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Do you find that you miss opportunities, especially in terms of Fab, and if so, were you aware they were opportunities at the time and just couldn't take them, or did you not realise they were opportunities until later when it was too late?
Either way, why do you think this is - lack of confidence, unable to read signals, worried about rejection, etc? |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Opportunities presented aren’t always opportunities desired. I choose orotundities I wish to explore. Those I don’t, I do not feel I’m missing out on. I have zero FOMO in general in life though. |
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I have definitely gotten better with age at working out that something is an opportunity. That has meant that I have become much more comfortable in taking the risk in seeing if it will work out - life is too short to sit and wonder “what if”. |
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Who knows? I have some lovely chats with people from all walks of life, could they develop? Dunno. Are they a missed opportunity if I don't seize it? Mibbies. Mibbies by going for it I would blow that chance.
The dichotomy of stick or twist (with a chance of bust). (Tee hee I said 'bust') |
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If I want something I ask.
Trying to deduce if there are "signals" is never going to be my strong point, so I skip that stage altogether. If that's the way someone functions then we simply aren't compatible, so nothing is lost. Fortunately, I can take rejection on the chin. |
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We tend to go for what we want hence why we’ve enjoyed some amazing experiences on here and vanilla life.
Missed opportunities? Nothing/no one comes to mind as opportunities lost - they’d come round again if they were meant to be anyway.
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I don’t miss them but timing is e everything on here , lots of people are attracted to each but it can sometimes take a year or 3 to get together. I don’t buy the ‘liked you for ages’ if you really did you would at least let them know. I think it’s a line used. |
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I miss out because I don't find within Fab, the ability to organise how I need to.. Eg, I can't organise people by location or type of contact, such as already shagged, seems interesting or into Manchester, London etc
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By *HUSH-Man 25 weeks ago
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I’ve passed on a social/meet with a couple because after having spoken to them over the phone I could tell it just wasn’t right for me. It was the dynamic. Wasn’t a case of low confidence or failing to read signs and I definitely don’t feel like I’ve missed an opportunity. |
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No. If I didn’t know it was an opportunity then I haven’t really missed it. And if I did but decided not to pursue it, there will have been a reason and I firmly believe you have to do what’s right for you at the time.
Do I wish I’d met more sexy people? Of course. But they were never an opportunity. And there’s still time…. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"I don’t miss them but timing is e everything on here , lots of people are attracted to each but it can sometimes take a year or 3 to get together. "
^^ this !!
I'm not a fast mover  a 4 year connection just ignited  |
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There have been a few people where the stars didn’t quite align and the situation slipped past. A few where signals were mixed and our ducks were at a rave instead of in a row…
It’s part of life though and you can’t turn back time |
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