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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Sarah & James xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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In my opinion absolutely |
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Yes extremely important we share and look for face pics very early into convos to ensure attraction all ways x |
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Errrrrrm obviously
I couldn’t meet someone I wasn’t attracted to |
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By *hoirCouple 18 weeks ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
It's a must for us. I'd hate to turn people away at the door after all
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Yes most definitely unless you want me to turn up wearing a balaclava |
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Absolutely.
I don’t like the face and body, nothing is happening. At all. |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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I will now only meet after exchanging face pics |
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Yeah, for sure. Never an issue on my end as my face is in all my pics anyway.  |
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By *WANDTGCouple 18 weeks ago
Borough of Greenwich |
We definitely want to see before a meeting, in fact if we are chatting to a couple and the conversation looks like it's heading somewhere then we'd ask for a couples photo , recent and side by side. If they start making excuses then that little red flag appear ! |
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Absolutely and for me quite early on. It’s not just about attraction - although that’s a small factor.
I need to be able to visualise who I’m conversing with. More sense of connection for me.
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"Yes most definitely unless you want me to turn up wearing a balaclava "
Why do you need to be attracted to someone you will only want as a friend with benefits, most profiles only show one meet with said person, it’s about kinky fantasies not picnics and wine ?
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100%. She might have a face like Gail Platt. |
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"Yes most definitely unless you want me to turn up wearing a balaclava Why do you need to be attracted to someone you will only want as a friend with benefits, most profiles only show one meet with said person, it’s about kinky fantasies not picnics and wine ? "
I don’t get a veri each time I meet a regular FWB. That would be weird as hell.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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so it seem like you are all in agreement ? it's a yes.
So we have been chatting with a few couples and singles guys lately who won't/don't want to exchange face pictures before a meet.
We find this quite odd and have then cancelled the meet because for us, if are not attracted to you then it's just a waste of our time.
One couple in particular got very defensive about it saying that it's not common practice to exchange face pictures before a meet, but we always have xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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Face pics before a meet are essential , need to know if there is attraction on a physical level . Plus it helps to know who you are looking for when meeting |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 18 weeks ago
East Northamptonshire |
"so it seem like you are all in agreement ? it's a yes.
So we have been chatting with a few couples and singles guys lately who won't/don't want to exchange face pictures before a meet.
We find this quite odd and have then cancelled the meet because for us, if are not attracted to you then it's just a waste of our time.
One couple in particular got very defensive about it saying that it's not common practice to exchange face pictures before a meet, but we always have xx"
That’s weird behaviour.
Always ask for a face pic if there’s none in their friends only |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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"so it seem like you are all in agreement ? it's a yes.
So we have been chatting with a few couples and singles guys lately who won't/don't want to exchange face pictures before a meet.
We find this quite odd and have then cancelled the meet because for us, if are not attracted to you then it's just a waste of our time.
One couple in particular got very defensive about it saying that it's not common practice to exchange face pictures before a meet, but we always have xx
That’s weird behaviour.
Always ask for a face pic if there’s none in their friends only "
Thank you for that, we thought it was very strange. Almost like we were being set up, I don't know. I could be wrong xx |
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100%. The face is part of the attraction for me |
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I only meet new people in public places. I prefer to have a face pic, but honestly I'm pretty face blind with strangers anyway, so it doesn't make or break it for me. |
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By *ou345Woman 18 weeks ago
Derby |
If someone isn't willing to send a face pic I would have serious reservations.
This isn't blind date. 🤷 |
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"... ...it’s about kinky fantasies not picnics and wine..."
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Because some of us actually do picnics and wine...and årt, galleries and museums and so forth, and the sexual dalliances on the back of that are electrifying when there's a modicum of attraction and connection. |
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I know some people are concerned about sending pictures, so we have done a quick video calls/webcam before a meet previously. Also less fussed if it's just a social and we're not travelling too far. In general though I think most people would want to see each other before taking the time to meet up.
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We only meet with face pics. But I guess there are people who are only looking for a cock or fanny and don’t care less what they look like.
Those people are not for us. We want to have attraction to enhance our sex lives not just to have a shag. |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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Nope. By the time we’re having a social we’ve made each other laugh, think, and enjoy personalities. That’s way more important than looks. |
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By *a LunaWoman 18 weeks ago
South Wales |
Yes, I don’t want to turn up for a social and wonder which bloke it is I’m supposed to be meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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"We only meet with face pics. But I guess there are people who are only looking for a cock or fanny and don’t care less what they look like.
Those people are not for us. We want to have attraction to enhance our sex lives not just to have a shag. "
A good point well put xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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A face pic is a great idea  |
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"Yes most definitely unless you want me to turn up wearing a balaclava Why do you need to be attracted to someone you will only want as a friend with benefits, most profiles only show one meet with said person, it’s about kinky fantasies not picnics and wine ? "
I’ll take the picnic and wine ta |
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I always ask for a face pic early on. I have no interest having any kind of conversation with someone I cannot see. I’m not Cilla Black and I definitely do not need to ask Our Graham for a roundup of said persons attributes 👍🏻 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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"I always ask for a face pic early on. I have no interest having any kind of conversation with someone I cannot see. I’m not Cilla Black and I definitely do not need to ask Our Graham for a roundup of said persons attributes 👍🏻"
Hahaha, you made us giggle xx |
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"I always ask for a face pic early on. I have no interest having any kind of conversation with someone I cannot see. I’m not Cilla Black and I definitely do not need to ask Our Graham for a roundup of said persons attributes 👍🏻
Hahaha, you made us giggle xx "
You’re welcome. Cilla had much better legs than me 😘 |
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Yes, time is precious I don't have it to waste, if there's no attraction there's no point.
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It's important to make your own rules and to enforce rigidly those that are red lines. We'll not know why others truly want to break our rules but they have shown that we're not compatible.
If you're going to meet at a club, socially, then it's a possibility but can still be a waste of your time doing this. I prefer to end engagement as soon as they don't want to honour my rules. |
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"Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Sarah & James xx "
Yes definitely there has to be some trust at some point |
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I exchange pics before we start chatting. I'm not wasting time chatting to someone I'm not attracted to |
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"so it seem like you are all in agreement ? it's a yes.
So we have been chatting with a few couples and singles guys lately who won't/don't want to exchange face pictures before a meet.
We find this quite odd and have then cancelled the meet because for us, if are not attracted to you then it's just a waste of our time.
One couple in particular got very defensive about it saying that it's not common practice to exchange face pictures before a meet, but we always have xx
That’s weird behaviour.
Always ask for a face pic if there’s none in their friends only
Thank you for that, we thought it was very strange. Almost like we were being set up, I don't know. I could be wrong xx"
I can see reasons why they wouldn't want to send pictures. People are strange sometimes and use other people's pictures on other sites, or post and share them around without permission. Or they could pretend to be them. People used to steal my MySpace pictures (Remember Myspace? Lol) and pretend to be me on dating websites. They could have gotten me into trouble. So I'm careful about what I send. I'd rather meet them in chat and go on webcam for them rather than send them pictures I can't get back. Or they may just not like having their photo taken. That's pretty common, people hate looking at themselves. |
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"Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Sarah & James xx "
Although in previous posts you said attraction wasn't needed and being into the bdsm you'd just cover their face and jump on that cock??
So I'm confused.
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Yes definitely though I’ve had a few offers from guys who said they’ll wear a hood ! |
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I always do a social first but even then I’d still want to see who I was meeting as if i wasn’t attracted to them then I wouldn’t meet.
I’ve never found anyone who has a problem with this. I will share my face pic once we’ve exchanged a few messages and I think there is a potential for a meet.
Kx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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"so it seem like you are all in agreement ? it's a yes.
So we have been chatting with a few couples and singles guys lately who won't/don't want to exchange face pictures before a meet.
We find this quite odd and have then cancelled the meet because for us, if are not attracted to you then it's just a waste of our time.
One couple in particular got very defensive about it saying that it's not common practice to exchange face pictures before a meet, but we always have xx
That’s weird behaviour.
Always ask for a face pic if there’s none in their friends only
Thank you for that, we thought it was very strange. Almost like we were being set up, I don't know. I could be wrong xx I can see reasons why they wouldn't want to send pictures. People are strange sometimes and use other people's pictures on other sites, or post and share them around without permission. Or they could pretend to be them. People used to steal my MySpace pictures (Remember Myspace? Lol) and pretend to be me on dating websites. They could have gotten me into trouble. So I'm careful about what I send. I'd rather meet them in chat and go on webcam for them rather than send them pictures I can't get back. Or they may just not like having their photo taken. That's pretty common, people hate looking at themselves. "
We are a faily well verified couple, I would assume that comes with a level of trust that we are not one of those people who share others face pictures.
Just a thought xx |
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By *ony MannMan 18 weeks ago
New York City New York USA |
I go with chat, then face pics, confirm a meet and hope I'm not stood up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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"Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Sarah & James xx
Although in previous posts you said attraction wasn't needed and being into the bdsm you'd just cover their face and jump on that cock??
So I'm confused.
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That was tounge in cheek, perhaps it was my English and it didn't translate well. I am writing in a second language.
it was more the unwillingness to send the pictures that was the concern xx |
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I think so, after all you've no idea if the picture is going to match the person so I'd say a very recent face pic is helpful |
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Yes. Some people have decent bodies but have a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp 👹 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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"Yes. Some people have decent bodies but have a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp 👹"
Hahahahaha brilliant, that made us laugh xx |
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Everyone can see my face in my public gallery, most of my recent pictures are even without any makeup! And I've never used filters.
I do understand those who are reluctant to put their faces on show, and I have occasionally met without quite knowing who will greet me when I open the door. But that's more a reflection of my periodic loneliness, not my preference.
I do think it extraordinary though, and very egotistical, of those on here who insist they must see photos of you before even starting to chat but state that they will never show face pictures of themselves even in private messages. That is their prerogative of course, but personally I would never demand something of a person that I was unwilling to do myself.
Anyway OP, if you have been conversing with someone and sent them your photos, there isn't any obligation for them to send photos back, but there certainly isn't any obligation for you to meet if you haven't seen pictures of them. And anybody that says "it's just for sex, you don't need to know what I look like", I think that I'd say to them "if it's just for sex then I'm happy with my vibrator, it doesn't treat me like trash, and at least I know what it looks like"! |
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By *hilloutMan 18 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Absolutely and for me quite early on. It’s not just about attraction - although that’s a small factor.
I need to be able to visualise who I’m conversing with. More sense of connection for me.
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This for me as well |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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"Everyone can see my face in my public gallery, most of my recent pictures are even without any makeup! And I've never used filters.
I do understand those who are reluctant to put their faces on show, and I have occasionally met without quite knowing who will greet me when I open the door. But that's more a reflection of my periodic loneliness, not my preference.
I do think it extraordinary though, and very egotistical, of those on here who insist they must see photos of you before even starting to chat but state that they will never show face pictures of themselves even in private messages. That is their prerogative of course, but personally I would never demand something of a person that I was unwilling to do myself.
Anyway OP, if you have been conversing with someone and sent them your photos, there isn't any obligation for them to send photos back, but there certainly isn't any obligation for you to meet if you haven't seen pictures of them. And anybody that says "it's just for sex, you don't need to know what I look like", I think that I'd say to them "if it's just for sex then I'm happy with my vibrator, it doesn't treat me like trash, and at least I know what it looks like"!"
Good points well made xx |
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By *lappyMan 18 weeks ago
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Always face pics before a meet, a nice clear face pic ( no shades or dusguses ) to make sure there’s an attraction, can’t understand why done people moan or object and just tells me they have something to hide |
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Always current face pics first. Pics from 5/10 years ago do not count as current... |
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Absolutely.all our face pics are from our holidays in July.
We would definitely expect a very recent face picture. |
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We like to swap pics early on as we like to see who we are chatting to.
If there’s reluctance or they state they won’t swap pics we won’t go further.
A deeper connection can’t be formed without face pics.
Unless I’m arranging a blindfold meet for C but even then I’ll insist on face pics as whilst C won’t see, I need to know they are going to be C’s type.
K
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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If I don’t see someone’s face, there will never be talks of a meeting. |
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Not everyone you meet or see are for you definitely need the picture just find it nerve racking sending them as trying to keep being on fab on the down low never sure if it's people you know |
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By *illjoyCouple 18 weeks ago
Newport |
Yes absolutely, for so many reasons!
We’re happy to send face photos when it’s reciprocated, and find most people think along the same lines.
I find it quite rude when people send a friend request to view our face photos then don’t have any of their own within their private albums, if you’re not happy to show your own face you can’t expect to see others!
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For sure it is
Need to see who we are all meeting |
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Absolutely i would want to see a face pic. I have some on my profile and would fully expect to see whom i'm meeting long before it actually happens even more so if it's just a social. How the hell are you supposed to recognise someone you haven't even seen a pic of. |
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Well I certainly wouldn’t want to meet someone who I hadn’t seen a pic of otherwise it might be a wasted evening |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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"Yes absolutely, for so many reasons!
We’re happy to send face photos when it’s reciprocated, and find most people think along the same lines.
I find it quite rude when people send a friend request to view our face photos then don’t have any of their own within their private albums, if you’re not happy to show your own face you can’t expect to see others!
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Yes the friend requests thing drives us mad aswell xx |
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By *os19Man 18 weeks ago
Edmonton |
In my public gallery I have 3-4 clear face pictures which are two years old. I don’t believe I have changed that much but will probably delete them and put some new ones up.If I was asked to take a picture now and send it to that a lady or couple could decide if I was suitable for them then no problem I would take the pictures and forward them on. I think it’s important to send pictures so that everyone knows who they are meeting and what they look like. |
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By *izz70Woman 18 weeks ago
Sheffield |
"Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Sarah & James xx "
It's definitely necessary for me to exchange a few different face pics if I feel there some connection. I have to be physically attracted to someone as well as mentally other wise it's not going to work out |
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It's absolutely necessary
I hada bloke tell me years ago that I didn't need to see his face to meet for a drink. I just stopped chatting, liking someone's face is the most important thing to me.
So I wouldn't risk meeting anyone without knowing there was some attraction there. |
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We pretty much exclusively meet in clubs on an ‘if you are there basis’
Of course we would prefer to share face pics in advance but if people don’t want to that’s fine. If there’s rejection in the club based off their looks, it’s there problem to deal with.
We’ve only had a few instances where people don’t want to exchange. |
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For me it's not necessary because I usually chat for weeks or even months before meeting socially.
If I agree to meet someone it's because I like them as a person but that doesn't always mean I want to have sex with them so physical attraction is irrelevant.
Some people like to suggest that meeting without a facepic means you are happy to fuck anyone but that's just another fab generalisation.
The only reason I have ever exchanged a pic is so we will recognise one another in the coffee shop. |
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Absolutely essential to see a face pic before meeting as I need to be attracted to him not just his cock 🤪 |
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Seriously? Is this a real question? |
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We would definitely like to see who we are chatting to before we are meeting... |
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Always! And pretty soon into conversation, attraction is a huge factor. Which is why I very rarely meet anyone. |
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I've done first meets with and without pics. I find if I like someone when chatting enough to meet, how they look is a minor point and unlikely to change anything.
... If meeting somewhere busy a face pic is useful |
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By *oxesMan 18 weeks ago
Southend, Essex |
"Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Sarah & James xx "
Tbh I sometimes end up in a skype call. Better a meet.
But yeah picturees and being said are a must. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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we're glad so many of you agree, it confirms what we were thinking.
Thank you xx |
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I don't ask for face pic before I meet. First guy I played with I had deleted him when I saw his pic but really fancies him when I met him. Face pics can change how you feel about someone before you meet them even if you get on well..
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By *ustBoWoman 18 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I've met some people without exchanging face pics. First meet is a social anyhow so I don't think it's a big deal.
I have always chatted to someone for quite a while before I've met them anyhow. Bar once and it was my worst meet ever.
Do fab your own way and let others do it their way. There is no right or wrong way. |
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I have face pictures on my profile, so don't get asked.
As a rule I don't ask for a face pic normally it's sent at part of the messaging process. |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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Definitely a yes from me. I have no open face pics on my profile but I am always happy to share one with potential meets and usually send one if I message people 🙂 |
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By *lueLotusWoman 18 weeks ago
the wilderness |
Absolutely I need a face pic for fab meets, have to be attracted to someone's face to consider shagging them.. Also, I once had to stop chatting to someone who was attractive to me but looked uncannily like a family member who bullied me as a child. I couldn't get past the resemblance and there was no way I was going to be able to have sex with him. |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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Absolutely, it’s the bare minimum surely? Can’t take a profile at face value  |
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Absolutely, yes, I show my face clearly on my profile. I appreciate some can't do this. I ask for clear face pics in the first message because you can send privately. |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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I think so, yes.
I'd like to see who I'm meeting but I also want them to see me. There's nothing worse than seeing someone on a blind date and realising they're just not your type. |
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Absolutely.... The old saying body of baywatch, face from crimewatch and that saying happens alot on fab x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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"Absolutely.... The old saying body of baywatch, face from crimewatch and that saying happens alot on fab x"
Hahaha, brilliant xx |
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I'll always send a face pic with my first message now, why not?
In a typical timescaled meeting have always received a face pic.
However I once met a couple in a spur of the moment type meet, I was that excited about the request that I didn't even think to ask for a face pic. I met them within an hour of the first message.
I was not disappointed in any way shape or form, they are an awesome couple and I am ever so glad I threw caution to the wind,😁
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Yes at the very least.
It's not enough to get me to meet though.
I need to see today's face in a live cam.
No cam no meet...... |
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By *odgerMan 18 weeks ago
Coventry(ish)London |
Generally, but on some occasions after building up a good rapport through chat, I've found that some women like the excitement of a blind meet, waiting blindfolded on the bed either me or them |
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By *8on33Man 18 weeks ago
winfrith |
"Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Sarah & James xx "
Obviously how can you meet without them ? |
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A must for us, if the attraction isn't there for us all, there is no point and it's a waste of everyones time.
We also don't sleep with just anyone.
Miss S x |
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With women and couples, yes
I have had blind meets with blokes (and one MMF)
I prefer to see pics and I prefer potential meets to see me
I've only had one get back in his van and drive off  , so I can't be that bad, but still I'd sooner they have the opportunity to exercise their right to refuse well in advance of a physical meet |
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The thing is with face pictures they can be very deceiving, we have met people who their face pics don't do them justice and we have met other people who we have walked straight past as their photos were so heavily filtered.
We don't bother asking for face pics now as we find it pointless it's only a social after all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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"The thing is with face pictures they can be very deceiving, we have met people who their face pics don't do them justice and we have met other people who we have walked straight past as their photos were so heavily filtered.
We don't bother asking for face pics now as we find it pointless it's only a social after all. "
This is why we were asking, it's also good to get different points of view. Thank you for that.
Sarah xx |
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I would definitely prefer to see who I was engaging with to avoid any embarrassment |
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For a social, it isn't necessary. For a 'date' yeah I would find that useful. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 18 weeks ago
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"A must for us, if the attraction isn't there for us all, there is no point and it's a waste of everyones time.
We also don't sleep with just anyone.
Miss S x"
That's how we feel xx |
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I used to not care but from experience I don’t know if I like someone without a face picture
Eyes are my attraction that I like.
Sometimes also the chat goes on for weeks without sending a face picture, that’s just rude. Don’t expect anyone to fancy you if they’ve never seen your face |
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It's 100% a must for me.
Being attracted to someone's face is very important to me, more so than their body.
Tbh to prefer to know what someone looks like early into a chat |
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By *izz70Woman 18 weeks ago
Sheffield |
"Seriously? Is this a real question?"
Rude |
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By *ukeuusMan 18 weeks ago
bridgend |
Personally I am OK with sending face pics of course/ yet I don't feel comfortable attaching one to first message as many request / most don't reply for example and have your face pic freely ...
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Face pics are essential for me. I like to see who I'm chatting to and potentially meeting. |
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This is a sensitive subject and not really fair to single guys. A lot of couples expect you to send and not reciprocate that act. That's where privacy for me is an issue. I'm not comfortable sending photos to strangers I've just met as a lot of them tend to be fakes or blokes pretending to be women and content collectors. Most of my meets come from parties and random socials. That's where I'm most comfortable. I'm happy to send once I'm comfortable with the person and gone thru the necessary verification steps. Many fall away before this is completed however which is fine. I just keep it moving and on to the next one. |
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For me absolutely a must.
And also a call or FaceTime is ideal too.
Blind date went out the window a long time ago.
And personally I’m drawn to a mental connection, the face and hearing how they sound and present themselves in a big way.
And of course I need to know if there’s the physical attraction as well as the mental connection.
If there isn’t I’m probably going to go more limp than a tea soaked rich tea biscuit 😂 |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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💯yep. How the hell do I know who to look for? |
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"Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Sarah & James xx "
It makes it much easier to actually find the people you're supposed to be meeting with.
We have, in the past, arranged a meet with a couple, but when we arrived at the pub where we were meeting, we realised that we had never asked them for a face pic. Obviously, when we looked around the room, there were about 12 couples who they could have been. Thankfully, Anita's bright red hair was easier for them to spot, and they soon found us.
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We expect a recent face pic before any meets or we don't meet. Simple. |
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By *eyeYCouple 18 weeks ago
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By *eyeYCouple 18 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
Abso-fucking-lutely!! If we don't get face and physique pictures early on we just don't engage. Arrogant as it may sound, we get sick of those who expect any different.
Personality and character comes later to determine whether we'd like to fuck them, sorry not sorry.
Frankly it's about attraction and that 'little extra' for us, we have enough friends we don't want to fuck.. 🤷😉 |
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By *eyeYCouple 17 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
Just had the best one yet!! They winked, we winked, They messaged, we messaged (with vanilla pictures of us as a couple)
They responded with 2 vid clips 1 of him stroking his cock and 1 her fingering her pussy.
Stating "We don't send, face pics here is a couple of videos, but we'd still like to meet you."
Errr, that won't happen..
Pmsl!! 🤷🤦🤣 |
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By *avexxMan 17 weeks ago
cheshire |
im straight with people im quasimodos twin brother it works for me, they admire my honesty |
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I've done socials with no face pix. People take such terrible photos I'd rather meet them in person |
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By *eyeYCouple 17 weeks ago
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"I've done socials with no face pix. People take such terrible photos I'd rather meet them in person "
A fair comment and they could be from a decade ago or have a fantastic filter 🙄 However we prefer an inkling of whether we'd possibly find them attractive ☺️ |
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We are quite protective of our identity but will generally exchange pics offsite before meeting. We need mutual attraction and the face is probably more important than the body it’s attached to. We have had one blind date though which was fun. |
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By *ucka39Man 17 weeks ago
Newcastle |
Expect a photo within the conversation at some point, chatted with many people without and it's surprising how the connection goes without knowing what they look like and not disappointed once received |
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By *aui.Man 17 weeks ago
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For me, I would say yes. But I enjoy having a social, a good chat and a laugh etc. So yeah there has to be an attraction.
I don't think it'd be necessary for everyone though. Some people enjoy anonymous sex. Gh, Czech gh, masks, dogging etc. So they probably don't need a face pic. In fact having one may actually take something away from the encounter. |
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Got to see a face that's a given |
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Definitely need to exchange face pictures before meeting.
How do you know if you’re attracted to the other person(s) or not?
Best wishes to you all. Cheeky x |
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Yes.
I only meet men I’m attracted too. And would expect men to do the same.
Not optional for me.
I also expect pics very early on in convo. Pointless talking otherwise. |
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By *andT2023Couple 17 weeks ago
in the middle |
100 percent yes .
Seems weird to consider it without. |
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Yeah deffo, then you know who you’re looking out for 😁 providing the supplier of said pic actually resembles what is sent 😂😂😂😳 |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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definitely and a recent one |
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I also insist on exchanging face pics before a meet, social or otherwise. If there is not even a spark of physical attraction, or at least no repulsion, there is little chance of anything else being fun.
Also,who are you meeting?. Have they lied in their profile and messages, posted fake photos or are they just Quasimodo's ugly cousin?.
Anyone who cannot or will not exchange face pics is hiding something. Avoid. |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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"I've done socials with no face pix. People take such terrible photos I'd rather meet them in person
A fair comment and they could be from a decade ago or have a fantastic filter 🙄 However we prefer an inkling of whether we'd possibly find them attractive ☺️"
The mind is of far more interest to me |
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"I've done socials with no face pix. People take such terrible photos I'd rather meet them in person
A fair comment and they could be from a decade ago or have a fantastic filter 🙄 However we prefer an inkling of whether we'd possibly find them attractive ☺️
The mind is of far more interest to me "
80% agree. There are some people I build a lovely connection with and don't really wish to see their face as I've built a picture up and enjoy what we have. But, I guess these people tend to be at quite a bit of distance from me anyway (10 miles 😁) so the chances of realistically meeting are negligible. Locals (with all their limbs in the right place) attraction (certainly facially) is a must.
And before anyone clamours for their whistle and yellow card. I have been dropped and phased out upon the release of my fizzog so it cuts both ways. |
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We wouldn’t meet without a photo first.
Hades |
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"No face picture = no meet! "
Its ok to exchange on way to meet but not on first contact and the mind is a lot more interesting to view
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I’m terrible at selfies but still send before things go too far . I’d rather the disappointment was sooner rather than later .
The hills are over there , just head for the screaming |
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By *aizyWoman 17 weeks ago
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"I’m terrible at selfies but still send before things go too far . I’d rather the disappointment was sooner rather than later .
The hills are over there , just head for the screaming "
So much this! Its the reason I don't use filters as well, I'd rather someone reject me from a pic than turning up to meet and seeing the disappointment on their face! |
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"I’m terrible at selfies but still send before things go too far . I’d rather the disappointment was sooner rather than later .
The hills are over there , just head for the screaming
So much this! Its the reason I don't use filters as well, I'd rather someone reject me from a pic than turning up to meet and seeing the disappointment on their face!"
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By *bi HaiveMan 17 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Kind of a no brainer to me.
How are you meant to know who you're meeting otherwise? 🤔🤦♂️
"I'll be sat in the corner, wearing a sombrero and a pink leather jacket, sipping a green cocktail from a jug, reading the socialist worker. The password will be "my it's hot in here for December"...... |
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"I’m terrible at selfies but still send before things go too far . I’d rather the disappointment was sooner rather than later .
The hills are over there , just head for the screaming
So much this! It’s the reason I don't use filters as well, I'd rather someone reject me from a pic than turning up to meet and seeing the disappointment on their face!"
Absolutely, I’d rather not show my disappointed rejected face to someone face to face ! |
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By *eyeYCouple 17 weeks ago
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"Kind of a no brainer to me.
How are you meant to know who you're meeting otherwise? 🤔🤦♂️
"I'll be sat in the corner, wearing a sombrero and a pink leather jacket, sipping a green cocktail from a jug, reading the socialist worker. The password will be "my it's hot in here for December"......"
It is a no brainier in that sense 😂
Nice outfit though to be fair ! |
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"I’m terrible at selfies but still send before things go too far . I’d rather the disappointment was sooner rather than later .
The hills are over there , just head for the screaming
So much this! Its the reason I don't use filters as well, I'd rather someone reject me from a pic than turning up to meet and seeing the disappointment on their face!"
I've seen that face. I'm still at sea level D! |
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Absolutely.
Apart from the attraction, which is a very subjective thing, I chatted to a guy once who upon a face picture exchange turned out to be my next door neighbour 
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"I’m terrible at selfies but still send before things go too far . I’d rather the disappointment was sooner rather than later .
The hills are over there , just head for the screaming "
I’d risk it anyway |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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Yes most definitely. There needs to be physical attraction |
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By *eyeYCouple 17 weeks ago
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"I've done socials with no face pix. People take such terrible photos I'd rather meet them in person
A fair comment and they could be from a decade ago or have a fantastic filter 🙄 However we prefer an inkling of whether we'd possibly find them attractive ☺️
The mind is of far more interest to me "
A lovely sentiment and happy it works for you. For us we'll stick with having a fair idea of whether we fancy them and that we're not arranging a meeting with a member of our family, a work colleague or customer and potentially any of our ex's 😉😁 |
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By *eyeYCouple 17 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Absolutely.
Apart from the attraction, which is a very subjective thing, I chatted to a guy once who upon a face picture exchange turned out to be my next door neighbour
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That!! 😳🤣 |
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"I’m terrible at selfies but still send before things go too far . I’d rather the disappointment was sooner rather than later .
The hills are over there , just head for the screaming
I’d risk it anyway "
Aw shucks thanks
I definitely don’t live next door |
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Absolutely. I have mine on my profile for all to see, but I'm always happy to send more if requested. |
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By *eyeYCouple 17 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Absolutely. I have mine on my profile for all to see, but I'm always happy to send more if requested."
Friends only here D's daughter is in her twenties and would hate her to get any grief over her Dad's choices.. That and my work would look at it in a dim light if someone was to be spiteful 🙄 |
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"I’m terrible at selfies but still send before things go too far . I’d rather the disappointment was sooner rather than later .
The hills are over there , just head for the screaming
I’d risk it anyway
Aw shucks thanks
I definitely don’t live next door "
Hence the reason |
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By *aizyWoman 17 weeks ago
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"I’m terrible at selfies but still send before things go too far . I’d rather the disappointment was sooner rather than later .
The hills are over there , just head for the screaming
So much this! Its the reason I don't use filters as well, I'd rather someone reject me from a pic than turning up to meet and seeing the disappointment on their face!
I've seen that face. I'm still at sea level D! "
Well, as long as you weren't sea sick thats all that matters! |
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Would anyone really meet without a face photo? Surely not. |
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By *aizyWoman 17 weeks ago
west midlands |
"I’m terrible at selfies but still send before things go too far . I’d rather the disappointment was sooner rather than later .
The hills are over there , just head for the screaming
So much this! It’s the reason I don't use filters as well, I'd rather someone reject me from a pic than turning up to meet and seeing the disappointment on their face!
Absolutely, I’d rather not show my disappointed rejected face to someone face to face ! "
What's yours like? Mine's like this 😬 |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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For me yes as you might not like me! |
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"I’m terrible at selfies but still send before things go too far . I’d rather the disappointment was sooner rather than later .
The hills are over there , just head for the screaming
So much this! It’s the reason I don't use filters as well, I'd rather someone reject me from a pic than turning up to meet and seeing the disappointment on their face!
Absolutely, I’d rather not show my disappointed rejected face to someone face to face !
What's yours like? Mine's like this 😬"
Mines like this 🫣😂 |
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Yes. If we aren’t attracted we won’t play.
Plus how are we going to recognise someone of we’ve not seen a face pic.
Kink (Mrs) |
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By *lfa RomeoMan 17 weeks ago
southeast , Herts, Beds |
I won't meet if I haven't seen at least one face picture. And if possible, a telephone conversation too. |
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By *ony MannMan 17 weeks ago
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I can understand those who don't put face picks up, and worry about when to share but there does come a time when the bullet must be bitten. |
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Yes, I like to know if there's a attraction or not before agreeing to meet. People can already see my face so a face pic with opening message would be appreciated 😁 |
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By *eah BabyCouple 17 weeks ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
Face pics before meeting for us |
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Always have to exchange face pics before a meet, even if just a social one.
We like to exchange fave pics early on in messaging so we can see we all have a 4 way attraction
S xxx |
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"Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Yes we think it's important to exchange face pics beforehand. And way earlier in the process, too. Of course it's your right to ask for them in advance. And to have the option of saying yes no or no.
And if anything, it helps you recognise the couple if you're meeting in a club or public place. Rather than, you know, walking from table to table hoping to see an upside down pineapple charm bracelet...
Sarah & James xx "
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By *eyeYCouple 17 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Always have to exchange face pics before a meet, even if just a social one.
We like to exchange fave pics early on in messaging so we can see we all have a 4 way attraction
S xxx"
As they said.. 😁 |
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"The thing is with face pictures they can be very deceiving, we have met people who their face pics don't do them justice and we have met other people who we have walked straight past as their photos were so heavily filtered.
We don't bother asking for face pics now as we find it pointless it's only a social after all. "
^^^ this.
I don't ask for face pics. I'd rather not share mine on here either.
If we've been chatting and getting along, I figure at the very least we will have a nice coffee and chat in person even if it turns out there is no attraction there. |
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Absolutely, attraction for everyone is massively important |
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"Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Sarah & James xx "
Definitely need an early face pic to male sure there's a mutual attraction. xx |
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Absolutely. If no one is prepared to share face pics in the prelude to a meet then i would suspect that the meet is unlikely to happen as well. |
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It is for us if one is to happen, this is a swingers site or at least that's what the name implies, if we're going to meet for sex we would still like to be attracted them.
Our free time is limited so don't really have time for socials, so we usually meet socially, with the intention of taking things somewhere more private if everyone is still happy to. |
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By *essTTWoman 17 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Sarah & James xx "
Absolute must for me
Confused seeing you posting this topic as previously when I commented on needing attraction to meet you called me fat and told me to get off my high horse.
Or has your paper bag ripped so now you're not able to cover people's faces and have sex with them way anymore? |
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Yes. Why would you meet without seeing a face???????????? |
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By *w214Couple 17 weeks ago
Wirral |
This is why we only ever meet at parties and clubs. We don't like sharing face pics. We're a handsome couple so we're not to worried but regardless of weather we find someone attractive, if there's no spark we're not playing. Clubs and parties ensure everyone still has options.  |
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I always send a face pic if I message anyone, saves wasting time if there's no attraction
Dave |
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Unless we see your faces, we ain't meeting 🤷♂️ |
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Is this not just a normal thing... surely sex is about attraction and desire? For me I must physically be attracted to the other person. |
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Er...absolutely! You see what people look like in every other interaction of life |
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"Is it necessary to exchange face pictures before a meet ?
For us, we think yes. We like to know if there is a mutual attraction before we arrange a social/meet.
We're intrested in others opinions.
Sarah & James xx
Absolute must for me
Confused seeing you posting this topic as previously when I commented on needing attraction to meet you called me fat and told me to get off my high horse.
Or has your paper bag ripped so now you're not able to cover people's faces and have sex with them way anymore? "
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By (user no longer on site) 16 weeks ago
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Surely there's no need, you just turn up at the agreed venue and tap each single woman on the shoulder to see if they are your date - what could possibly go wrong? |
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Yes, taking a selfie with your phone is almost as natural as breathing these days, so no excuses for anyone to not have a face pic available.
I need to feel confident the person I’m meeting is real, genuine about meeting, and there’s attraction for both sides |
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