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I chat with some every day but off site. Some I speak to on a weekly basis on here.
Some i haven’t spoken to for weeks or months.
I like talking to people but it seems they get bored after a while. |
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By *hilloutMan 28 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"With your friends on here.
Chat every day?
First name terms?
Exchanged numbers?
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It ebbs and flows. Sometimes I may chat frequently, other times less. Always friendly, pleasant and willing to listen when I do.
Some I have numbers, many I know their names.
How about you Op? |
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By *_Mr.K_xMan 28 weeks ago
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"With your friends on here.
Chat every day?
First name terms?
Exchanged numbers?
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x1 I'm good friends with, exchanged name, numbers, locations for meets
x1 exchanged the same but barely speak anymore
The rest is through contact on here |
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Nah.
Even my closest IRL friend, that I can easily spend 4 hours to on a phone call and have had periods of being basically inseparable still has to put up with me disappearing for days or weeks on end unless he tells me he needs me, because I'm a lousy friend and sometimes interacting with other humans is too much. |
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"Each friendship is unique and requires different levels of input."
^ What Nell said.
I’m pretty easygoing and low maintenance, as a friend. I’m here whenever someone feels like dropping me a line. |
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By *eliWoman 28 weeks ago
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It varies a lot. The level of friendship, if we're naturally quite talkative etc...
One of my closest friends from here? We talk every few weeks. Sometimes it goes a month without us messaging but when we do talk? It's easy. Like time hasn't really passed. I should probably message him soon, he'll be wondering what my next bad decision is. :D |
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We aren’t on FAB for friends per se.
We go to socials and make acquaintances but we don’t really chat in a daily friendly way, more arranging plans for another social and seeing if they are going.
We are friends with people we’ve met to play with - we keep in touch with them and see how life is - sometimes that’s often, weekly, monthly or if meeting soon, it’s more.
I chat and joke around with two guys on here - the rest of the time, it’s looking for play friends or a few interactions now and again from the forums.
We are in WhatsApp groups from other sites and arrange socials or if someone is arranging a party but in terms of in each others pockets friends then no, other than our play friends.
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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I don’t have a regular forum person that I would seek out and chat to. I have a couple of people that I met on fab and now on my contact list off it. Does that count? |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"How friendly are you?
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It depends. Some I chat to on here endlessly. Others I chat to on Wats App. Some I meet for a drink, a pastry, a waffle, a picnic, a walk or a meal. And yet others may get an irregular message (Christmas, Birthday) just to check they are alive. |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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I'm not an avid friend collector and only have friends that are actual friends. The ones I consider friends on here I keep in touch with and go to clubs with. One is actually my real life best friend but don't tell her that. |
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By *andT2023Couple 28 weeks ago
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I am really friendly ...until i am not lol ( but someone has to do something to get that response...telling porkies is a prime example!)
I have made several really good friends on here .. chat when i can .for those special ones numbers exchanged ..its easier . |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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I guess it depeneds on your definition of a friend. There are some people on here who I chat to almost every day on here but haven't exchanged numbers with and even if we haven't spoken in a while, we're always up for opening that avenue to message again.
There is someone who I do message every day who I've met and shared numbers with and we've shared quite a lot to the point where they mean a lot to my everyday life  |
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Yeah, I am friendly with my friends, some I'm very close to and chat everyday.. some I chat every now and then and catch up.. thats probably stem from the fact I never had proper friends growing up as moved around a lot so not had a chance to form proper friendships with..
I talk more to my friends than I do actual family lol |
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"I mean those in your friends list, not actual friends. I was not clear. "
I’m pretty easygoing and low maintenance, as a Fab friend. I’m here whenever someone feels like dropping me a line.
^ There you go. If I add the word ‘Fab’, my post still works. |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"I mean those in your friends list, not actual friends. I was not clear.
I’m pretty easygoing and low maintenance, as a Fab friend. I’m here whenever someone feels like dropping me a line.
^ There you go. If I add the word ‘Fab’, my post still works."
This for me too  |
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"Not very. The few close friends I’ve had for years on here have my number anyway. I forget to even look at messages on here half the time  "
Same here too, but to be fair, not that I got many messages on here to begin with, but that's not the point of course |
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Okay, a more serious answer.
It depends. I don’t think exchanging real names or phone numbers are measures of friendship. And I don’t think frequency of chats is either.
I have Fab friends I call by their name. I have others whom that would feel weird with. One thing’s for sure though - if I feel there’s a pressure to chat every day, or all day long, I’m likely to back off a bit. I like talking when there’s something to talk about, but I also like being comfortable enough to pause. |
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"Okay, a more serious answer.
It depends. I don’t think exchanging real names or phone numbers are measures of friendship. And I don’t think frequency of chats is either.
I have Fab friends I call by their name. I have others whom that would feel weird with. One thing’s for sure though - if I feel there’s a pressure to chat every day, or all day long, I’m likely to back off a bit. I like talking when there’s something to talk about, but I also like being comfortable enough to pause."
Everyone who knows my name still call me Nora  |
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A mix
A small handful have my number/telegram etc who I speak with most days
Others I check in with weekly/ fortnightly
Then are those who I don't necessarily speak to regularly but I probably perv on often |
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By *a LunaWoman 28 weeks ago
South Wales |
Sporadic. But I prefer it that way to be honest. You have to be cool with there being less communication to be friends with me. I can’t be dealing with daily chit chat. Sometimes weeks, months go by.
I guess that makes me a shit friend really, but hey ho. |
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By *oxy jWoman 28 weeks ago
somerset |
i dont view people on here as friends guess im old fashion in that sense im on fab to find sexual friends but they are not friends until we've met a few times at least i dont get this online friends rubbish nor do i need it i have pleanty of vanilla friends and from all ours years on this scene plenty of swinging friends whom we know face to faqce all over the uk / holland / germany .. fab is not face book where you actually know people ... fab is just a community of people looking to swing (well some anyway) |
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By *hilloutMan 28 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Okay, a more serious answer.
It depends. I don’t think exchanging real names or phone numbers are measures of friendship. And I don’t think frequency of chats is either.
I have Fab friends I call by their name. I have others whom that would feel weird with. One thing’s for sure though - if I feel there’s a pressure to chat every day, or all day long, I’m likely to back off a bit. I like talking when there’s something to talk about, but I also like being comfortable enough to pause.
Everyone who knows my name still call me Nora "
Not I  |
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"Okay, a more serious answer.
It depends. I don’t think exchanging real names or phone numbers are measures of friendship. And I don’t think frequency of chats is either.
I have Fab friends I call by their name. I have others whom that would feel weird with. One thing’s for sure though - if I feel there’s a pressure to chat every day, or all day long, I’m likely to back off a bit. I like talking when there’s something to talk about, but I also like being comfortable enough to pause.
Everyone who knows my name still call me Nora
Not I "
True. You don’t! After all these years you’re still in my phone as Chill |
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Currently not so much, I just can’t be arsed with small talk.
When I see them we’re absolutely ace.
But messaging for message sake bores the fuck outta me.
We speak to a few of our long term fab friends on other platforms regularly though.
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By *hilloutMan 28 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Okay, a more serious answer.
It depends. I don’t think exchanging real names or phone numbers are measures of friendship. And I don’t think frequency of chats is either.
I have Fab friends I call by their name. I have others whom that would feel weird with. One thing’s for sure though - if I feel there’s a pressure to chat every day, or all day long, I’m likely to back off a bit. I like talking when there’s something to talk about, but I also like being comfortable enough to pause.
Everyone who knows my name still call me Nora
Not I
True. You don’t! After all these years you’re still in my phone as Chill "
Happy to still be called Superman instead of Clark Kent |
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Friends list on fab - we have a lot of them on other platforms. I rarely use fab itself to message as it's clunky and I hate leaving notifications unread. I'm a fairly low maintenance friend here though. Happy to go a while without speaking but if I've not seen them around I'll check in.
There's a handful who have my actual number. Poor things.
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 28 weeks ago
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I chat on here with those I'm friendly with. I don't hand out alternative methods of contacting me (it's actuallynon my profile), so it's here or nothing. I don't meet in person.
There's one person off here that has me on WhatsApp as an emergency contact in case I need backup for a meet (a lovely offer for which I'm very grateful). That's it. |
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I have a very short list of fab friends, most of whom I've never met.
Some I haven't chatted to for months, some only the odd time and my best friend every single day. She is the only one who knows my full name and has my number. |
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The friends I had here have all moved on
I don't make friends easily IRL let alone on here
That doesn't mean I am unfriendly or awkward
I do, however, find socialising exhausting moreso in a group situation
The idea of a swingers social is terrifying to me
I don't like pubs, I don't like crowded spaces, I can't be doing with tipsy people, sensory issues with noise...
So, yeah, I'm a fkin delight |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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Very friendly
Chat to them every day usually on or off here.
I believe they all know my real name, some may have my phone number, some probably don't.
Some I see at the big socials and others more regularly elsewhere.
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I'm terrible! I'm barely on here anymore and don't really keep in touch with the people I like a lot and have built relationships with. I have a couple of numbers off here but even then, I suck and convo isn't that often but it's nice to know they are around whenever we fancy a chat.  |
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When I become friends with people from here, it usually moves off here, if that makes sense.
There's very few people I chat with everyday. A nesting partner, kids, alter-egos.
Definitely first name terms.
Certainly exchanged numbers, and probably have met or have a mutual desire to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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Some I chat to daily.
Others sporadically.
Some share in fee conversations and happenings in my life.
Others it’s more or less shooting the shit.
I have a pet hate of adding a contact to my mobile without knowing the person’s full name and I hate to make up some random surname. If we’ve exchanged numbers, I know your name and you know mine. |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"With your friends on here.
Chat every day?
First name terms?
Exchanged numbers?
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The few I've spoken to haven't come across as wanting friendship. Exchanged numbers with 2. Conversations sap you dry as you come to realise you're the only one pushing the conversation uphill and the responses are banal.
Most likely just me being crap |
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"Some I chat to daily.
Others sporadically.
Some share in fee conversations and happenings in my life.
Others it’s more or less shooting the shit.
I have a pet hate of adding a contact to my mobile without knowing the person’s full name and I hate to make up some random surname. If we’ve exchanged numbers, I know your name and you know mine. "
Bella honestly, I'd rather exchange bodily fluids with you than phone numbers. 
But how to exchange such fluids without getting her number? This is known as the chicken and egg situation.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"Some I chat to daily.
Others sporadically.
Some share in fee conversations and happenings in my life.
Others it’s more or less shooting the shit.
I have a pet hate of adding a contact to my mobile without knowing the person’s full name and I hate to make up some random surname. If we’ve exchanged numbers, I know your name and you know mine.
Bella honestly, I'd rather exchange bodily fluids with you than phone numbers.
But how to exchange such fluids without getting her number? This is known as the chicken and egg situation. "
I can see Bella rolling her eyes at this one i think your chickens have gone extinct |
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Oh... There's only 2 on my friends list, one has gone AWOL, I'm guessing he might be under water, we only talk on snap. The other we used to chat pretty much daily, but I've been off the boil for a bit now. I'm sure if we picked up again it would go back to that like it never stopped, he's got my number.
Another ex fabber, I have their number and just drop in occasionally to catch up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"With your friends on here.
Chat every day?
First name terms?
Exchanged numbers?
My fab friends only message when they get horny  ...but I don't mind "
I can't imagine why... |
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"Off the forums only 2 have my number and we probably msg weekly or daily depends what’s going on."
That's nice we have similar with a couple and a guy we met of here there all lovely peeps and are quite close to them  |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"Some I chat to daily.
Others sporadically.
Some share in fee conversations and happenings in my life.
Others it’s more or less shooting the shit.
I have a pet hate of adding a contact to my mobile without knowing the person’s full name and I hate to make up some random surname. If we’ve exchanged numbers, I know your name and you know mine.
Bella honestly, I'd rather exchange bodily fluids with you than phone numbers.
But how to exchange such fluids without getting her number? This is known as the chicken and egg situation.
I can see Bella rolling her eyes at this one i think your chickens have gone extinct "
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