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When looking for potential matches, how do you feel about single profiles having photos in their gallery of them having sex?
Assuming the photos are consensual, does it bother you on a site like Fab? |
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"When looking for potential matches, how do you feel about single profiles having photos in their gallery of them having sex?
Assuming the photos are consensual, does it bother you on a site like Fab?"
Isn't that what's expected for a site like this?
Is a bit weird to think that you're the only one they're having sex with. Just seems like insecurity to me |
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I'm not a fan for several reasons. Mainly because there's no way to know if the other person is aware. Often the photo shows more of the other person than the profile owner. And also because in some ways I'm quite prudish for a person 'on a site like this' 
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"If the other person is tagged and they have a veri from them on show. Not ideal, but okay.
Otherwise, no.
Can you tag others in photos? I didn't even know you could do that"
You can pop their username on as text in an edit. Preferably while also obscuring their face and any real identifying features like tattoos and scars. |
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"If the other person is tagged and they have a veri from them on show. Not ideal, but okay.
Otherwise, no.
Can you tag others in photos? I didn't even know you could do that
You can pop their username on as text in an edit. Preferably while also obscuring their face and any real identifying features like tattoos and scars."
I understand what you mean now. Some people may be happy to be in the photos, but don't want to be identified though.
Your preference though, so I'm not saying you're wrong. |
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By *hilloutMan 11 weeks ago
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"When looking for potential matches, how do you feel about single profiles having photos in their gallery of them having sex?
Assuming the photos are consensual, does it bother you on a site like Fab?"
It does always raise the issue of consent.
Not terribly bothered by it. I find profiles that forego this more appealing in general. |
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I don't mind if there is 1, especially if you cant really make out who the other person is (eg distinctive marks/tattoos) and then lots of just them on there own.
If just action pics then it's a no.
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By *lueLotusWoman 11 weeks ago
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I also wonder about consent. Also, I personally don't like being photographed during sex and would rather not meet someone than have to have an awkward convo about it so it'd be a no for me on that basis alone. |
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"A few of you have mentioned consent. Out of interest, when you see a third/fourth party in a couples profile, do you assume those pictures are consensual?"
That's a good point. And being totally honest I am more likely to. I realise that's a double standard so I'm going to be cynical about everyone going forward!
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By *edeWoman 11 weeks ago
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I assume any photo with someone in that is not on the profile has the high potential to be non-consensual. If I'm on a profile, I'm on it to see them not anyone else they may have been with |
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"A few of you have mentioned consent. Out of interest, when you see a third/fourth party in a couples profile, do you assume those pictures are consensual?
That's a good point. And being totally honest I am more likely to. I realise that's a double standard so I'm going to be cynical about everyone going forward!
J"
I very much doubt you're alone in this. Don't you just love double standards |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"I’m not a fan. I know how sex works, and I don’t need to see proof that they know where to put their penis.
What if it's a really hot photo?"
Then share it between you and the person you had sex with |
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"I’m not a fan. I know how sex works, and I don’t need to see proof that they know where to put their penis.
What if it's a really hot photo?
Then share it between you and the person you had sex with"
Same rule applies for couples profiles? |
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It doesn't bother me unduly, I just like to see a history of that person actually turning up for meets.
Pics can show the person is genuine, although the date shown on the pic is the date of the upload to the site here, it's not necessarily the date the pic was taken....  |
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"A few of you have mentioned consent. Out of interest, when you see a third/fourth party in a couples profile, do you assume those pictures are consensual?"
A number of couples profiles, although not all, will probably have a veri that you could link it to.
But we aren’t fans of action shots full stop. We don’t take pics during play at all and wouldn’t want to have pics taken of us.
Any pics where we’ve taken with another lady (staged, not action) will have both of our profile names on.
I guess it’s another filter
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I don't need to see someone hanging out of someone else to understand they are capable of sexy times.
Those pics aren't erotic to me and I wouldn't want my heat of the moment times online for all to see either.
Even if someone was OK with them having/displaying their intimate moments, how long does that consent last? - I've seen pics on here that are 7 yrs old and I'm not convinced those women know they're still being used as bait to attract people on a site like this.
It does help to identify (and eliminate) BB players sometimes, which is the only advantage.
I'd much prefer a half dressed, teasing, solo shot.
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"I’m not a fan. I know how sex works, and I don’t need to see proof that they know where to put their penis.
What if it's a really hot photo?
What's your idea of a hot photo?"
Infront of the log burner |
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"I don't need to see someone hanging out of someone else to understand they are capable of sexy times.
Those pics aren't erotic to me and I wouldn't want my heat of the moment times online for all to see either.
Even if someone was OK with them having/displaying their intimate moments, how long does that consent last? - I've seen pics on here that are 7 yrs old and I'm not convinced those women know they're still being used as bait to attract people on a site like this.
It does help to identify (and eliminate) BB players sometimes, which is the only advantage.
I'd much prefer a half dressed, teasing, solo shot.
C"
Cara, have you seen your pictures? |
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I’m not a fan of action shots on any profile - male, female, couple, TV/TS. Obviously each to their own.
But I worry about consent. Privacy. Ultimately discretion….
Also I just don’t want to see it. I’m a semi prude I guess.
But I know what happens in restaurants… but I don’t want to sit down to someone else’s half eaten dinner either.
I like a fresh page. Imagination. |
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It leaves me cold really. But I know that men are mostly more visually stimulated by that sort of thing, so whereas most women would think “whose ass is that he’s pumping?!” most men think “fwoarrr look at me, pumping this fine ass”.
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"It leaves me cold really. But I know that men are mostly more visually stimulated by that sort of thing, so whereas most women would think “whose ass is that he’s pumping?!” most men think “fwoarrr look at me, pumping this fine ass”.
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That's the general consensus I'm getting. Very interesting. |
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I avoid those profiles in their entirety. It's not for me.
To use a weak analogy — I've booked the finest room in the finest hotel and it looks pristine, but I don't need to see any evidence of who's slept, sullied and despoiled it before me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"When looking for potential matches, how do you feel about single profiles having photos in their gallery of them having sex?
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There’s no better way to stop me messaging them than that.
(I’m answering about single profiles)
I posted a photo that had another woman in it once, I was told my inbox would die and I’d lose friends, and I did. But I posted the photo for the art and nothing else. (I still think it was one of the best I’d took) but it’s a fact, some will be put off talking to you.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?
Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. As much as the owners of these photos claim that the females in them know I'm pretty sure they don't as most are grim and do not flatter the female involved. |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?
Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. ….."
Welcome to fab  |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?
Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. …..
Welcome to fab "
Everyone on fab is emotionally damaged. Right!?!?
(Except the smug couples)
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I really don't like it, especially when it shows much more of the person they are fucking than them.
I too often wonder if they have permission from said person to publish.
But equally, Thier profile, Thier business.
My ex FWB has loads of such pics on his single profile, and we actually clashed over that when we first chatted online. It was only when I got to know him in person outside of fab that we clicked. Turns out that the group all consentually displayed pics of each other at various private events. He loves being filmed and photographed. I hate it.
Probably one of the reasons we parted company.
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?
Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. …..
Welcome to fab
Everyone on fab is emotionally damaged. Right!?!?
(Except the smug couples)
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That goes without saying despite me saying it.
Could do without the "here's one I shagged earlier" rogues gallery. |
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I don't like it. Especially as you have no way of knowing if the woman has consented. Years ago I had a meet take photo and put on his profile (from behind) and wouldn't take it down and fab took AGES to respond to my reports.
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By *aseylee324Couple 11 weeks ago
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"It leaves me cold really. But I know that men are mostly more visually stimulated by that sort of thing, so whereas most women would think “whose ass is that he’s pumping?!” most men think “fwoarrr look at me, pumping this fine ass”.
That's the general consensus I'm getting. Very interesting."
Possibly because an awful lot of women have been subjected to something they had not consented to? |
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"I’m not a fan. I know how sex works, and I don’t need to see proof that they know where to put their penis.
What if it's a really hot photo?"
It might be “really hot” to them but it won’t be that for me.
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?
Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. …..
Welcome to fab
Everyone on fab is emotionally damaged. Right!?!?
(Except the smug couples)
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There is nobody’s profile where I’ve got to know them personally that hasn’t shown me some kind of history where they have had to struggle with something.
Yet. |
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"I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?
Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. …..
Welcome to fab
Everyone on fab is emotionally damaged. Right!?!?
(Except the smug couples)
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Which couples are smug? The ones on their second, or third relationships, or the ‘got it right first time, and still together after all these years’ ones?  |
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A couple, fine. But one of my pet hates is when the photos are predominantly someone else. I want to get an idea of what a potential meet looks like. Knowing they have at least 2” of cock or part of a hand which I can see hanging out of someone isn’t helpful.
Also, I do wonder to what extent the sharing is consensual. |
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"I avoid those profiles in their entirety. It's not for me.
To use a weak analogy — I've booked the finest room in the finest hotel and it looks pristine, but I don't need to see any evidence of who's slept, sullied and despoiled it before me."
Sullied and despoiled? Interesting choice of words. |
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