Nice and clean is kind of a bare minimum expectation. It'd feel like asking someone of they can be bothered to do the bare minimum. Which does feel a little rude.
I do expect people to be nice and clean. If they're not then it simply doesn't progress beyond a hello. I don't think I'd ask in advance. If they haven't the frame of mind to consider that by themselves then we're not compatible 💜 |
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"Nice and clean is kind of a bare minimum expectation. It'd feel like asking someone of they can be bothered to do the bare minimum. Which does feel a little rude.
I do expect people to be nice and clean. If they're not then it simply doesn't progress beyond a hello. I don't think I'd ask in advance. If they haven't the frame of mind to consider that by themselves then we're not compatible 💜"
I agree with all this |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣"
Why would that offended. If it did then I'm guessing they are manky. |
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By *vaRose43Woman 17 weeks ago
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"Nice and clean is kind of a bare minimum expectation. It'd feel like asking someone of they can be bothered to do the bare minimum. Which does feel a little rude.
I do expect people to be nice and clean. If they're not then it simply doesn't progress beyond a hello. I don't think I'd ask in advance. If they haven't the frame of mind to consider that by themselves then we're not compatible 💜"
This.
The bare minimum is that someone arrives freshly showered and clean. If they’re coming straight from work then they can shower in the hotel. |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣
Why would that offended. If it did then I'm guessing they are manky. "
If it was me I wouldn’t be offended but I’d probably block as it would slightly annoy me. But I do block for petty reasons. They’ve only got to say one word I don’t like and they’re gone |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣"
I would not be offended in the slightest. For the record I always make sure I’m showered and smelling nice. Love my L’Ocitane men’s collection  |
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Asking if I'd had or wouod have a wash before the sex I always find really off it's literally the minimum.
In my personal experience those who state "good hygiene" tend to be the worst for good hygiene.
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By *r TriomanMan 17 weeks ago
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"Asking if I'd had or wouod have a wash before the sex I always find really off it's literally the minimum.
In my personal experience those who state "good hygiene" tend to be the worst for good hygiene.
Mrs "
Double standards on Fab? Surely not! |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣"
It's good manners for a Gentleman to turn up at a meet fresh clean and smelling good |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣"
Absolutely no. I would expect the same from you, it’s the bare minimum!
If they block you for this, they’re probably a crusty cob and you’re not missing anything  |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣"
If you suspect they aren't, why would you even engage with them?
Sadly, those with poor personal hygiene are often blissfully unaware of it, so asking is probably not helpful anyway. |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣
Why would that offended. If it did then I'm guessing they are manky.
If it was me I wouldn’t be offended but I’d probably block as it would slightly annoy me. But I do block for petty reasons. They’ve only got to say one word I don’t like and they’re gone "
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By *avinci4Man 17 weeks ago
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣
Why would that offended. If it did then I'm guessing they are manky.
If it was me I wouldn’t be offended but I’d probably block as it would slightly annoy me. But I do block for petty reasons. They’ve only got to say one word I don’t like and they’re gone "
Nice to see a lady admit that you block for petty reasons. Most ladies actually do the same but justfy it as some massive reason. One wrong word is easy to write/say as there are more wrong words than correct ones. All I'm saying is, for petty reasons, you might be screening out more good ones than you ladies think . If you are bathing in gold, one coin makes no difference, right. |
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By *r TriomanMan 17 weeks ago
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"No I’d just ask if you were clean, showered and moisturised and if you weren’t one of those things I’d block you.
Some of us just have perfect skin Steve 💜"
You have perfect everything PTTF! |
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No, I always make a point of mentioning it before a meet. I have very delicate senses, if someone's not clean I would be too grossed out and sick from the smell to have sex anyway. If they take offence to it then that's not someone I would want to do anything with anyway.
As prey said, being clean is the absolute base line minimum. |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣"
It's the bare minimum to expect but I don't think it's rude to ask, and I wouldn't take any offence.
I had a meet with someone who may have washed that morning, but certainly hadn't before the meet that afternoon and they'd been working outside in the sun... I asked them to giving it a quick freshen up and although it still went ahead, a cloud had been cast |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣"
I wouldn’t be offended and I don’t expect anyone in this forum would be either, because we’re (almost) all decent people with high(ish) standards. But I imagine the reaction could be different from some of the pond life floating around this site.
I think it’s a shame you have to ask any human if they’ve washed before having relations, but maybe some context would soften the question ie “Last week I met someone who was lovely in our messages but unclean when we met. What’s your approach to meet hygiene?” |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 17 weeks ago
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"No OP I don't think it's rude to ask and judging by some other posts I've seen where people have been dirty smelly or house is a tip.i would keep asking."
That is exactly why I asked, had a bad experience, but yes I could of put the question better than I did x |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣
Why would that offended. If it did then I'm guessing they are manky.
If it was me I wouldn’t be offended but I’d probably block as it would slightly annoy me. But I do block for petty reasons. They’ve only got to say one word I don’t like and they’re gone
Manchester is blue💙"
🤣🤣. Omg! Gone |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣
Why would that offended. If it did then I'm guessing they are manky.
If it was me I wouldn’t be offended but I’d probably block as it would slightly annoy me. But I do block for petty reasons. They’ve only got to say one word I don’t like and they’re gone
Nice to see a lady admit that you block for petty reasons. Most ladies actually do the same but justfy it as some massive reason. One wrong word is easy to write/say as there are more wrong words than correct ones. All I'm saying is, for petty reasons, you might be screening out more good ones than you ladies think. If you are bathing in gold, one coin makes no difference, right."
Probably. But yeah I’m petty. |
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This is why I always have a social first before anything else may or may not happen
If you asked me if I was clean and hygienic I’d actually block you for no other reason than for me that is a basic minimum standard
However you don’t have to justify or explain how you run your account |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 17 weeks ago
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"Would you be offended op if a man asked you if you were nice and clean?"
I wouldn't no, I'd even show them my recent sti test results as I do between meets, not that I have that many meets |
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"Would you be offended op if a man asked you if you were nice and clean?
I wouldn't no, I'd even show them my recent sti test results as I do between meets, not that I have that many meets"
Ah I read this wrong as I took nice and clean as meaning hygiene not sexual health
Maybe that’s where some of the confusion is happening |
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By *ungandMan 17 weeks ago
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣"
It should be a given that people are clean and smell nice for a meeting |
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"Would you be offended op if a man asked you if you were nice and clean?
I wouldn't no, I'd even show them my recent sti test results as I do between meets, not that I have that many meets"
Oh you meant clean as in free of sti.
Tbh I'd assume anyone asking me in those words meant do I shower regularly. I wouldn't be offended but I wouldn't reply either |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣"
Would you mind if someone asked you the same question? I can't imagine anyone asking strangers thinking of getting up close and personal if they are clean and smell great would be troubled by the question. But as with most things, context is important. |
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You need to be clear of what you're asking.
I knew a man in the real world who said he gives blood so doesn't need to get STI checked as they test the blood he's donated.
Another said he goes by the results of the women he's had sex with. If they are negative then so is he.
The problem I have with my STI results is I gave my real name and the link shows it to whoever I share it with, so they have to believe me when I say they were all negative, if I don't want them knowing my name yet. |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣
Why would that offended. If it did then I'm guessing they are manky.
If it was me I wouldn’t be offended but I’d probably block as it would slightly annoy me. But I do block for petty reasons. They’ve only got to say one word I don’t like and they’re gone "
....sorry..I had to block you..you said a word I didn't like..(wouldn't)...  |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣
Why would that offended. If it did then I'm guessing they are manky.
If it was me I wouldn’t be offended but I’d probably block as it would slightly annoy me. But I do block for petty reasons. They’ve only got to say one word I don’t like and they’re gone ....sorry..I had to block you..you said a word I didn't like..(wouldn't)... "
Ah well. Must admit I’ve never blocked forum folk. I find that too petty even for me. Just general fab folk who send stupid or vile messages |
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By *ungandMan 17 weeks ago
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣
Why would that offended. If it did then I'm guessing they are manky.
If it was me I wouldn’t be offended but I’d probably block as it would slightly annoy me. But I do block for petty reasons. They’ve only got to say one word I don’t like and they’re gone ....sorry..I had to block you..you said a word I didn't like..(wouldn't)...
Ah well. Must admit I’ve never blocked forum folk. I find that too petty even for me. Just general fab folk who send stupid or vile messages "
To be honest people block for any reason no matter how clean friendly, well dressed a person is . It’s easier to block than a simple no thanks not interested.
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣"
I wouldn't even ask tbh , l'd say it straight out if the lady in chatting didn't mention it , hygiene is just something that's important to both , if one party isn't cutting the mustard in that depth , not for you after all who wants to have sex with someone that doesn't care about their hygiene , if people don't care about their hygiene well off they go & have Sex. |
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I didn't read down far enough before replying. I thought this was about personal hygiene.
In the case of STI testing no I wouldn't be offended. You can absolutely ask. I offer this information freely to anyone new I meet. It's partly for their reassurance and partly a polite way for me to ask them what their current status is. |
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"I'm more reading this as asking about their sti testing status.
Instead of using soap and water 🤣
Could be wrong, but it's a fair question either way. "
But if it looks and smells clean its got no STIs right? |
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"I'm more reading this as asking about their sti testing status.
Instead of using soap and water 🤣
Could be wrong, but it's a fair question either way.
But if it looks and smells clean its got no STIs right? "
According to some people's way of thinking on fab - of course that is correct! 🫣 |
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣
Why would that offended. If it did then I'm guessing they are manky.
If it was me I wouldn’t be offended but I’d probably block as it would slightly annoy me. But I do block for petty reasons. They’ve only got to say one word I don’t like and they’re gone ....sorry..I had to block you..you said a word I didn't like..(wouldn't)...
Ah well. Must admit I’ve never blocked forum folk. I find that too petty even for me. Just general fab folk who send stupid or vile messages "
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I think if you are a normal fella that doesn’t realise how grim some fellas can be then you might find it offensive.
I think after you speak to enough women and find out how grim some fellas can be you start to understand their point of view.
Along with a lot of other things that wouldn’t even come to mind normally. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 17 weeks ago
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"Would you be offended op if a man asked you if you were nice and clean?"
I would. I'd be thinking "do I actually look like a skanky old soap dodger?" (understand I'm leaving myself open to replies of "yes you do" ) |
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"Would you be offended op if a man asked you if you were nice and clean?
I would. I'd be thinking "do I actually look like a skanky old soap dodger?" (understand I'm leaving myself open to replies of "yes you do" ) "
You’re not *that* skanky dear. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 17 weeks ago
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"Would you be offended op if a man asked you if you were nice and clean?
I would. I'd be thinking "do I actually look like a skanky old soap dodger?" (understand I'm leaving myself open to replies of "yes you do" )
You’re not *that* skanky dear."
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I'd be asking for specifics, of when they'd showered. Nice and clean is a bit too subjective. A dirty finger probably will answer that he is, if he has had more than 2 showers in his whole life and once washed his hands after the loo.  |
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Honestly if a woman asked me that I’d assume she’s had some really bad experiences , made some awful choices and I’d avoid her.
There’s some things you don’t need to ask, you use your eyes , ears and judgement |
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Hi O.P.
It is not offensive.
1. Those that take it as such are hypervigilant types who automatically look for insult in every comment throughout all days. Their ego's are fragile and damaged and they have to go to such lengths to make you feel as if you have asked an offensive question.
2. For me .... it would depend on how you asked. How you worded it. If it sounded accusatory or disgusted or high fallutin' and snotty nosed.. but it would be the attitude i'd reject not the question.
3. I'm with YOU don't take anything as a given. Why waste your time meeting a stinker.
If being recently washed in every crevice is a must for you then do what you did and ASK .... or just state that you clean all yours , and you had to decline a person once because he was not washed. Or ask him his take on hygeine....
Stick to your guns....
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"I may get some stick here but hey ho,
Is it awful of me to ask if a man is nice and clean , would you men be offended I asked and block me x 🫣🫣"
I wouldn't be offended I'd be concerned about what would make you think I wasn't "nice and clean"
We expect people to be clean. Now you have me worried 😂😂 |
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"Grånny still uses Pears™ soap from the 1920s. Fåçt. ❣️"
Nero .. never a truer word spoken
AND .... a good hot soap up with Wrights Coal Tar ..... seriously
In my kitchen always bars of Imperial Leather ..... I'm such a traditional bitch |
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"Grånny still uses Pears™ soap from the 1920s. Fåçt. ❣️
Nero .. never a truer word spoken
AND .... a good hot soap up with Wrights Coal Tar ..... seriously
In my kitchen always bars of Imperial Leather ..... I'm such a traditional bitch"
I thought you'd use camay? |
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"Grånny still uses Pears™ soap from the 1920s. Fåçt. ❣️
Nero .. never a truer word spoken
AND .... a good hot soap up with Wrights Coal Tar ..... seriously
In my kitchen always bars of Imperial Leather ..... I'm such a traditional bitch
I thought you'd use camay? "
Disowned that back in the late 60's. A beautifully creamy soap with a heavy perfume....... took the bloody skin off your face. |
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"my grandmother always would use carbolic soap. It used to go in my eyes and all. I didn’t cry when she died.
I love the big block of red carbolic....... that and Flash powder.
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Yes, I recall now. It was a huge block of soap. She would rub it directly on my face. |
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