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I've been here for 15 years and engaged with thousands of people, I'd guess. There's a much higher prevalence of stupidity and lack of respect, than people who have stood me up and been timewasters.
I take things seriously and drop engagement with people who don't get the basics right |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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"I’ve been on and off here for almost 10 years and I’ve encountered some people who just want to waste your time, including one recently, but they’re fairly easy to spot with practise "
Are they the ones covered in glitter?  |
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Being in the forum can be a terrible time wasting experience but good fun too !
It’s addictive-
But yes one such very recent experience was an utter time waster oddly enough ..
I really like the idea scarlet of putting glitter in the bed sheets - excellent ! |
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"I’ve been on and off here for almost 10 years and I’ve encountered some people who just want to waste your time, including one recently, but they’re fairly easy to spot with practise
Are they the ones covered in glitter? "
They are the ones not covered in glitter  |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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"I’ve been on and off here for almost 10 years and I’ve encountered some people who just want to waste your time, including one recently, but they’re fairly easy to spot with practise
Are they the ones covered in glitter?
They are the ones not covered in glitter "
Runs to the cupboard to find the supply of glitter  |
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"I’ve been on and off here for almost 10 years and I’ve encountered some people who just want to waste your time, including one recently, but they’re fairly easy to spot with practise "
That’s very true |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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I would say I’ve been contacted by many that I could class as timewaters.
I wonder though if it’s not that simple for lots. It’s an essentially free site, and without payment it attracts those who perhaps aren’t as committed or those who haven’t thought through the logistics or results from arranging a meet. Reality dawns as the nerves rise and hey bingo, at the last minute they pull out and don’t have the guts to say so. |
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Yes. Plenty of Instant gratification hunters on here, which is why I always arrange a social for somewhere I am already going to. Then it really doesn't matter, when he doesn't turn up and a lovely surprise when he does  |
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We got a very abusive message accusing us of being time wasters, purely based on the fact that our location changed and we had an extra evening available for play time.....we were on holiday!
At first we were quite offended, then laughed it off haha x |
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I'm not active at the min, I do have people constantly wasting their own time though.
Not reading the first line of my profile and still asking when I am free or if I fancy fun etc.
When I was meeting, I was only messed about once really. He stood me up for a social.
When he rejoined as asked to meet again, I declined.
There are some people who get off on wasting others time unfortunately.
I chat to people for a good while now and that probably cuts down on those looking to get their kicks.
I'd also only meet socially first, somewhere I can have a coffee on my own, if they were to not turn up. |
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"I wouldn't say timewasters, the worst that's happened is I've had people chat intensively and then disappear  "
Yes, this is horrible. Regardless of the reason, I wish people would be better at communicating. It's quite anxiety inducing. |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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"I wouldn't say timewasters, the worst that's happened is I've had people chat intensively and then disappear
Yes, this is horrible. Regardless of the reason, I wish people would be better at communicating. It's quite anxiety inducing. "
I have wondered if some died as they never logged on again  |
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I've had people tell me in opening messages that they know my bio is just a facade and a load of bs because men don't have choices on here and should be grateful for any attention.
Those are the only timewasters I've encountered along with those who think approaching me with a list of instructions I must follow to have any hope of getting on their to-do list is ever going to work.
Basically other people wasting their own time rather than mine.
I've never had a no show at any social meet I've arranged and I don't have a problem with a conversation that fizzles out. I've never seen that as wasted time. |
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Yep!!!
Had a guy on Monday ask to meet up! We arranged it and apparently he’s “still on the bus”
Few weeks ago I got that sick of time wasters on here I lined up 2 lads! Both never showed up!
Last week a guy deleted his profile just as he was leaving the house
Maybe it’s me hahaha!!! |
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"I wouldn't say timewasters, the worst that's happened is I've had people chat intensively and then disappear
Yes, this is horrible. Regardless of the reason, I wish people would be better at communicating. It's quite anxiety inducing.
I have wondered if some died as they never logged on again "
There's a thought...or maybe they were not really available.. I suppose the possibility of reasons is quite long.. |
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"I've had people tell me in opening messages that they know my bio is just a facade and a load of bs because men don't have choices on here and should be grateful for any attention.
Those are the only timewasters I've encountered along with those who think approaching me with a list of instructions I must follow to have any hope of getting on their to-do list is ever going to work.
Basically other people wasting their own time rather than mine.
I've never had a no show at any social meet I've arranged and I don't have a problem with a conversation that fizzles out. I've never seen that as wasted time."
WOW - to your first paragraph! People can be so rude!!!! |
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It's genrally why me and My Girl stick to club scene. We have little experience of arranging meets with strangers on line by design. Because seeing lots of threads like this, understanding what people are like and just looking at things pragmatically just sort of tells me this approach is prone to frustration, disappointment, wasted time and expense.
We can just go to clubs, party's and social events when we choose. No trying to align dates which can be difficult for us. And we have subsequently arranged private things with people we've met at clubs or on nights out (even vanilla night out). Seems a far higher reliability and chemistry to be found when your first contact with people is face to face. |
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"I've had people tell me in opening messages that they know my bio is just a facade and a load of bs because men don't have choices on here and should be grateful for any attention.
Those are the only timewasters I've encountered along with those who think approaching me with a list of instructions I must follow to have any hope of getting on their to-do list is ever going to work.
Basically other people wasting their own time rather than mine.
I've never had a no show at any social meet I've arranged and I don't have a problem with a conversation that fizzles out. I've never seen that as wasted time.
WOW - to your first paragraph! People can be so rude!!!! "
The funny part is that these aren't newbies. They are well established fabbers with 60-100 verifications and they aren't just one offs.
I've had this attitude from multiple profiles, mostly couples but a few single women as well.
I could sort of understand if I had messaged them but every one of these were people I had never spoken to before and they contacted me, not the other way around
Their reaction when I turn down their kind offer is to tell me I'm an idiot, it's my loss and yes even the old "Do you not know who we are?".
I've even been told they could end my fab journey with a few well placed messages. Years later and I'm still waiting.
When I ask if that approach ever works they always say "yes, every time!"
It obviously must do as they have so many verifications.
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By *bi HaiveMan 17 weeks ago
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Nope.
But then I generally take a while to establish interest before making plans.
Or I just arrange a coffee somewhere I'll be anyway, so no time wasted and no additional travel.
Or I meet friends of friends who I know won't mess me around. Networking is good.
Plus clubs and organised socials and events.
If your main approach is rapidly planned encounters with virtual strangers in hotels and at people's house then I suspect you're far more likely to have your time wasted and get stood up. |
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They should put a little mark on people's profile if they've done a disappearing act , I talked for teo weeks with someone arranged a meet they blew me out and told me they had no intention of meeting because they were shy ???? Wtaf |
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By *oxy jWoman 17 weeks ago
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nope easy to spot and avoid really cant remember the last let down i had ...
what i will say if your always attracting them then you need to re look at your approach and why they seek you out to waste your time |
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"nope easy to spot and avoid really cant remember the last let down i had ...
what i will say if your always attracting them then you need to re look at your approach and why they seek you out to waste your time"
Absolutely agree with this. When you have your 'time wasted' multiple times you really need to look at what you're doing to attract the so called time wasters and change it. But people really like to blame others for their misfortune, don't they? |
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"I've had people tell me in opening messages that they know my bio is just a facade and a load of bs because men don't have choices on here and should be grateful for any attention.
Those are the only timewasters I've encountered along with those who think approaching me with a list of instructions I must follow to have any hope of getting on their to-do list is ever going to work.
Basically other people wasting their own time rather than mine.
I've never had a no show at any social meet I've arranged and I don't have a problem with a conversation that fizzles out. I've never seen that as wasted time.
WOW - to your first paragraph! People can be so rude!!!!
The funny part is that these aren't newbies. They are well established fabbers with 60-100 verifications and they aren't just one offs.
I've had this attitude from multiple profiles, mostly couples but a few single women as well.
I could sort of understand if I had messaged them but every one of these were people I had never spoken to before and they contacted me, not the other way around
Their reaction when I turn down their kind offer is to tell me I'm an idiot, it's my loss and yes even the old "Do you not know who we are?".
I've even been told they could end my fab journey with a few well placed messages. Years later and I'm still waiting.
When I ask if that approach ever works they always say "yes, every time!"
It obviously must do as they have so many verifications.
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I lol at "do you not know who we are?" That's hilarious!!
How dare you make a choice that benefits you?!!
Thank you for the laugh but sorry about the rudeness!! |
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The closest I've come to finding at time waster was at a scheduled meet recently.
I arrived on time and knocked on the door to the address provided only to find that they did not live there,☹️
So I grabbed a pew at a local bar and began pondering what I had done wrong?
30min later, I received a message asking where I was? It appears I took the address down wrong, 
10min later I was at the correct address having a great meet,😁
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I first joined (under another name) in 2008. Back then I could get a meet with very little notice or issue. Now I'm 50 and Limited as to when I can meet. Last night- fantastically horny, ready for the meet. The only one I'd tried to organise in over a year - no show. Fairly fxxxxx with it all tbh |
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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"I wouldn't say timewasters, the worst that's happened is I've had people chat intensively and then disappear
Yes, this is horrible. Regardless of the reason, I wish people would be better at communicating. It's quite anxiety inducing.
I have wondered if some died as they never logged on again "
I've left specific instructions in my will that someone needs to log on here and alert you that I have ceased to be! |
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