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"My very most favourite people I only want to see at most 3 times a week. I need my own space. I need to miss the people I adore 💜"
3 times a week! Fair play!
I love this for you Prey. You’re cool af. |
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"My very most favourite people I only want to see at most 3 times a week. I need my own space. I need to miss the people I adore 💜
Absence makes the heart grow fonder ❤️"
It also makes you a bit sad if you’re a lover boy like me. |
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"We found our ideal couple a few years ago and we arrange a weekend together around once every two or three months.
It’s a great arrangement  oh I’m glad you found them. That’s lovely. "
Thank you pickle, it took quite sometime to find them but has been very worthwhile.
As a wise man used to say here, patience is key  |
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"We found our ideal couple a few years ago and we arrange a weekend together around once every two or three months.
It’s a great arrangement oh I’m glad you found them. That’s lovely.
Thank you pickle, it took quite sometime to find them but has been very worthwhile.
As a wise man used to say here, patience is key "
I’ve got one more year in me |
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"That’s kinda an impossible question for me. It depends on so many other factors in my life and their life. I don’t have a one size fits all answer.
Mrs TMN x"
I guess it’s an in an ideal world question. So in an ideal world your schedules align and you’re both ok with your situations etc |
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"My very most favourite people I only want to see at most 3 times a week. I need my own space. I need to miss the people I adore 💜
3 times a week! Fair play!
I love this for you Prey. You’re cool af. "
Aw. Fanks 💋
As for sex, varies. Sometimes I need a visit to be a solid 8 hour fuckfest. Sometimes I'm happy just cuddle up and spend some time together chatting shit and watching obscure old shows. I'm trying to keep the horn a little lower than normal at the moment while someone is recovering, but I like that thriving on frustration, and we can do the big energetic fun when it's less likely to result in death 💜 |
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"I think too often is a bad idea...I like the anticipation and build up. At the moment I see my favourite person every couple of weeks and stay in regular contact in between. "
Once every couple of weeks is good. I like that. |
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"That’s kinda an impossible question for me. It depends on so many other factors in my life and their life. I don’t have a one size fits all answer.
Mrs TMN x
I guess it’s an in an ideal world question. So in an ideal world your schedules align and you’re both ok with your situations etc"
I don’t really deal in ideal world. Cos it’s not a thing and then I just set myself up for frustration. X |
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By *ookie46Woman 17 weeks ago
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In an ideal world more often and not just for the sex, distance can be a pain but the build up, anticipation and longing always makes me smile
Take opportunities when they arise and make the most of them |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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Found my ideal FWB last time last time I was on here (she was married ,so maybe not so ideal) used to see her a couple of times a month,she lived on the west coast, that why I left Fab,but then covid hit ,her circumstances changed and meetings became more difficult and she felt she couldn't carry on with the relationship |
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"It depends on the dynamic and availability. I’m quite time poor because of my job and kids but I try to fit in seeing my partners at least once a week.
If it’s friends, it’s more fluid "
I feel this. |
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I think I’d see someone once a week and be happy in an ideal world. Once every few weeks would be good too. I think the hardest thing is consistency.
But I’m pretty privileged I have two lovely partners that I spend my life with. I live with my nesting partner and my other partner lives hundreds of miles away so have to be realistic. But I still have space for someone in my life if they stumble in. But that’s IF they do. I’m not hopeful  |
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"I think I’d see someone once a week and be happy in an ideal world. Once every few weeks would be good too. I think the hardest thing is consistency.
But I’m pretty privileged I have two lovely partners that I spend my life with. I live with my nesting partner and my other partner lives hundreds of miles away so have to be realistic. But I still have space for someone in my life if they stumble in. But that’s IF they do. I’m not hopeful "
At what point would you consider yourself saturated? Is there an ideal number of partners or friends that you’d like to spend your time with? |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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All my favourite people are in London so once a month is realistic. If I found a local person, I wouldn't mind seeing them more often than that if we vibe well. |
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"I think I’d see someone once a week and be happy in an ideal world. Once every few weeks would be good too. I think the hardest thing is consistency.
But I’m pretty privileged I have two lovely partners that I spend my life with. I live with my nesting partner and my other partner lives hundreds of miles away so have to be realistic. But I still have space for someone in my life if they stumble in. But that’s IF they do. I’m not hopeful
At what point would you consider yourself saturated? Is there an ideal number of partners or friends that you’d like to spend your time with? "
Well I think the risk of saturation comes from seeing too many people too often. You can see more people more casually and less people more seriously with similar time commitment. I definitely have time to see someone weekly or every other week. Definitely something more casual than that given that my only time commitment for a partner outside of my nest is currently monthly or so.
If that makes sense |
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By *bi HaiveMan 17 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"How often would you ideally see them?
How often would you ideally have the sex with them?
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I'm not looking for one person so in some ways it's irrelevant.
I'd love to see more of my partner but 'distance' and 'work' get in the way.
I have a regular friend I see a couple of times a week, sometimes more, sometimes less depending on how busy we are. But there are others I see less frequently and am always open to new acquaintances. 🤷♂️ |
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In an ideal world they'd live close enough to see once a week. We'd also ideally have sex each time apart from when I'm on my period, when we'd just hang out and enjoy each other's company. The friendship aspect of an FWB arrangement is very important to me. |
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If past experiences are anything to go to by then probably twice a year (sadly). This is attributed to the Fab Curse™ because every perfect person has been 100s of miles away from London.
London is the antithesis of nirvana when it comes to finding one's perfect paramour.
In fact, that's me being polite: London is f**ked. |
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"If past experiences are anything to go to by then probably twice a year (sadly). This is attributed to the Fab Curse™ because every perfect person has been 100s of miles away from London.
London is the antithesis of nirvana when it comes to finding one's perfect paramour.
In fact, that's me being polite: London is f**ked."
Couldn’t agree with you more. London is shit. No Chance you find what you’re looking for here. |
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"If past experiences are anything to go to by then probably twice a year (sadly). This is attributed to the Fab Curse™ because every perfect person has been 100s of miles away from London.
London is the antithesis of nirvana when it comes to finding one's perfect paramour.
In fact, that's me being polite: London is f**ked.
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Couldn’t agree with you more. London is shit. No Chance you find what you’re looking for here. "
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Brother-Pete-on-the-Street, I stopped looking around the cobbled streets of ye olde London Towne years ago. Even my Saved Search - which I rarely use - has the "within" set to 75 miles.  |
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"If past experiences are anything to go to by then probably twice a year (sadly). This is attributed to the Fab Curse™ because every perfect person has been 100s of miles away from London.
London is the antithesis of nirvana when it comes to finding one's perfect paramour.
In fact, that's me being polite: London is f**ked.
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Couldn’t agree with you more. London is shit. No Chance you find what you’re looking for here.
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Brother-Pete-on-the-Street, I stopped looking around the cobbled streets of ye olde London Towne years ago. Even my Saved Search - which I rarely use - has the "within" set to 75 miles. "
I’ve gone 50 miles but tempted to go 75. But I don’t really want another long distance relationship if I was to stumble into a relationship at all
Fair play to you. You’re committed to finding your happiness. |
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"Liking this thread
Me myself, depends on distance, once every week if close enough or once every couple of weeks
Be happy just to meet just in a social aspect if can't arrange a proper meet 😊 "
Such an underrated thing, just meeting to hang out together so you get to see one another. |
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By *a LunaWoman 17 weeks ago
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Once or twice a month. Distance dependent.
I generally don’t do overnight meets.
If the sex is awesome and there is great chemistry you sometimes hanker after more frequent bonks, but life and stuff etc.
Nothing is written in stone though.
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Fortnightly overnighters tends to be the frequency that suits me best. Often enough to feel involved, not so often as to feel relationshippy.
I do have a great FB I see maybe every 6-8 weeks. We spend a full weekend together and it works well - it's horses for courses depending on the person and our availability. |
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We were friends with a poly couple for a while, and non-sex socialised with them every 3-4 weeks. Every 2 months we'd have a "special" party at home. That felt about right. Then covid happened, everyone went in to lock down, the places we frequented closed, or changed when they reopened, and none of the old social groups meet anymore, apart from at weddings or funerals. |
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"If past experiences are anything to go to by then probably twice a year (sadly). This is attributed to the Fab Curse™ because every perfect person has been 100s of miles away from London.
London is the antithesis of nirvana when it comes to finding one's perfect paramour.
In fact, that's me being polite: London is f**ked.
Couldn’t agree with you more. London is shit. No Chance you find what you’re looking for here. "
Sometimes, London comes up smelling of roses. Or some kind of moisturiser.
But to answer the question, I'd like to say at least fortnightly or even more, assuming distance wasn't a thing. Even monthly would be better than I can manage now.
I do want the Sex but also friendship and fun and frolics. Or footy. That's also good.
I'm not so demanding tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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Ideal world, twice a week,
One wild night or all day, and then one gentle cosy evening.
I'm lucky I've got everything I need.
(Well, in fantasy land I don't have to work, and so 6 days a week with a spare day for me) |
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I'm not looking for one person
2 or 3 people that are able to meet when our diaries align would be great, along with the odd newbie / random thrown in for variety
I don't seek a bond either - just people who I find attractive and like the same type of meets as me |
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By *sWyldWoman 17 weeks ago
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I have yet to find the "one" if I ever do then I'll want to see them, spend time with them as much as possible.
Friends with benefits wise- I'm so very out of practice these days and life is incredibly busy,so i lack time and logistics can often get in the way.
Something to look forward to once every few weeks would probably be my ideal scenario.
Must build up my little black book  |
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By *eliWoman 17 weeks ago
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I've never looked for anyone. No desire to. But I understand the sentiment. So let's say there's a person I've not been looking for but they've come back in to my life after I doubted myself years ago and missed out on something wonderful.
As often as possible. Sometimes that might be after fortnight, others once a month. Maybe even a week apart. I'd find it difficult if it was longer than six/seven weeks because I'd really like their company.
Sex wise... they'd be more than a human dildo to me but I also imagine the sex would be that perfect blend of intimate, primal and loving. Sometimes I'd want to get out and do things but it would mean less time alone with them and wrapped in their arms. Maybe not every time. Maybe. |
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"I've never looked for anyone. No desire to. But I understand the sentiment. So let's say there's a person I've not been looking for but they've come back in to my life after I doubted myself years ago and missed out on something wonderful.
As often as possible. Sometimes that might be after fortnight, others once a month. Maybe even a week apart. I'd find it difficult if it was longer than six/seven weeks because I'd really like their company.
Sex wise... they'd be more than a human dildo to me but I also imagine the sex would be that perfect blend of intimate, primal and loving. Sometimes I'd want to get out and do things but it would mean less time alone with them and wrapped in their arms. Maybe not every time. Maybe."
I feel you. Thanks for playing along |
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