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Definitely a social first.
There are a few things I want to scope out before I am behind closed doors with you:
1) That you are who you've sent photos of.
2) That you don't present any red flags or warning signs.
3) Whether I think I can physically take you on in a fight if you turn out to be some sort of serial killer.  |
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As a single woman always a social first somewhere public for safety until I know they are who they say they are. I also need to know there's chemistry there before jumping into bed with someone. That doesn't mean if we hit it off I wouldn't consider playing that night. But it's never expected. |
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By *mily300Woman 14 weeks ago
Nottingham |
"As a single woman always a social first somewhere public for safety until I know they are who they say they are. I also need to know there's chemistry there before jumping into bed with someone. That doesn't mean if we hit it off I wouldn't consider playing that night. But it's never expected. "
I totally agree with what you've said as I am the same and would have a social first in a safe space and see what happens and take it from there. |
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By *aizyWoman 14 weeks ago
west midlands |
"I don't get socials, when we could just be fucking
I do like it when socials end like this!
But then it's that even a social... Or just a meet  "
Not all socials end in 'meets' for me, so it is nice if it happens, altho just socials are fine too! |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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Initial arrangement as a social, for sure.
But if there’s sparks at the social no harm in going in for the kill!
We find if you agree to a predetermined outcome before you meet, that the pressure is there before you’ve even got acquainted and that (for us) can totally kill it outright. ESP if there’s no attraction when you meet in person. |
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"I don't get socials, when we could just be fucking
I do like it when socials end like this!
But then it's that even a social... Or just a meet
Not all socials end in 'meets' for me, so it is nice if it happens, altho just socials are fine too!"
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No I don’t.
Don’t see the point, I have friends I don’t need more haha!
And as for the safety thing, I don’t think it makes it safer.
So it’s a no from me 
(I obviously know the person I’m meeting is who they say they are before this) |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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Drinks/gallery/kidulting/whatever and see.
Sex interviews in crap chain coffee places are depressing.
"Date-lite" over "social" or "meet" wherever practical. |
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"No I don’t.
Don’t see the point, I have friends I don’t need more haha!
And as for the safety thing, I don’t think it makes it safer.
So it’s a no from me
(I obviously know the person I’m meeting is who they say they are before this) "
I mean true some people will fake it unitll you do the sex.
Unless they can't contain being a twunt while drinking coffee. |
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"I don't do socials after all I am not looking for a friend.
I don't see how sitting around having a drink is going to make any difference in how good they are in bed.
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Agreed. Or for safety
Well done you didn’t murder me in the pub…. Doesn’t mean they won’t in private!
Id only be meeting someone I already have chemistry with and knows attractive… and I’d be happy to leave if not haha |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"I don't do socials after all I am not looking for a friend.
I don't see how sitting around having a drink is going to make any difference in how good they are in bed.
Agreed. Or for safety
Well done you didn’t murder me in the pub…. Doesn’t mean they won’t in private!
Id only be meeting someone I already have chemistry with and knows attractive… and I’d be happy to leave if not haha "
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As a general rule, I’ll only meet if I’m pretty confident it’s going to progress beyond a social. (Presuming that’s the context in which we’ve been talking. If it’s platonic then obviously just a social as and when suits)
And therefore I’m happy to make arrangements based on it doing so.
Worst comes to the worst one of us says no thanks, it’s not a disaster (though maybe ask me that once it happens, I might feel differently )
Equally I am happy to just do social then re-convene for a play meet, sometimes that works too.
In the interests of safety, and having learnt the hard way, I’ll always have done a video call first and/or met in public as a starting point though. |
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I’ve encountered various situations for this one.
Socials that stayed social
Social that became rather saucy, very quickly
Forget the social, we already know we’re going straight to the bedroom
I don’t think there’s any right or wrong way to go about it.
There’s your way and how you want to.
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"Do you like to meet socially first? Or go straight in for the kill? "
I used to, but now I don’t even do that.
I fact I don’t even meet people now, at all.
I jump straight to a solo wank, then ask 20 randoms if they ‘can meet now’; for every rejection I knock one out as if we actually met.
For every acceptance i ghost them, then when they massage back, i knock one out. Saved times for everyone.
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"Definitely a social first.
There are a few things I want to scope out before I am behind closed doors with you:
1) That you are who you've sent photos of.
2) That you don't present any red flags or warning signs.
3) Whether I think I can physically take you on in a fight if you turn out to be some sort of serial killer. "
Its funny when they turn up and clearly aren't a match for the photos but I don't make a big fuss of it lol I'm already there so may as well socialise some |
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Social 1st always, we've had incidents of catfishing & where their age was most definitely not as stated.
I need to meet someone in person to really form an attraction to them, it's rare for me to be attracted to someone I haven't yet met.
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"Do you like to meet socially first? Or go straight in for the kill?
I used to, but now I don’t even do that.
I fact I don’t even meet people now, at all.
I jump straight to a solo wank, then ask 20 randoms if they ‘can meet now’; for every rejection I knock one out as if we actually met.
For every acceptance i ghost them, then when they massage back, i knock one out. Saved times for everyone.
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Do you ever offer to send them a taxi to collect them?
If they say yes is that an extra special moment with your pocket pussy 🤔 |
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We’ve got our social firsts absolutely nailed after years of practice.
Always at the supermarket, we find Tesco best and always in the biscuit isle.
If she goes for the Jaffa cakes we know she’s a wrong un… |
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By *neforutoMan 14 weeks ago
Fantasy land in the SW |
"We’ve got our social firsts absolutely nailed after years of practice.
Always at the supermarket, we find Tesco best and always in the biscuit isle.
If she goes for the Jaffa cakes we know she’s a wrong un…"
Hahahhahaha, I will need to remeber this one |
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"We’ve got our social firsts absolutely nailed after years of practice.
Always at the supermarket, we find Tesco best and always in the biscuit isle.
If she goes for the Jaffa cakes we know she’s a wrong un…"
Got to be a custard cream kind of girl or I’m walking out off the store ……. |
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We really like the social aspect of things.it helps build up sexual tension.
The social also helps determine that the person is who they say they are and haven't sent you a picture from 15 years ago. |
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"We really like the social aspect of things it helps build up sexual tension."
This for me. I like that swap between just having a 'normal' conversation, then going back for sex. I appreciate that some people enjoy separating the two aspects entirely, even do things like a blindfolded anonymous fuck, but I prefer some level of social interaction. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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I love the build up and tease and tension building as you find out each other's kinks etc
The more you do before I find makes that first touch or kiss and breaking of anticipation more electric |
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