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"Does anyone miss romance?
The courting part or dating, the getting to know someone, the butterflies when you see them, being tactile
Or is it all about the sex?"
there has to be romance of some level or its just 2 people rutting,,,  |
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The courting part or dating, the getting to know someone, the butterflies when you see them, being tactile
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Nearly six years together and I still feel this way about my partner, I can't imagine it changing tbh! 🥰 |
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I do miss romance to some extent, but don’t miss the fallout when it goes sour.
I really miss fun dates, my last was with a hotwife I was in a relationship of sorts with, but unfortunately that ended due to distance and a bit of stupidity on my part.
I do miss her quite a lot |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"No, because it's my current default state: I'm only here for the flirts, the woo'ing, the courtship and the trysts. 🩶"
you’re off your head dumble
h is starting to like u |
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Be nice to meet someone with the same blood type. In case I need any blood. Single supplement sucks on hols (and sometimes actually does). Flowers occasionally would be nice.
But otherwise I’m dandy being single.
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I like the sex to come with someone who has a stimulating and challenging mind.
Someone not dependent on their feelgood via my adoration of them.
Someone who can walk away and still have an amazing life, as I do, but I bring a bit of extra amazing that adds to their life, as they do for me.
I see "romance" as being too linked to "chivalry", and the infantilisation of women/power command of men for it to appeal.
So, other than my extremely, extremely rare needs to just fuck someone I've only met that night, I don't have just the sex anyway.
But I facepalm when people believe the only alternative is "romance". |
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I don't call it romance..
It's simply connection and chemistry
It's the only sexual connection I will ever do.. if I can't be around them dressed and look forward to their presence I'll never be around them naked.
If they are romantic and still believe in chivalry then that an extra perk of their already rare and great character.
I'm still not marrying or becoming exclusive. ever |
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"If you are looking for romance or to date, fabswingers is the wrong place guys
Mrs x"
Ah I suppose all the singles that have met through here and are now couples on here or off here must have it wrong |
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Do I miss romance? Sure, I do. I have enjoyed being in a committed relationship and giving my all.
Allowing myself to be that open and unguarded with another person is frankly an incredible feeling.
It hasn't happened too many times, but the last one changed my life in many ways. I learned so much about myself. What I would do for another person, the sheer amount I could love, the almost fanatical obsession and admiration of her.
It was the most intense relationship and feelings I've ever experienced with another. I'm even doubtful that feeling would ever show itself again.
In a way, it somewhat broke me as well.
For a time, I thought it was irreversible. I was ready to accept my defeat and simply give up. On everything.
But eventually, I began to use everything I had felt as a tool. I used it to discover more about me and what I was capable of dealing with.
It made me stronger.
It made me capable of seeking out more relaxed situations with people, focusing more on friendships, pleasure and excitement.
And I've never felt like that wasn't enough, even with how much I enjoy romance. They are different things, that have their own merits.
Right now, I can't do romance. I have too much shit to sort out and probably not enough time to do it. I'm not sick or anything, I'm just shit at doing things. ADHD lol.
So while I miss romance, I'm also okay with not having it. I've got other priorities. Now if I can have some fun, friendship, laughter and naughty times, I'm content enough. 😊 |
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"If you are looking for romance or to date, fabswingers is the wrong place guys
Mrs x
Ah I suppose all the singles that have met through here and are now couples on here or off here must have it wrong "
Nope, I'm sure it's happened but won't for the majority of people on here x
Mrs x |
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"If you are looking for romance or to date, fabswingers is the wrong place guys
Mrs x"
My husband and I met through this site over 8 years ago.
Back to the OP, I still have romance with my husband and I hope the excitement we have for each other never fades.
Mrs |
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I think of passion as containing both physical/lust and emotional/romantic qualities to varying degrees
Intimacy is the more discreet factor, being a feeling of closeness, liking and connection. Which can be sexual or non-sexual.
Sex based on passionate lust alone, really needs to be off the chart for me and occurs so rarely I don't even think to seek it.
I can miss those whom I have shared deep intimacy with, it's not something that can simply be replaced. A connection with one person is qualitatively different to that of another. Hence for me it is more accurate to say, I miss the feelings shared with that person than the feelings themselves. |
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No, to be honest, the thought of anything more than a FWB situation feels overwhelming. It scares me. Trusting someone enough to let my guard down, and trusting myself to spot red flags or listen to my gut when something feels off—it all just feels beyond me right now.
I can enjoy intimacy and connection without romance.
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"If you are looking for romance or to date, fabswingers is the wrong place guys
Mrs x
Ah I suppose all the singles that have met through here and are now couples on here or off here must have it wrong
Nope, I'm sure it's happened but won't for the majority of people on here x
Mrs x"
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It's not about majorities. It's not about the numbers. It's about the possibilities. So Fab is one place for romance to happen, amongst other places. |
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By *eliWoman 4 weeks ago
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"No, to be honest, the thought of anything more than a FWB situation feels overwhelming. It scares me. Trusting someone enough to let my guard down, and trusting myself to spot red flags or listen to my gut when something feels off—it all just feels beyond me right now.
I can enjoy intimacy and connection without romance.
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Oh. So you don't love anyone right now? Odd. I could have sworn you declared your love recently. |
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"If you are looking for romance or to date, fabswingers is the wrong place guys
Mrs x
Ah I suppose all the singles that have met through here and are now couples on here or off here must have it wrong
Nope, I'm sure it's happened but won't for the majority of people on here x
Mrs x
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It's not about majorities. It's not about the numbers. It's about the possibilities. So Fab is one place for romance to happen, amongst other places."
Well said sir. 👏🏻 |
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"No, to be honest, the thought of anything more than a FWB situation feels overwhelming. It scares me. Trusting someone enough to let my guard down, and trusting myself to spot red flags or listen to my gut when something feels off—it all just feels beyond me right now.
I can enjoy intimacy and connection without romance.
Oh. So you don't love anyone right now? Odd. I could have sworn you declared your love recently."
I saw this in the forums too |
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"No, to be honest, the thought of anything more than a FWB situation feels overwhelming. It scares me. Trusting someone enough to let my guard down, and trusting myself to spot red flags or listen to my gut when something feels off—it all just feels beyond me right now.
I can enjoy intimacy and connection without romance. "
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Nell darling, are you now reneging on yesterday's declaration of love? Women...so capricious! 🙂💌 |
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"If you are looking for romance or to date, fabswingers is the wrong place guys
Mrs x
How to you come to this conclusion...
Myself and my worst half, met on fab......
Mr "
Just my opinion, not the place I'd look for love but that just my opinion. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion of course x
Mrs x |
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"No, to be honest, the thought of anything more than a FWB situation feels overwhelming. It scares me. Trusting someone enough to let my guard down, and trusting myself to spot red flags or listen to my gut when something feels off—it all just feels beyond me right now.
I can enjoy intimacy and connection without romance.
Oh. So you don't love anyone right now? Odd. I could have sworn you declared your love recently.
I saw this in the forums too "
Well it's all very well zoning in on Nell, buy who's buying my coffee and pizza please?
Maybe some milk as well.
Please ta. |
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"No, to be honest, the thought of anything more than a FWB situation feels overwhelming. It scares me. Trusting someone enough to let my guard down, and trusting myself to spot red flags or listen to my gut when something feels off—it all just feels beyond me right now.
I can enjoy intimacy and connection without romance.
Oh. So you don't love anyone right now? Odd. I could have sworn you declared your love recently.
I saw this in the forums too
Well it's all very well zoning in on Nell, buy who's buying my coffee and pizza please?
Maybe some milk as well.
Please ta."
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"No, to be honest, the thought of anything more than a FWB situation feels overwhelming. It scares me. Trusting someone enough to let my guard down, and trusting myself to spot red flags or listen to my gut when something feels off—it all just feels beyond me right now.
I can enjoy intimacy and connection without romance.
Oh. So you don't love anyone right now? Odd. I could have sworn you declared your love recently.
I saw this in the forums too
Well it's all very well zoning in on Nell, buy who's buying my coffee and pizza please?
Maybe some milk as well.
Please ta."
No deflection, here.
Get her up against the wall, she's got some explaining to do. |
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"I just want sex.
Oh great another flip-flopping woman on this thread. Thought you didn't want sex ever? Women. Say something and stop flip-flopping. "
I can want sex but not want men.
If it's a choice of romance or not, I choose not.
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"Does anyone miss romance?
The courting part or dating, the getting to know someone, the butterflies when you see them, being tactile
Or is it all about the sex?"
Romance and intimacy is a large part of our happy marriage.
Swinging, for us, is recreational sex, parties, clubs and swingers holidays.
Social meets are great too but not after any form of relationship. |
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"Free pizza and coffee for anyone willing to kid*ap and muzzle certain "friends". Nothing drastic, just for a day or so..."
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I don't think short term pizza and coffee is going to vanquish the long term love for your FWB/FB.🧸 |
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By *ularliWoman 4 weeks ago
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"Does anyone miss romance?
The courting part or dating, the getting to know someone, the butterflies when you see them, being tactile
Or is it all about the sex?"
I don’t miss romance. I just prefer getting down to sex.
When romance gets involved it becomes tricky so I avoid it.
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"No, to be honest, the thought of anything more than a FWB situation feels overwhelming. It scares me. Trusting someone enough to let my guard down, and trusting myself to spot red flags or listen to my gut when something feels off—it all just feels beyond me right now.
I can enjoy intimacy and connection without romance.
Oh. So you don't love anyone right now? Odd. I could have sworn you declared your love recently.
I saw this in the forums too
Well it's all very well zoning in on Nell, buy who's buying my coffee and pizza please?
Maybe some milk as well.
Please ta.
You think you’re clever "
 Not with my current run of typos |
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"No, to be honest, the thought of anything more than a FWB situation feels overwhelming. It scares me. Trusting someone enough to let my guard down, and trusting myself to spot red flags or listen to my gut when something feels off—it all just feels beyond me right now.
I can enjoy intimacy and connection without romance.
Oh. So you don't love anyone right now? Odd. I could have sworn you declared your love recently.
I saw this in the forums too
Well it's all very well zoning in on Nell, buy who's buying my coffee and pizza please?
Maybe some milk as well.
Please ta.
No deflection, here.
Get her up against the wall, she's got some explaining to do."
Well once you've sorted Nell out against the wall Hans (you little devil you  ), can I have my shopping please? |
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I put my answer in another thread but basically no I don’t miss romance because I’m lucky enough to have people in my life I can be romantic with. And I’m always looking for more people open to romance. |
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"No, to be honest, the thought of anything more than a FWB situation feels overwhelming. It scares me. Trusting someone enough to let my guard down, and trusting myself to spot red flags or listen to my gut when something feels off—it all just feels beyond me right now.
I can enjoy intimacy and connection without romance.
Oh. So you don't love anyone right now? Odd. I could have sworn you declared your love recently.
I saw this in the forums too
Well it's all very well zoning in on Nell, buy who's buying my coffee and pizza please?
Maybe some milk as well.
Please ta.
No deflection, here.
Get her up against the wall, she's got some explaining to do.
Well once you've sorted Nell out against the wall Hans (you little devil you ), can I have my shopping please?"
I'm not quite sure Nell shares my vision of romance, in this instance.
I'm waiting on my truffles too, patience is a virtue. No harm in a little light entertainment, in the meantime. |
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Give me romance over anything, someone that gives a shit about my day, someone that thinks about me at least once a day, oh and that lingering kiss, when you have fwb you don’t get those you just get kisses, that lingering one that pops your brain ….. those |
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"Does anyone miss romance?
The courting part or dating, the getting to know someone, the butterflies when you see them, being tactile
Or is it all about the sex?"
we still have all this. First time I've ever had it x |
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"We have both. Marriage is about making it work. Think of it like baking a cake. It's takes lots of different ingredients but when all mixed in together it can make something beautiful."
Oh that's beautiful xxxx |
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By *mf123Man 4 weeks ago
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Im learning not to do the nostalgia thing it only gives me that sad dwelling feeling so im not sure i want to feel that anymore rather keep an eye on whats 6 feet in front of me |
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See....I don't need the romance. I'm happily married.
But...
When I do meets outside of clubs I like to make them more like dates. Dinner, night out..whatever then back to the hotel. Bit more than the sex....does that count? |
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"I enjoy dates, flirting, and sex 🙃
Just because it's not a full on relationship, doesn't mean you cant enjoy something with someone and have the nice bits too
I was about to say the same thing "
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I now have both in my life 🥰
It's a beautiful feeling to finally be with someone who is truly sincere; who is benevolent with both their time and feelings; whose sexual needs and desires are actually compatible with mine (a rarity, imo). Most importantly, he treats me with respect and equality (he does not control or demean everything I do, with narcissistic behaviour, like the last person did). Oh, and he has a Fab profile, but we didn't meet here 😊 |
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