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This site doesn't give chances to genuine singles..
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? .."
People do give single guys chances, I've certainly given a lot of single guys a chance by chatting to them, arranging a meet etc only to be stood up. It's hard to stand out from the crowd because of the sheer volume of people on here |
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We aren't looking for single males atm, happy to chat to them though, you can bet when we do start looking for them, it's most likely to be someone we've chatted to and made a connection with.
Sadly the single male reputation is a case of a few spoiling it for the many. i (mr.) have experienced it on the fetish scene in the past too. Getting scene at socials and events, getting verifications are helpful in breaking through SOME of the stigma. |
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"Maybe I'm just approaching it wrong mate but I try be respectful and it seems you get looked at different could be me hence the question mark. "
I like your profile, but damnit in out of your age range lol x |
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Putting all single guys in the same pot and saying we aren't given the chance to shine is bollocks. You're just complaining about your personal experience, and attempting to rationalise it by assuming every other guy has the same experience, which clearly isn't the case. |
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The site is just a platform for you to use. You’ve had a couple of cam verifications and a social in a fairly short space of time. So you’re clearly getting to know people. I think perhaps the issue is with your expectations, not the site. |
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You won’t get any sympathy grumbling. Stick at it and try not to let yourself down at any point and then you might get somewhere…but there are no guarantees…
it’s like going to a party when you were in 6th form…so much expectation bur with so little to show for it. |
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By *ruebameMan 12 weeks ago
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Omg are we still seeing these posts I've just come back after a few years away wasn't expecting these posts still going on op you are one fish in a ocean put some effort in it will pay off in the long run  |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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It’s all about being patient.
Some lovely women on here have given me a chance to chat. Just got to bide your time and find them, or even better, they find you |
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"I'm trying my best, but get hundreds of offers a week. I'll get round to you soon 
Your doing so well, I'm proud of you!
Only another 1000 to go you got this!"
By the time I get round to him I will of expired his age preference. I'll hand him over to the younger gals |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"Play the long game my friend. Be kind and respectful and take rejection with dignity. There are some beautiful and decent people on here. If it’s fated you will meet them. X"
Or message them late on a Friday when they've had a few glasses of wine and will take pity on the desperate. |
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By *r TriomanMan 12 weeks ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
This site is just a platform, what you do with it to make the most of it is down to each individual.
Even though I use the Forum, send DMs and go on the Chat, like many on here, I struggle to make a connection with others; that's not the fault of this site, it's the dynamics of the lifestyle an imbalance in the ratio of males to females and the nuances of the internet. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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Don't blame the site. It's not Fab's fault whatsoever. Never was, never will be.
It's easy to throw the blame at this and that, but ultimately it all boils down to these things:
Effort
Politeness
Patience
Luck
People here do give chances to single men and the majority of the time it has nothing to do with how a person looks (unless they're searching for a specific body/face type).
A decent personality has the potential to outshine most of the muscles and shirtless photos too.
The only "issue" is that single men are numerous in quantity. But it still doesn't and hasn't stopped others from being talked to and met.
Because of the amount of messages single women and couples receive daily, you might end up having to wait weeks or months for a reply. Even then, you might never get one anyway.
Also, relying on just Fab is only viable if 1) Like me, you don't care too much about outcomes and just here to have fun or 2) you don't have the time to invest in more than one place.
I'm not saying you or anyone else is doing that, but casting a wider net is absolutely necessary if 1) and 2) don't match your situation.
Just bare in mind that it's the same no matter where you go. All apps and sites are awash with todgers. 😆 |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"Don't blame the site. It's not Fab's fault whatsoever. Never was, never will be.
It's easy to throw the blame at this and that, but ultimately it all boils down to these things:
Effort
Politeness
Patience
Luck
People here do give chances to single men and the majority of the time it has nothing to do with how a person looks (unless they're searching for a specific body/face type).
A decent personality has the potential to outshine most of the muscles and shirtless photos too.
The only "issue" is that single men are numerous in quantity. But it still doesn't and hasn't stopped others from being talked to and met.
Because of the amount of messages single women and couples receive daily, you might end up having to wait weeks or months for a reply. Even then, you might never get one anyway.
Also, relying on just Fab is only viable if 1) Like me, you don't care too much about outcomes and just here to have fun or 2) you don't have the time to invest in more than one place.
I'm not saying you or anyone else is doing that, but casting a wider net is absolutely necessary if 1) and 2) don't match your situation.
Just bare in mind that it's the same no matter where you go. All apps and sites are awash with todgers. 😆"
Actually, it just boils down to if the recipient of the message finds you attractive or not. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"Actually, it just boils down to if the recipient of the message finds you attractive or not. "
Oh, yeah that certainly plays a part in the selection process. Forgot to add that, to be fair. 😅
But looks don't always match their personality. I know this from experience, as I'm sure many others do also.
Looks will get you interest, no doubt. Absolutely agree there. But for those wanting more than a fuck, it'll only get you so far, if you have the personality of a dull rock. |
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"Play the long game my friend. Be kind and respectful and take rejection with dignity. There are some beautiful and decent people on here. If it’s fated you will meet them. X
Or message them late on a Friday when they've had a few glasses of wine and will take pity on the desperate. "
Noted |
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"Play the long game my friend. Be kind and respectful and take rejection with dignity. There are some beautiful and decent people on here. If it’s fated you will meet them. X
Or message them late on a Friday when they've had a few glasses of wine and will take pity on the desperate. "
Noted, I’ll ping you a cheeky message next Friday night xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? .."
Women receive the same types of messages from similar, average, NPC-type guys everyday. I think it helps trying to stand out and being unique. |
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Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. You can get to know the right people, when they understand that you are right for them.
If you are doing the right things to communicate about yourself, then you have every chance that you will be supported by the site, to progress.
But it's essential to have realistic expectations |
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? .."
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? .."
3 verifications in 4 months says you've been given more chances than 95% of the single men here and in less time.
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs "
*Applauds loudly |
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs "
Absolutely this! |
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I've been on and off here for roughly ten years. When I first came on, I had no problem chatting to and meeting people...The site has become really hard for single males in recent years. It seems there are just soooo many men on here now. A lot of whom can't take rejection and get nasty which obviously puts people off... I can honestly say if I was to send 100 messages, I'd probably get 2 replies and yes, it's frustrating as hell.
One of the things I do now is to delete sent messages as soon as I've sent them. That way, you're unaware if they've read and ignored/deleted without reading etc. It tends to take away that frustration of constantly being ignored...
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"One of the things I do now is to delete sent messages as soon as I've sent them. That way, you're unaware if they've read and ignored/deleted without reading etc. It tends to take away that frustration of constantly being ignored...
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That's what I do, but after a few days. Doesn't really bother me anyhow, as I'm under no illusions here. It just helps my ADHD from constantly looking lol. |
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By *agic.MMan 12 weeks ago
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs "
Because some guys do get easy access to sex here...and most men think they are THAT GUY |
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By *jonesMan 12 weeks ago
Plymouth |
"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs
Absolutely this!"
There are lots of single woman as well...and as a percentage I'm not sure single men and woman treat this site differently. There are obviously lots more men and therefore lots more male nutters...but once you take out the keyboard nutters ..I think the single guys and woman look for similar things |
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I don't think it was any better 10+ years ago. If anything the abuse was even more brutal. And generally when it comes to swinging there's higher proportions of men, hence the clubs and their pricing policies. |
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs "
It's not really a swingers site though is it. By design, it is incredibly easy for single men to have blank unverified accounts and message anyone.
If you go by the numbers this is a single guys site that's has a few couples and women who complain about all the messages they send |
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"I wish the dating apps had a forum that I could complain about not getting any matches on 
You could be on to something there. Pass your ideas towards the Dragons Den "
I could be an entrepreneur yet!!
Brains as well as boobs. Who knew? |
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs "
Sorry, I thought the swinging scene was inclusive of everyone? I mean, I did have my doubts due to the attitudes of many on here.
I'll message the owners to see if they can change it to "Fabwingers For Couples & Females Only, Definitely No Men Allowed". |
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By *r TriomanMan 12 weeks ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs
Sorry, I thought the swinging scene was inclusive of everyone? I mean, I did have my doubts due to the attitudes of many on here.
I'll message the owners to see if they can change it to "Fabwingers For Couples & Females Only, Definitely No Men Allowed". "
Depends which dictionary the Fab site is using.
Oxford English Dictionary:
Swinger, a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.
Collins English Dictionary:
"Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners." |
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By *uzzleMan 12 weeks ago
Hastings |
As has been pointed out many times before, the cock to pussy ratio is too high. Just say there are 100 single men to 1 single woman, your chances are slim anyway.
I find Fab is very much like on a night out with the prettiest girl in the pub, every single guy is watching her and wants her but only one will get her (unless she's also a Fabber) and she can choose whoever she wants.
I do find Fab is reflective of real life in that in real life I am less than average in the looks department so I don't stand a chance with whom I like. With Fab it all goes wrong when a face pic is required because my looks don't match the picture that they've built up in their mind, having seen my cock and body pics.
There is nothing wrong with this, its ok. I am aware of my place in society, that's why I've been single for 25 years.
This is why I just use forums, Fab for single guys can be depressing. |
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By *abioMan 12 weeks ago
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"Not sure why you’re saying single guys don’t get a chance.
You’ve had 3 verifications in 4 months.
Many don’t get any at all "
This… I think the expectations as sometimes outside of swinging reality!
People would be jumping at 3 verifications on 4 months! |
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What do you define as getting a chance OP?
At least 3 people have taken the time to at least talk to you enough to leave a verification. Is that not the chance to see if there's a connection or something more to it?
Or is it only a chance when they drop their knickers?
I'm lucky if I find 3 new people in a year that I'm attracted to and excited by. |
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? .."
We disagree.
We only meet with single men and we only meet through this site. Therefore the evidence is that single men do get 'chances' on this site.
What I think you will find is that there are many single men n here that are never serious about meeting and cock block those who are. As an example, we recently advertise a meet in Yeovil. We have 874 messages in 12 hours, far too many to cope with. But guess how many of them were in Yeovil or a short distance and matched our profile..... 3! So the other 871 messages got in the way of us seeing those 3, and therefore a chance to meet was lost.
Another poster, Kernho-ho-ho has given an excellent reply and hopefully through his reply, ours and the many others that have added to this thread you will see that it's not down to the site, that is just a computer somewhere, it's down to human interactions.
You should always put your best foot forward, but expect nothing, that way ypu will manage your own expectations and avoid disapointment. If it gets on top of you have a break for a few weeks. There simply is no magic formula but longevity, decent profile, using all the tools the site has to offer, and getting away from the computer to attend socials and clubs are all good weapons in your arsenal.
Good luck |
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By *bi HaiveMan 12 weeks ago
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs
It's not really a swingers site though is it. By design, it is incredibly easy for single men to have blank unverified accounts and message anyone.
If you go by the numbers this is a single guys site that's has a few couples and women who complain about all the messages they send "
I'd say it's most definitely a swingers site, no matter what others percieve it as.
The single guys that view it the same aren't generally the ones saying the site doesn't work for them, that they're ignored and that they aren't given a chance on here.
I mean.....the clue is literally in the name. 🤷♂️ |
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I will have to disagree, I have met quite a few lovely people on here and socially too. I am a non pushy guy who respects and expects the same. Conversing and laughter allays any fears that someone is fake or a weirdo. Be happy and be nice and friendships and bonds will organically form. |
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs
It's not really a swingers site though is it. By design, it is incredibly easy for single men to have blank unverified accounts and message anyone.
If you go by the numbers this is a single guys site that's has a few couples and women who complain about all the messages they send
I'd say it's most definitely a swingers site, no matter what others percieve it as.
The single guys that view it the same aren't generally the ones saying the site doesn't work for them, that they're ignored and that they aren't given a chance on here.
I mean.....the clue is literally in the name. 🤷♂️"
The internet is replete with sites that are repurposed by it's users.
My point is that fab is more than a swingers site. It's a hook up site, a forum, an amateur porn site, a cam site etc
It's how it's used that decides what it is...
But the previous point still stands. It wouldn't be difficult to manage the mob of single male accounts if the site owners decided it was in fact a pure swingers site. |
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By *abioMan 12 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs
It's not really a swingers site though is it. By design, it is incredibly easy for single men to have blank unverified accounts and message anyone.
If you go by the numbers this is a single guys site that's has a few couples and women who complain about all the messages they send
I'd say it's most definitely a swingers site, no matter what others percieve it as.
The single guys that view it the same aren't generally the ones saying the site doesn't work for them, that they're ignored and that they aren't given a chance on here.
I mean.....the clue is literally in the name. 🤷♂️
The internet is replete with sites that are repurposed by it's users.
My point is that fab is more than a swingers site. It's a hook up site, a forum, an amateur porn site, a cam site etc
It's how it's used that decides what it is...
But the previous point still stands. It wouldn't be difficult to manage the mob of single male accounts if the site owners decided it was in fact a pure swingers site."
Then we get into the game called define “pure swinger”
Are singles by definition pure swingers?
Do you have to put out to people all and sundry on demand?
Too many people look at a profile on a site as the be all and end all…
I personally look at it as one piece of a larger _uzzle.. to go with my profile, I go to socials for example, or I go to clubs as another, any way I can distinguish myself from other people… that there is someone behind just that profile
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? .."
Manage your expectations... No one has to reply to you and you must realise that there are many more men than ladies. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 12 weeks ago
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs
It's not really a swingers site though is it. By design, it is incredibly easy for single men to have blank unverified accounts and message anyone.
If you go by the numbers this is a single guys site that's has a few couples and women who complain about all the messages they send
I'd say it's most definitely a swingers site, no matter what others percieve it as.
The single guys that view it the same aren't generally the ones saying the site doesn't work for them, that they're ignored and that they aren't given a chance on here.
I mean.....the clue is literally in the name. 🤷♂️
The internet is replete with sites that are repurposed by it's users.
My point is that fab is more than a swingers site. It's a hook up site, a forum, an amateur porn site, a cam site etc
It's how it's used that decides what it is...
But the previous point still stands. It wouldn't be difficult to manage the mob of single male accounts if the site owners decided it was in fact a pure swingers site."
In my mind it's not the sites job to do that though. It's a platform created to enable contact between people. Membership of the site is and always has been free. Anyone can sign up.
If some choose to use it for other reasons that's fine of course. Yes there are pictures. Yes there are cam rooms and the forums.
My point being that everyone has equal opportunity to use the site however they choose. Not getting meets or replies isn't down to the site, just the individuals concerned.
Just setting up a profile isn't any form of guarantee that people will engage with you, want to meet or be looking specifically for someone like you.
The ratios don't matter. The approach, preferences, behaviour and actions of people on the site do. It's no different to the real world. 95% of people out there will have little/no interest in you. Just because people are on a swingers site that doesn't change.
*you in general, not a specific 'you' aimed at anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"In my mind it's not the sites job to do that though. It's a platform created to enable contact between people. Membership of the site is and always has been free. Anyone can sign up.
If some choose to use it for other reasons that's fine of course. Yes there are pictures. Yes there are cam rooms and the forums.
My point being that everyone has equal opportunity to use the site however they choose. Not getting meets or replies isn't down to the site, just the individuals concerned.
Just setting up a profile isn't any form of guarantee that people will engage with you, want to meet or be looking specifically for someone like you.
The ratios don't matter. The approach, preferences, behaviour and actions of people on the site do. It's no different to the real world. 95% of people out there will have little/no interest in you. Just because people are on a swingers site that doesn't change.
*you in general, not a specific 'you' aimed at anyone. "
Absolutely spot on. 👌🏻
It's how you choose to use it. Look at certain apps. Some use it for casual, some relationships, some for kinks. All happening in a singular place.
The tools are there for you (the user) to carve out your own purposes. |
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I agree you mostly. I do think it's the sites job to maintain a positive user experience though and would challenge anyone to point out the positive effect of tens of thousands of blank zombie accounts. They actively harm the site and really only generate lackluster orgasms for those blank accounts. And and revenue.
All that to say that while not everyone paints all the men on the site with the same brush, there are plenty couples who think men shouldn't be here and plenty women who tire of the onslaught very quickly and both of those things do make it more challenging for men in general to make connections. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 12 weeks ago
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"I agree you mostly. I do think it's the sites job to maintain a positive user experience though and would challenge anyone to point out the positive effect of tens of thousands of blank zombie accounts. They actively harm the site and really only generate lackluster orgasms for those blank accounts. And and revenue.
All that to say that while not everyone paints all the men on the site with the same brush, there are plenty couples who think men shouldn't be here and plenty women who tire of the onslaught very quickly and both of those things do make it more challenging for men in general to make connections."
I disagree. The site doesn't dictate what people post, write in profile or how they use the site (within the rules).
These blank profiles you mention? They don't affect me and many others in the slightest. Why would they when there are plenty of active, obviously real, well written and well verified profiles to engage with?
Why would someone bother contacting a blank 'zombie' profile? It confuses me.
Couples that don't think single men should be here aren't a problem either. If you're a single guy and here, then them not being interested in men doesn't affect your time on site at all.
Sure, many women tire of endless 'hi', 'hey' and straight into sex chat messages. So don't do that. I've always found talking to people like humans rather than just a means to get my kicks works fine.
Nobody influences your experience on here bar you. Nobody else is to blame for a negative experience. It's not down to luck either. |
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By *oxy-RedWoman 11 weeks ago
pink panther territory |
That's not necessarily true OP ,a lot of single guys do great on fab and like me a lot of women are just looking to meet singles
For me it's all about that first message, so don't give up |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"Sorry if I rubbed anyone up wrong but I'm new to this and should of put a question mark I was hoping to hear peoples opinions not start a civil war lol "
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Not true yes it can be difficult and hard work but single men do get meets. Me and hubby met on this site but his first 2 messages i deleted his third caught my attention been together ever since.
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs "
Fab is the only site on the internet, which single guys can use completely free of charge. Every other 'contact' site charges men to read, and send messages...
The 'Penis Pound' extends beyond swinger club entry fees.... |
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? ..
It's a swingers site, inundated with men that generally aren't swingers, there are tons of hook up sites, I do wonder what makes guys think they'll get an easy fuck here?
Mrs
Sorry, I thought the swinging scene was inclusive of everyone? I mean, I did have my doubts due to the attitudes of many on here.
I'll message the owners to see if they can change it to "Fabwingers For Couples & Females Only, Definitely No Men Allowed". "
The site is inclusive to everyone in my experience.
That doesn't mean I want to fuck everyone or they want to fuck me. |
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By *oxy jWoman 11 weeks ago
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nobody owes you anything its that simple not even a chance theres no free sex for all theirs no entitlement women dont and wont drop their knickers at the sight of men...
guys deep down know what the problems are but would rather blame other things instead ... the biggest problem for most men is other men and the volume of them
and that means quite a big chunk of men will get nothing from this scene at all and with the private/invite only party scene getting bigger it will only get worse but also the best thing for other men is also other men as some men simply will stand out and be successful...
its a select but mostly reject scene |
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By *enelope2UWoman 11 weeks ago
Doesn't matter cant block distances |
I find very few guys are actually single...
Then add those still playing daddy duties
Only in town for the night let's hook up
Dick pictures only
and to seal together the odds to even lower add those that cannot accommodate or can't travel or are nowhere near...the options go below 5% |
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By *enelope2UWoman 11 weeks ago
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"Always someone else's fault. Those bloody women who won't spread their legs for anyone who wants it. What are they even doing on this site if that's their attitude, eh? "
Lol you are so spot on and psychic... Just got a message saying this is a hookup sex site.. yeah it's not a Costa coffee pros-titute site either but that's the expectation... |
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By *oxy jWoman 11 weeks ago
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yes yes guys its a sex site you win however you still lose for it may be a sex site but its a sex site for swingers/kink lifestyles thats the difference ..its not and never will be a free for all sex site that you all so wish/hope for |
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"Not sure why you’re saying single guys don’t get a chance.
You’ve had 3 verifications in 4 months.
Many don’t get any at all "
This! What were you expecting, OP? That, just because it's a swingers site, you'll be swimming in pussy? It doesn't work that way, I'm afraid.
At least you have a decent profile and some pics. And you've discovered web cams. Many women, myself included, only meet in swingers clubs, as it's safer there. |
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"Type error sorry but us single guys don't get a chance to get to know people? .."
Most likely because you rely on the site and do little or nothing else.
The site is just a part of a much bigger picture.
We find that genuine guys get themselves out and about, clubs socials Etc.
Married guys cheating on the Mrs are usually unable to do that, so try to use the site as a stand alone.
There are exceptions to every rule but many couples find that as a useful firewall. |
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Making a connection can be difficult on Fab, the sheer number of men messaging make it difficult to get noticed, engage and connect.
There are however steps you need to take to improve the odds - my opinion, others may disagree.
Be a paid supporter, photo verified, get at least one social verification. Use the forums, join the conversations, participate. Go to social events, meet people in real life.
Have the best looking profile you can achieve. Follow the masses of advice already available on Fab. The majority of women will delete messages based on profile picture alone. If you’ve just a silhouette, you are wasting your time..
Put effort into the public pictures you show and have a well written bio. Good grammar, no spelling mistakes, convey a decent amount of intelligence.
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By *oxy jWoman 11 weeks ago
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"Everyone has a chance, it's nothing to do with the vast amount of single guys, but may differ per location, and finding those who you are able to connect with. And effort "
but it doe's have alot to do with numbers too as women and couples will always select the best option weather its intentional or not meaning the numbers has changed who they will meet ... tho i do get what your saying,,
fill a room with 100 guys and i can only pick one if any most likely none
fill a room with 500 guys and i can only pick one if any most likely none or maybe just a couple i like but can only pick one
fill a room with 1000 guys and i can only pick one there will properly be a few but will only pick one youll always pick the best one available again if you realise it or not but that dont mean sex as most will let themselves down as soon as they open their mouths
thats how i see it anyway
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By *ornycougaWoman 11 weeks ago
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"Always someone else's fault. Those bloody women who won't spread their legs for anyone who wants it. What are they even doing on this site if that's their attitude, eh?
Lol you are so spot on and psychic... Just got a message saying this is a hookup sex site.. yeah it's not a Costa coffee pros-titute site either but that's the expectation..."
Not psychic my lovely... Just long in the tooth on here. Every woman on this site who has their filters open regularly receives these messages, or the inference is that we will swoon at the sight of a cock and are looking to hook up at the drop of a hat. At some point this stopped being a swinging site and became Dial-a-Shag as a result of the massive influx of thirsty guys looking for sex on tap. That's not what a lot of us are here for.
The fact that the OP has a number of veris suggests that he expects to be knee deep in willing clunge.
(There are ofc lots of decent guys on here but they understand Fab and manage to make it work for them despite the odds - and I love them for it.) |
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Echo a lot of what is said before
As a single guy you have to read the bio and if they state anything that excludes you just don’t message.
Also if they say must have pics gets some photos
And even then if they don’t respond. Just leave it and move on.
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