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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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In an ideal world what are you looking for in a person on fab? And have you found them?
Me: Just someone who loves being eaten mostly, teased and someone that’s easy to talk to. I’m probably asking for too much *Shrugs* |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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I don't want a FB or fwb or a partner or friends.
I just want hot guys with a smidge of personality I can have sex with now and again.
And I've found a few of those.
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I’ve found lots of fun friends on fab and each has something different to offer, I don’t think - and this is a personal opinion - there would be one person to satisfy all my needs. Which is why we meet different people, isn’t it? |
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Nah I haven't found a FWB yet. To be honest I doubt I ever will and that is fine. Most of the people I seem to have a connection with on here live far from me. Which isn't a problem. But it is if you want to have regular fun.
Anyway I will keep my eyes peeled until the day I leave the site. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"Over the years I've looked for lots of different things.
Did I find them? Well, yes. FB's, FWB's, a wife, a partner and many good friends in between.
Mustn't grumble. 😁"
Very jealous, but equally happy for you.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"Partners and fwbs. - found.
Couples- not found yet.
I am not looking for friends or pen pals but I’ve found loads of them. "
I hear you, I’ve learned to sometimes meet people where they are so I don’t mind pen pals. Everyone is different though. |
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By *abonTedCouple 7 weeks ago
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Initially, a confidence boost and some attention after my divorce. Found that in spades!!
Then something more regular where I could express and enjoy my new self but still keep a distance. Got that.
Then some really lovely sexy friendships. Check.
Definitely was not looking for love, but found that too. And luckily it comes with the best sex of my life 😁
Mx |
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I don't know exactly what I'm looking for anymore. We started down the traditional unicorn hunting route 🫣 but luckily learned pretty quickly that wasn't the way to do things.
Instead I've found good friends both with and without benefits, a partner, and a whole lot of amazing sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"I don't really know anymore apart from someone who fully understands.
No, we haven't found them."
I want this too because I feel it covers EVERYTHING. Hope you find it/them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"I don't attract a lot of those I seek because I have the words 'cannot accom' on my profile, I am not very social at a group level and have no intention of ever attending a swingers club"
I get what you mean, I just putting yourself in environments you are comfortable in. Bars? |
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"I don't know exactly what I'm looking for anymore. We started down the traditional unicorn hunting route 🫣 but luckily learned pretty quickly that wasn't the way to do things.
Instead I've found good friends both with and without benefits, a partner, and a whole lot of amazing sex."
I also adjusted my expectations very quickly after joining 9 years ago. Initially I just wanted sex with someone I found attractive, but realised early on that some sort of connection is an absolute must.
Other than that, it's been a "go with the flow" kind of thing; not looking for anyone/thing specific, but being open to possibilities. |
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"In an ideal world what are you looking for in a person on fab? And have you found them?
Me: Just someone who loves being eaten mostly, teased and someone that’s easy to talk to. I’m probably asking for too much *Shrugs*"
yep and she knows it 2,
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Me: Just someone who loves being eaten mostly, teased and someone that’s easy to talk to. I’m probably asking for too much *Shrugs*"
You could well be in a league where there is too much competition.
Try saying you like being eaten. On second thoughts that will probably attract a different type of competition.
Start again... |
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I don't know how to answer this without it coming across as convoluted. Ideally what I'm looking for is proximity: someone close by and not a million miles away, as is always the case, with whom I can meet as often as possible, to bond with and develop closeness/feelings and synergy without falling into a relationship with emotional ties.
•Have I found them?• I find them often enough but distances and logistics work against me; circumstances change, they leave, the come back, they are unsure what they desire, my circumstances change and that affects them, calendars conflict, the stars sometimes misalign and so forth.
Essentially... it's the distance. That's the overarching spectre. |
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"I don't really know anymore apart from someone who fully understands.
No, we haven't found them.
I want this too because I feel it covers EVERYTHING. Hope you find it/them "
Thanks, hope you do too  |
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"Partners and fwbs. - found.
Couples- not found yet.
I am not looking for friends or pen pals but I’ve found loads of them.
I hear you, I’ve learned to sometimes meet people where they are so I don’t mind pen pals. Everyone is different though. "
Every relationship is different right. It moves at different paces. Some are quick. Some less so. Off the relationship brings you joy, keep it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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I've found myself this year which is far more important than finding someone else .
It would be nice to have something in 2025 whatever that is but we shall see |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"Yes I think I have a nice collection of lovely people 😁"
I’m jealous, I’ve got no one. Maybe I need to spend more time in forums. Very happy for you though |
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"I don't attract a lot of those I seek because I have the words 'cannot accom' on my profile, I am not very social at a group level and have no intention of ever attending a swingers club
I get what you mean, I just putting yourself in environments you are comfortable in. Bars? "
Not even that bud
I haven't drank in almost 20 years
I was a dickhead when I did (not horrible or aggressive, just silly, didn't know when to stop and made some poor choices)
I guess like many reformed smokers don't like being around smokers, I am the same with drinkers - the smell of alcohol on someone is a huge turn off, so I'm very much a cafe meet kinda guy |
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By *abonTedCouple 7 weeks ago
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"I don't know how to answer this without it coming across as convoluted. Ideally what I'm looking for is proximity: someone close by and not a million miles away, as is always the case, with whom I can meet as often as possible, to bond with and develop closeness/feelings and synergy without falling into a relationship with emotional ties.
•Have I found them?• I find them often enough but distances and logistics work against me; circumstances change, they leave, the come back, they are unsure what they desire, my circumstances change and that affects them, calendars conflict, the stars sometimes misalign and so forth.
Essentially... it's the distance. That's the overarching spectre."
Curious how you see bonding without emotional ties working out. I tried that for a good while and was never able to tick both boxes at the same time. |
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We were/are looking for single guys for MFM - not yet found, at least, no-one that we've actually met for this purpose. There's people/a person who might be interested but never really broached the topic with them and anyway, distance.
Also were/are looking for a FWB for me - friends have been found. At least one there's been benefits with but I really don't know if they feel the same (like it's a FWB situation) and anyway, distance.
And in the immediate weeks and possibly months, I'm not fit for action unless it's with someone VERY understanding and who wouldn't mind last minute possible cancellations because I can't guarantee my pain and health situation.
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"I don't know how to answer this without it coming across as convoluted. Ideally what I'm looking for is proximity: someone close by and not a million miles away, as is always the case, with whom I can meet as often as possible, to bond with and develop closeness/feelings and synergy without falling into a relationship with emotional ties.
•Have I found them?• I find them often enough but distances and logistics work against me; circumstances change, they leave, the come back, they are unsure what they desire, my circumstances change and that affects them, calendars conflict, the stars sometimes misalign and so forth.
Essentially... it's the distance. That's the overarching spectre.
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Curious how you see bonding without emotional ties working out. I tried that for a good while and was never able to tick both boxes at the same time. "
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Perhaps the two aren't mutually exclusive after all. I'm not looking for any 'spousal' attachments. |
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By *eliWoman 6 weeks ago
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Nothing. Absolutely nothing.
When I first joined the site I'd discard people in the hopes of finding this ideal I'd curated. Feel disheartened when people didn't match what I was looking for. Was probably a bit of a twunt.
And then I stopped looking for particulars. Opened myself up to adventures and experiences and people.
Along the way I've stumbled across a man who is now my fiancé. ❤️ A boyfriend who stimulates me in so many ways, where it's easy and free from arguments/disagreements. Some truly wonderful friends who bring me so much joy, who make life that litle bit brighter. And I found a bit more of myself. More confidence in who I am. More faith in me.
Maybe not actively looking for something has you finding things you didn't know were right for you. It does for me, anyway. Hopefully you'll find what you desire OP. Enjoy the journey in the mean time though. Life is too short to not live mindfully. 🩷 |
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I don't think I've ever really been looking for a person on fab.
But I reconnected with someone important to me through here. I've found wonderful friends and fantastic lovers. And it's still one of the easiest ways to find out what's on at the swinging clubs.
Fab has been good for me 💜 |
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This is a really good question. What I/we look for changes. It’s definitely very different to how we started out. For me, I don’t really go looking for anything in particular, it’s been more about what has evolved with people. Sometimes it’s been quite unexpected. I like that I’ve met many different people with whom I have different types of relationships and experiences with.
Kx |
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Just open minded friends that I can talk to and have an intelectual conversation with as well as the fun stuff. Saying that, I would also love to find someone that will literally do anything I ask! That would be an interesting dynamic x |
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Looking for a friend first and regular fuck buddy as a result of the chemistry and connection..
Found one once it was greatness
Have a few I still see sporadically but I prefer regular and often. Not once a blue moon and only on their timing.
Still recruiting but not really hopeful that it happens again. |
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