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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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I wouldn’t think cheating is an admirable quality in any individual.
Cheating is Cheating.
Lying is lying.
Being here in this lifestyle, with permission is one thing. Lying & cheating a that’s another.
Deceitfulness, intent, purposeful deception, all not very good qualities.
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"It's not generally a very admired behaviour, whoever does it "
I largely agree with this, though there are a surprising number of people on here who state outright in their profile that they're cheating and yet seem to be incredibly popular for meets. |
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By *4bimMan 24 weeks ago
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"It's not generally a very admired behaviour, whoever does it
I largely agree with this, though there are a surprising number of people on here who state outright in their profile that they're cheating and yet seem to be incredibly popular for meets."
the attraction for some is having what isnt yours. forbidden fruit.
summer holidays and xmas you'll see single profiles suddenly go missing because the kids are off school |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"What do females enjoy about a guy cheating ? "
Their big dick.
The thrill of being caught.
An ego boost that they can have something they shouldn’t.
They actually like the guy and nothing will stand in the way of what they want.
I dunno why anyone would ‘like’ it, but it does happen and there’s bound to be a personal reason.
I don’t like cheating threads, but your question op was not loaded….
Cheating isn’t cool, and can leave carnage and unrepeatable damage behind, those that don’t learn but turn into a kink/fetish is not my type of person. So why they might ENJOY it is a mystery to me.
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Cheating is such a divisive subject.
I’ve read and heard it said that some prefer people who are cheating as there’s less chance of them wanting something full time
Here’s my thoughts and maybe controversial but I’ll say them anyway
For me cheating is really really low. People cheat for a reason. Lack of sex at home, not feeling they are desired anymore, boredom, many reasons.
Have the whatever you need to be able to communicate with your partner about what you need from the relationship. If they can’t do that seek external help.
Is a marriage or a relationship worth throwing away for a fuck and if you really have tried all avenues then approach having an approved partner or leave.
There’s so much more than sex. What if your partner was ill or had a medical condition that meant their sex drive dropped or stopped all together. Would you honestly say that’s it we are done.
What part of your partner finding out you’re having an affair will help their confidence or esteem and make them want to be with you again
Many if not all relationships go through phases and we can lose the ability to vocalise what we want and need but also what we can give and provide to our partners
Lastly for those that think emotions aren’t formed if you’re with someone who is cheating I would question that. If you’re getting something that you’re not getting at home you feel amazing again and then there is the very real possibility that emotions will form
As I say just my opinions and everyone can do what they want and how they want
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By *bi HaiveMan 24 weeks ago
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"What do females enjoy about a guy cheating ? "
Most women (they tend not to like being called females) that I know enjoy it when a guy is upfront about it, so they can make an informed choice and generally avoid.
There's enough drama in life without potentially adding to it.
Consent is the foundation of swinging after all. |
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"What do females enjoy about a guy cheating ?
Was your question not sufficiently answered on your previous 4 threads?"
Well you know what they say, buddy: if a question is worth asking, it's worth asking five times. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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Maybe not for this thread given the premise by which it was set but I get a real thrill from the thought of my woman cheating but the one time it actually happened, it signalled the end of the relationship emotionally even though I found it exciting sexually. |
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"Maybe not for this thread given the premise by which it was set but I get a real thrill from the thought of my woman cheating but the one time it actually happened, it signalled the end of the relationship emotionally even though I found it exciting sexually."
Were you able to determine what it was specifically that led to that disconnect between fantasy and reality? |
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"Maybe not for this thread given the premise by which it was set but I get a real thrill from the thought of my woman cheating but the one time it actually happened, it signalled the end of the relationship emotionally even though I found it exciting sexually.
Were you able to determine what it was specifically that led to that disconnect between fantasy and reality?"
Thinking about the fantasy element I was objective and able to appreciate her excitement and think back to a time when we shared that. I'd also harboured a desire to open our relationship but this wasn't her thing. As such, the reality of the situation meant that her intention was deceptive and given that she was against anything other than vanilla monogamy, two-faced. She did it without any care for the ramifications and implications to me, believing that if I were to find out I would be hurt and that she wouldn't accept it in return. That meant there could be no trust which is a fundamental cornerstone in a relationship.
I'm liberal and open minded. Sex can be something that's shared and I'm not wedded to monogamy but it must be mutually respectful and this wasn't. |
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"Thinking about the fantasy element I was objective and able to appreciate her excitement and think back to a time when we shared that. I'd also harboured a desire to open our relationship but this wasn't her thing. As such, the reality of the situation meant that her intention was deceptive and given that she was against anything other than vanilla monogamy, two-faced. She did it without any care for the ramifications and implications to me, believing that if I were to find out I would be hurt and that she wouldn't accept it in return. That meant there could be no trust which is a fundamental cornerstone in a relationship.
I'm liberal and open minded. Sex can be something that's shared and I'm not wedded to monogamy but it must be mutually respectful and this wasn't."
That makes a lot of sense. Thank you for your answer. |
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"What do females enjoy about a guy cheating ?
Was your question not sufficiently answered on your previous 4 threads?
Well you know what they say, buddy: if a question is worth asking, it's worth asking five times."
 so it appears |
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"I wouldn’t think cheating is an admirable quality in any individual.
Cheating is Cheating.
Lying is lying.
Being here in this lifestyle, with permission is one thing. Lying & cheating a that’s another.
Deceitfulness, intent, purposeful deception, all not very good qualities.
😬👀🥺"
Exactly this. Have been the one cheated on for many years it’s sole destroying knowing the person you love would rather get off elsewhere and never have any intimate contact. As tempting as it might be, I wouldn’t want to be the one to cause someone else that same pain |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"What do females enjoy about a guy cheating ?
Their big dick.
The thrill of being caught.
An ego boost that they can have something they shouldn’t.
They actually like the guy and nothing will stand in the way of what they want.
I dunno why anyone would ‘like’ it, but it does happen and there’s bound to be a personal reason.
I don’t like cheating threads, but your question op was not loaded….
Cheating isn’t cool, and can leave carnage and unrepeatable damage behind, those that don’t learn but turn into a kink/fetish is not my type of person. So why they might ENJOY it is a mystery to me.
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I disagree, I reckon with women most of the time it’s down to insecurity. If you’re getting involved with a man who can give you nothing more then there’s no disappointment. Compartmentalisation even if it’s only subconsciously.
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"It's a complicated subject with lots of layers that can't be ratified down to a simple answer
Don't judge another until you have walked a few miles in their shoes "
Because, as the old joke goes, then you will be a couple of miles away and they won’t have any shoes to chase you in.
Seriously, I find it difficult on here because there are plenty of men who are cheating on their wives or partners but pretend to be single, and it’s often not easy to tell if they are.
I certainly don’t want to be a part of that and I would hate to have been even inadvertently, but it has probably happened. I would certainly get no pleasure from it (and yes, I know that I am not a real woman). |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"What do females enjoy about a guy cheating ? "
You honestly expect any women who do to reply to this?
They will be shamed by the vocal collective who see it as a bad thing in their opinion. |
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"Cheating is such a divisive subject.
I’ve read and heard it said that some prefer people who are cheating as there’s less chance of them wanting something full time
Here’s my thoughts and maybe controversial but I’ll say them anyway
For me cheating is really really low. People cheat for a reason. Lack of sex at home, not feeling they are desired anymore, boredom, many reasons.
Have the whatever you need to be able to communicate with your partner about what you need from the relationship. If they can’t do that seek external help.
Is a marriage or a relationship worth throwing away for a fuck and if you really have tried all avenues then approach having an approved partner or leave.
There’s so much more than sex. What if your partner was ill or had a medical condition that meant their sex drive dropped or stopped all together. Would you honestly say that’s it we are done.
What part of your partner finding out you’re having an affair will help their confidence or esteem and make them want to be with you again
Many if not all relationships go through phases and we can lose the ability to vocalise what we want and need but also what we can give and provide to our partners
Lastly for those that think emotions aren’t formed if you’re with someone who is cheating I would question that. If you’re getting something that you’re not getting at home you feel amazing again and then there is the very real possibility that emotions will form
As I say just my opinions and everyone can do what they want and how they want
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I agree with everything you say here. Very well put. |
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"I wouldn’t think cheating is an admirable quality in any individual.
Cheating is Cheating.
Lying is lying.
Being here in this lifestyle, with permission is one thing. Lying & cheating a that’s another.
Deceitfulness, intent, purposeful deception, all not very good qualities.
😬👀🥺"
I don’t think it’s admired, but I think it’s accepted by some. This is actually one area where mandatory showing of verifications would help me as I generally don’t want to meet women who meet cheating men. |
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"What do females enjoy about a guy cheating ?
Their big dick.
The thrill of being caught.
An ego boost that they can have something they shouldn’t.
They actually like the guy and nothing will stand in the way of what they want.
I dunno why anyone would ‘like’ it, but it does happen and there’s bound to be a personal reason.
I don’t like cheating threads, but your question op was not loaded….
Cheating isn’t cool, and can leave carnage and unrepeatable damage behind, those that don’t learn but turn into a kink/fetish is not my type of person. So why they might ENJOY it is a mystery to me.
I disagree, I reckon with women most of the time it’s down to insecurity. If you’re getting involved with a man who can give you nothing more then there’s no disappointment. Compartmentalisation even if it’s only subconsciously.
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I think you’re spot on.
As a guy I can almost relate to that sometimes going after women I think are trouble or bad, I know it’s short term, I’m not gonna risk forming any kind of relationship with them and I’m not gonna be disappointed. |
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"I wouldn’t think cheating is an admirable quality in any individual.
Cheating is Cheating.
Lying is lying.
Being here in this lifestyle, with permission is one thing. Lying & cheating a that’s another.
Deceitfulness, intent, purposeful deception, all not very good qualities.
😬👀🥺"
THIS.
All of this! |
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