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So I met someone of here on Wednesday for a coffee, went amazing. We arranged to meet tonight. He booked the table showed me the confirmation and sent me the postcode. I got there 10 mins early as I always like to be punctual. But after sitting in my car for 25 mins I came to realise that I'd been stood up. I called he didn't answer and I went to text and id been blocked. Is this a common thing on here? To actually leave someone stood in a carpark for 25 mins knowing your not coming |
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"No decent human being does that. They can of course change their mind but should just say so, not leave people waiting like that. Despicable behaviour. "
I was glad it was the summer and still light . I had to drive 45 mins as well.we live and learn |
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"I'm sorry someone did that. What an absolute c#nt!
I hope you're OK? Big hugs to you xx"
1st person is met of here in 4 years and it was a reminder why I hadn't . Just knocks your confidence a bit |
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"Sorry yo hear. I think it’s wild for a coffee to have already happened and this to happen. More times than not it’s stood up for the first meeting. "
No 1st meeting was amazing. We spoke all the time..up till his last message at 3.30 saying he was looking forward to meeting me. Then stood up and blocked.x |
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Agree with the others, that's detestable 
You do need caution here, with reliability. I insist on them fulfilling a series of confirmations, before an actual meeting, as it's too easy for people not to take responsibility.
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"Agree with the others, that's detestable
You do need caution here, with reliability. I insist on them fulfilling a series of confirmations, before an actual meeting, as it's too easy for people not to take responsibility.
Report the user to Admin, to potentially prevent them from repeating it easily "
I guess because we already had 1 meet that went well and had spoke all the time up untill we were supposed to meet, I thought ever thing would be ok |
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"How bizarre, I'm so sorry this happened to you xx
Put it behind you and move onwards x
Just need to give my head a wobble. It knocked my confidence a bit "
Sadly it’s soo common xx
Horrible behaviour xx
Hope your ok x |
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"Agree with the others, that's detestable
You do need caution here, with reliability. I insist on them fulfilling a series of confirmations, before an actual meeting, as it's too easy for people not to take responsibility.
Report the user to Admin, to potentially prevent them from repeating it easily
I guess because we already had 1 meet that went well and had spoke all the time up untill we were supposed to meet, I thought ever thing would be ok "
That's the part that perplexes me. This would be one thing for a first-time meet, but he did this having already spent time with you that by all appearances went really well? |
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By *4bimMan 12 weeks ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
had similar happen to me op.
at all looked good and she even text me to say she was on way but she never showed.
was left with hotel room bill.
shes got veris from others but i bet im not the only one shes done it too.
happens to us all. its not your fault. |
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"I'm sorry someone did that. What an absolute c#nt!
I hope you're OK? Big hugs to you xx
1st person is met of here in 4 years and it was a reminder why I hadn't . Just knocks your confidence a bit "
Yes, it does.
But you have to remember that it's on him. Hes a shit for doing this, but I doubt it had anything to do with you xx |
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"So I met someone of here on Wednesday for a coffee, went amazing. We arranged to meet tonight. He booked the table showed me the confirmation and sent me the postcode. I got there 10 mins early as I always like to be punctual. But after sitting in my car for 25 mins I came to realise that I'd been stood up. I called he didn't answer and I went to text and id been blocked. Is this a common thing on here? To actually leave someone stood in a carpark for 25 mins knowing your not coming "
What a twat!  you are worth far more and certainly not worth your headrace
Lots of guys would be lucky to meet you. His loss  |
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"So I met someone of here on Wednesday for a coffee, went amazing. We arranged to meet tonight. He booked the table showed me the confirmation and sent me the postcode. I got there 10 mins early as I always like to be punctual. But after sitting in my car for 25 mins I came to realise that I'd been stood up. I called he didn't answer and I went to text and id been blocked. Is this a common thing on here? To actually leave someone stood in a carpark for 25 mins knowing your not coming
What a twat! you are worth far more and certainly not worth your headrace
Lots of guys would be lucky to meet you. His loss "
Thank you so much xxx |
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 me & the Mrs arranged a meet and on the drive to meet him chatted on WhatsApp, it was all flirting talk, we was on the road about half an hour - he had given us a postcode and we arrived, the fella asked us to send our location via WhatsApp, I think he replied "nice" and yeah that was the last contact we had with him ffs. So yeah these are about. |
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" me & the Mrs arranged a meet and on the drive to meet him chatted on WhatsApp, it was all flirting talk, we was on the road about half an hour - he had given us a postcode and we arrived, the fella asked us to send our location via WhatsApp, I think he replied "nice" and yeah that was the last contact we had with him ffs. So yeah these are about."
Wow . Literally no words |
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"So I met someone of here on Wednesday for a coffee, went amazing. We arranged to meet tonight. He booked the table showed me the confirmation and sent me the postcode. I got there 10 mins early as I always like to be punctual. But after sitting in my car for 25 mins I came to realise that I'd been stood up. I called he didn't answer and I went to text and id been blocked. Is this a common thing on here? To actually leave someone stood in a carpark for 25 mins knowing your not coming "
I can assure you not all men are like that, if I was lucky enough to meet you there’s no way in hell I’d stand you up |
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By *lfa RomeoMan 11 weeks ago
southeast , Herts, Beds |
Unfortunately it seams to be a common thing amongst predominantly men, it just then spoils it for the genuine decent ones on here. As if it wasn't already hard enough for us single guy.
Hope you're OK OP, just don't take it personally, sending you hugs |
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So sorry to hear about your experience.
I know it doesn’t feel like it right now but please be assured it’s got nothing to do with you. Absolutely nothing. Don’t let anyone to knock your confidence out.
Tells you everything you need to know about them.
Unfortunately it’s quite common, happened to me very recently and in very similar circumstances.
I was waiting for him to let me know what time exactly we’re meeting but haven’t heard anything.
Next day there were glowing veris from someone he chose to meet instead.
I’m not sure I will be able ever meet anyone again. It fucking hurts even if everyone is saying “get over it”.
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I've had 3 females stood me up, it hurts especially when they tell you where to meet then dont turn up and it's always somewhere public where people around probably guess what's happening with me looking like a lost sheep.
It dents my confidence. |
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Sorry to hear this and just try to forget about it. Not a nice human- I had it done to me
(Mrs) and I know how it feels. Mr was fuming knowing the time and effort it takes to get free time for fun … their loss xx |
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By *heelerMan 11 weeks ago
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"So I met someone of here on Wednesday for a coffee, went amazing. We arranged to meet tonight. He booked the table showed me the confirmation and sent me the postcode. I got there 10 mins early as I always like to be punctual. But after sitting in my car for 25 mins I came to realise that I'd been stood up. I called he didn't answer and I went to text and id been blocked. Is this a common thing on here? To actually leave someone stood in a carpark for 25 mins knowing your not coming "
Unfortunately the same as happened to me a couple of times it's more annoying when you travel a fairway so now stick to locals. |
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Better to stand in a car park than knocking on a door to find answered by a child with parents standing behind her. Saying that it still not nice and made worse that you actually did meet prior with no problems |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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Is there any point reporting the user to admin? What can they do about it?
I had one this week. Arranged to meet on Thursday, she said could we have sushi, so I got that in (don't really like sushi, prefer Thai). She had the address, agreed the time, but then went silent and never turned up. She's been online since, but no communication, apology, etc.
First time it's happened, but think I dodged a bullet. |
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Very sad to hear this.
I think it has happened to many on this site.
Last week , a planned meet with a couple ...nice comms and photos etc...then an hour before the planned meet time they cancelled, just as I was about to leave the house. |
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Report the user to Admin, to potentially prevent them from repeating it easily
Is there any point reporting the user to admin? What can they do about it?
I had one this week. Arranged to meet on Thursday, she said could we have sushi, so I got that in (don't really like sushi, prefer Thai). She had the address, agreed the time, but then went silent and never turned up. She's been online since, but no communication, apology, etc.
First time it's happened, but think I dodged a bullet."
I don't know if they can but I did anyway. Sorry you've been through this too |
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"That's so rude!! All that effort for nothing. I'd be so annoyed
I brought a new dress as well .. and had my hair done. I was annoyed then it upset me as you start to get inside your own head "
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"Very sad to hear this.
I think it has happened to many on this site.
Last week , a planned meet with a couple ...nice comms and photos etc...then an hour before the planned meet time they cancelled, just as I was about to leave the house."
I think I'd of rathered that , than be sat waiting in a pub carpark. I very nearly went in and gave the booking.Thank god I didn't |
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"So I met someone of here on Wednesday for a coffee, went amazing. We arranged to meet tonight. He booked the table showed me the confirmation and sent me the postcode. I got there 10 mins early as I always like to be punctual. But after sitting in my car for 25 mins I came to realise that I'd been stood up. I called he didn't answer and I went to text and id been blocked. Is this a common thing on here? To actually leave someone stood in a carpark for 25 mins knowing your not coming "
Probably his wife found out….. |
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"Sorry to hear about this OP. This is why I go to clubs if they don't turn up there's usually someone else to talk to!
I've not got the confidence for clubs unfortunately "
Dunno why you're hot. Plus you can get talking to a good crowd in the group chats before so you're not on your own when you get there. |
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"Sorry to hear about this OP. This is why I go to clubs if they don't turn up there's usually someone else to talk to!
I've not got the confidence for clubs unfortunately
Dunno why you're hot. Plus you can get talking to a good crowd in the group chats before so you're not on your own when you get there. "
Unfortunately there's more to confidence than "being hot". |
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"So I met someone of here on Wednesday for a coffee, went amazing. We arranged to meet tonight. He booked the table showed me the confirmation and sent me the postcode. I got there 10 mins early as I always like to be punctual. But after sitting in my car for 25 mins I came to realise that I'd been stood up. I called he didn't answer and I went to text and id been blocked. Is this a common thing on here? To actually leave someone stood in a carpark for 25 mins knowing your not coming
Probably his wife found out….. "
That's exactly my thoughts x |
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"And the best bit is .. he's updated his profile to state that there are some genuine people on here but also some scumbags. I don't know where he gets off ??"
You're probably just better off blocking him and putting this to bed |
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"And the best bit is .. he's updated his profile to state that there are some genuine people on here but also some scumbags. I don't know where he gets off ??
I have done now thank you
You're probably just better off blocking him and putting this to bed"
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