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Ā Messaging as a ācoupleā but on a singles profile
Not even photo verified after a few months
A couple but only pics of one of them
Anything else? |
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Ā Genuine. Discreet. Nice guys. š© |
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"Messaging as a ācoupleā...
...Anything else?"
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When they suggest "Afternoon Tea" at The Lanesborough (Park Lane). Red flag, because The Lanesborough serves "High Tea", actually. š |
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Ā Age range 18-99 (any holes a goal right)
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Ā Any profile name with gusher, squirter, sucker, pounder, cumslut etc.
Not for me. |
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Ā Hidden profile and a thumbnail of a pair of legs š©š©š© |
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Ā Blank profiles with minimal text except the demand of a face pic for any chance of having a message looked at |
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By *mf123ManĀ 2 days ago
with one foot out the door |
I like the one theywave when you win best |
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Ā Not here to fuck the whole site, but has a yellow pages of veris |
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Ā Studying at Uni. Iām sure itās the same young lady. |
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Ā Racism (including fetishisation).
Ones where they say stuff like "I could eat a peach for hours", or "I don't bite, unless you ask me nicely".
Profiles where the only pictures are zoomed in peen.
Ones where all the pictures are clearly completely different people they've lifted from elsewhere, and likely none of them the profile owner.
Last picture added 10+ years ago. |
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Ā The profile text is all about what they are not into and won't meet. With hardly any information on what they are into and will meet. |
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Ā One veri (by cam) from six years ago. Bonus points if the veri only mentions the male half of the couple. |
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Ā Profiles where when you watch the videos you can here the ātipsā pinging through from the site itās being either stream too or copied from. |
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Ā Straight guy looking to fuck tv arse |
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Ā Our filters are set to maximimum, so good luck all the fakes trying to message us. |
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"Messaging as a ācoupleā...
...Anything else?
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When they suggest "Afternoon Tea" at The Lanesborough (Park Lane). Red flag, because The Lanesborough serves "High Tea", actually. š"
They do a great breakfast and brunch there |
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"Blank profiles with minimal text except the demand of a face pic for any chance of having a message looked at"
This |
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Ā Any profile where they state theyāre a nice person. Theyāre anything but in my experience.
Any profile where they say they are good looking. Theyāre more likely a narcissist. |
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Ā Single M profiles where the each pic is mostly a woman. |
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Ā Anyone that is willing to have sex with me... massive red flag! |
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Ā Pictures taken in a really messy dirty room. |
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By *irldnCoupleĀ 2 days ago
Brighton |
All of above (except the photo veri as we never bothered as have meet veris, should we?)
Plusā¦
Safe Sex Only then all the pics and videos are bareback with clearly different people. |
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"Messaging as a ācoupleā but on a singles profile
Not even photo verified after a few months
A couple but only pics of one of them
Anything else?"
Honestly bane of my time on here is single women profiles messaging and immediately saying they want to bring in a boyfriend / husband etc. I just report them as incorrect profiles |
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"Age range 18-99 (any holes a goal right)
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Iām not so sure on this one. To me it mostly suggests that theyāve not set an age range, most likely through laziness. When I see it on a womanās profile I donāt automatically think sheās after any cock she can get.
The difficulty with age ranges, especially with higher numbers, is itās an imperical fact, and that there are always exceptions to the rule. For example, a person who has lived a healthy lifestyle and taken care of themselves in every respect, will look very different to someone the same age who hasnāt. |
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Ā - Profiles who have joined within an hr of messaging you. š©
- Personaās - where someone is trying too hard to portray themselves as a character. The most common tropes being a Mr. Grey type or a Viking š© ( I was trying to think of a female equivalent but I donāt think women do that kind of thing).
- Couples where it seems to be just a man (as you mentioned) š©
- Dirty rooms in photos š©
This final one is not meant to offend but weirdly it puts me offā¦..
- Photos in a budget hotel š© |
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"Age range 18-99 (any holes a goal right)
Iām not so sure on this one. To me it mostly suggests that theyāve not set an age range, most likely through laziness. When I see it on a womanās profile I donāt automatically think sheās after any cock she can get.
The difficulty with age ranges, especially with higher numbers, is itās an imperical fact, and that there are always exceptions to the rule. For example, a person who has lived a healthy lifestyle and taken care of themselves in every respect, will look very different to someone the same age who hasnāt."
I agree with you. Probably havenāt set an age range through laziness or not knowing you can set it. |
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Ā āCanāt accommodate, canāt travelā
Cool so what am I supposed to do with that unless youāre next door? |
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Ā Single profiles claiming to be couples
Verifications from years ago
Pics of bareback sex on single profiles
Those weird fetish test result lists
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"āCanāt accommodate, canāt travelā
Cool so what am I supposed to do with that unless youāre next door? "
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I wouldn't say that's a red flag, OP. š©¶
Cannot accommodate is self explanatory. Cannot travel means that they do have the ability to leave their home and socialise/meet within their locale. However they are not willing or able to travel further afield or miles and miles away. Makes sense really. |
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By *irldnCoupleĀ 2 days ago
Brighton |
"Messaging as a ācoupleā but on a singles profile
Not even photo verified after a few months
A couple but only pics of one of them
Anything else?
Honestly bane of my time on here is single women profiles messaging and immediately saying they want to bring in a boyfriend / husband etc. I just report them as incorrect profiles "
Oh yes! How fucking annoying us that. Soooo many single girls arenāt single at all. You spot a Single girl profile that meets couples. Cool. You exchange messages and then, oh I only meet couples with my partner. Ok why not have a couples profile or at least make that clear on your profile. Jeez  |
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Ā Straight man but has sex with trans  but wonāt meet single guys.
Saying donāt tell anyone.
Hidden profiles.
No face picture after weeks of messages. |
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Ā Couples where there is no photo of the male
Profiles which the photo shows a very small piece (no pun intended) of the person but loads of photos of others
People who say send a face pic but have none on display themself
Actually anyone making any ādemandsā on their profile |
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Ā Ranty profiles where itās just negativity and putting things they donāt want or who not to make contact with them etc
I get this place can be frustrating and you have to wade through a lot of shit but itās an offputting vibe for me |
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Ā Bareback pictures with different women
Dick picture as a profile picture
Any sight or mention of cum š¤®
Fetishisation of any kind
Party goers
Drugs
Unkept body
Dirty surroundings
Dick over toilet pictures |
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Ā Profiles who say they will send a face pic via SC or WhatsApp only |
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"Straight man but has sex with trans but wonāt meet single guys.
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Whatās wrong with that? Thereās a big difference between a trans and a man. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TSĀ 2 days ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
A Trans profile with no face pics, or every single one is blurred or they're wearing a face mask.
To me this suggests that they can't/won't do make up and if I'm going to meet them in a bar or go for a night out, I'll end up regretting it. |
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Ā Photos where they are displaying a red flag. I mean okay, they might be from Algeria or China or the Isle Of Man or Kyrgyzstan or Morocco or Turkey, and they're just being patriotic showing the home flag. It's a bit weird though, waving a bloody great flag around in the bedroom... |
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"Photos where they are displaying a red flag. I mean okay, they might be from Algeria or China or the Isle Of Man or Kyrgyzstan or Morocco or Turkey, and they're just being patriotic showing the home flag. It's a bit weird though, waving a bloody great flag around in the bedroom..."
Unless itās a Pride flag |
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"Messaging as a ācoupleā but on a singles profile
Not even photo verified after a few months
A couple but only pics of one of them
Anything else?"
A green flag can be a red flag! Means we don't share the same views on data privacy and possibly that they thought they were so hot no one would believe their pics were real  |
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Ā Messy rooms
Couples, in general we are wary of all unless we have seen on cam or verifications are recent and include couple
Single men profiles where can't accommodate
Screenshotted photos |
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Ā I often wonder if there is any thing wrong with my profile tbh any feedback would be nice. |
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"I often wonder if there is any thing wrong with my profile tbh any feedback would be nice."
Well one thing you really should put Bicurious as your sexuality, be honest |
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Ā Any mention of drama in the bio.
Photos only shot from very specific angles or only close ups
Last veri a year ago
Immediate requests to move to a chat app
Fab if you would smash
Asking for face pic but refusing to reciprocate
Copyright notices/Sydney University
Entitled bios that read like men should be grateful for the opportunity |
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Ā I donāt think being unable to accom as a singer is a red flag at all, who knows what their situation is, maybe they house share, are looking after relatives or kids or like me can accommodate but would rather not have a stranger from the net in their house for a first meet etc |
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"I donāt think being unable to accom as a singer is a red flag at all, who knows what their situation is, maybe they house share, are looking after relatives or kids or like me can accommodate but would rather not have a stranger from the net in their house for a first meet etc "
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Ā Ā Galleries with screenshots of photos ā they make me question the source and legitimacy of the photos.
Single profiles that mention a partner joining in ā that's what couples profiles are for, surely?
No public photos or profile photo after being a Fab member for over a year ā to quote Toyah, āIt's a mystery!ā
MF couples profiles that have mostly/only dick pics ā makes me question whether the female even exists or knows about it. |
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"I donāt think being unable to accom as a singer is a red flag at all, who knows what their situation is, maybe they house share, are looking after relatives or kids or like me can accommodate but would rather not have a stranger from the net in their house for a first meet etc
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I quite simply wouldn't want a person inside me if the person wouldn't want me in their home.
It implies a willingness to fuck with a huuuuge level of disrespect. I'm trusting them with my personal safety. I'm not going to do that if they don't trust me with their silver teaspoons.
Establishing that, fairly basic, level of chill is what casual dates are for. |
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Ā The old hard cock next to a can of lynx or sky remote
Endless messages
Pic collectors |
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Ā If I see the words āsee if you can entice me/usā I stay well clear.
Just smack of pure entitlement to me. |
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Ā I could write a list..
But I guess it's easy to throw stones.
I would say... I know the "profile" as is.. is all we've got.. like a shop window.
But I think it's a blunt instrument.
Like ... I don't want all my kinks / face out there for the world to see.. I'm not ashamed but I also don't want joe public knowing all my business.
I get I'm a single guy on here so I'll send a face pic.
But also given *I can only speak for myself.
I'm looking for a bit of chemistry.. I can get tits and a hole to fuck in real life with vapid interest
There isn't much in the way of options to deicern a potential "match" or person of interest.
Now this isn't a dating site.. but given I can match / connect with people on a dating site.. with common interests..
Ie liking Art or certain music/ politics etc...
Why can't I do that on fab???
You can be hot as hell but if you are a Tory or your fella is a total gammon.. not for me ta.
Socially I'd wanna have a bit more than...
You've got tits...
I think more could be done to show common interest beyond M for F
As that's a broad fucking brush.
It would also work both ways. Couples/ women could filter out those who've not filled in the long list.. that would screen a lot of knuckle draggers
It would also allow apples to find apples.
Ie. Metal heads, outdoorsy, sporty whatever your type
Just a thought
* anyone getting this far thinking.. he's got no verifis
I used to be on here before (like most) with verifi / meets and in the past I've modded other adult sites
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Ā When someone says send face pic or no reply when they don't have any photos on their profile il happy swap pics or attach my pic if they have 1 |
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Ā Can't travel or can't accommodate is ones we look out for |
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Ā Spelling is a š© for me along with copious amounts of pretty rats photos of your pussy/fanny/vag being torn up bareback š¤® nope Iām out šš
There are other things that deter me from messaging a woman but theyāre my instant š©ās š |
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Ā If thereās an erection as a profile pic |
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Ā Not necessarily a profile red flag but I understand the need to see a face pic when chatting, particularly one that is very recent, as the number of conversations I've had with women/couples that have ended abruptly when asked for a face pic raises questions. |
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Ā And the "will fill in later" profiles but have been active for a year |
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Ā Ranting on about politics.. won't meet Tories..etc ..etc.. |
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Ā Not from a profile but when you get an introduction email that is obviously a copy and paste job.
Instantly ignore. If they can't be bothered to send a personal message then they're not worth bothering with |
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Ā Will fill in later
Straight guys with verifications from men saying how well he sucked their cock
Dirty untidy rooms
Any new female profile with no pics, age range 18 to 99 that says just looking or similar.
Any profile pic of a woman holding a rabbit over a pan of boiling water (not that I've seen many to be fair). |
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"And the "will fill in later" profiles but have been active for a year "
Got to be one of the biggest for me and no photos at all |
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"If I see the words āsee if you can entice me/usā I stay well clear.
Just smack of pure entitlement to me."
Pure narcissism |
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"Not from a profile but when you get an introduction email that is obviously a copy and paste job.
Instantly ignore. If they can't be bothered to send a personal message then they're not worth bothering with "
We had one yesterday, that was exact same message we ignored two months ago and the month previous to that as well |
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Ā Profile says straight but spends all day chatting ip tvs lol |
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"I donāt think being unable to accom as a singer is a red flag at all, who knows what their situation is, maybe they house share, are looking after relatives or kids or like me can accommodate but would rather not have a stranger from the net in their house for a first meet etc
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I quite simply wouldn't want a person inside me if the person wouldn't want me in their home.
It implies a willingness to fuck with a huuuuge level of disrespect. I'm trusting them with my personal safety. I'm not going to do that if they don't trust me with their silver teaspoons.
Establishing that, fairly basic, level of chill is what casual dates are for. "
It goes both ways. Men have needs and concerns about their safety too. So meeting in a neutral place is the compromise that will ensure you both get the security you need. |
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Ā No profile picture, hidden profile, stupid name vaguely resembling a film. |
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By *uckurcumManĀ 2 days ago
County Durham .Bishop Auckland |
10 year old pics before everything headed south or shriveled up ! |
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Ā Couples profiles filled with the pictures of the woman only with something in the bio that says āMr does all the fab admin, messaging etc.ā or along those lines š© |
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Ā Lol reading this thread we all seem to know they ref flags to look out for |
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"Lol reading this thread we all seem to know they ref flags to look out for "
Or we just giving all the red flags ways to get being spotted as a red flag š¤£š¤£ |
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"Lol reading this thread we all seem to know they ref flags to look out for
Or we just giving all the red flags ways to get being spotted as a red flag š¤£š¤£"
Haha touchƩ
Didnāt even think of that ! |
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"Bareback pictures with different women
Dick picture as a profile picture
Any sight or mention of cum š¤®
Fetishisation of any kind
Party goers
Drugs
Unkept body
Dirty surroundings
Dick over toilet pictures "
Unkept body?
Whatās that mean? |
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By *pandjManĀ 2 days ago
helston |
Dirty rooms
Cheap and nasty tacky "sexy" underwear
Pvc
Can't see the woman's face till you meet in person but I won't be disappointed apparently
Using softening filters in 2024 to hide your haggard prematurely aged face caused by substance abuse or smoking
Blatant onlyfans profiles
520 friendly or looking to trade sex for or cocaine |
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"Dirty rooms
Cheap and nasty tacky "sexy" underwear
Pvc
Can't see the woman's face till you meet in person but I won't be disappointed apparently
Using softening filters in 2024 to hide your haggard prematurely aged face caused by substance abuse or smoking
Blatant onlyfans profiles
520 friendly or looking to trade sex for or cocaine"
Cheap and nasty tacky āsexyā underwear šÆā¦.. also old riffy underwear that used to be white & is now greyish š
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Ā Profiles that demand face pics with first message yet then NEVER send one back, even after a few days of chat.
See ya |
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"Messaging as a ācoupleā but on a singles profile
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Oh god š
Iām seeing somebody at the moment (not on fab)
She wants to have her first experience with another woman and bring somebody into the mix.
Half of me is tempted to have a gander through fab and reach out to someone.
The other half of me has stopped me doing so because exactly what you mentioned here. |
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"I donāt think being unable to accom as a singer is a red flag at all, who knows what their situation is, maybe they house share, are looking after relatives or kids or like me can accommodate but would rather not have a stranger from the net in their house for a first meet etc
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I quite simply wouldn't want a person inside me if the person wouldn't want me in their home.
It implies a willingness to fuck with a huuuuge level of disrespect. I'm trusting them with my personal safety. I'm not going to do that if they don't trust me with their silver teaspoons.
Establishing that, fairly basic, level of chill is what casual dates are for.
It goes both ways. Men have needs and concerns about their safety too. So meeting in a neutral place is the compromise that will ensure you both get the security you need."
Nobody in the least implied they didn't. By casual dates I meant clothed activities in public places. I tend not to keep milk at home. But have been known to suggest an unadulterated post-date coffee on occasion...
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Ā Say they are chilled and relaxed and you can stay as long as you want but tell you to leave because they are hungry |
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"Say they are chilled and relaxed and you can stay as long as you want but tell you to leave because they are hungry "
Didnāt even offer you food?
Cheap barstards! |
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Ā Absolutely no mention of an interest in my sex(Tv/Ts) as indicated when go to reply message them,after they message first and i point that out to them and they come out with all sorts of reasons not to show publicly an interest in Tgirls |
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"Messaging as a ācoupleā...
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When they suggest "Afternoon Tea" at The Lanesborough (Park Lane). Red flag, because The Lanesborough serves "High Tea", actually. š"
I have never been offered afternoon tea let alone high tea |
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Ā Seeing someone online who has an emoji for a head for discretion, then when you meet them in real life, they have a massive emoji as a head. |
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"Bareback pictures with different women
Dick picture as a profile picture
Any sight or mention of cum š¤®
Fetishisation of any kind
Party goers
Drugs
Unkept body
Dirty surroundings
Dick over toilet pictures
Unkept body?
Whatās that mean?"
Lots of bodies on here are in that category. |
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"Age range 18-99 (any holes a goal right)
Iām not so sure on this one. To me it mostly suggests that theyāve not set an age range, most likely through laziness. When I see it on a womanās profile I donāt automatically think sheās after any cock she can get.
The difficulty with age ranges, especially with higher numbers, is itās an imperical fact, and that there are always exceptions to the rule. For example, a person who has lived a healthy lifestyle and taken care of themselves in every respect, will look very different to someone the same age who hasnāt.
I agree with you. Probably havenāt set an age range through laziness or not knowing you can set it. "
Similarly those who have selected all the sexual activites known to men women and all those in beween,en bloc.
Do they really,I wonder? |
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Ā š©Gunts (I give great oral but I donāt want to feel like a mechanic getting under a car bonnet)
š©Spotty Bums
š©Basic Spelling errors (Iāll forgive Discrete / Discreet)
š©10 year old photos, last meet 10 years agoā¦
š©Fetish Assessments (what do you want me to do with this information? Fuck off to Fet Life then)
š©Text speak or indications that thinking is hard for you
š©Anything chavvy
š©That stupid insidious Legal bollocks that still permeates Fab
š©Shit photos with backgrounds of clutter, dirty clothes thrown on floor, filthy bedsheets, kids toys and carpets that have never been hoovered
š©Clearly content creators not actually meetingā¦
š©Write āPineappleā in the first line of your messageā¦ so I know youāre a simp. |
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"Bareback pictures with different women
Dick picture as a profile picture
Any sight or mention of cum š¤®
Fetishisation of any kind
Party goers
Drugs
Unkept body
Dirty surroundings
Dick over toilet pictures
Unkept body?
Whatās that mean?
Lots of bodies on here are in that category."
The one who classed it as a red flag being one of them š |
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By *bi HaiveManĀ 2 days ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Everyone will have their own of course.
The downside to threads like this (akin to any 'profile/photo advice' threads) is that it's effectively a guide of what not to put in a profile.
Sometimes it's best to let those red flags present themselves and allow people to make it easy for others to make their own minds up based on their own thoughts. š
Otherwise....you'll never know. š¤·āāļø |
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Ā Profiles which look like a butchers website |
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Ā Been mentioned a few times on this thread about veri's from years ago I don't have veri's recently and the ones I did have are no longer members.
My big red flag is as a few others have put no pics but wants you to send one in the 1st message . |
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"I donāt think being unable to accom as a singer is a red flag at all, who knows what their situation is, maybe they house share, are looking after relatives or kids or like me can accommodate but would rather not have a stranger from the net in their house for a first meet etc
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I do not assume every male who can't accommodate is really attached, but i will ask as to why they cant accommodate if we start chatting. Reminding them of my preference wothout assuming theu are lying to me. |
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"I donāt think being unable to accom as a singer is a red flag at all, who knows what their situation is, maybe they house share, are looking after relatives or kids or like me can accommodate but would rather not have a stranger from the net in their house for a first meet etc
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I do not assume every male who can't accommodate is really attached, but i will ask as to why they cant accommodate if we start chatting. Reminding them of my preference wothout assuming theu are lying to me. "
Go for social - seemed nice, well adjusted, keen and a potential FWBā¦
Pondering inviting said lady over to my homeā¦
Turns out to be a nut job.
ā¦..You donāt get to know my home address until we establish you are in fact ānormalā and donāt require a strict drug regime to function as a well adjusted human being. I donāt want you sitting on my driveway in the dark at 3am. I donāt want you stopping by to say hi while I am working. Donāt want you introducing yourself to me neighbours..
There are many reasons why single men / single women and couples donāt accommodateā¦ |
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š©Basic Spelling errors (Iāll forgive Discrete / Discreet)
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I won't. That is one of the clearest indications of a poor education that could ever exist.
Most of the other typos we see frequently are merely genuine mistakes! |
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Ā There, their, they're used incorrectly.
Also photos of women on single male profiles. |
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"Messaging as a ācoupleā but on a singles profile
Not even photo verified after a few months
A couple but only pics of one of them
Anything else?"
All of this.
Don't read the profile. Come on, if you can't spare a few minutes why should we give you our time?
A simple hey message, or what are you up to?
Fancy a meet tonight, with an hours notice.
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Ā Other than the not verified. I think the other ones are a bit contextual. There's fairly plausible explanations that spring to mind.
There is really for the not verified too. Maybe the made a profile and got busy or forgot then came back? If they were a five the whole time, sure but then if someone was reading into my activity in that way, I'd find that a bit of a red flag. I can't be doing with that drama, been there done that, thanks.
I like people who are clear about their boundaries, but when it comes over that they are so self-absorbed that they have no awareness that other people have boundaries too... It tends to switch me off. |
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Ā A single women messages you and starts talking dirty.. |
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"A single women messages you and starts talking dirty.. "
Hahaha yeah 100% this.
It just doesnāt happen if theyāre legit š |
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Ā And here we have a great 'what not to do' list for time wasters, fakes and general ne'er do wells  |
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"And here we have a great 'what not to do' list for time wasters, fakes and general ne'er do wells "
I donāt think theyād bother with the forums tbf |
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Ā Married guys who say they can accommodate and no mention of the Mrs anywhere in their profile.
The guys who offer tributes (AKA picture collectors) |
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Ā Less so a profile thing, and more a type of message that I receive a lot š© itās always along the lines of thisā¦
āIām going to be in your city at the weekend. I want you to sleep with my wife. She doesnāt know so just turn up at the bar and flirt with her. She would love itā
Anyone who says that is an instant block. And it happens almost daily. |
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By *aven.WomanĀ 2 days ago
Not the North West... |
People that have a list of red flags are a red flag. |
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By *opinovManĀ 2 days ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
"- Profiles who have joined within an hr of messaging you. š©
- Personaās - where someone is trying too hard to portray themselves as a character. The most common tropes being a Mr. Grey type or a Viking š© ( I was trying to think of a female equivalent but I donāt think women do that kind of thing).
- Couples where it seems to be just a man (as you mentioned) š©
- Dirty rooms in photos š©
This final one is not meant to offend but weirdly it puts me offā¦..
- Photos in a budget hotel š© "
Also... dudes whose pfp is a cock shot in a shitter š©
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"- Profiles who have joined within an hr of messaging you. š©
- Personaās - where someone is trying too hard to portray themselves as a character. The most common tropes being a Mr. Grey type or a Viking š© ( I was trying to think of a female equivalent but I donāt think women do that kind of thing).
- Couples where it seems to be just a man (as you mentioned) š©
- Dirty rooms in photos š©
This final one is not meant to offend but weirdly it puts me offā¦..
- Photos in a budget hotel š©
Also... dudes whose pfp is a cock shot in a shitter š©
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Guessing I hit a nerve ay? If that comment was aimed at me. Iām not in āthe shitterā.
Let me add to my list people with photoās from 2010. And those who directly insult others. š© |
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By *opinovManĀ 2 days ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
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š©Basic Spelling errors (Iāll forgive Discrete / Discreet)
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I won't. That is one of the clearest indications of a poor education that could ever exist.
Most of the other typos we see frequently are merely genuine mistakes!"
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Ā Misogynists in disguise.
People with superiority complex.
Generally people putting others down, and other shitty behaviour. |
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Ā So many UPDATEs to the profile, often contradicting their filters or the rest of the profile.
Just update the main profile, goddammit. |
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Ā I wonder how many red flags my profile has  |
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By *opinovManĀ 2 days ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
"- Profiles who have joined within an hr of messaging you. š©
- Personaās - where someone is trying too hard to portray themselves as a character. The most common tropes being a Mr. Grey type or a Viking š© ( I was trying to think of a female equivalent but I donāt think women do that kind of thing).
- Couples where it seems to be just a man (as you mentioned) š©
- Dirty rooms in photos š©
This final one is not meant to offend but weirdly it puts me offā¦..
- Photos in a budget hotel š©
Also... dudes whose pfp is a cock shot in a shitter š©
Guessing I hit a nerve ay? If that comment was aimed at me. Iām not in āthe shitterā.
Let me add to my list people with photoās from 2010. And those who directly insult others. š© "
Relax dude. No need to be so uptight man... nobody's insulting anyone here. 
Sure, my oldest pic is from 2010, but my newest public is from 2021... 2024 in my private pics. Glad you liked them though - thanks for your visit.  |
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"Any profile name with gusher, squirter, sucker, pounder, cumslut etc.
Not for me."
Damn it!
I was just about to change my username to Insatiable_gusher squirter_sucker_pounder_cumslut_Nymph 2024 |
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Ā Iād red flag guys who wonāt talk to me on the forums but then turn up in my DMs. I mean conduct yourself how you like to, but Iām not playing that game. |
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"- Profiles who have joined within an hr of messaging you. š©
- Personaās - where someone is trying too hard to portray themselves as a character. The most common tropes being a Mr. Grey type or a Viking š© ( I was trying to think of a female equivalent but I donāt think women do that kind of thing).
- Couples where it seems to be just a man (as you mentioned) š©
- Dirty rooms in photos š©
This final one is not meant to offend but weirdly it puts me offā¦..
- Photos in a budget hotel š©
Also... dudes whose pfp is a cock shot in a shitter š©
Guessing I hit a nerve ay? If that comment was aimed at me. Iām not in āthe shitterā.
Let me add to my list people with photoās from 2010. And those who directly insult others. š©
Relax dude. No need to be so uptight man... nobody's insulting anyone here.
Sure, my oldest pic is from 2010, but my newest public is from 2021... 2024 in my private pics. Glad you liked them though - thanks for your visit. "
Shouldnāt you be trawling through your photo archives ready to upload another oldie, instead of playing the victim?
Donāt give it if you canāt take it back
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By *opinovManĀ 2 days ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
- People who get too uptight š©
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Ā 1. Couples profiles with lots of pictures of obviously different women (latest this week...some with tattoos, some without. Also, one of the ladies was a very attractive East Asian, while the others were Northern European).
2. Couples where the lady isn't ever available.
3. People that contact us who are substantially outside our age range (we do state twice in our profile that we won't meet people who are young enough to be our kids). |
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Ā If theyāre a man and Iām attracted to them
Thereās bound to be something wrong with them  |
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"A single women messages you and starts talking dirty.. "
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Horny police !š®āāļøPut your hands where I can see them! Move along, nothing to see hereā¦ |
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"I wonder how many red flags my profile has "
Less than a Chinese communist rally.. šØš³ šØš³šØš³šØš³
Youāre fine š |
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"Age range 18-99 (any holes a goal right)
Mrs
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Totally agreed - find that a worrying range
Mrs xx |
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"Age range 18-99 (any holes a goal right)
Mrs
Totally agreed - find that a worrying range
Mrs xx"
It might be a be because its a default setting, it been left untouched by people. They probably wouldn't meet everybody in that range, but are more open about the ages they would meet. |
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"Age range 18-99 (any holes a goal right)
Mrs
Totally agreed - find that a worrying range
Mrs xx
It might be a be because its a default setting, it been left untouched by people. They probably wouldn't meet everybody in that range, but are more open about the ages they would meet."
This really
Iāve never bothered with the age setting as I find things tend to filter themselves out, like, thereās not even any 18 year olds on here anyway (that are real anyway) and I wouldnāt meet them regardless, same with 80 year olds etc wouldnāt message me and vice versa so I donāt see the point in setting a limit |
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Ā Also this wasnāt a thread to point out things that are āwrongā about peopleās profiles, itās just to say that after over a decade on and off this site thereās things that can pique my scepticism when I see them on a profile. |
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Ā Oh I'm suspecting that due to the lack of response or straight rejection my profile must be full of š©. Either that or I'm fugly as shit - oh well your loss folks š
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"Also this wasnāt a thread to point out things that are āwrongā about peopleās profiles, itās just to say that after over a decade on and off this site thereās things that can pique my scepticism when I see them on a profile. "
You forgot this is the internet, huh? š
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By *8on33ManĀ 1 day ago
winfrith |
"Messaging as a ācoupleā but on a singles profile
Not even photo verified after a few months
A couple but only pics of one of them
Anything else?"
Professional basically means they charge. |
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"Hidden profile and a thumbnail of a pair of legs š©š©š©"
Not going to lie, I looked š¤£ |
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Ā Using fab to market for their OF account. Avoid like the fucking plague. |
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Ā A catalogue of cock pics
āIām a ā¦.. male and Iām looking to meetā¦.ā - itās not fucking auto trader. Give me something with more personality.
Overly graphic usernames
Multiple action shots with multiple partners. |
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Ā Females who don't want 1) a social 2) gives you their number but don't call or video and 3) however are willing to pop round and fuck  |
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Ā Anyone unverified, only photos of their bits and bobs, anyone rude, pushy or can't hold a conversation |
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"Females who don't want 1) a social 2) gives you their number but don't call or video and 3) however are willing to pop round and fuck "
Sounds good. Cut to the chase! |
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By *weet6WomanĀ 20 hours ago
East Riding |
"Hidden profile and a thumbnail of a pair of legs š©š©š©"
Are you leg-ist?? 
Sxx |
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Ā People who say "females" when they mean "women". |
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Ā Exclusions because of race
Close up shots of genitalia
"Looking for exceptional males only"
Bareback pics
"Put some effort into your messages" - don't put in any effort back |
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By *weet6WomanĀ 19 hours ago
East Riding |
"Seeing someone online who has an emoji for a head for discretion, then when you meet them in real life, they have a massive emoji as a head."
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"This...one is not meant to offend but weirdly it puts me offā¦..
- Photos in a budget hotel š©"
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Especially when the photographs are taken at The Savoy (awful hotel). If the penny-pinching harlot isn't staying at The Mandarin Oriental, Hyde Park or the The Peninsula, Belgravia, then that is an unfaltering Red Flagā¢. |
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Ā Ā Consistently dreadful spelling and grammar (not the odd mistake)
Anyone who likes me. Must be something wrong with them. |
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"People who say "females" when they mean "women"."
Maybe they do mean 'females' in their parlance.
Top marks, however, for using this as a criterion. Why not, if you feel sufficiently strongly about it? |
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Ā A profile that simply reads...
"Will fill in later"
Especially when the acount is over a month old... |
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Ā People who take race fetishism too far, I saw one user's bio state that "White men are inferior" and that she is "Black only". I mean we all have kinks but to say one group of men is inferior is crazy. Just so bizarre. |
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"And the "will fill in later" profiles but have been active for a year "
This!!!
Kink (Mrs) |
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Ā Living rooms that have clearly not been redecorated since the 80s. A purple carpet. A long list of dislikes and dos and don'ts followed by complaining that no one ever meets them. |
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"People who say "females" when they mean "women"."
š¤ Wonder Womenā¦ |
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Ā Main display picture is there cock š© |
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"Also this wasnāt a thread to point out things that are āwrongā about peopleās profiles, itās just to say that after over a decade on and off this site thereās things that can pique my scepticism when I see them on a profile. "
Pique My Scepticism is a posh way of saying I call bullshit. I will use it in one of tomorrows Team calls, thank you Poundstore Jason Mamoa.
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By *osephrimmerManĀ 17 hours ago
Edinburgh Aberdeen and Dublin |
Has the words ādisease ridden whoreā in the profile! X |
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Ā Dic pics with the toilet in the background
Only face pic is a mask
"no face pics as I have be discrete" just say you're married!
... will fill in later
straight guys not looking for TVs who message you
Where the pics are from 2014
Where the pics are obviously camera shots of old photos
and last but not least...
Where the Sidney Uni bit is longer than the profile |
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Ā Oh sorry, one more
When your profile says you can't accommodate, but they ask "can you accommodate"
Grrr
Rant Over |
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Ā Too many Dick pics
Profile not filled in or very sparse
Profiles less than a month old (especially if itās a woman)
Sexuality doesnāt match who they say they want to meet (ie says straight but will meet TV/TS)
No recent photos
No recent veris (I am guilty of this though as I have all my veris hidden because I like to keep my privacy and the privacy of those I have played with)
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"Age range 18-99 (any holes a goal right)
Mrs
Totally agreed - find that a worrying range
Mrs xx
It might be a be because its a default setting, it been left untouched by people. They probably wouldn't meet everybody in that range, but are more open about the ages they would meet.
This really
Iāve never bothered with the age setting as I find things tend to filter themselves out, like, thereās not even any 18 year olds on here anyway (that are real anyway) and I wouldnāt meet them regardless, same with 80 year olds etc wouldnāt message me and vice versa so I donāt see the point in setting a limit "
Plenty of 70-80 year olds message me despite me age range settings. Also some very very young men around half my age. The age settings donāt seem to deter them! |
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Ā When you see a status update asking if anyone has snow or any other type of slang for wanting drugs. |
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"Age range 18-99 (any holes a goal right)
Mrs
Totally agreed - find that a worrying range
Mrs xx
It might be a be because its a default setting, it been left untouched by people. They probably wouldn't meet everybody in that range, but are more open about the ages they would meet.
This really
Iāve never bothered with the age setting as I find things tend to filter themselves out, like, thereās not even any 18 year olds on here anyway (that are real anyway) and I wouldnāt meet them regardless, same with 80 year olds etc wouldnāt message me and vice versa so I donāt see the point in setting a limit
Plenty of 70-80 year olds message me despite me age range settings. Also some very very young men around half my age. The age settings donāt seem to deter them! "
You can block them from messaging you? |
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Ā Pictures of men holding objects next to their dicks to compare the size
Action shots of men ejaculating
Close up picture of genitals
Weird props, particularly on genitals |
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Ā Profiles that contain more lines of text than the fucking Iliad. Especially if that's excluding the pointless disclaimer at the end about what Sydney University (or anybody else) is or isn't permitted to do.
Oh fuck off...I'm a straight male. As long as the dangly bits are on the chest and our preferences appear to match I'll just skim-read to find the important bits before messaging. |
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Ā the classic being on for over a year yet not verified |
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Ā It's not a red flag as such but when people have 18-99 down on their profile,like come on here , l know if we all live long enough we'll age but how many here would meet a 99 yr old ?? |
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Ā I dont see how no recent veris could be a red flag, someone may have taken a break, not found anyone who takes their fancy for a long time, they couldāve been seeing the same person off here for a while exclusively, there could be a myriad reasons |
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By *irldnCoupleĀ 8 hours ago
Brighton |
"I dont see how no recent veris could be a red flag, someone may have taken a break, not found anyone who takes their fancy for a long time, they couldāve been seeing the same person off here for a while exclusively, there could be a myriad reasons "
Agreed. We are one of those! Plus when someone leaves the site their veri vanishes (annoyingly). |
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Ā Any jumping to conclusions is an instant red flag to me. Yes, I do see the irony of the statement. š¤£ |
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Ā Any mention of drugs or the complete moronic statement of a seven day load to get rid of.
Complete turn off and very instant delete. |
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"a seven day load to get rid of.
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Never came across that. What is it? Literally THAT load? |
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Ā Is this related to green flag |
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By *arks2CoupleĀ 6 hours ago
Warwickshire |
It's funny, before we were verified I didn't see what the big deal was. Now we get it.
Also feel very uncomfortable when single male profiles post face/nudes of women on their own. |
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Ā They have not cum for x amount of days,usually seven. |
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Ā The Sydney University or worse, Facebook warning is a complete turn off fo us. We don't want to meet people that are that stupid.
On the other hand the spoof ones makes us laugh, that's the sort of person we can get on with |
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"They have not cum for x amount of days,usually seven."
Oh. Definitely a turn off. What good is that info to anyone?
And that explains why I never came across it, single guys not being profiles I look at. |
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Ā New accounts that usually have a picture, talk to you for 4-5 messages, then are deleted. Has anyone else noticed this or is my account cursed? They are never verified too, I always assumed they get marked as spam and banned. |
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"Age range 18-99 (any holes a goal right)
Mrs
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Ours is set like that cos we donāt want an arbitrary line over which people might get concerned. Although unlikely to meet the extreme ends! |
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"Age range 18-99 (any holes a goal right)
Mrs
Ours is set like that cos we donāt want an arbitrary line over which people might get concerned. Although unlikely to meet the extreme ends! "
That actually makes perfect sense. |
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Ā Ā Red flag for anyone who uses the abbreviation 'veris'.
It sounds far too antipodean for my liking. |
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