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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My rant for today is about those men that don't seem to read anything else on my profile but the word submissive.
This week I've been offered two collars, two guys have told me exactly what I will do when they own me.
And at least another 3 have just said stuff that has made me rant at them.
now I know we all have to start somewhere, but I find a guy offering me a collar like that insulting and disrespectful. I earned my last one after quite a long time and it was such a big thing.
But the biggest thing that annoys me is the guys that get annoyed because I don't talk to them as a submissive.
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Cali
You know perhaps better than any submissive does that the OYKB brigade exist. Anyone who TELLS you they will collar you is a waste of eye strain...
You know what it involves, there will alwasy be the wannabe's out there, let them play with wannabe subs..
Save yourself for He who completes you.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was just texting you!!! I've just been offered a collar!! I am ready to scream!
Why don't people understand the bloody importance of a collar and the significance of it!
arghhhhh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was just texting you!!! I've just been offered a collar!! I am ready to scream!
Why don't people understand the bloody importance of a collar and the significance of it!
arghhhhh "
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"I was just texting you!!! I've just been offered a collar!! I am ready to scream!
Why don't people understand the bloody importance of a collar and the significance of it!
arghhhhh "
Ignorance......
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Cali
You know perhaps better than any submissive does that the OYKB brigade exist. Anyone who TELLS you they will collar you is a waste of eye strain...
You know what it involves, there will alwasy be the wannabe's out there, let them play with wannabe subs..
Save yourself for He who completes you.."
oh I'm to well schooled to not take the wannabes in hand and educate those that can be.
It just annoys me, my collar is still important and hangs on on bed. Won't wear it any more but it was important to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I was just texting you!!! I've just been offered a collar!! I am ready to scream!
Why don't people understand the bloody importance of a collar and the significance of it!
arghhhhh "
have to swap names see if same guys lol |
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"I was just texting you!!! I've just been offered a collar!! I am ready to scream!
Why don't people understand the bloody importance of a collar and the significance of it!
arghhhhh "
Would you explain?? I don't know a great deal about the BDSM world but am always keen to learn!! I get the odd message from men who have obviously jumped on the 50 shades bandwagon and are looking for women to tie up and do as they are told. Lol x |
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"My rant for today is about those men that don't seem to read anything else on my profile but the word submissive.
SNIP
Anyway, rant over"
You are clearly not a true sub, as you did not kneel while typing this...  |
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"My rant for today is about those men that don't seem to read anything else on my profile but the word submissive.
SNIP
Anyway, rant over
You are clearly not a true sub, as you did not kneel while typing this... "
and how do you know??lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For me my training collar was similar to an engagement ring. I then had to earn my main one. To me it's a serious commitment. My main collar was like a wedding ring, only to me meant more.
It represented my pledge and my ownership. And as I was the only submissive my former master ever chose to take on as his slave and collar, I felt amazingly special. |
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"If you put sub or dom on your profile i guess thats the people you will attract.?!  "
The issue is that telling a sub you will collar her is a MAJOR deal....and it happens to rarely..it is very special.
To message a sub just because she has put it on her profile doesn't mean she will take any collar that is tossed her way of the breeze.
To get to the stage of collaring takes time, trust and lots of contact (Real life not on here)
Just because you say you like anal on your profile doesn't mean you will take any random cock that happens to sashay past... |
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"My rant for today is about those men that don't seem to read anything else on my profile but the word submissive.
SNIP
Anyway, rant over
You are clearly not a true sub, as you did not kneel while typing this...
and how do you know??lol "
True SirMasterDaddyDom's like me know all things.
How dare you question me, especially while YOU are not on your knees either.
What's wrong with this site, where have all the real subbies gone?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My rant for today is about those men that don't seem to read anything else on my profile but the word submissive.
SNIP
Anyway, rant over
You are clearly not a true sub, as you did not kneel while typing this...
and how do you know??lol
True SirMasterDaddyDom's like me know all things.
How dare you question me, especially while YOU are not on your knees either.
What's wrong with this site, where have all the real subbies gone?
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Good job we know it's meant tongue in cheek. Although Today it's just rattled my cage.
I think it's the difference between play subs and lifestyle ones too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I dont get the whole Dom, sub thing. I just think its degrading. That's my opinion but i know lots of people are into it. What do people get out if it? Enlighten me x |
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"I dont get the whole Dom, sub thing. I just think its degrading. That's my opinion but i know lots of people are into it. What do people get out if it? Enlighten me x"
how is being encouraged to be the best you can be degrading. I will explain better when on laptop and not my phone. But to please my dominant is my greatest pleasure. To look into his eyes as I play, to know I totally trust him. To feel the pure release of giving over my control is amazing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was just texting you!!! I've just been offered a collar!! I am ready to scream!
Why don't people understand the bloody importance of a collar and the significance of it!
arghhhhh
Would you explain?? I don't know a great deal about the BDSM world but am always keen to learn!! I get the odd message from men who have obviously jumped on the 50 shades bandwagon and are looking for women to tie up and do as they are told. Lol x"
A collar is given to a sub by their Dominant or to slave from Master to signify a commitment and almost engagement. I am not collared by J, I wear his watch to remind me of him and my place. A collar has to be earned, it is never removed unless the submission is taken back or given back.
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"I dont get the whole Dom, sub thing. I just think its degrading. That's my opinion but i know lots of people are into it. What do people get out if it? Enlighten me x"
How is it degrading? My Dominant and I share a special relationship. I enjoy certain kinks that he also enjoys. We explore things together with him in charge. Degradation would only occur if it were done without my consent. |
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"I dont get the whole Dom, sub thing. I just think its degrading. That's my opinion but i know lots of people are into it. What do people get out if it? Enlighten me x"
The connection between a Dom and his sub is like no other. A sub loves to please her Dom and a Dom wants his sub to reach her/his full potential. To live out their fantasies together, to share everything..no secrets, no holds barred.
A Dom and his sub complete each other
There is nothing degrading about it.
It is magical....
But a cautionary word, it isn't for everyone... |
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A collar is given to a sub by their Dominant or to slave from Master to signify a commitment and almost engagement. I am not collared by J, I wear his watch to remind me of him and my place. A collar has to be earned, it is never removed unless the submission is taken back or given back.
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In an ideal world, maybe, just like in an ideal world a wedding ring (which evolved from an ankle bracelet) signified the same level of commitment.
In the real world to many they are equally valueless. A convenience. Something to be discarded on a whim.
And therein lies the problem, there is no universal currency.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I dont get the whole Dom, sub thing. I just think its degrading. That's my opinion but i know lots of people are into it. What do people get out if it? Enlighten me x
How is it degrading? My Dominant and I share a special relationship. I enjoy certain kinks that he also enjoys. We explore things together with him in charge. Degradation would only occur if it were done without my consent. "
or being degraded was something you enjoyed. Lol humiliation and degradation can be a huge turn on. As long as suitable after care is in place.
It's so subjective that it is never the same for others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont get the whole Dom, sub thing. I just think its degrading. That's my opinion but i know lots of people are into it. What do people get out if it? Enlighten me x
how is being encouraged to be the best you can be degrading. I will explain better when on laptop and not my phone. But to please my dominant is my greatest pleasure. To look into his eyes as I play, to know I totally trust him. To feel the pure release of giving over my control is amazing. "
Ok. Sort of get where your coming from. I think it's difficult to understand if you're not in that lifestyle. ie someone like me.
I've always seen it as the Dom is just using the sub for his/her own ends? Like having the life of Riley really. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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A collar is given to a sub by their Dominant or to slave from Master to signify a commitment and almost engagement. I am not collared by J, I wear his watch to remind me of him and my place. A collar has to be earned, it is never removed unless the submission is taken back or given back.
In an ideal world, maybe, just like in an ideal world a wedding ring (which evolved from an ankle bracelet) signified the same level of commitment.
In the real world to many they are equally valueless. A convenience. Something to be discarded on a whim.
And therein lies the problem, there is no universal currency.
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taking off my collar took me a long time after the relationship ended. some of us take it seriously. |
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"I dont get the whole Dom, sub thing. I just think its degrading. That's my opinion but i know lots of people are into it. What do people get out if it? Enlighten me x
how is being encouraged to be the best you can be degrading. I will explain better when on laptop and not my phone. But to please my dominant is my greatest pleasure. To look into his eyes as I play, to know I totally trust him. To feel the pure release of giving over my control is amazing.
Ok. Sort of get where your coming from. I think it's difficult to understand if you're not in that lifestyle. ie someone like me.
I've always seen it as the Dom is just using the sub for his/her own ends? Like having the life of Riley really. X"
It is a common misconception and I am sure (in other words, I know) there are some wannabe Doms out there who do...
But there are genuine D/s relationships too and in those, that is most certainly not the case... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I've always seen it as the Dom is just using the sub for his/her own ends? Like having the life of Riley really. X"
sadly this is true for some dominants. However In most cases it's all about mutual satisfaction. One can not be without the other. I have found that the connections between myself and the very few men I have submitted to is very strong.
I lived to please my master, but he was there to help me be the best I could be. You only have to see the sparkle in my eyes on some of my latest photos to see how happier I am now to have a dominant again.
It makes me complete, and I'm better looked after than other relationships. Yes sometimes I'm punished and I hate it, but it's no fun for my dominant either |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No no no! These men are idiots. That Dom / sub link is only between a certain few! ! Its just not there. A guy slapping ya arse is not being Dom. Calling you a filthy slut is just rude. Its far more than that. I just laugh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The actual thing that irritates me is that people see a collar as what they perceive it to be and then tell everyone else they way they do it is wrong/not as meaningful etc. every relationship will see it differently and no one relationship is better than another. However, from the outside a Dom/sub relationship can be seen as abusive, if not done in a caring and loving way it can slide towards abuse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've always seen it as the Dom is just using the sub for his/her own ends? Like having the life of Riley really. X
sadly this is true for some dominants. However In most cases it's all about mutual satisfaction. One can not be without the other. I have found that the connections between myself and the very few men I have submitted to is very strong.
I lived to please my master, but he was there to help me be the best I could be. You only have to see the sparkle in my eyes on some of my latest photos to see how happier I am now to have a dominant again.
It makes me complete, and I'm better looked after than other relationships. Yes sometimes I'm punished and I hate it, but it's no fun for my dominant either"
Really interesting actually. Surprising how little people like myself know about how a relationship like that works. That's why I asked the question as I assume like the vasst majority of people on here we have no idea what it's really like.
If something makes you happy then it's all good right  thank you for explaining x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The actual thing that irritates me is that people see a collar as what they perceive it to be and then tell everyone else they way they do it is wrong/not as meaningful etc. every relationship will see it differently and no one relationship is better than another. However, from the outside a Dom/sub relationship can be seen as abusive, if not done in a caring and loving way it can slide towards abuse."
as I have said many times it's all to do with individual interpretation, however I would say the commitment a properly given collar shows is something pretty much universally accepted, similar to a wedding ring. We all know not everyone respects a wedding ring, so stands to reason that people disrespect a collar.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont get the whole Dom, sub thing. I just think its degrading. That's my opinion but i know lots of people are into it. What do people get out if it? Enlighten me x
The connection between a Dom and his sub is like no other. A sub loves to please her Dom and a Dom wants his sub to reach her/his full potential. To live out their fantasies together, to share everything..no secrets, no holds barred.
A Dom and his sub complete each other
There is nothing degrading about it.
It is magical....
But a cautionary word, it isn't for everyone..."
It needs to be understood.
The difference between a wannabe Dominant and a true Dominant is a fine line. Its the difference between a bully and a Dominant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tsk! these modern day subs, don't know they're born... in my day they would fashion their own collar by chewing together all the whip tips they found whilst kneeling on the floor, and fasten it themselves. Of course then we would have to punish them sometimes for being tardy and not having it ready in time, or for being presumptuous and wearing it before they had earned it... usually both 
What is the world coming to when subs can choose which message to reply to  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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I used to have written on my profile that I like a guy to be a little dom (with a small 'd') in the bedroom but was NOT into BDSM. I just like a guy who can take control.
The number of shit messages I used to get about what they were GOING to do to me made me change it.
I actually had one guy on a meet whose idea of being dominant was to growl at me - it was all I could do to stop pissing myself laughing at him! |
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"I used to have written on my profile that I like a guy to be a little dom (with a small 'd') in the bedroom but was NOT into BDSM. I just like a guy who can take control.
The number of shit messages I used to get about what they were GOING to do to me made me change it.
I actually had one guy on a meet whose idea of being dominant was to growl at me - it was all I could do to stop pissing myself laughing at him! "
I think I would have pissed myself laughing!! Was it a proper tiger grrr??!!?? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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I have a question here - and I am neither for or against Dom/sub.. whatever relationships or kinks - each to their own, that is the beauty of diversity and to me it is really interesting to read some of the comments made here.
Question : Is it not against the basic humanist concept of equality to have a sub/Dom relationship? I mean how to you guys tally the two? |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"I used to have written on my profile that I like a guy to be a little dom (with a small 'd') in the bedroom but was NOT into BDSM. I just like a guy who can take control.
The number of shit messages I used to get about what they were GOING to do to me made me change it.
I actually had one guy on a meet whose idea of being dominant was to growl at me - it was all I could do to stop pissing myself laughing at him!
I think I would have pissed myself laughing!! Was it a proper tiger grrr??!!??"
It freaked me out the first time he did it. I thought he was having a seizure! |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a question here - and I am neither for or against Dom/sub.. whatever relationships or kinks - each to their own, that is the beauty of diversity and to me it is really interesting to read some of the comments made here.
Question : Is it not against the basic humanist concept of equality to have a sub/Dom relationship? I mean how to you guys tally the two? "
I cannot speak of a sub/Dom relationship - there are others on here who are better qualified. For me I find it a release as I have to have such a dominant role in life that it is nice to be able to relinquish that with someone you can trust. Most of the more 'hardcore' stuff I have done has been with my fb who I totally trust. It only happens in the bedroom and we are totally equal in every way beyond that. For us it just adds an extra kink which we both find equally satisfying. |
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"I have a question here - and I am neither for or against Dom/sub.. whatever relationships or kinks - each to their own, that is the beauty of diversity and to me it is really interesting to read some of the comments made here.
Question : Is it not against the basic humanist concept of equality to have a sub/Dom relationship? I mean how to you guys tally the two? "
Aphrodite, a good question
In my case (and only mine I hasten to add as everyone's is different), whilst my Dom may be in control physically, if I am unhappy with anything it is my absolute right to stop. That is what a safe word is intended for. My Doms role can be to allow me to reach my potential and through good, continuing communication, I can share my fantasies with him. In that case he is facilitating me reaching my fantasies, not the other way around.
As in all relationships there is still give and take.
This is in some cases the difference between D/s and M/s. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have a question here - and I am neither for or against Dom/sub.. whatever relationships or kinks - each to their own, that is the beauty of diversity and to me it is really interesting to read some of the comments made here.
Question : Is it not against the basic humanist concept of equality to have a sub/Dom relationship? I mean how to you guys tally the two? "
while I knew my master saw me his equal but I was his. I found it satisfying to be his property, it was not a bedroom thing for me. But everyone is different.
Not really sure it matters about equality as long as it works for everyone. I loved having no say, no safe word, and being his.
However I knew that my pleasure was his pleasure.
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By *phroditeWoman
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"I have a question here - and I am neither for or against Dom/sub.. whatever relationships or kinks - each to their own, that is the beauty of diversity and to me it is really interesting to read some of the comments made here.
Question : Is it not against the basic humanist concept of equality to have a sub/Dom relationship? I mean how to you guys tally the two?
I cannot speak of a sub/Dom relationship - there are others on here who are better qualified. For me I find it a release as I have to have such a dominant role in life that it is nice to be able to relinquish that with someone you can trust. Most of the more 'hardcore' stuff I have done has been with my fb who I totally trust. It only happens in the bedroom and we are totally equal in every way beyond that. For us it just adds an extra kink which we both find equally satisfying."
I totally get that, the balance to having a dominant role in life, work etc.. I comepltely understand that and I quite like a man to be let's say a touch assertive and confident and maybe that borders on being dominant. Far from being submissive to such a guy I would be "testing" my strength against his (I dont mean physical strength incidentally).
What I am struggling with a bit, and perhaps that is what another poster said earlier, is the lack of equality and also the concept that it is the sub that gives permission to the dom ... which reverses the concept somehow.
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By (user no longer on site)
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It appears all these 'doms' are not especially good at reading...
"I am a little submissive, but I have someone that is enjoying that side of life with me. So I am not looking to be dominated by anyone, and to be honest, if you think you could dominate me, then you would be wrong."
That says it all really.
And I thought a true dom/sub relationship was based on intense trust and getting to know the other person inside and out, not merely messaging them on a website. As someone else pointed out, think it's the 50 Shades effect. Horrendous book. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a question here - and I am neither for or against Dom/sub.. whatever relationships or kinks - each to their own, that is the beauty of diversity and to me it is really interesting to read some of the comments made here.
Question : Is it not against the basic humanist concept of equality to have a sub/Dom relationship? I mean how to you guys tally the two?
while I knew my master saw me his equal but I was his. I found it satisfying to be his property, it was not a bedroom thing for me. But everyone is different.
Not really sure it matters about equality as long as it works for everyone. I loved having no say, no safe word, and being his.
However I knew that my pleasure was his pleasure.
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I kind of get that, Cali. It is hard to understand I guess, when you are not part of the scene. |
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"I have a question here - and I am neither for or against Dom/sub.. whatever relationships or kinks - each to their own, that is the beauty of diversity and to me it is really interesting to read some of the comments made here.
Question : Is it not against the basic humanist concept of equality to have a sub/Dom relationship? I mean how to you guys tally the two? "
Even though I submit to J, I am treated as his equal by him. He may be my Dom but I still have limits. But as it is consensual it feels right. Submission completes me. |
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By *phroditeWoman
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"I have a question here - and I am neither for or against Dom/sub.. whatever relationships or kinks - each to their own, that is the beauty of diversity and to me it is really interesting to read some of the comments made here.
Question : Is it not against the basic humanist concept of equality to have a sub/Dom relationship? I mean how to you guys tally the two?
Even though I submit to J, I am treated as his equal by him. He may be my Dom but I still have limits. But as it is consensual it feels right. Submission completes me."
So my next question is, and I am quite serious, how do you (anybody) know that you are submissive? |
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"I have a question here - and I am neither for or against Dom/sub.. whatever relationships or kinks - each to their own, that is the beauty of diversity and to me it is really interesting to read some of the comments made here.
Question : Is it not against the basic humanist concept of equality to have a sub/Dom relationship? I mean how to you guys tally the two?
Even though I submit to J, I am treated as his equal by him. He may be my Dom but I still have limits. But as it is consensual it feels right. Submission completes me.So my next question is, and I am quite serious, how do you (anybody) know that you are submissive? "
Aphrodite
I read a book (not 50 shades) when I was a teenager, before I was sexually active. So many things slotted into place for me then.
I didn't act upon it for many years but did research to make sure I was actually sub before I dipped my toe in the water.
For me it is ever evolving and research and some of the facilities now available (web sites, forums etc) I have evolved without the need of a Dom at times. I know myself well enough to know that I am actually sub, I don't switch, a have limits and what they are. |
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"So my next question is, and I am quite serious, how do you (anybody) know that you are submissive? "
for me I spent most of my life putting up a dominant front. But I know I am submissive, as it's what makes me happy. It's not something that just anyone can get from me.
It's a way of being for me, it makes me stronger too. |
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"Why don't you all shut the fuck up and make me a frikin coffee. NOW!!!
That's a limit - I don't do coffee.lmao.x "
Yes I find most people I say that to use the the safe phrase 'fuck off funky'. I don't know how they all know it.  |
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I recently posted on a thread that I have a lot of kinks and fetishes that I can't talk about onhere because they break site rules.
I received a lot of messages asking me about said fetishes. Including 1 person who said he'd read 50 shades and nothing could shockhim, and he'd be my true master. So I outlined some of my fetishes. He blocked me, and has now left the site!!! |
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"I recently posted on a thread that I have a lot of kinks and fetishes that I can't talk about onhere because they break site rules.
I received a lot of messages asking me about said fetishes. Including 1 person who said he'd read 50 shades and nothing could shockhim, and he'd be my true master. So I outlined some of my fetishes. He blocked me, and has now left the site!!!"
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"Why don't you all shut the fuck up and make me a frikin coffee. NOW!!!
That's a limit - I don't do coffee.lmao.x
Yes I find most people I say that to use the the safe phrase 'fuck off funky'. I don't know how they all know it. "
Haven't you seen that thread then??? xx |
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"I recently posted on a thread that I have a lot of kinks and fetishes that I can't talk about onhere because they break site rules.
I received a lot of messages asking me about said fetishes. Including 1 person who said he'd read 50 shades and nothing could shockhim, and he'd be my true master. So I outlined some of my fetishes. He blocked me, and has now left the site!!!"
Does it involve water voles? |
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"Why don't you all shut the fuck up and make me a frikin coffee. NOW!!!
That's a limit - I don't do coffee.lmao.x
Yes I find most people I say that to use the the safe phrase 'fuck off funky'. I don't know how they all know it. x
Haven't you seen that thread then??? xx"
Doh! Just found it. That explains a lot. |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"I recently posted on a thread that I have a lot of kinks and fetishes that I can't talk about onhere because they break site rules.
I received a lot of messages asking me about said fetishes. Including 1 person who said he'd read 50 shades and nothing could shockhim, and he'd be my true master. So I outlined some of my fetishes. He blocked me, and has now left the site!!!"
Sometimes I so hate being nosy |
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"I recently posted on a thread that I have a lot of kinks and fetishes that I can't talk about onhere because they break site rules.
I received a lot of messages asking me about said fetishes. Including 1 person who said he'd read 50 shades and nothing could shockhim, and he'd be my true master. So I outlined some of my fetishes. He blocked me, and has now left the site!!!
Sometimes I so hate being nosy
same here, plus I am either old or too young to ask "
It's only reading that, thats made me realise I have filters set. I don't like filters!!! |
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It's difficult in my view to have a truly submissive relationship without that degree of respect, as Cali said her Dom saw her as an equal, if you have nothing but contempt or just view someone as a quick shag you can't ever get that sort of connection for that relationship |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"I recently posted on a thread that I have a lot of kinks and fetishes that I can't talk about onhere because they break site rules.
I received a lot of messages asking me about said fetishes. Including 1 person who said he'd read 50 shades and nothing could shockhim, and he'd be my true master. So I outlined some of my fetishes. He blocked me, and has now left the site!!!
Sometimes I so hate being nosy
same here, plus I am either old or too young to ask "
I'm too scared. I'm not ready to leave the site yet |
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"It's difficult in my view to have a truly submissive relationship without that degree of respect, as Cali said her Dom saw her as an equal, if you have nothing but contempt or just view someone as a quick shag you can't ever get that sort of connection for that relationship "
Congratulations..xxxx |
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"I recently posted on a thread that I have a lot of kinks and fetishes that I can't talk about onhere because they break site rules.
I received a lot of messages asking me about said fetishes. Including 1 person who said he'd read 50 shades and nothing could shockhim, and he'd be my true master. So I outlined some of my fetishes. He blocked me, and has now left the site!!!
Sometimes I so hate being nosy
same here, plus I am either old or too young to ask
I'm too scared. I'm not ready to leave the site yet"
I'm not scary. I'm a pussy cat! !! |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a question here - and I am neither for or against Dom/sub.. whatever relationships or kinks - each to their own, that is the beauty of diversity and to me it is really interesting to read some of the comments made here.
Question : Is it not against the basic humanist concept of equality to have a sub/Dom relationship? I mean how to you guys tally the two?
Even though I submit to J, I am treated as his equal by him. He may be my Dom but I still have limits. But as it is consensual it feels right. Submission completes me.So my next question is, and I am quite serious, how do you (anybody) know that you are submissive?
Aphrodite
I read a book (not 50 shades) when I was a teenager, before I was sexually active. So many things slotted into place for me then.
I didn't act upon it for many years but did research to make sure I was actually sub before I dipped my toe in the water.
For me it is ever evolving and research and some of the facilities now available (web sites, forums etc) I have evolved without the need of a Dom at times. I know myself well enough to know that I am actually sub, I don't switch, a have limits and what they are."
THink I am beginning to understand where you (and Cali) are coming from. I have friends who play Dom/sub in a more serious way (probably what you would call the proper way) but it always feels a bit awkward asking thiese questions as I dont wish to offend. Thanks, both. |
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