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Do you enjoy having sex?
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I know it’s a stupid question to put on fab but do you?
For me I love it if there is intimacy and chemistry.
I have met men to give bjs and kisses because they wanted but they are there just to cum n go. I’ve purposely stopped meeting men for now for that reasons as I need a proper connection..
It would be nice to meet someone who texts or calls or asks how I am between meets, it’s a lot to ask for nowadays to actually be a friend in a fwb situation. I’ve chatted to some lovely bi men but as usual live hundreds of miles away.
Are you lucky to have found a fwb who actually keeps in contact between meets?
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From my experience most aren't interested in maintaining a connection. I've a couple of friends who do, but distance and life means meeting doesn't happen often. The site attracts all sorts of people looking for different things. Finding someone on the same level where there's also attraction is hard. |
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I like sex. I like the physical act of exploring someone’s else’s body, having them explore mine and enjoying our time together.
I am not looking for a long term relationship - I like the people I meet and keep in touch with them. That’s why I usually meet them again and again because we get on well.
You can explore and enjoy someone else’s body without having to betroth long term love to them which is what I think some people are really looking for. |
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"I love having sex but can over think /get anxious about whether the other person is enjoying themselves "
I am sure you have nothing to get anxious about, by the looks of it anyone would be over the moon to be lucky enough to have sex with you!! |
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"I love having sex but can over think /get anxious about whether the other person is enjoying themselves
I am sure you have nothing to get anxious about, by the looks of it anyone would be over the moon to be lucky enough to have sex with you!!"
Beautiful looking women and handsome men can be shit shags.
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There's a kind of fuzzy boundary between intimacy (in the sense of knowing each other) and involvement in each others lives). They are related but not the same.
For me, it's about authenticity - feigning intimacy to get in my knickers will kill it for me. On the other hand I don't need persistent contact. I'd rather have some meaningful time together, in person, than a bunch of daily check in messages. I can't abide that feeling of plate-spinning relationships by text and never really going beyond the surface with anyone.
It's not offensive to me if the other person's interest is sexual. It will become tiresome if we have to maintain a pretense that it's otherwise to facilitate that though. I enjoy authenticity in relationships. |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I’ve been lucky enough in the past to find someone who was interested in me beyond just meeting up to have sex. It’s nice. I couldn’t do it without that kind of connection being there. |
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On my first year here I was lucky to find not one, or two, but three fwbs who werre like that- lots of intimacy, sensuality and mind-blowing sex.
It all went on for a good 4/5 years. One of them in particular, the friendship went on for nearly six, as delicious and as intense as the first day. But life happens and things fizzle out.
I now realise that I am looking for a repeat of that, a replica of *him* and it probably will never happen again. He is unique. 😔 so that frustrates me a lot. But you never know- Fab surprises you when you least expect it, so that is why I am still here  |
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Yeah I mean, wouldn't be here if it wasn't important to me!
Sex can have various forms though. Sometimes a hot hookup is all that's needed and I can still really enjoy those. Still fascinated by the idea of a glory hole for example. But if they're hot and awesome, yes, all the passion too please |
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"I am a big fan of having The Sex.
I do not like to engage with people who aren't into me as an entire human and act more like it's just a convenient orifice 💜"
I can’t for the life of me imagine not being into you !! You’ve got a lot to offer |
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Putting the friend back into FWB seems like a common request I see - i think a guy who doesnt mind chatting post orgasm or wants to catch up for chat between meets is somewhat rare
A good sign is if theres a lot of non sexual chat that preludes the first meet |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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A lot of questions there
Is sex fun well yeah it feels nice especially for a guy who is almost always guaranteed an orgasm.
When i was younger i was at it so much it was almost an addiction, some felt really good and intense a lot of it just left me feeling flat and in a way ashamed but there is a story behind that.
Nowadays i prefer to make a connection with a sexual partner, FWB whatever you want to call it.
It so much better when you click mentally and physically, i like the idea of quality time together inside and outside the bedroom.
It’s a much more satisfying and fulfilling experience all round.
I do like to spend time keeping in touch before and after meets as the friends part is as important to me as the benefits. |
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Of course I enjoy it why wouldn't you but I get enjoyment out of giving pleasure as well as receiving it .You talk about connecting with that person I require that to in differing amounts depending on the person . |
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When engaged in single combat with "one" woman, I just take my time and tease the fuck out of her, enjoying the buffet on offer. Why not, eh? So much to roam over like the scottish dales, or whatever a hilly, moundy thing means ::D |
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I'm the same as you, OP. I can't enjoy sex without mental or emotional connection of some sort. It's easier for me to find on here, being female, but then I'm also happy to travel when something worthwhile presents itself. Keep looking.
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"I know it’s a stupid question to put on fab but do you?
For me I love it if there is intimacy and chemistry.
I have met men to give bjs and kisses because they wanted but they are there just to cum n go. I’ve purposely stopped meeting men for now for that reasons as I need a proper connection..
It would be nice to meet someone who texts or calls or asks how I am between meets, it’s a lot to ask for nowadays to actually be a friend in a fwb situation. I’ve chatted to some lovely bi men but as usual live hundreds of miles away.
Are you lucky to have found a fwb who actually keeps in contact between meets?
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I won't tolerate or accept anything less... Gets difficult as that's not the way it works over here..here sex is seen as a chore or a dirty secret...fab actually means friends and benefits and is an American term as is fuck buddy etc.. that's why there's so many inexperienced fantasy seekers 40+ years old but divorced with kids etc.. they didn't have a friendship trust chemistry and sexually compatibility ... |
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"I know it’s a stupid question to put on fab but do you?
For me I love it if there is intimacy and chemistry.
I have met men to give bjs and kisses because they wanted but they are there just to cum n go. I’ve purposely stopped meeting men for now for that reasons as I need a proper connection..
It would be nice to meet someone who texts or calls or asks how I am between meets, it’s a lot to ask for nowadays to actually be a friend in a fwb situation. I’ve chatted to some lovely bi men but as usual live hundreds of miles away.
Are you lucky to have found a fwb who actually keeps in contact between meets?
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I do love having sex.
I love having sex with people who I have a connection with.
It would be nice to have ongoing contact with someone in a poly or a FWB type arrangement.
But at present, I'm not fit for action  |
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I want the sex, but I'd love to have the connection as well. Something like FWB's with even closer emotional connection, but without requiring exclusivity. Tbh I hate the way that some people feel they have some kind of "ownership" of others emotions. I feel that emotion, affection, love are things that should be freely given, gracefully accepted, never taken as an expectation. |
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Part time lovers? Giving pleasure because its nice to give?
I mean, I suppose the wham bam, works well sometimes, but does it leave some people wanting just a little bit more?
This planet isn't getting better... Make the most whilst you can, I say |
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Everyone is on here for different reasons and have different fantasies.
Having now been part of a GB, it's not for me. Can absolutely understand the thrill.
But chemistry, kissing and building a connection with people makes a huge difference to the fun.
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By *eliWoman 13 weeks ago
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You can enjoy sex without wanting to keep in contact between "meets".
I've had fwbs who've had more genuine, authentic interest in me than a previous partner - it doesn't mean daily messaging but it does mean that they actively ask me stuff/listen to me rather than just monologuing their world/disappearing once they've come. Until they're next horny.
I don't think it's a lot to ask for. You can find people on here who are compatible with you and want the joy of sex but also like you as a friend. I don't want to have sex, am not sexually attracted to someone without that level of connection there.
I really value intimacy and connection and I'm not settling for less than. You shouldn't either OP. |
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I love having sex with my male friend there’s a real chemistry/lust between us if we invite others to join us they just fill in the in between bits (while my friend has a little rest) & he’s ready to go again |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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Men who know how the scene and women's brains work tend to play the long game but it is always pretty obvious to me who is 'checking in' because they genuinely want to know how I am, and the ones that are just trying to keep my attention by giving bare minimum. If we connect in other ways, then sure it's a nice thing to have both ways but I'm also okay with just minimal communication to arrange meetings. It depends on the relationship you have with someone but I have no time for false connections. |
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By *uzzleMan 13 weeks ago
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I think I've got to the age where it just isn't worth the effort and its overated anyway for me. I haven't dated for 20 years.
Think about how much effort, time, chatting up, wining & dining, expense, emotional investment etc you put into trying to get a meet or dating. The effort is greater than the return for me.
Whether you have sex, a wank, fuck a fleshlight etc, the end result is the same, you shoot your load as a frustration release - job done! |
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