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Blocking.....knee jerk etc
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Blocking is obviously a big thing and often necessary but is it always? People set their tastes and requirements but just consider for a moment that u could be missing out on that guy or girl or couple for being closed minded and not exploring what's on offer? A guy or girl may not advertise bi but could be your perfect match..just new to their boundaries and interests? Maybe they are curious but new? Maybe you could be the people they need to progress??? Topic for chat? Let me know? |
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There's more than enough people who do provide enough information to indicate compatibility.
I don't have the time or patience to drag things out of someone who doesn't know or express what they want 💜 |
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By (user no longer on site) 16 weeks ago
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I always trust my gut instinct on these things.
If I feel it is in our best interests to block them I will. If they were the perfect person or couple I wouldn't be blocking them since they wouldn't give us cause to. |
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Blocking people is not closed minded. I block all the time. I am not missing out on anybody because I have already decided I don't want to meet them or explore the possibility. Equally if people block me they are not missing out either, it just means I am not for them (or I have pissed them off in the forum).
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I get blocked by many, I get over it after a nanosecond of indifference.
Rather than hiding who you are, or waiting until a conversation is struck up……..just give people enough information to make a choice. |
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"I block people if they persist even after I have Politely declined, if they have sent abusive message or can't grasp the concept of the word no "
Exactly this. A no thanks is just that. I don't then need messages as to why I'm wrong. |
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I've lost count of how many times I've been told it's "my loss" or I'm "missing out" for not agreeing to meet someone I have zero interest in meeting.
I am old enough and ugly enough to know what I like.
I'll take those chances, mate. |
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I block if I get a no thank you, and for those who are unable to send constructive messages.
I sometimes block people who I don't want to see on my various lists on my timelines.
It's all a personal preference and thats ok. Imagine if we were all the same..   |
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"I've lost count of how many times I've been told it's "my loss" or I'm "missing out" for not agreeing to meet someone I have zero interest in meeting.
I am old enough and ugly enough to know what I like.
I'll take those chances, mate."
I don't get this. Why do people feel the need to message like that.. it's not like you are going to suddenly change your mind because of this ground breaking news lol..
It's like running up to a ref and shouting at them.. and expecting them to change Thier mind based on what you have said.. not very likely. |
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"There's more than enough people who do provide enough information to indicate compatibility.
I don't have the time or patience to drag things out of someone who doesn't know or express what they want 💜"
This all day long.
OP, over the course of a week I might get 20 or 30 people messaging me asking to chat, whilst their profile gives no indication of compatibility. It's completely impractical to do so just on the off chance that one might be perfect for me. I don't have the time or mental energy for it.
Am I missing out. Who knows? It certainly doesn't keep me awake at night. There are plenty of great people out there who do set out their stall clearly from the outset for me to worry about those who can't or won't |
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By *AYENCouple 16 weeks ago
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We like to keep the messages that we receive down to a minimum, so we block single guys that we feel aren't compatible - if we miss out on a gem because their write up (or lack of), pictures (or lack of) transmit (to us) the wrong message, so be it, we'll survive and I'm sure they will too. K. |
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I don't think there's much wrong with a knee-jerk block. Sometimes you know very quickly if you'd want to meet someone or not, and it just saves bother.
In your specific bi-example, could that someone say "bi-curious" if they wanted to indicate it was something they were interested in exploring? |
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"Blocking is obviously a big thing and often necessary but is it always? People set their tastes and requirements but just consider for a moment that u could be missing out on that guy or girl or couple for being closed minded and not exploring what's on offer? A guy or girl may not advertise bi but could be your perfect match..just new to their boundaries and interests? Maybe they are curious but new? Maybe you could be the people they need to progress??? Topic for chat? Let me know? "
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I've always struggled to understand how having filters or blocking someone can lead to "missing out"?
If I've set my preferences and/or block you because I don't like your attitude/location/verifications/etc I'm not really missing out on anything am I?
I can't miss out on something I wasn't looking for in the first place.
Blocking is never knee jerk.
Blocking is often due to them being a jerk. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 16 weeks ago
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On the couples profile we proactively block when browsing. Means people we know we'll never be interested in won't keep popping up in searches.
Add those that ignore the bit about sending random friends requests, those with a gallery chock a block with dick pics, those that have anything in their text that makes us go 🤮, married guys playing away and people who have 'borrowed' photos from the Internet.
It's just good housekeeping. A block is just a permanent filter, not an insult.
We're not missing out at all. |
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If they're not for me, then I'm not missing out by blocking them op.
I much prefer straight forward people who are open about who they are and what they are looking for. So if I get any sense that something isn't matching up with what they've claimed, then I'd probably block them.
We can't be for all and the block button is there as a good tool, I block all sorts of people I have no interest in getting to know and filter others out.
It makes it more likely I'll hear from those I'm looking for. |
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"On the couples profile we proactively block when browsing. Means people we know we'll never be interested in won't keep popping up in searches.
Add those that ignore the bit about sending random friends requests, those with a gallery chock a block with dick pics, those that have anything in their text that makes us go 🤮, married guys playing away and people who have 'borrowed' photos from the Internet.
It's just good housekeeping. A block is just a permanent filter, not an insult.
We're not missing out at all. "
Exactly this for us too, it also saves others time when they have messaged us before and were given a no and 6 months down the line have messaged again and forgotten |
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"Blocking is obviously a big thing and often necessary but is it always? People set their tastes and requirements but just consider for a moment that u could be missing out on that guy or girl or couple for being closed minded and not exploring what's on offer? A guy or girl may not advertise bi but could be your perfect match..just new to their boundaries and interests? Maybe they are curious but new? Maybe you could be the people they need to progress??? Topic for chat? Let me know? "
They already have plenty to choose from it doesn't matter to them .
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"Blocking is obviously a big thing and often necessary but is it always? People set their tastes and requirements but just consider for a moment that u could be missing out on that guy or girl or couple for being closed minded and not exploring what's on offer? A guy or girl may not advertise bi but could be your perfect match..just new to their boundaries and interests? Maybe they are curious but new? Maybe you could be the people they need to progress??? Topic for chat? Let me know? "
No. I’m perfectly capable of assessing who I may be interested in, thanks. I’m not missing out because I’m not attracted to them. I don’t need a moment to ‘consider’. I dont think twice when hitting the block button. If there was any doubt, I wouldn’t use it. |
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I don't really ever block anyone unless they're particularly annoying.
BUT, I'm not here to coach someone through their sexuality or experimental phases. I know what I like and I'm looking for others who know what they like too, can communicate it clearly and are confident enough to own it. |
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Simple answer is convenience. If you've exchanged a few messages and you realise the other peeps are not for you or vice versa it's best to block to avoid picking up the thread again and realise you have already rejected and yes of course I'd rather people reciprocated as it means no confusion. |
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If I receive a spam email I will try to unsubscribe to save myself getting any further emails from a company I've not contacted selling me something I'm not interested in.
I view blocking the same way. |
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No one likes to be excluded and filters/blocking reinforce that. You can put great info on your bio and folk will ignore it and message anyway. Blocking at least gives some control back to the profile owner. |
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I don’t mind and I rationalise it quickly but I have to admit to the immediate emotional response/ knee jerk reaction to discovering a Block is.. ‘what did I do wrong? What’s so bad that they needed to block me? 🥴 |
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By (user no longer on site) 16 weeks ago
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Counter block and if they change their minds and realise they were missing out it’s too late!!
You can have a smug sense of potential satisfaction and turn into a fun game!!
Just a tip if you overthink and take this site too seriously or you’re not going to enjoy it
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By (user no longer on site) 16 weeks ago
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Here's the scenario op.
Option A who fits all my preferences, or Option B who doesn't but I should make the time just incase I miss out on the 'one'.
Tough choice.
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By (user no longer on site) 16 weeks ago
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I block all women who specifically say black men only. Cocks over 8" or men over 6ft. I also block woman that don't want over 50's.
That way they don't keep showing up in my feed.
I won't waste their time and they won't waste mine |
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Most people block. If a couple or single people don't want the same things as us, blocking stops their profile showing up in searches.
When we joined the site we would always message people and reject where appropriate. It often resulted in rude and inappropriate responses.
Blocking as abrupt as it may seem, is often the easiest way. |
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By *enelope2UWoman 16 weeks ago
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Disagree with every aspect..
Maybe that mindset applies to someone who themselves are unsure of who they are, what they offer, and what they enjoy. I know straight away if a person is compatible based if their very clear red flags. So I don't backtrack to what could have been or might have been I accept what is... Will or would that person change..perhaps... am I the one that wants to play build a bear in the process of that change... No
It's simple..I'm not your type and then it's a block. |
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By (user no longer on site) 16 weeks ago
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Listen it happens  actually happened me today 😂 she asked me the area I was from , I told her (we been talking all sorts for weeks joking and stuff , sexy stuff , the lot ). So she opened the message and never replied now I only told her the county. I then messaged ah I promise I only send a Christmas card …blocked 😂😂😂 |
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Blocking is good for people who hound you. But some people do block for no reason. I have been blocked just for looking at a profile. Nothing just looking or fabing a pic. I know I am no Brad Pitt but I am me. |
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"Blocking is good for people who hound you. But some people do block for no reason. I have been blocked just for looking at a profile. Nothing just looking or fabing a pic. I know I am no Brad Pitt but I am me. "
There's always a reason |
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I have to see it does bug me. I often reply with a well constructed, respectful message to someone’s meet advert, or a profile who I think I am suitable for. Sometimes they will read the message and then block me. What’s wrong with a polite no thank you, then I can add it to the private notes facility for that profile and I won’t bother them again. Blocking just feels a bit rude. But that’s just my opinion. |
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