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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?
Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?
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In short, yes.
I can get a mental boner for someone, for pictures that I see or a conversation.
An actual erection is a different thing though.
There are definitely different levels of arousal for me |
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There’s the 🔥 stiffy
There’s a 😍 stiffy
There’s a 😈stiffy
There’s the 🌈snog
There’s the 💕 snog
Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.
One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.  |
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Yeah there are differently different level of hardness and states.
I can be very excited in my mind but my cock isn’t reflecting that - stimulation helps that or is that old age 😂
I don’t think it’s solely linked to how horny you are but I do get harder when I’m getting closer to orgasm.
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By *aven.Woman 13 weeks ago
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I don't get hard, not having a cock and all.
I have 2 levels, on and off. I don't get more turned on by any one person/scenario, though I also never fully get in the moment with anyone. |
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By *lueLotusWoman 13 weeks ago
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"There’s the 🔥 stiffy
There’s a 😍 stiffy
There’s a 😈stiffy
There’s the 🌈snog
There’s the 💕 snog
Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.
One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes. "
I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"In short, yes.
I can get a mental boner for someone, for pictures that I see or a conversation.
An actual erection is a different thing though.
There are definitely different levels of arousal for me"
Does that extend to people giving you different levels of erection? If that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?
Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?
Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D "
Great question, its definitely a spectrum for me (not binary, i.e. hard or soft), different ladies, poise poses (class not crass, the latter 'unsells' for me), scent, look, voice, tone, cadence, non verbal cues and time of day or evening, general mood, and a big one for me is moon phase, I get extremely aroused for about a week at certain times of the phase ! |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"Yeah there are differently different level of hardness and states.
I can be very excited in my mind but my cock isn’t reflecting that - stimulation helps that or is that old age 😂
I don’t think it’s solely linked to how horny you are but I do get harder when I’m getting closer to orgasm.
K
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How old are you now K? Always had you at late thirties, max.
No, evident physical arousal/lack of doesn't mean a person is any less horny. That's a good point! |
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"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?
Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?
Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D "
There’s a normal level for me and a ‘ she’s got my mind turned on!!’ Level too - normal is purely physical with some engagement and the other is off the chart aching to fuck them type of engagement mentally with an iron bar hard on. But there might be a ton of levels in between but they are the extremes.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"There’s the 🔥 stiffy
There’s a 😍 stiffy
There’s a 😈stiffy
There’s the 🌈snog
There’s the 💕 snog
Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.
One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.
I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy"
Come here and I’ll show you 😏 |
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Recently someone came in my mouth without being hard at all. To be honest I didn't know that was a thing. It was pretty nifty.
Just felt like sharing as it kind of shows that arousal isn't necessarily linked to stiffness. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 13 weeks ago
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Depends on many factors I guess.
Length of any abstinence, who you're with, where you are, time of day, what you're doing, how long you've spent on any teasing/foreplay, is it the first boner of the night or not....the variables are many.
Sometimes the slightest thing can give you a stonker you could crack walnuts with. Other times if it's been a long day, or there's been alcohol involved, or you're short on sleep it can take a little more encouragement.
And if you're in a club play room that's hotter than Satan's ballsack then you can often have an uphill struggle due to temperature.
I guess you don't know til the situation arises. Pun intended.....😇😇 |
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By *lueLotusWoman 13 weeks ago
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"There’s the 🔥 stiffy
There’s a 😍 stiffy
There’s a 😈stiffy
There’s the 🌈snog
There’s the 💕 snog
Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.
One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.
I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy
Come here and I’ll show you 😏"
Said your name 3 times and nothing happened I want my money back. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"There’s the 🔥 stiffy
There’s a 😍 stiffy
There’s a 😈stiffy
There’s the 🌈snog
There’s the 💕 snog
Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.
One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes. "
Oh you definitely can find someone who can do it all. Rare but it's even more special when you do. ❤️
Do you notice the different levels when it comes to sex? Like oh Person A it's fun but it's not explosive. I'm not as hard as say with person B. |
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"In short, yes.
I can get a mental boner for someone, for pictures that I see or a conversation.
An actual erection is a different thing though.
There are definitely different levels of arousal for me
Does that extend to people giving you different levels of erection? If that makes sense. "
No, not really. If I’m erect, then I’m erect. |
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"There’s the 🔥 stiffy
There’s a 😍 stiffy
There’s a 😈stiffy
There’s the 🌈snog
There’s the 💕 snog
Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.
One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.
I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy"
If it was me, that would probably want a trip to the GU clinic |
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It definitely varies with different partners. Some have definitely caused harder erections far easier than others. Hard to explain, but so great when you're with someone that excites you that much  |
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By *bi HaiveMan 13 weeks ago
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"There’s the 🔥 stiffy
There’s a 😍 stiffy
There’s a 😈stiffy
There’s the 🌈snog
There’s the 💕 snog
Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.
One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.
I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy
If it was me, that would probably want a trip to the GU clinic"
Deep heat does look like lube in a dark room though......🤷♂️🤷♂️ |
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To give a serious answer, for me, arousal doesn't mean erection.
There's the lazy, I could have a wank but don't know if I can be bothered arousal
You can have, I'm not really in the mood but I can see she is expecting something
All the way up to she's nicked my towel with a cheeky glint in her eye so I'm going to throw her on the bed
None of this necessarily correlates with how hard I get
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"There’s the 🔥 stiffy
There’s a 😍 stiffy
There’s a 😈stiffy
There’s the 🌈snog
There’s the 💕 snog
Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.
One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.
I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy
Come here and I’ll show you 😏
Said your name 3 times and nothing happened I want my money back. "
It could be your accent. 😏 try again.  |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?
Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?
Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D
Great question, its definitely a spectrum for me (not binary, i.e. hard or soft), different ladies, poise poses (class not crass, the latter 'unsells' for me), scent, look, voice, tone, cadence, non verbal cues and time of day or evening, general mood, and a big one for me is moon phase, I get extremely aroused for about a week at certain times of the phase !"
Moon phase? I've read many things in my time on here but never a man's arousal being cyclic. How did you find out that was the case?
Time of day is definitely one I'm more familiar with - for the most part men seem to be more... firm first thing. Perhaps it's just those I choose to have sex with though! |
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"There’s the 🔥 stiffy
There’s a 😍 stiffy
There’s a 😈stiffy
There’s the 🌈snog
There’s the 💕 snog
Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.
One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.
I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy"
It's very hard to explain. |
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For me it’s the connection that makes it intense and I think with the right connection she would see the excitement in my cock.
Noticing that how I see her is very visual to her by how hard she has me and how excited she makes me.
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"There’s the 🔥 stiffy
There’s a 😍 stiffy
There’s a 😈stiffy
There’s the 🌈snog
There’s the 💕 snog
Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.
One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.
I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy
If it was me, that would probably want a trip to the GU clinic
Deep heat does look like lube in a dark room though......🤷♂️🤷♂️"
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I'm always at my hardest - aching hardness - skin on skin, being touched by a woman and touching a woman. Then there's a functional hard on - the one I get perving here, having a play. It's hard but but aching, horny hard. But then sometimes in the right mood, with a particular vid, or chat, the imagination will take over it will cross from functionally hard to achingly hard. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?
Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?
Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D
There’s a normal level for me and a ‘ she’s got my mind turned on!!’ Level too - normal is purely physical with some engagement and the other is off the chart aching to fuck them type of engagement mentally with an iron bar hard on. But there might be a ton of levels in between but they are the extremes. "
Does that translate to a physical response or is it more a mental thing? I know that I'm more aroused the deeper the connection. I'm definitely erm... slicker the more turned on I am. I'm curious if it's the same for men. In their way, obviously.  |
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"The hardest I think my dick ever gets is when I have morning wood and I’m desperate to pee 😂"
Yeah I read that it’s to do with T levels. I dunno if that’s true but I’m also harder than any other time in the morning. |
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By *P994Man 13 weeks ago
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"The hardest I think my dick ever gets is when I have morning wood and I’m desperate to pee 😂
Yeah I read that it’s to do with T levels. I dunno if that’s true but I’m also harder than any other time in the morning. "
Making note of that and hopefully all my future meets will be pre 9am, not sure how well that’ll go though |
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"The hardest I think my dick ever gets is when I have morning wood and I’m desperate to pee 😂
Yeah I read that it’s to do with T levels. I dunno if that’s true but I’m also harder than any other time in the morning.
Making note of that and hopefully all my future meets will be pre 9am, not sure how well that’ll go though "
Get them to stay the night and give them a bad shag at night and then a good shag in the morning. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"The hardest I think my dick ever gets is when I have morning wood and I’m desperate to pee 😂
Yeah I read that it’s to do with T levels. I dunno if that’s true but I’m also harder than any other time in the morning.
Making note of that and hopefully all my future meets will be pre 9am, not sure how well that’ll go though
Get them to stay the night and give them a bad shag at night and then a good shag in the morning. "
Exactly. They'll want to see you again and write you such a glowing veri you'll be drowning in clunge. |
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"Do different people inspire different levels of erectness? I'm definitely erm... slicker the more turned on I am. I'm curious if it's the same for men. In their way, obviously. "
Every hardon is different, Meli. It’s not a binary on/off thing. And it’s not harder with one partner and softer with another. Stiffness just varies. It’s a stiffy spectrum. It’s about blood pumping and things swelling. It’s not precise. It varies during a single fuck, or a blow job, let alone from time to time and person to person. |
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For me at least, erectile rigidity (that sounds wonderfully scientific doesn’t it?) is in no way correlated with my level of arousal.
Sometimes it just feels harder than others irrespective of how aroused I may be.
Having said this, I do really love it when I get an absolutely metal like solid one - they’re blooming awesome! 🤭👍🏻👍🏻 |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"Definitely isn't a one standard erection fits all, although age does have an impact as your mind and penis don't always play nicely together! 😳"
Boo to age. Older men are such attractive things as well.  On the plus side... there's so much to sex it doesn't have to be cockcentric. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"Depends on many factors I guess.
Length of any abstinence, who you're with, where you are, time of day, what you're doing, how long you've spent on any teasing/foreplay, is it the first boner of the night or not....the variables are many.
Sometimes the slightest thing can give you a stonker you could crack walnuts with. Other times if it's been a long day, or there's been alcohol involved, or you're short on sleep it can take a little more encouragement.
And if you're in a club play room that's hotter than Satan's ballsack then you can often have an uphill struggle due to temperature.
I guess you don't know til the situation arises. Pun intended.....😇😇"
Dunno why and might be completely wrong here but... I get the feeling you really don't like club play room temperatures, Obi. As I said, might be wrong.
Oh I know about some of the variables, I'm not as virginal as I so clearly appear. Length of abstinence makes such a difference... there's a definite sweet spot to be found. |
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"The hardest I think my dick ever gets is when I have morning wood and I’m desperate to pee 😂
Yeah I read that it’s to do with T levels. I dunno if that’s true but I’m also harder than any other time in the morning.
Making note of that and hopefully all my future meets will be pre 9am, not sure how well that’ll go though
Get them to stay the night and give them a bad shag at night and then a good shag in the morning.
Exactly. They'll want to see you again and write you such a glowing veri you'll be drowning in clunge."
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"Without saying who someone on here gives me a really painful bones,but in a good way. Nl
A really painful one doesn't sound great... perhaps you're both due some tests. "
Okay aside from my rubbish typo and the fact I've never met them, I think i meant more the throbbing, it's never been that that amazing before, maybe more along the lines of uncomfortably good?
They just make me feel really dam good you know?
I'm tired i have no idea. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"Boners a boner. I mean the bus used to give me one if I sat over the wheels doesn’t make me want to fuck her exhaust.
The mr "
Ha! So there's no difference in the boner for you. You're hard and that's it. That's fair enough. Some men it varies and I've found it interesting reading about how, why etc. |
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"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?
Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?
Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D
Great question, its definitely a spectrum for me (not binary, i.e. hard or soft), different ladies, poise poses (class not crass, the latter 'unsells' for me), scent, look, voice, tone, cadence, non verbal cues and time of day or evening, general mood, and a big one for me is moon phase, I get extremely aroused for about a week at certain times of the phase !
Moon phase? I've read many things in my time on here but never a man's arousal being cyclic. How did you find out that was the case?
Time of day is definitely one I'm more familiar with - for the most part men seem to be more... firm first thing. Perhaps it's just those I choose to have sex with though!"
Sorry for the delay in replying, I just made a random connection, I noticed years ago that would get a lot more frequent and 'random' erections at a Certain time of month (even now, and I say to myself it's like being 15 all over  - , and it's around full moon phase ( I checked). Of course I get aroused at other times (unless I'm stressed), but definitely for me, more so around full moon. And yes, as for time of day, early morning would find me most aroused |
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It depends on the person and also how I am feeling at that time. Definitely it only works for me if I am with someone I am attracted to, but it is also down to my mood. If I am not in the mood then I might struggle to maintain an erection, no matter how attracted I am to the person I am with. Other times when I am in the mood I can be so rock hard it hurts! No such thing as a standard erection for me. |
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"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?
Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?
Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D "
There’s erections and erections - best one was in company of a woman earlier in year |
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Simply, yes.
Sometimes I'm exhausted, headache-y, whatever but still horny. I'm hard but it's only a fraction of my final form.
Then there's the average, the everyday boner. I'm feeling okay, I'm feeling healthy, I'm turned on.
Finally, there's the granite cock rock 😎 If K is doing something particularly hot like her wonderful cock worshipping, or playing with herself while she watches another woman riding me. Two women kissing around my cock... you get the idea. Then yes, my cock feels exceptionally hard, and everything feels amazing 🥵🤤
Hope that helps your research.
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