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Is being bisexual holding me back?
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Lots of men are "fab straight" for this reason.
On the other hand, lots of people aren't interested in straight men, so there has been a rise in "fab bi" to accommodate that.
Personally I'm "basically straight" but I don't like people who don't meet bi people because I find it a bit ignorant - just my preference, of course. |
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"I was wondering if women/ straight couples don’t get in touch as a result of seeing the bi label ? Even if (like me) playing straight is absolutely fine …"
Yes it will affect your odds somewhat but hey that’s just how it rolls in here |
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Sure, it will be putting some people off - there's a whole thread up there somewhere listing some of the reasons (valid or not).
But there's not a lot you can do about it, so not sure it's one to worry about? |
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"I was wondering if women/ straight couples don’t get in touch as a result of seeing the bi label ? Even if (like me) playing straight is absolutely fine …"
I seem to do just fine with it.
I'd rather be open and honest myself. |
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Be yourself on here and you’ll find your people eventually.
Hide things and admit it further on and people will wonder what else you aren’t telling them or feel the connection was built on a lie.
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"I was wondering if women/ straight couples don’t get in touch as a result of seeing the bi label ? Even if (like me) playing straight is absolutely fine …"
Women won't generally get in touch with you at all by default. It's extremely rare that I get an "unsolicited" message from a woman and I'm straight.
For every 1 woman in your area, you've got to remember that there are around 40 men. Those men are extremely keen, whereas to be honest, even the most sexual women aren't really that keen. Therefore, women get into a lazy state where it's simply not necessary to even try.
The women I know, even if they do like someone, they won't usually try for fear of rejection.
I see the bi label is being a potential deterrent, yes, but I imagine that's why there are so many straight acting bi guys on here!
Regarding couples, where the male element comes into play, I'd imagine you'll probably be ok, but remember that couples too are fed up of single males.
It's just one of those things... |
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"Sure, it will be putting some people off - there's a whole thread up there somewhere listing some of the reasons (valid or not).
But there's not a lot you can do about it, so not sure it's one to worry about?"
Any reason a person doesn't want to have sex with someone is valid. Nobody has to fuck anyone they don't want to, wether it's because they are bi or something else... |
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By *og-ManMan 3 weeks ago
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"I was wondering if women/ straight couples don’t get in touch as a result of seeing the bi label ? Even if (like me) playing straight is absolutely fine …"
Lying about who you are and not being comfortable with it is worse
Just be yourself and you'll meet someone that doesn't care if you're bi
It might take a while but that's all part of the fun |
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"Sure, it will be putting some people off - there's a whole thread up there somewhere listing some of the reasons (valid or not).
But there's not a lot you can do about it, so not sure it's one to worry about?
Any reason a person doesn't want to have sex with someone is valid. Nobody has to fuck anyone they don't want to, wether it's because they are bi or something else..."
Sure. Poorly phrased. But let's not rehearse the arguments from other thread here. |
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"I'd say it's more the fact that you're married. "
OP's post is specifically about being bi. His profile says his marriage is open and his wife has access to this account. What's being married got to do with anything? |
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"I'd say it's more the fact that you're married.
OP's post is specifically about being bi. His profile says his marriage is open and his wife has access to this account. What's being married got to do with anything?"
Exactly! |
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"I'd say it's more the fact that you're married.
OP's post is specifically about being bi. His profile says his marriage is open and his wife has access to this account. What's being married got to do with anything?"
A lot of people won't want to meet someone who's attached. |
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"I'd say it's more the fact that you're married.
OP's post is specifically about being bi. His profile says his marriage is open and his wife has access to this account. What's being married got to do with anything?
A lot of people won't want to meet someone who's attached."
Yes, I know that, Mimi. But as I said, his post was specifically about his sexuality. Would you have honestly mentioned a single female profile being married if she posted an equivalent post? (Yeah, I know it'd be difficult for a woman to do a similar post being as bi women are more than acceptable to the masses but hopefully you get my point) |
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Be honest, be open and just be you. Sure there are some people that don’t want to meet bi folks, it’s all about consent and boundaries though. Would you want to be the person that ignores consent by lying or lies to fuck someone that doesn’t want to meet bi folks? |
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I kept my bi side to myself for nearly two years and with in them two years made some really good friends, which did make it harder for me when I did say I was bi, but all of them still have the same views on me and was happy that I told them, even some of our friends have come out as bi since I have. We host at a club and who ever I meet for the first time if they ask I tell them and if there straight we have still ended up playing with some of them, and if they don’t like the fact I’m bi it’s there loss cos I play straight too . |
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By *oxy jWoman 3 weeks ago
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"I was wondering if women/ straight couples don’t get in touch as a result of seeing the bi label ? Even if (like me) playing straight is absolutely fine …
Women won't generally get in touch with you at all by default. It's extremely rare that I get an "unsolicited" message from a woman and I'm straight.
For every 1 woman in your area, you've got to remember that there are around 40 men. Those men are extremely keen, whereas to be honest, even the most sexual women aren't really that keen. Therefore, women get into a lazy state where it's simply not necessary to even try.
The women I know, even if they do like someone, they won't usually try for fear of rejection.
I see the bi label is being a potential deterrent, yes, but I imagine that's why there are so many straight acting bi guys on here!
Regarding couples, where the male element comes into play, I'd imagine you'll probably be ok, but remember that couples too are fed up of single males.
It's just one of those things..."
just because women dont message you first dont mean they dont at all i message first and i know loads of others who do too and its works very well too  |
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