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Just giving...not the charity site.
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Giving is getting. I love seeing other people’s reactions. I don’t understand the idea of there being nothing in it for me. Of course there is, look at the pleasure I’m providing, that’s giving me all the happy hormones in that feedback loop.
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I fucking love being face down between a lady's thighs, seeing how long I can keep her balanced right on the edge. It's a little bit about control, a little bit about the pleasure of giving and a little bit about feeling like there's at least one thing I can do really well! The validation I feel when that leg starts to shake is very real  |
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By *andyrod1Man 13 weeks ago
St Margaret's at Cliffe |
I do like to be the one dishing out the foreplay, having my cock sucked really doesn't do anything for me, l would much rather be caressing and teasing with my tongue, the ladies pleasure is paramount! |
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By *sWyldWoman 13 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
Yes. I adore reactions and get such a thrill from giving them to someone. I also love the sensations of certain acts and do get so much pleasure from it.
However, as fun as that is for me, there does come a time where I also need to just feel them inside me. So I need to know that's also going to be happening at some point! |
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By *ruceyy OP Man 13 weeks ago
London |
"Sometimes. I adore giving pleasure and could worship a cock for hours. For special people I would do an occasional blow and go or fuck and go meet"
Have we technically got together if you just blow and go? 👀😂 |
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No.
I enjoy foreplay and desire mutually-satisfying reciprocal sex.
No way am I spending a monkey for the Churchill Suite at Claridges only for me to tickle her feet and for her to raid the mini bar.
These selfish sirens and inharmonious harlots - they taketh but never giveth away. |
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Oh absolutely! Even when I’m teasing them and keeping them in denial for days, making her get me hard ready for another lady, ultimately I’m doing it for her benefit…… I can already hear the grones from some on here! but the mind fuck is the deepest most rewarding fuck! |
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"Yes. I adore reactions and get such a thrill from giving them to someone. I also love the sensations of certain acts and do get so much pleasure from it.
However, as fun as that is for me, there does come a time where I also need to just feel them inside me. So I need to know that's also going to be happening at some point!"
Well, alright. You drive a hard bargain, but I'm in |
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On the other side of this point, does anyone else feel guilty if they are the recipient of such attention and the giver does not want anything back in return?
I find I can't just relax and enjoy the attention I'm getting because of the guilt I feel even if it is fully discussed and agreed beforehand.
One way enjoyment is maybe just not for me. |
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By *eliWoman 13 weeks ago
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But I do get something from it. It's far from a selfless act for me - I can find myself more aroused giving oral than receiving it. I get off on how someone responds to me, those little tells of pleasure, reciprocated lust that really heightens things for me.
I don't believe in tit for tat when it comes to sex but I don't think I'd enjoy it in a casual sex dynamic. Actually I know I wouldn't. It's not satisfying for me. I don't want to just be for someone's pleasure and mine isn't even a thought. Someone I know though? It's different. It's hard to explain why. And personal. |
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"Are you ever in the mood to just give in terms of foreplay and not get anything for yourself? Do tell, kinky people!"
Absolutely - giving is far more important to me than receiving (touching, stroking, caressing, kissing, licking). I can always bring myself off with my hand afterwards, but I can't inhale the aroma of a woman's body, feel her softness, or taste her arousal on my own and they are the things that are most erotic to me. So I suppose I am receiving in one way because I'm getting that satisfaction. |
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"Are you ever in the mood to just give in terms of foreplay and not get anything for yourself? Do tell, kinky people!
Absolutely - giving is far more important to me than receiving (touching, stroking, caressing, kissing, licking). I can always bring myself off with my hand afterwards, but I can't inhale the aroma of a woman's body, feel her softness, or taste her arousal on my own and they are the things that are most erotic to me. So I suppose I am receiving in one way because I'm getting that satisfaction."
Absolutely this! By being in that sexual situation you are receiving pleasure too, physical, mental or both. I don’t think of sex as transactional - I give you this, you give me that - but more of an overall experience. Same applies to swinging in ways that aren’t straight wife-swapping, or different BDSM dynamics. Just cos you’re not directly getting something from a tick list of sex acts doesn’t mean you’re not getting something out of it. Otherwise, why would you do it? 🤔
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"I have sex and most of the time don’t get oral.
Wtf?"
It doesn’t bother me. I always go down first and when you go with the flow it often can mean the person just wants you inside them afterwards. |
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