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"Hi we are wanting some advice we end up getting into chats thinking everything is going well then they ask for pictures which we send them next thing we know we have been blocked why any ideas"
Likely they’re solely photo collectors. |
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"Most of them have not been verified "
Another sure sign of trouble. I certainly wouldn't take it to heart, it's like a dodgy phone call from a scammer, look for the signs that don't add up and cut the conversation. |
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By *rT25Man 8 weeks ago
Rotherham |
"We agree with that we aren’t for everyone but surely grow up and say rather than block people"
I know what you mean but some people might not like saying we don't find you attractive?
Try not to take it to heart. I'm sure you two will have some fun x |
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"We have just this minute blocked people who aren’t verified "
It's still no guarantee OP. I've had 2 incidents where a meet was agreed by 2 well verified woman. Got there no reply and person offline.
One I only had postcode for and was meant to get flat number on confirmation off arrival. The other a meet in a car park.
At least you didn't get to that stage. |
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By *Dan85Man 8 weeks ago
Great Harwood |
"Hi we are wanting some advice we end up getting into chats thinking everything is going well then they ask for pictures which we send them next thing we know we have been blocked why any ideas"
Exactly the same |
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By *8on33Man 8 weeks ago
winfrith |
"Hi we are wanting some advice we end up getting into chats thinking everything is going well then they ask for pictures which we send them next thing we know we have been blocked why any ideas"
You can't be everybody's cup of coffee.
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I think some people just get satisfaction from the communication they are often not in a position to meet so when push comes to shove and invite comes to them they are caught and instead of communicating they stay silent and dissappear to bother someone else and start the cycle all over again. In my humble opinion of course. |
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Its' the same with friend requests. Someone you've never chatted to, let alone seen on here, will send a friend request out of the blue. They're not being courteous, or using it as a way of establishing communication for possible meeting.
Nope - they just want into your collection of "friends only" photos, so they can have a handy-shandy (or J-Arthur, for the Cockneys amongst us) and ditch you right after they've zipped up and gone.
As we have found, you have to plough through a lot of chaff to get to the wheat, but worth doing so. |
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Most people aren't into most people.
Without any idea of the male half and a less than comprehensive of the female, people may be building an image in their head and when the photos don't match what they've imagined from the conversation so far they just disconnect.
Blocking just means they're not interested in continuing. It might feel harsh but if you've rejected people on here previously however politely, you'll know why the block makes the most sense. You don't really get any extra closure from the words "I'm not attracted to you" and even if you did, closure is something you find for yourself, not something other people owe you.
I'd suggest either a few more public photos or getting the picture sharing out of the way early on.
You'll still get hit up by the pic collectors. But at least you won't be wasting your time on the easily avoidable incompatibilities 💜 |
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By *rT25Man 8 weeks ago
Rotherham |
"Most people aren't into most people.
Without any idea of the male half and a less than comprehensive of the female, people may be building an image in their head and when the photos don't match what they've imagined from the conversation so far they just disconnect.
Blocking just means they're not interested in continuing. It might feel harsh but if you've rejected people on here previously however politely, you'll know why the block makes the most sense. You don't really get any extra closure from the words "I'm not attracted to you" and even if you did, closure is something you find for yourself, not something other people owe you.
I'd suggest either a few more public photos or getting the picture sharing out of the way early on.
You'll still get hit up by the pic collectors. But at least you won't be wasting your time on the easily avoidable incompatibilities 💜"
I think that covers everything |
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"Its' the same with friend requests. Someone you've never chatted to, let alone seen on here, will send a friend request out of the blue. They're not being courteous, or using it as a way of establishing communication for possible meeting.
Nope - they just want into your collection of "friends only" photos, so they can have a handy-shandy (or J-Arthur, for the Cockneys amongst us) and ditch you right after they've zipped up and gone.
As we have found, you have to plough through a lot of chaff to get to the wheat, but worth doing so."
I haven't heard J.Arthur in donkeys lol, one for our older viewers |
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Think it happens to a lot of people …. I’ve had long drawn out conversations then I get blocked, nothing I’ve said or done. A local couple to me has the same problem . He’s also raised “what’s wrong with us , why do we get ghosted “. I’ve photographed the couple, and they’re lovely and they do have quite a selection of photos on their public profile |
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Photo collectors are a pain. Followed by those who quickly ask if you have videos to share on KIK for example.
Separately, the annoyance of sending a polite, friendly message to be met with a “Thanks hun” reply 🤦🏻♂️ |
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"Photo collectors are a pain. Followed by those who quickly ask if you have videos to share on KIK for example.
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We often get the one-liner of "Do you KIK?"
Have often been tempted to reply:
"In the balls of picture scalpers". |
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So many reasons, if the chat is sexual it'll generally be pic collectors or they've had their wank and moved on.
If not sexual chat you just may not be there type and rather than say they've vanished.
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By *aven.Woman 8 weeks ago
Not the North West... |
"Most of them have not been verified
Another sure sign of trouble."
I'm a sign of trouble 
If you send pictures and they don't reply they obviously aren't attracted to you. It happens. It doesn't make them fake or time wasters. Rude? Maybe, maybe not. |
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"That is horrible why put people through that absolute torture I think we are mostly going to stick to social nights "
Maybe they weren’t feeling it and thought it easier to block than to give reasons. Must admit I’ve done that before in the past |
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Picture collectors.
Fake accounts.
You aren't what they're looking for and don't want to say it.
You learn to be more fussy and find your red flags. New profiles, no pictures, not verified etc etc.
Good luck with your journey.
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"Hi we are wanting some advice we end up getting into chats thinking everything is going well then they ask for pictures which we send them next thing we know we have been blocked why any ideas"
That happened to me. I asked them and they said I was too ugly to fuck. I wouldn’t have minded but I sent them a photo of my feet. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 8 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Most people aren't into most people.
Without any idea of the male half and a less than comprehensive of the female, people may be building an image in their head and when the photos don't match what they've imagined from the conversation so far they just disconnect.
Blocking just means they're not interested in continuing. It might feel harsh but if you've rejected people on here previously however politely, you'll know why the block makes the most sense. You don't really get any extra closure from the words "I'm not attracted to you" and even if you did, closure is something you find for yourself, not something other people owe you.
I'd suggest either a few more public photos or getting the picture sharing out of the way early on.
You'll still get hit up by the pic collectors. But at least you won't be wasting your time on the easily avoidable incompatibilities 💜"
100% this.
The more you can give people an idea of what you (both in the case of couples) look like in your visuals, bar faces which can be left til you're comfortable exchanging, the less likely you are to be either ghosted after chatting, or fall foul of the dreaded pic collectors.
If people can see pretty much what you look like from the neck down then that gives them no cause to change they're mind due to seeing you at a later date. You can't prevent a lack of facial attraction but you can with bodies.
And a detailed profile text will also out potential mismatches. You can do a lot to help yourselves when it comes to boosting chances of compatibility. |
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Are these people local you you? If they are a distance away I'd have thought it unlikely they would travel however hot and sexy you are. Maybe best not to engage with people unless they are fairly local? |
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As others have said, a more detailed profile will help to some extent.
If you provide enough information to allow people to establish interest and attraction, you can easily side step pic collection. This means photos of both of you, since you're meeting as a couple and good well written text.
I also agree that sharing face photos early, if you keep them private, is a good idea. |
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Could also be they didn't check where Arbroath is before starting to chat? 😅
Actually previous posters have nailed it. Heaps and heaps of fantasist on here who get a kick out of pics from someone they are "chatting" with. The only way is to block everything you have no interest in. If you do want a single guy though,then unfortunately the filters become useless.
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There could be various reasons but if the block comes after you’ve sent additional pics, it may be that you’re just not their type. It may be worth having a more varied selection of pictures on your profile so they can see if there may be an attraction there before the chat goes further. Good luck |
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"Hi we are wanting some advice we end up getting into chats thinking everything is going well then they ask for pictures which we send them next thing we know we have been blocked why any ideas"
Welcome to fab
Don’t blame yourself for other members actions
Attend more clubs and get meets that way |
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. Just people wanking on pics mist probably 
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