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I don’t care as such, but I wouldn’t make it obvious I’ve had sex with someone- either here or away from fab.
I also don’t display my veris because it’s no one’s business who I have or haven’t had sex with. |
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What I don’t like is the gossip and forced involvement of others who try to project their views and opinions and I also find lamppost pissing a bit odd.
I’m certainly not ashamed of anyone I’ve ever slept with though  |
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"What I don’t like is the gossip and forced involvement of others who try to project their views and opinions and I also find lamppost pissing a bit odd.
I’m certainly not ashamed of anyone I’ve ever slept with though "
Gossip doesn't bother me. I'll correct any falsehoods though. |
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I don't share that info ever. Nobody ever asks me anyway and that suits me fine too.
I've been to a few socials in the past where I've been chatting to a guy, only to be approached by women to say that he's sound and a great fuck. I find that extremely odd. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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Do I tell everyone or boast? No. I might mention I've met up with someone to a mate, but I won't go into details. That's between me and them.
If someone is boasting about their sexual conquest? It's not for me and I couldn't care less. I have a mate who used to do it constantly and bored the hell out of me. Thankfully he's got a missus now lol.
I think it's a bad thing, if anyone they've been with doesn't want to be talked about. It might cause some very negative events to appear.
Claiming a person for themselves? Good for them, if that's what was agreed upon by both. Perhaps it's their dynamic. But it's not for me. I love the freedom of us being able to move around as we please.
If there is jealousy involved and it's not part of the game between people, then I would avoid being involved. |
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Great question.
In simple terms no. If it was down to me it would be very much KTP. People talk about cheating, but it's a lack of transparency, which facilitates that.
I don't feel a need to declare it, but I also don't hide it and I certainly wouldn't from a partner.
When different partners have different expectations, one can end up becoming the vessel with which that gets expressed to each other. Lamppost pissing is quite timid, some prefer to leave more permanent marks.
In the end I just see it as a dramatic rather than verbal form of expression. Good or bad? Generally that comes down to intention not just action. |
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"Do I tell everyone or boast? No. I might mention I've met up with someone to a mate, but I won't go into details. That's between me and them.
If someone is boasting about their sexual conquest? It's not for me and I couldn't care less. I have a mate who used to do it constantly and bored the hell out of me. Thankfully he's got a missus now lol.
I think it's a bad thing, if anyone they've been with doesn't want to be talked about. It might cause some very negative events to appear.
Claiming a person for themselves? Good for them, if that's what was agreed upon by both. Perhaps it's their dynamic. But it's not for me. I love the freedom of us being able to move around as we please.
If there is jealousy involved and it's not part of the game between people, then I would avoid being involved."
Is it boasting? |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"Is it boasting? "
I said IF they're boasting, as in "Oh yeah, I'm a legend, I fuck all the women!" type thing.
If it's normal conversation and everyone is happy talking about it, then no it's not boasting.
Context, atmosphere, willingness of participants. Everything plays a part, y'know.
If you're saying being told about every sexual partner someone has had and you're not interested in hearing it, that's bad. 😆 |
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"Is it boasting?
I said IF they're boasting, as in "Oh yeah, I'm a legend, I fuck all the women!" type thing.
If it's normal conversation and everyone is happy talking about it, then no it's not boasting.
Context, atmosphere, willingness of participants. Everything plays a part, y'know.
If you're saying being told about every sexual partner someone has had and you're not interested in hearing it, that's bad. 😆"
Sorry, you wrote do I tell everyone or boast. I must have misunderstood. If I did mention I've had sex with someone it wouldn't be a boast, or lamp post pissing. I'm a sharer and it would probably be an off the cuff remark . |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"Sorry, you wrote do I tell everyone or boast. I must have misunderstood. If I did mention I've had sex with someone it wouldn't be a boast, or lamp post pissing. I'm a sharer and it would probably be an off the cuff remark ."
Oh, it's alright. I kinda blended telling with boasting in that same line. 😅
But yeah, I'm the same. It wouldn't be any sort of boast or claim. Just a little comment on meeting up, to let people (those closest to me) that I've spent time with somebody. They don't want to hear everything anyhow, even though some are quite open and we've had all manner of conversation. There are limits lol.
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I find it funny like being at school, especially some guys they literally cannot help it, there like fizzing after a fuck…..
Also makes a great ‘who not to meet, fuck or tell anything private to’ list. |
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"I find it funny like being at school, especially some guys they literally cannot help it, there like fizzing after a fuck…..
Also makes a great ‘who not to meet, fuck or tell anything private to’ list. "
Or they feel ashamed because they slept with the fat, ugly one and don't want anyone to know.
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By *HUSH-Man 12 weeks ago
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I like to keep it private and I would appreciate the same in return.
We can all read between the lines. I know social meets can be platonic but none of us are looking for people to play Bridge with here.
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This is why our verifications aren't displayed, to be honest there's nothing graphic in any of them and we don't put details in the ones we write either. We just don't feel the need to display them |
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It's no-one else's business who I chose to spend time with. I prefer not to be involved in any drama that comes with people spouting their mouths off (had it a couple of times)....can't be arsed with games at this stage of my life. |
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"Neris tend to give the game away. "
I don’t like posting veris that include anything sexual. So not always. My veris from people I’ve had sex with and people I’ve met socially aren’t all that different.
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"I find it funny like being at school, especially some guys they literally cannot help it, there like fizzing after a fuck…..
Also makes a great ‘who not to meet, fuck or tell anything private to’ list.
Or they feel ashamed because they slept with the fat, ugly one and don't want anyone to know.
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Hadn’t thought of that side of it tbh.
I’m not ashamed of anyone I’ve ever slept with on here, left a lot of veri's in the past and sine are still visible, but doesn’t mean I want people to know.
I think there was a time in the past I was cool with people knowing but then discovered how toxic it can be on here. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 12 weeks ago
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"That you’ve had sex with someone? Do you make it obvious? Is it a bad thing if people do? Are you even actually put off if someone lamppost pisses on someone you fancy?"
Do I care? No. If anyone has an issue with me choosing to sleep with someone else that's a them.problrm, not a me one.
Do I make it obvious? Only if you count having visible veris obvious. I don't put ads out in the broadsheet, or in those annoying ad breaks that now appear during movies on Netflix/Prime.
Is it a bad thing if people do? Nope. None of my business who people choose to have sex with and likewise what they choose to make public.
As for the lamppost pissing? Again - not bothered. It wouldn't put me off someone just because they see someone regularly, have a strong connection with someone else or because another person feels the need to openly display their feelings.
I'm too old for that shit. Let people do what they wanna do. 🤷♂️ |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"That you’ve had sex with someone? Do you make it obvious? Is it a bad thing if people do? Are you even actually put off if someone lamppost pisses on someone you fancy?
Do I care? No. If anyone has an issue with me choosing to sleep with someone else that's a them.problrm, not a me one.
Do I make it obvious? Only if you count having visible veris obvious. I don't put ads out in the broadsheet, or in those annoying ad breaks that now appear during movies on Netflix/Prime.
Is it a bad thing if people do? Nope. None of my business who people choose to have sex with and likewise what they choose to make public.
As for the lamppost pissing? Again - not bothered. It wouldn't put me off someone just because they see someone regularly, have a strong connection with someone else or because another person feels the need to openly display their feelings.
I'm too old for that shit. Let people do what they wanna do. 🤷♂️"
Wise words |
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Re lamp pissing- I don’t really see forumites sexually, so it doesn’t happen at all. It amuses when I read other people’s though. 
