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I sent quite a few to local people who seemed interesting to me initially, but I've made a couple of connections now so I only really send a message at the moment if I come across someone I really think I'd click with. |
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By *Devil77Man 20 weeks ago
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Stopped sending messages ages ago, no point really as 95% don't reply.
Prefer going to a club as apposed to trying to arrange meets on here, to many time wasters lately.
Does anyone still arrange meets on here? |
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"Stopped sending messages ages ago, no point really as 95% don't reply.
Prefer going to a club as apposed to trying to arrange meets on here, to many time wasters lately.
Does anyone still arrange meets on here? "
I just had a wonderful social tonight with someone I messaged last week.  |
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I’m still waiting to receive a message and I’ve been on here 6 years now! Crazy times.
Is my profile that bad?? What am I doing wrong?
I only send a message after reading a profile and if I like what I’m reading/ seeing and I think/ hope I may be of interest, only then will I send a well thought out message.
I’m always respectful of ones decisions, you have to be because that’s their choice. |
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I don't like to send shit ones, and I don't like spending loads of time writing a nice one and it sitting there unread, so not a lot. The majority of my preferences are also not local and I don't want to be that guy who says he will travel all the time |
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"I’m still waiting to receive a message and I’ve been on here 6 years now! Crazy times.
Is my profile that bad?? What am I doing wrong?
I only send a message after reading a profile and if I like what I’m reading/ seeing and I think/ hope I may be of interest, only then will I send a well thought out message.
I’m always respectful of ones decisions, you have to be because that’s their choice. "
Although I admire your honesty and think it's a great thing that you've put that out there and allowed yourself to be vulnerable in your bio, on the basis of what I've seen other members discussing, the mention of self-esteem issues might potentially put some people off. It's also possible they're put off by the focus on nudity in your public photos; maybe add some clothed ones for variety? Other than that, though, I don't know what to suggest. The ratio of single men to women on here is insanely high, and you're generally just adding to pile with hundreds of messages in it. Keep at it, though! If there's someone here for you, you'll find them. |
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"...Does anyone still arrange meets on here? "
Yes, but that's not really the point for me, I don't expect to meet everyone I chat with, quite often it's just an interesting chat with people who have similar interests. A meeting isn't really something that's on my mind for the first few conversations anyway. I actively avoid those people who want to meet 'this evening'! |
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"I’m still waiting to receive a message and I’ve been on here 6 years now! Crazy times.
Is my profile that bad?? What am I doing wrong?
I only send a message after reading a profile and if I like what I’m reading/ seeing and I think/ hope I may be of interest, only then will I send a well thought out message.
I’m always respectful of ones decisions, you have to be because that’s their choice.
Although I admire your honesty and think it's a great thing that you've put that out there and allowed yourself to be vulnerable in your bio, on the basis of what I've seen other members discussing, the mention of self-esteem issues might potentially put some people off. It's also possible they're put off by the focus on nudity in your public photos; maybe add some clothed ones for variety? Other than that, though, I don't know what to suggest. The ratio of single men to women on here is insanely high, and you're generally just adding to pile with hundreds of messages in it. Keep at it, though! If there's someone here for you, you'll find them."
Thank you for your response…… I never thought of it like that, appreciate your words, I just assumed that’s the way to go on here, I will be updating my profile now.
Thanks again |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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"...Does anyone still arrange meets on here?
Yes, but that's not really the point for me, I don't expect to meet everyone I chat with, quite often it's just an interesting chat with people who have similar interests. A meeting isn't really something that's on my mind for the first few conversations anyway. I actively avoid those people who want to meet 'this evening'!"
The are you free now crowd can give me a miss!
I agree and do wonder if others are the same. Just chatting doesn’t mean I want to meet someone. Some people have premature plans in their head that chatting, even when it’s nonsense, equates a desire to get naked together.
There’s people I’ve chatted to who I have zero interest in but we have interesting conversations. |
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"...Does anyone still arrange meets on here?
Yes, but that's not really the point for me, I don't expect to meet everyone I chat with, quite often it's just an interesting chat with people who have similar interests. A meeting isn't really something that's on my mind for the first few conversations anyway. I actively avoid those people who want to meet 'this evening'!
The are you free now crowd can give me a miss!
I agree and do wonder if others are the same. Just chatting doesn’t mean I want to meet someone. Some people have premature plans in their head that chatting, even when it’s nonsense, equates a desire to get naked together.
There’s people I’ve chatted to who I have zero interest in but we have interesting conversations. "
There have been a few people I've messaged literally just to chat to platonically because they seemed really cool, but I have wondered if it potentially came across as angling for someething more than that. Ah well, their reasons for not replying are their own and there are plenty of other people to befriend. |
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I go through stages of inactivity (most of the time) then I’ll get a sudden urge to reach out.Maybe message two or three profiles if I haven’t seen them before/new, then back to inactivity.
I do have a few I exchange messages with whenever we’re on. |
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By *ing00Man 20 weeks ago
Kettering Area |
"I go through stages of inactivity (most of the time) then I’ll get a sudden urge to reach out.Maybe message two or three profiles if I haven’t seen them before/new, then back to inactivity.
I do have a few I exchange messages with whenever we’re on."
Yeah I think I'm about the same. I'll message if there's something about their profile I can comment on, I'll try to make it amusing, I don't actually expect a reply though. I'm really messaging for my own amusement
It's pretty cool if I do get a reply though.
I still get a "ooh! A message!" When the message light goes on hehe. Sad eh. Hehe |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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One or two a month max.
At the moment we are totally comfortable with not playing with others that often and wait for someone or a couple that we really instantly have the hots for and click with. For that reason we don't tend to message first that often. |
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"I go through stages of inactivity (most of the time) then I’ll get a sudden urge to reach out.Maybe message two or three profiles if I haven’t seen them before/new, then back to inactivity.
I do have a few I exchange messages with whenever we’re on.
Yeah I think I'm about the same. I'll message if there's something about their profile I can comment on, I'll try to make it amusing, I don't actually expect a reply though. I'm really messaging for my own amusement
It's pretty cool if I do get a reply though.
I still get a "ooh! A message!" When the message light goes on hehe. Sad eh. Hehe"
It’s the life of a single male on Fab!
That’s not a complaint either.I’ve been on and off for years, and it’s always been the same.
Even when I was active at socials and clubs, and well verified, most of my messages were just straight deleted.
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"I go through stages of inactivity (most of the time) then I’ll get a sudden urge to reach out.Maybe message two or three profiles if I haven’t seen them before/new, then back to inactivity.
I do have a few I exchange messages with whenever we’re on.
Yeah I think I'm about the same. I'll message if there's something about their profile I can comment on, I'll try to make it amusing, I don't actually expect a reply though. I'm really messaging for my own amusement
It's pretty cool if I do get a reply though.
I still get a "ooh! A message!" When the message light goes on hehe. Sad eh. Hehe
It’s the life of a single male on Fab!
That’s not a complaint either.I’ve been on and off for years, and it’s always been the same.
Even when I was active at socials and clubs, and well verified, most of my messages were just straight deleted.
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Considering my new profile's only a couple of weeks old, I consider the few replies I've gotten and the meet I just had tonight to be phenomenal success, comparatively speaking. XD I thought it was going to take longer to connect with anyone. |
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At the moment intro messages none. I’m not looking to meet or even socialise right now. I’m literally mooching on the forum for a bit. I’ll have the odd chat to people I know or via a thread but I’m not a great chatter.
When I’m being sociable I say _ello whenever I feel like someone’s my kinda human. That’s how I met someone who has become a very close mate away from here. |
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When I am logged on, I send two or three to profiles that interest me.
I do try and engage with their profiles, and send a face pic. Often get polite replies if they’re not interested.
Don’t send one liners unless I already know the person. |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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Be honest folks "
When I did send messages out, I’m a machine gun. Haha. Love that description.
I see people online and quickly talk to them as a way of saying _ello. What I found was people politely ignored me.
So my current account for sending messages out on average per week is zero. 0
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The last intro message I sent was in January 2020.
Even when I was sending messages they were very specific and selective.
I've seen threads claiming to have had no replies to the last 100 messages they sent and yet in 8 years here I don't think I've sent 50 intro messages. |
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By *ythenMan 20 weeks ago
North Co. Dublin |
"On average do you send intro messages per day and or weekly ?
Are you a sniper or a machine gunner re the number you send or do you purely let others message you
Be honest folks "
Definitely a machine gun when I’m on … but then i might not log in for a cpl of weeks . For me it’s all depends on who I am chatting with … Fab Fiend - a new connection- forums etc etc moods etc |
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Normally just chit chat & meet with people I’ve friends with already 
