On my commute home tonight the train was pretty packed. Which was of course fine, slightly less fine was a tipsy bloke shouting down the aisle to try and give me his seat. Really nice of him to offer, but I'd politely said no thanks, waved the offer away with my hand. To have him stumbling down the aisle to get to me, remove his earphones and then try to shoo me towards the seat. Again said 'no, I'm fine thank you, I'm off at the next stop'. He was still trying to insist as I fled to stand next to the door.
I mean it was a nice gesture, and I get that. But I really was fine where I was  |
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"On my commute home tonight the train was pretty packed. Which was of course fine, slightly less fine was a tipsy bloke shouting down the aisle to try and give me his seat. Really nice of him to offer, but I'd politely said no thanks, waved the offer away with my hand. To have him stumbling down the aisle to get to me, remove his earphones and then try to shoo me towards the seat. Again said 'no, I'm fine thank you, I'm off at the next stop'. He was still trying to insist as I fled to stand next to the door.
I mean it was a nice gesture, and I get that. But I really was fine where I was "
If he made you feeling uncomfortable he was being a cunt. |
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"I really hate performative manners. If you need to make a spectacle of yourself, it's no longer about courtesy."
I have a similar attitude towards expectations of gratitude for kind gestures, or people getting upset when something they've given someone as a gift gets exchanged or returned for not being wanted/needed.
Like...if the gift/gesture doesn't stand on its own, and you don't abandon all claim to rights over its value once given, you did it for you and not the recipient. |
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"I really hate performative manners. If you need to make a spectacle of yourself, it's no longer about courtesy.
I have a similar attitude towards expectations of gratitude for kind gestures, or people getting upset when something they've given someone as a gift gets exchanged or returned for not being wanted/needed.
Like...if the gift/gesture doesn't stand on its own, and you don't abandon all claim to rights over its value once given, you did it for you and not the recipient."
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"I have no clue as to what you’re saying!"
For example: people who hold a door open and get annoyed if the person doesn't thank them. Or giving someone a present not knowing whether they want or need the thing you're getting, and getting angry with them when they exchange it for something they wanted. |
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"On my commute home tonight the train was pretty packed. Which was of course fine, slightly less fine was a tipsy bloke shouting down the aisle to try and give me his seat. Really nice of him to offer, but I'd politely said no thanks, waved the offer away with my hand. To have him stumbling down the aisle to get to me, remove his earphones and then try to shoo me towards the seat. Again said 'no, I'm fine thank you, I'm off at the next stop'. He was still trying to insist as I fled to stand next to the door.
I mean it was a nice gesture, and I get that. But I really was fine where I was "
chivalry and Dutch courage mixed up there x |
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"I have no clue as to what you’re saying!
For example: people who hold a door open and get annoyed if the person doesn't thank them. Or giving someone a present not knowing whether they want or need the thing you're getting, and getting angry with them when they exchange it for something they wanted."
Nope it’s not registering. It’s me I’m dim. |
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