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In the world of fab, who would pay for the hotel if both were unable to accommodate.. the one who suggests the hotel meet or the man?
Opinions and experiences please .
I have been paying as i wished to meet him and I could pick hotel. Never sure if people can afford it or not .. I am thinking maybe next time half it.  |
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"In the world of fab, who would pay for the hotel if both were unable to accommodate.. the one who suggests the hotel meet or the man?
Opinions and experiences please .
I have been paying as i wished to meet him and I could pick hotel. Never sure if people can afford it or not .. I am thinking maybe next time half it. "
Just depends on the situation - sharing is a good idea if both keen or as you say you suggested it, offered to pay is a great gesture too  |
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From our experience, it varies. We have paid a couple of times when we suggested the meet, had it paid for us a couple of times when the other couple suggested the meet, and piggy-backed on our FWB staying over on business.
For me, 50/50 seems fairest as a general rule of thumb. |
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Yeah so splitting is a good starting point, and should be the norm but there are lots of reasons one side or the other might pay more than half. If someone is travelling some distance to see me, for example, or if they are short on funds then I’d be happy to cover the cost. Or if it’s not a budget hotel and we’re going to a particularly posh shag pad then probably whoever’s bright idea that was should cover it  |
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"If a guy wants the pleasure of my company, he can book a nice hotel. I'll bring the fun. "
love this but would feel bad . I am a bit of a softy. I keep getting told treat them mean to keep them keen . lol |
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By *aven.Woman 3 weeks ago
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"If a guy wants the pleasure of my company, he can book a nice hotel. I'll bring the fun. love this but would feel bad . I am a bit of a softy. I keep getting told treat them mean to keep them keen . lol "
Advantages of being a heartless bitch I guess ❤️ |
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"If a guy wants the pleasure of my company, he can book a nice hotel. I'll bring the fun. love this but would feel bad . I am a bit of a softy. I keep getting told treat them mean to keep them keen . lol
Advantages of being a heartless bitch I guess ❤️"
Can i please have lessons lol X |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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I tried to arrange a MMMF on here once. I booked and payed for the hotel myself and was not looking for contributions or chip ins. Got stood up by all 3 males. My rule of thumb is if I'm looking for a certain scenario then I'll get the hotel. If people want to meet me they should have some sort If plan inplace. |
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"In the world of fab, who would pay for the hotel if both were unable to accommodate.. the one who suggests the hotel meet or the man?
Opinions and experiences please .
I have been paying as i wished to meet him and I could pick hotel. Never sure if people can afford it or not .. I am thinking maybe next time half it. "
The woman pays, she also brings the food and hoovers up afterwards - always, without exception! |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"Both. Half it. Both adults. It’s not cheap and the man pays thing is a bit outdated "
This has always been my experience unless someone who wanted to meet was already in the hotel for the night and just wanted a meet. |
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I state that I don't do hotel meets on my profile. If someone tells me that they will get a hotel and I said yes , I would expect them to pay. No way would I pay half I cannot afford it, which is partly why I state no hotels on my profile.
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"From experience so far, on Fab...it's me.
I'm still waiting for the day when the role is reversed."
If you want halves just ask, often people just feel embarrassed bringing it up.
Most off here pay halves , a few have paid for me and I’ve paid for a few. |
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By *8on33Man 3 weeks ago
winfrith |
"I think most guys would pay but it would be nice to at least be offered something.
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Most guys pay by default when the rare notion of an offer isn't forthcoming."
Exactly but thought counts for a lot in my book anyways . |
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By *agic.MMan 3 weeks ago
Orpington |
Very similar to a normal date...if I initiate it I cover the cost. If they initiate it I offer to cover the cost, if they let me cover the full cost, there won't be a second meet...if they say 50/50 I'm happy with that...if they actually say they will cover the cost my heart will skip a few bits and probably fall in love... |
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"From experience so far, on Fab...it's me.
I'm still waiting for the day when the role is reversed.
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If you want halves just ask, often people just feel embarrassed bringing it up.
Most off here pay halves , a few have paid for me and I’ve paid for a few."
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So it falls on the (gentle)men to ask? As opposed to the woman to suggest without prompting? |
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By *eliWoman 3 weeks ago
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"From experience so far, on Fab...it's me.
I'm still waiting for the day when the role is reversed.
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If you want halves just ask, often people just feel embarrassed bringing it up.
Most off here pay halves , a few have paid for me and I’ve paid for a few.
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So it falls on the (gentle)men to ask? As opposed to the woman to suggest without prompting?"
No, it really doesn't. I wish more women would suggest things - if financial stuff could be discussed quickly and simply it would make things run far more smoothly.
I've booked, paid for and organised hotels. I mention it, I get on with it. I like planning and I don't feel comfortable with people paying for everything for me. I like nice hotels, I pay for nice hotels. We shouldn't be adhering to some outdated rules. |
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"From experience so far, on Fab...it's me.
I'm still waiting for the day when the role is reversed.
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If you want halves just ask, often people just feel embarrassed bringing it up.
Most off here pay halves , a few have paid for me and I’ve paid for a few.
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So it falls on the (gentle)men to ask? As opposed to the woman to suggest without prompting?
No, it really doesn't. I wish more women would suggest things - if financial stuff could be discussed quickly and simply it would make things run far more smoothly.
I've booked, paid for and organised hotels. I mention it, I get on with it. I like planning and I don't feel comfortable with people paying for everything for me. I like nice hotels, I pay for nice hotels. We shouldn't be adhering to some outdated rules."
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I agree with everything you've said. Indeed, we shouldn't be adhering to some outdated rules.
But, sadly, some still do. 🩶 |
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By *agic.MMan 3 weeks ago
Orpington |
"From experience so far, on Fab...it's me.
I'm still waiting for the day when the role is reversed.
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If you want halves just ask, often people just feel embarrassed bringing it up.
Most off here pay halves , a few have paid for me and I’ve paid for a few.
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So it falls on the (gentle)men to ask? As opposed to the woman to suggest without prompting?"
I don't know man, I think a lot of women will agree that there's rarely anything less attractive to them than when a man asks "hey can we go halfway?". I personally believe a man should always offer to pay the full cost, and hopefully the woman is decent enough to offer to pay half  |
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By *ixenitedWoman 3 weeks ago
Here or There abouts |
Half's always pay half's, I don't mind accommodating at my home though after I've met them a good few times and assatained their not a total weirdo. And then no one has to pay anything lol I understand why people would never want to accom in their homes though so I'm happy to go Dutch for a hotel |
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By *ustBoWoman 3 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I go halves with anyone new. I won't let them pay it all as I find that idea to be outdated and not fair.
My fwb and I usually will pay alternatively or one will pay for the accommodation and the other will pay for meals. I would never expect nor want a man go be paying for everything. |
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By *arnelianWoman 3 weeks ago
Ely/Cambridge - between the two |
"I go halves with anyone new. I won't let them pay it all as I find that idea to be outdated and not fair.
My fwb and I usually will pay alternatively or one will pay for the accommodation and the other will pay for meals. I would never expect nor want a man go be paying for everything."
This is the best way for me too. Unless I'm already at the accommodation for other reasons. |
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I pay for my own room and if he can't accommodate he pays and I'll visit... otherwise I stick to my own room and my own accommodation..
If he can't pay for a room AND can't accommodate he can't do anything for me consistently and I'm not going to be his type..next... |
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I always offer to pay half, it states so on my profile. If someone insists on paying then that's fine, and I'll pick up the bill for food or whatever. Drinks I go in rounds with the person.
I stated in a really really budget hotel once with someone who insisted on paying. I did offer to chip in so we could upgrade, but they insisted... I'd honestly of preferred they'd took me up on the offer as it was an awful lumpy bed  |
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"In the world of fab, who would pay for the hotel if both were unable to accommodate.. the one who suggests the hotel meet or the man?
Opinions and experiences please .
I have been paying as i wished to meet him and I could pick hotel. Never sure if people can afford it or not .. I am thinking maybe next time half it. "
I pay the mortgage so an hotel isn't required xx |
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"I always offer to pay half, it states so on my profile. If someone insists on paying then that's fine, and I'll pick up the bill for food or whatever. Drinks I go in rounds with the person.
I stated in a really really budget hotel once with someone who insisted on paying. I did offer to chip in so we could upgrade, but they insisted... I'd honestly of preferred they'd took me up on the offer as it was an awful lumpy bed "
Oh, and I ended up paying for the takeaway for us both that night. Which cost more than the room  |
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"In the world of fab, who would pay for the hotel if both were unable to accommodate.. the one who suggests the hotel meet or the man?
Opinions and experiences please .
I have been paying as i wished to meet him and I could pick hotel. Never sure if people can afford it or not .. I am thinking maybe next time half it. I pay the mortgage so an hotel isn't required xx"
But everyone prefers being a hidden discreet secret! |
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" Money, like other things, is tight for the majority these days, is it not? Unless you are all rich overlings."
Sex and the consequences of it are expensive....if they can't accommodate or can't afford a hotel what happens if something worse more unaffordable happens.. |
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" Money, like other things, is tight for the majority these days, is it not? Unless you are all rich overlings.
Sex and the consequences of it are expensive....if they can't accommodate or can't afford a hotel what happens if something worse more unaffordable happens.. "
 well, yes, you are correct of course. |
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" Money, like other things, is tight for the majority these days, is it not? Unless you are all rich overlings.
Sex and the consequences of it are expensive....if they can't accommodate or can't afford a hotel what happens if something worse more unaffordable happens..
well, yes, you are correct of course. "
Budget hotels may not have that touch of glamour but are perfectly adequate for the business at hand. |
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"I tried to arrange a MMMF on here once. I booked and payed for the hotel myself and was not looking for contributions or chip ins. Got stood up by all 3 males. My rule of thumb is if I'm looking for a certain scenario then I'll get the hotel. If people want to meet me they should have some sort If plan inplace. "
Ouch! |
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We book our hotels at our expense, because we are travelling to the area anyway.
There are no reasons we have ever found that mean that someone can't join you in that hotel room for a while. Staying overnight is different, but a 'temporary visitor' is perfectly above board.
Our break, our hotel bill. Always been our way.
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Whoever is trying to meet should have the hotel booked. Like if someone messaged me asking to meet but at a hotel, I'd assume they'd already had it booked. Can't ask someone to meet them and expect the other person to cover any and all expenses |
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Should be 50/50 in this day and age.
But I'm old school.so I tend to pay regardless. But since dinner is always involved when i do hotels (man's gotta eat) I let her buy my meal which I think is fair. |
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If we’re staying overnight then we usually pay.
But most of the time if we’re just using it for the meet then going home we tend to go halves.
It really all depends on the situation each time.
Mrs J |
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Surprised how many women happy to let the men pay on here, I thought they were all modern liberated women?
I tend to accommodate, if you last the night you get an amazing sunrise & I do a breakfast for £12.50. It’s a bargain! |
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"Surprised how many women happy to let the men pay on here, I thought they were all modern liberated women?
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It's possible to be a modern liberated woman without trying to match a man quid for quid |
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"Surprised how many women happy to let the men pay on here, I thought they were all modern liberated women?
It's possible to be a modern liberated woman without trying to match a man quid for quid "
It’s good. I’d like to be a gentleman but that’s an expensive hobby |
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I always offer same as on a vanilla date as a man I pay for meal out.
Maybe looked as bit old school but I don't care
A lady probably spends more money dressing up new stockings makeup etc.
Where man same clothes as worn before bit aftershave and ready. |
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"Surprised how many women happy to let the men pay on here, I thought they were all modern liberated women?
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Quite.
I'm astounded at some of the comments on here."
I am not . Cant all be the same. x |
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"In the world of fab, who would pay for the hotel if both were unable to accommodate.. the one who suggests the hotel meet or the man?
Opinions and experiences please .
I have been paying as i wished to meet him and I could pick hotel. Never sure if people can afford it or not .. I am thinking maybe next time half it. "
well op I'm usually travelling and the hotel is covered on the company dime, but I do insist she brings her own Guinness for the first meet, ain't sharing mine until I'm sure,😉😉 |
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"In the world of fab, who would pay for the hotel if both were unable to accommodate.. the one who suggests the hotel meet or the man?
Opinions and experiences please .
I have been paying as i wished to meet him and I could pick hotel. Never sure if people can afford it or not .. I am thinking maybe next time half it. well op I'm usually travelling and the hotel is covered on the company dime, but I do insist she brings her own Guinness for the first meet, ain't sharing mine until I'm sure,😉😉"
ok will have to be my best Champagne xxx |
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"In the world of fab, who would pay for the hotel if both were unable to accommodate.. the one who suggests the hotel meet or the man?
Opinions and experiences please .
I have been paying as i wished to meet him and I could pick hotel. Never sure if people can afford it or not .. I am thinking maybe next time half it. well op I'm usually travelling and the hotel is covered on the company dime, but I do insist she brings her own Guinness for the first meet, ain't sharing mine until I'm sure,😉😉 ok will have to be my best Champagne xxx "
ohhh in that case, I'll bring the good Whiskey,, I'll sip watching you sip,, grap your coat ,you pulled, |
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By *MCMan 2 weeks ago
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"Surprised how many women happy to let the men pay on here, I thought they were all modern liberated women?
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Quite.
I'm astounded at some of the comments on here. I am not . Cant all be the same. x"
50/50 I feel is fair.
Not even surprised at the comments though considering the number of profiles that have ‘must bring a present’ or something similar.
A little bit of attention quickly goes to people's heads when they aren’t used to receiving.
As for anyone who’s seriously responded ‘they get my company’ I genuinely feel embarrassed for you. |
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I’ve always paid my way, whether that’s a 50/50 split or they pay one time and I pay the next or one pays for the room the other pays for dinner and drinks etc.
I don’t expect someone to cover my costs when I’m dating and I wouldn’t expect it for something more transactional either! (Not sure transactional is the right phrase… I’m not in the trade )
However I did learn the hard way to mention budget, because of my share being nearly £200 once, can’t believe he assumed a nearly £400 a night hotel (that wasn’t even very special) was a good idea without checking first 🤦♀️ plus dinner etc. Unfortunately I just can’t justify that kind of money really (appreciate to some that might not be much) |
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"I’ve always paid my way, whether that’s a 50/50 split or they pay one time and I pay the next or one pays for the room the other pays for dinner and drinks etc."
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That's a reasonable and fair thing to do. ❤️
My observations herein are about those who are echoing each other's sentiments by saying "oh it should be 50/50". Yes, we all know it should be 50/50, but how many have actually followed it through in reality and kept their self-respect intact?
Then, crucially, there are those who are giving lip service by "oh, I always offer to go halves". Why are you offering? Stop offering and start insisting with conviction. Or, for the sake of variety, go one step further and book the hotel for once, and let the other person offer to go halves for a change. |
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