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By *igi25 OP Woman 25 weeks ago
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Hello all first time posting but was wondering how long you chat with someone on here before you take the chat to another app or do you keep it all on here
Thanking you, all advice welcome 🤗 |
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It’s up to you really.
Some people never chat away from Fab. Others, may prefer to chat on Telegram or WhatsApp.
If you don’t want to exchange details outside of Fab, no one says it’s a must. There’s infrastructure here for keeping in touch. As clunky as it may be, it’s functional. |
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By *igi25 OP Woman 25 weeks ago
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"It’s up to you really.
Some people never chat away from Fab. Others, may prefer to chat on Telegram or WhatsApp.
If you don’t want to exchange details outside of Fab, no one says it’s a must. There’s infrastructure here for keeping in touch. As clunky as it may be, it’s functional. "
Thank you
It does get a bit tedious having to log in everytime though and sometimes you don’t want to be seen online
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I tend to only move to other platforms once a date for a social is firmly in place. Or if I've met someone at an event and we're chatting as friends.
Even then I still end up having long conversations on here with some people despite having chats going on WA or TG. |
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By *igi25 OP Woman 25 weeks ago
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"It all depends on you and how you feel with the conversation.
If you are worried about being checked when you were last online you can hide your profile.
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Thank you, I do this but it still shows on friends or hotlists
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"It all depends on you and how you feel with the conversation.
If you are worried about being checked when you were last online you can hide your profile.
Thank you, I do this but it still shows on friends or hotlists
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Lean into it.
You being online doesn’t mean you owe anyone your time. If someone had expectations of you that don’t align with what you can meet or want to meet, then choose to be in control of your options.
Don’t let anyone else dictate how you choose to use Fab, or change your behaviour based on their expectations. Do simply what suits you. |
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By *igi25 OP Woman 25 weeks ago
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"We were chatting to another couple that had a "fuck phone" which they purely used for meets and chatting to people. If you can afford to have a cheap PAYG phone it's a good idea "
I’m always loosing this one I would be a disaster with 2 but I can see how that works for some |
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By *igi25 OP Woman 25 weeks ago
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"It all depends on you and how you feel with the conversation.
If you are worried about being checked when you were last online you can hide your profile.
Thank you, I do this but it still shows on friends or hotlists
Lean into it.
You being online doesn’t mean you owe anyone your time. If someone had expectations of you that don’t align with what you can meet or want to meet, then choose to be in control of your options.
Don’t let anyone else dictate how you choose to use Fab, or change your behaviour based on their expectations. Do simply what suits you. "
Thank you, I realise the longer I’m here I have to learn not to be a people pleaser
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"Hello all first time posting but was wondering how long you chat with someone on here before you take the chat to another app or do you keep it all on here
Thanking you, all advice welcome 🤗 "
However long it takes for you both to feel comfortable to do so OP 🌈 |
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"Thanks for all the advice, I was called a fake today as I didn’t want to move conversations off here, is that normal response"
That is not at all a normal response. People are free to move to other chat media *if they want to*, but that should never be an expectation or mandate. Demanding that someone compromise their personal boundaries is creepy. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Thanks for all the advice, I was called a fake today as I didn’t want to move conversations off here, is that normal response"
Normal? I wouldn’t call it normal. It’s someone who is trying to dictate how you should behave according to their expectations.
If it’s not within your boundaries, then it’s not normal. |
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"Thanks for all the advice, I was called a fake today as I didn’t want to move conversations off here, is that normal response"
That's someone having a tantrum because you won't do what they say.
Their behaviour speaks volumes about their character.
You do what's good for you op. |
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"Thanks for all the advice, I was called a fake today as I didn’t want to move conversations off here, is that normal response
That is not at all a normal response. People are free to move to other chat media *if they want to*, but that should never be an expectation or mandate. Demanding that someone compromise their personal boundaries is creepy."
Exactly this OP. You do you. If the other person doesn’t like that then they’re not your kind of people 🌈 |
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"Thanks for all the advice, I was called a fake today as I didn’t want to move conversations off here, is that normal response"
I hope it's not a "normal" responce in any sense. However, sadly, from what I read in the forums it is not an uncommon responce. (imho it'd be an winning entry in the race for the block button)
Personally I've had chats which have quite quickly out-grown the limitations here; and I've had chats that have always stayed within FAB - play it by ear, but if new don't be in a hurry to move away from fab, aand never let anyone push you in to it.
Good luck and happy fab'ing |
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Usually depends on how comfortable we are with the people we're talking to. There have been times where we just hit it off immediately and setup up WhatsApp group chats. Sometimes it takes a few weeks |
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