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I'm most wary of couples. There are absolute gems of couple on here for sure, but also 99% of messages I get from couples are more entitled and objectifying than anything I ever get from anyone else.
Single women are probably my favourite, usually actually reaching out with something to say rather than just hollow compliments or hey how's you. But again there's still a portion that think "Oi oi" is enough of an approach to get a response.
TV/CD tends towards the extreme end one way or another. Either all the way in with the fap fodder or actually engaging really well. Very little of the tedious middle ground in my experience. |
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"Single women, admittedly don't say nice tits or send want to meet now messages. But in the main I find them lacking depth in their messages.
Other couples I find it tends to be the males driving it, which is opposite to us in initial messages so we often don't click.
CD/TVs we at least seem to attract messages from those who want to be abused etc because they appear feminine. Which really really makes me uncomfortable about what they think of femininity. They also tend to send really explicit messages which I don't like. "
There are obviously lots of good experiences also. I accidentally got fixated on the last part of the OP  |
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Couples: I don't usually entertain couples from a 'meet' perspective because it's not what I'm looking for, but I engage with them in a platonic/social sense. Sadly, on two occasions (with couples) I have had to endure a plethora of drama, infighting and bickering, mostly attributed to the "M" not being happy with the "F" communicating with me. It's a "their" problem and not mine.
It's also the 'cloak and dagger' approach - the "M" pretending to be the "F" when chatting to me, further compounding the subterfuge and nastiness.
Single Women: my experience with them has been positive, rewarding and fulfilling, bar a few divas who think sending a photo of their pussy is the perfect opening gambit to engage with me; or those who have a manifesto of demands on their profile but fail to follow their own caveats, exhibiting duplicitous behaviour.
In fairness - they do make for deliciously welcoming afternoon tea participants. I can forgive all their transgressions because of this!
Trans: the one or two that I have met from a solely social point of view have been utterly charming. |
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I've never had a bad experience with anyone I've met.
I don't rush to meet females or couples and some have flaked out, but I'd hardly call that a bad experience. Other than time messaging, nothing has been lost. |
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By *hilloutMan 12 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"What's your experience with couples/single women/trans etc been like on Fab?
Has a negative experience with one made you more wary of them as a whole? "
I've been a lone wolf through my fab journey only having met single women. Notwithstanding a couple of instances, it has been overwhelmingly positive. I love women in general 😁
I've never met couples, perhaps for not wanting to be a third wheel, perhaps for being greedy and wanting a person all to myself. I might be open to experimenting in this respect, but would take some convincing and it would have to be an exceptional couple. |
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By *aven.Woman 12 weeks ago
Not the North West... |
"I'd bet getting my boobs out that no one will slate women.
You’re probably right but I dunno because there are a lot of misogynists on here. "
Most forum men know how to play the game though |
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I have met a couple of couples who OOOOOOOOOOFTTTTTTTTT……. 😍😍😍🤩🤩🤩🤩
But apart from those two, sadly there is almost never attraction from me to the male half.
Single ladies- have met a few, but many times they’re bait to get the male half involved 🙄🙄🙄 I am still looking for the elusive girlfriend! 😍 and I have made several platonic female friends here ❤️
Not really met TV/TS in person - quite happy to make friends but wouldn’t be sexually involved. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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I get on with most men well .. Its always for me been the woman . I can be bi and had meets were woman laying down the rules what i should i should not be doing if meeting a man to come play . So clubs better i found in the passed for me. |
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By *mf123Man 12 weeks ago
with one foot out the door |
As i look back i think iv had some awesome times my minge magnet was once the ultimate power in the universe
But i got too proud of the technological terror i had constructed and discovered the ability to create uncontrollable orgasms was insignificant compared to the power of the f0rce
At that point i made an absolute tit of myself and became consumed by fear and as we all know fear is a path to the dark side and forever will it dominate my destiny well a few years at least so i retired from use of all of my superpowers content to simply become a good man well at least a busy man anyway
No jawas were harmed in the making of this drivel    |
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"I'd bet getting my boobs out that no one will slate women.
You’re probably right but I dunno because there are a lot of misogynists on here.
Most forum men know how to play the game though"
Such cynicism from you Raven, that makes a pleasant change.
Don’t you know all fawning comments are made with upmost sincerity 😉 |
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It depends on each person regardless of their gender.
Had a couple of bad experiences on fab from meets
It makes me more cautious on when I meet someone especially when there’s no face pictures even in messages
The ones I met lied on their profile about smoking, position etc
Have chatted and met one or two nice men who are the ones who vanish after a while.
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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Our main gripe on this site is with couples. Most have only pics of the women (we therefore assume the man's ugly) or there are no pics at all. Yet they seem to directly message asking for a social or even a sexual meet.
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I think at this point should we point out that anyone from any gender or single/couple can be a dick and can be nice!
Only issue I've ever had was with a single women and one bloke who quite frankly both probably did me a favour.
I don't really talk to couples as much due to the fear factor (from me not them). |
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I am not sure I can really segregate my experiences based on those categories. People's personalities are too diverse, and too great a determining factor.
I think that is magnified further when considering couples as there is also their relational dynamic and what they are seeking. What do they share, what are their boundaries? This can vary greatly. I quite understand couples prioritising their relationship, but I am not of the dial-a-stuntcock ilk.
And really that's the common factor - me. I appreciate openness and intimacy, I like to get to know people to some degree before having sex. It's experienced most often with single women, I find. |
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By *opeyXWoman 12 weeks ago
Dun Dee |
"What's your experience with couples/single women/trans etc been like on Fab?
Has a negative experience with one made you more wary of them as a whole? "
I've only met them at socials/club.
Mostly friendly and welcoming.
Have made friends with a few females from here and a couple of couples also.
So pretty much the same as men.
I'll speak to anyone at a social though.  |
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By *eli OP Woman 12 weeks ago
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"Have had more bad experiences than good. Lots of jealousy."
Ach Catnip, sorry to read that. I suppose it's how jealousy is handled. It's a human emotion, well more an umbrella term but when it becomes weaponised it's unpleasant. |
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I’ve had a mixed bag. I’ve encountered couples that have given off hugely entitled energy, single femmes that are flaky and breadcrumb people. I’ve encountered liars, cheaters, pests and the worst of people.
Thankfully I’ve also encountered wonderful and genuine friends, warm, kind and generous folks. Fab has made me cynical and suspicious but it’s also made me open and caring |
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I don't think just 1 negative experience can put you off, but I can imagine several would, if I got bitten by several dogs on different occasions I'd become wary of dogs, that's not to say I hate them all.
That's the best way I think I can word my own put offness.
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By *indergirlWoman 12 weeks ago
somewhere, someplace |
Been a mixed bag, mostly good, but some rotters in there that have made me wary especially when it comes to single females, either from them not being happy to prove it is a female talking or suddenly a male is trying to be added to the equation |
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By *batMan 12 weeks ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
Twice I’ve been approached by single Fs who are going to be in the Benidorm area. They’ve contacted me.
Twice I’ve swapped a few messages and pics and twice agreed to meet them.
Twice they’ve ghosted me a day or two before.
I don’t mind people changing their minds, but it seems like self entitled behaviour and quite bad manners if I’m honest.
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By *batMan 12 weeks ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
Oh and a couple that wanted me to go to theirs right then on a Saturday evening, the first time we’d spoken.
When I explained I’d been drinking they insisted I get a taxi or get blocked. I gladly picked the latter.
Gbat |
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Back before I had enough experience to spot the flags I had numerous bad experiences with women that ranged from them getting d*unk on a social in the middle of the day and then driving, another made shit up in a veri about passionate kissing that never happened and there was the one that 'took me under her wing' and warned me off all the 'toxic bitches' that were local to me. She ghosted me when I met them anyway and proceeded to tell women not to meet me. They met me anyway.
In person, at social events, it's more likely for me to have a negative experience with couple's and it's often the husband's. The vibe is that as a single man I'm not worthy of basic courtesy. This is common.
These days it's rare to have a bad experience as I can see the red flags coming a mile off and I don't meet so many people.
I wouldn't consider anything that happens over messaging a bad experience as it's just messaging but it's couples that generally introduce themselves abruptly and with the assumption that I'll meet them just because they are in town Friday
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By *andT2023Couple 12 weeks ago
in the middle |
A mixed bag for us but nothing really horrible has happened to put us off any particular group. Everyone is different. Most of our fab experiences have been nothing but positive .
Our dynamic perhaps has evolved and thats the primary reason for not really engaging with couples. |
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I find couples to be the trickiest to navigate. Usually feels like the guy talking, even when claiming to be her. Quite often they are quite pushy about pictures which is always a red flag for me (not the face pic to see if there is any attraction).
I tend to only talk to couples from my couples profile because it does seem easier to find the legit ones that way.
Men are a whole other kettle of fish. There are absolute gems in there but having the time to find them is tough.
Men with large cocks seem to think that's all they need. Men who are close think that's all it takes. Wouldn't really say bad experiences as its just what fab is but does make me go into hiding for months at a time when it becomes too much.
The only time I've spoken to single females is from the forum so no dramas there and hoping they may turn into friendships over time. |
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Whem it comes to meets, Fabs a waste of time for this profile and my wife and I's profile.
We have that rare cuckqean / hot husband dynamic that only gels with a minority. As a couple we preffer meeting single ladies (rarely happens on here) and if we meet a couple well, my wife's not intrested in the male half 99% of the time.
When I attempted to meet solo through here in the past, often met with a "yeah right" attitude.
Dosnt matter if its a single woman or a couple. The presumption was often I'm cheating OR with many couples, suddenly turned into them wanting my wife to join for him.
So no, fabs not been great in that regard and there's to much effort for zero payout now. Plus we live n
In a dry area...not much going on swinging wise and if we do post meet requests, we can expect an empty inbox.
However...
We started doing clubs and social events. Works for us and we use fab to keep in touch with folk.
Great for people we've made freinds with but even if we post club meets we rarely see anything come from them. We get loads of "hey we are going, see you there" but the senders never come say hi at the club amd since they're faceless 99% of the time we have no idea who was saying it.
But we are not alone. Plenty of fellow club goers say the same thing. Fab dosnt work for meets for them either.
It is what it is I guess.
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When you are quite active on fab and in socials and clubs the chances are your going to come across issues with people.
Thankfully these idiots are in the minority and it definitely don't affect us or put us off. |
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Couples - some lovely ones. Many who are here for the wrong reasons/ one is doing it to please the other. Drama around changing their minds part way through when it doesn’t feel how they expected after all. Men trying to sneak past the boundaries they’ve agreed with their partners. Couples feeling it’s a given I’ll play because they want a single woman to join them and hey presto, here you are. I’ve felt just as objectified by couples as by men.
Single women I’ve not played with so not had any direct experiences other than non sexual positive experiences of women supporting women. |
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Never had a bad experience when I was with a couples profile. It was difficult to get a couple that both my partner and I connected with. Usually one of the other couples didn't quite do it for us but we did have plenty of meets and enjoyed what we did on here. As a single male now the yellow boxes have definitely stopped and much more work is needed for anything to get going. Never had a bad experience either as a couple or a single, although few single meets to make a good comparison. |
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99% of the couples we've interacted with on here have been lovely.
We're not looking for TV/TS or Trans, so we've had next to no interaction with anyone from those demographics.
Even though we're open to meeting single ladies, we don't actively look for or message them. On the rare occasions that a single lady has messaged us, they've mostly been obviously fakes... early 20's, slim & attractive, wanting to meet as soon as possible.
Generally though, all of our interactions with other people on FAB have been great.
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"I'd bet getting my boobs out that no one will slate women. "
Get them out!!!
I’ve found single women and couples to be the most entitled people on here. A polite no thanks is usually met with a sarky comment. It’s as if they’re not used to being told no. |
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I've had many wonderful experiences from people of all demographics.
I have had a number of bad experiences with couples who want to treat you like a free play thing with no consideration for what I may want. Dictated fantasies they want me to fit into, wanting to use me as a birthday or anniversary gift for a partner, requests to "put on a show" or straight women who want to do things with me or me to do things to them purely for the husbands titillation. Then there's those with an attitude that you should kiss the ground they walk on for the opportunity before even knowing if you're interested.
The only bad experiences I've had with single women has been either abuse in my inbox because they don't like what I say on the forums or some "stay away from my man" drama over apparent single men.
Mostly though I have a nice quiet life these days  . |
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I have very limited experience on here but count myself extremely lucky
Men = N/A
Women = First meet has become my partner of almost 8 years
Couples = Met a nice couple in the early days of joining
TV's/CD's = N/A |
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I've never actually met a couple or had a threesome but I removed the looking for couples from my profile because of too many negative experiences just in chat.
Demands and instructions in their opening messages, telling me they know my entire profile is bs and I should be grateful for any attention at my age or threatening to end my fab journey for daring to turn them down.
On the flip side though I am one half of a couples profile and we would never think of speaking to anyone the way we have been spoken to on both our single accounts.
My experiences with single women have been mixed with some amazing meets and some unbelievably batshit crazy women who will stoop to any level for validation.
The loopy ones haven't put me off others but I have become more cynical when I've seen the private side and how different it is to the public forum side of a few people. |
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By *vaRose43Woman 12 weeks ago
Forest of Dean |
Couples generally assume my straightness to be “fab straight” and almost all have sent me messages with long fantasies for me to perform for them. I don’t take kindly to being treated like some sort of performing sex doll. There have been a couple of exceptions although I haven’t yet met with a couple for any sort of dalliance.
Very much open to the idea of a hot husband scenario or those couples who meet separately but socially together.
Ladies. My first ever message from a
Lady was a local woman who warned me to “get off her patch”, and another who was insanely jealous I had met someone she liked who had turned her down (with her attitude I’m hardly surprised). Most however have been lovely and I’ve chatted about all sorts of stuff both fab and non-fab related.
TV’s/CD’s generally we talk lingerie lol. Most messages are about stockings or other items of clothing and where to find them.
Trans - to my knowledge I haven’t yet had a message from a trans person but unless they state so I wouldn’t necessarily know.
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"I’ve had bad experiences. No it hasn’t made me more wary of them.
Ask me about my experiences on here with racism next. 
Do you actually want me to go there? 'cause I will. "
I’ll be more in the mood for an argument about my lived experience tomorrow x |
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"Our main gripe on this site is with couples. Most have only pics of the women (we therefore assume the man's ugly) or there are no pics at all. Yet they seem to directly message asking for a social or even a sexual meet.
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This ^ No photos of the men, yet by the 3rd message they are demanding a face photo of me and my vital statistics.
They usually have a huge long list of don't as well.
Single men on here are very demanding too. Pretty much send me a face photo and when can we meet.
I've found attached male swingers to be the best bet, they want the friendship and added benefits |
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My experience on here as a single woman is very different to that as a couple.
This is mostly because I accept messages from single men.
I rarely get messages from any demographic other than single men, or men in couples, who are generally hard work, as despite clearly not having an interest in meeting them they message with this in mind.
I have had nice chats with all demographics but a large number of messages instigated by men end up with them getting blocked. |
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We've not had, in our opinion, bad experiences.
But we do our due diligence and only meet for a social initially.
Do we want to have a sexual relationship with all couples and singles we meet, absolutely not, but that doesn't mean the social night wasn't a success.
We may not find some of our vanilla friends sexually appealing but that doesn't mean we don't have great nights out with them.
It's about managing your expectations on FAB meets.
We tend not yo do the online chat thing.
At parties or clubs, again only in our experience, it tends to be the ladies who create problems and generally alcohol induced but all ends well.
Liz. X |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 12 weeks ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Couples - you have to be careful that you're not just a present for Mr and that you are actually meeting them both.
Women - had quite a few social nights out with single women and they've all been great.
Trans - more mixed. Some only dress in the comfort of their own bedroom and don't accommodate. One only meets after midnight in the shed at the bottom of their garden. Most are great, though. Mind, I did have one tell me my boobs were too large for them  |
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"I have about 99.8% of good experiences, especially with couples  but the odd one or two have slipped through the net. Definitely doesn’t deter me, just makes me a little more vigilant and fussy. "
And then there was Stephen 🤣🤣🤣💩💩💩
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"I have about 99.8% of good experiences, especially with couples but the odd one or two have slipped through the net. Definitely doesn’t deter me, just makes me a little more vigilant and fussy.
And then there was Stephen 🤣🤣🤣💩💩💩
Mr "
Stephen is 99.8% of my best experiences 😊😊😊😊😊 |
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"I have about 99.8% of good experiences, especially with couples but the odd one or two have slipped through the net. Definitely doesn’t deter me, just makes me a little more vigilant and fussy.
And then there was Stephen 🤣🤣🤣💩💩💩
Mr
Stephen is 99.8% of my best experiences 😊😊😊😊😊"
🤣🤣🤣🤣 of course he is, he's a third nipple, what's better than a third nipple 🤣🤣
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By *eli OP Woman 12 weeks ago
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"I’ve had a mixed bag. I’ve encountered couples that have given off hugely entitled energy, single femmes that are flaky and breadcrumb people. I’ve encountered liars, cheaters, pests and the worst of people.
Thankfully I’ve also encountered wonderful and genuine friends, warm, kind and generous folks. Fab has made me cynical and suspicious but it’s also made me open and caring "
That's really lovely - a nice sentiment. I've really enjoyed reading the replies, been a tad too busy packing to reply to each one but thank you!
The positive side of Fab more than makes up for any negativity. Twunts are in every demographic. So are good people.  |
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By *ib.Man 12 weeks ago
Hampshire |
"Mixed but mostly positive.
I wish I collate all the data from these forums.
Effort. Put the effort in to having sex, slightly more satisfying."
I probably should but between me and you (don't tell anyone else) I'm extremely happy with not having sex at the moment.
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"What's your experience with couples/single women/trans etc been like on Fab?
Has a negative experience with one made you more wary of them as a whole? "
Over the years, I've met more women here than men
All have been great, easy to get along with and I've thoroughly enjoyed our times together, social or otherwise |
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By *eli OP Woman 12 weeks ago
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"Mixed but mostly positive.
I wish I collate all the data from these forums.
Effort. Put the effort in to having sex, slightly more satisfying.
I probably should but between me and you (don't tell anyone else) I'm extremely happy with not having sex at the moment.
Wild."
It's just between us Lib, don't worry, no one else will read this thread.
That is wild. So... wild. It's the first time I've realised you're an older generation. Wild, huh? |
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By *ib.Man 12 weeks ago
Hampshire |
"Mixed but mostly positive.
I wish I collate all the data from these forums.
Effort. Put the effort in to having sex, slightly more satisfying.
I probably should but between me and you (don't tell anyone else) I'm extremely happy with not having sex at the moment.
Wild.
It's just between us Lib, don't worry, no one else will read this thread.
That is wild. So... wild. It's the first time I've realised you're an older generation. Wild, huh?"
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