I no longer want to be here.
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