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By *igR93 OP Man 34 weeks ago
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Has anyone actually turned up to a date and essentially been “catfished” a rare Monday has me making random posts again so I’ll start with mine
Matched with someone off of fab, turned up to meet her for a drink, looked nothing like her pictures and I was totally catfished I did however stay for a few drinks as she was a nice enough person
Interested to know if you’ve been catfished and stayed for the date, made an excuse, or just left? |
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Not off fab but definitely been catfished a few times off dating sights.
Was messaging a girl and exchanged a few pics and sexting. She came in to the club I was working. I didn’t recognise her as her pics had all been taken from select angles. She got d*unk and turned to some guy and shouted “I was going to let him fuck the shit out of me and he won’t even speak to me”
Asked her who she was which led to an awkward moment |
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twice - one was ummmm a bigger size than any photo sent and apparently he had the munchies during covid
the other was - well lets say the pictures had hair, I thought it was his dad dropping him off!! apparently the pictures were taken in the summer - he failed to mention which year  |
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Not catfished in the sense that it was a different person. However one guy's pictures showed a very fit man in his mid forties with a head of glossy, black hair.
A less fit man in his late fifties with completely grey hair turned up an hour late. We were only still there because we'd ordered lunch |
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By *igR93 OP Man 34 weeks ago
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"twice - one was ummmm a bigger size than any photo sent and apparently he had the munchies during covid
the other was - well lets say the pictures had hair, I thought it was his dad dropping him off!! apparently the pictures were taken in the summer - he failed to mention which year "
He had the munchies during COVID?! |
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Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed  |
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Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan
Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that…
I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox
We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues…
We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me.
I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left.
The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too.
I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it.
Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing.
He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again.
Pretty crazy shit. |
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By *929Man 34 weeks ago
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Yes once on hers lass had average as body type told me was avid gym goer everything was slim and toned just “a little bit left to loose on the belly” in reality everything was very fat, especially the belly |
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan
Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that…
I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox
We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues…
We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me.
I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left.
The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too.
I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it.
Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing.
He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again.
Pretty crazy shit."
Yeah that's my definition of catfishing.
That's awful and pretty frightening |
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan
Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that…
I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox
We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues…
We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me.
I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left.
The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too.
I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it.
Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing.
He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again.
Pretty crazy shit."
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By *aiducMan 34 weeks ago
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On another app arranged a meet with someone whose profile stated he was 60. When I turned up at his I thought perhaps he was fibbing about his age.
This was confirmed by the plethora of 'Happy 80th Birthday' cards around his living room  |
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan
Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that…
I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox
We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues…
We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me.
I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left.
The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too.
I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it.
Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing.
He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again.
Pretty crazy shit.
Yeah that's my definition of catfishing.
That's awful and pretty frightening "
It was horrendous, my whole world was crashing down around me.
I through I was going to love MY job over all this, with him saying I was abusive and all… I’m so lucky I was able to see people make sense.
It was nothing like it, but watching Baby Reindeer really brought back memories of how one person with a crush can really fuck things up for you |
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan
Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that…
I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox
We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues…
We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me.
I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left.
The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too.
I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it.
Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing.
He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again.
Pretty crazy shit."
Remind me why I don't want to know about Facebook! |
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By *igR93 OP Man 34 weeks ago
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"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed "
Free drink and all.. |
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"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed
Free drink and all.."
Never say no to a free drink |
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My first ever fab meet he turned up looking 20 years older than his pics. I still had a drink with him and asked him about his pics, he admitted they were “a bit out of date” he also constantly tried to initiate contact despite my body language screaming ‘don’t touch me’.
I went to the toilet and left out the back door, even left my coat  |
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"Not catfished in the sense that it was a different person. However one guy's pictures showed a very fit man in his mid forties with a head of glossy, black hair.
A less fit man in his late fifties with completely grey hair turned up an hour late. We were only still there because we'd ordered lunch"
Sounds like the same man I met |
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"Not catfished in the sense that it was a different person. However one guy's pictures showed a very fit man in his mid forties with a head of glossy, black hair.
A less fit man in his late fifties with completely grey hair turned up an hour late. We were only still there because we'd ordered lunch
Sounds like the same man I met "
Is that the blow job guy nanna |
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By *elloWoman 34 weeks ago
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"Oh yes...twice, both VERY large. They were obviously very good with angles. One had a nice personality at least, the other not at all."
This is what worries me about meeting people from here, they send messages saying I have a great body and I then think I've uploaded catfish photos because I just see wibbly wobbly flab, I'd hate to meet someone I had been keen to meet and they have disappointment clearly showing on their face when they lay eyes on me  |
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"Has anyone actually turned up to a date and essentially been “catfished” a rare Monday has me making random posts again so I’ll start with mine
Matched with someone off of fab, turned up to meet her for a drink, looked nothing like her pictures and I was totally catfished I did however stay for a few drinks as she was a nice enough person
Interested to know if you’ve been catfished and stayed for the date, made an excuse, or just left? "
It’s not happened to me OP but could happen to anyone and I’ve often wondered what I would do in this situation. Can I ask? Did you raise this with the lady or just let it go? |
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By *aizyWoman 34 weeks ago
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Happened a couple of times when I had a couples account on here, turned up to meet other couples just to find they looked nothing like their pics or they were much older than they were pretending to be. |
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By *igR93 OP Man 34 weeks ago
Sarcasm City |
"Has anyone actually turned up to a date and essentially been “catfished” a rare Monday has me making random posts again so I’ll start with mine
Matched with someone off of fab, turned up to meet her for a drink, looked nothing like her pictures and I was totally catfished I did however stay for a few drinks as she was a nice enough person
Interested to know if you’ve been catfished and stayed for the date, made an excuse, or just left?
It’s not happened to me OP but could happen to anyone and I’ve often wondered what I would do in this situation. Can I ask? Did you raise this with the lady or just let it go? "
I stayed for drinks had a good chat and gave it the old “had a great time just didn’t feel a spark” text
I’m not a fan of hurting feelings! |
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Twice on here once by a couple we thought were nice meet them and arranged a second but had to cancel last minute due to a death then the male turned nasty calling me really vile names contacting my children as we had added the couple to Facebook
Second was a man said he said he was 50 reckon he was at least 70 that was a strange meet |
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting… "
I have to agree. I don't know why people don't do this. I've been put off a few from a video call so it's saved me the effort of meeting them. Shrugs. |
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I've not been personally catfished but someone used my pics off a social media site not fab claiming to be me.
It's was awful scenario to see someone use my face to hurt another.
Sadly there are so many ai filters is alarming and that catfishing happens so much.
The sad thing is so many don't realise they don't need to use them. |
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"Not catfished in the sense that it was a different person. However one guy's pictures showed a very fit man in his mid forties with a head of glossy, black hair.
A less fit man in his late fifties with completely grey hair turned up an hour late. We were only still there because we'd ordered lunch
Sounds like the same man I met
Is that the blow job guy nanna "
Lol no, some dude who used photos from his youth.
I just thought he was doing up an old Capri, in his photos. |
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting…
I have to agree. I don't know why people don't do this. I've been put off a few from a video call so it's saved me the effort of meeting them. Shrugs. "
Don't you hate it though, when you're in bed in your ugliest pyjamas, with a big spot on your forehead and they spring a video call on you. |
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting…
I have to agree. I don't know why people don't do this. I've been put off a few from a video call so it's saved me the effort of meeting them. Shrugs.
Don't you hate it though, when you're in bed in your ugliest pyjamas, with a big spot on your forehead and they spring a video call on you."
Oh god yeah! I wouldn't answer an unplanned call. O don't even answer my phone most times but it's easy enough to plan a call in. |
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What is a reverse cat fish called? As I keep losing weight all the pictures are fatter than I currently am. Consider it a nice surprise.
Maybe if we put up our worst pictures instead of our best, we can lower people's expectations ??. |
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting…
I have to agree. I don't know why people don't do this. I've been put off a few from a video call so it's saved me the effort of meeting them. Shrugs.
Don't you hate it though, when you're in bed in your ugliest pyjamas, with a big spot on your forehead and they spring a video call on you."
Noooo, video calls have to be planned in advance |
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"Not catfished in the sense that it was a different person. However one guy's pictures showed a very fit man in his mid forties with a head of glossy, black hair.
A less fit man in his late fifties with completely grey hair turned up an hour late. We were only still there because we'd ordered lunch
Sounds like the same man I met
Is that the blow job guy nanna
Lol no, some dude who used photos from his youth.
I just thought he was doing up an old Capri, in his photos."
My first ever car |
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"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed "
Frail??? |
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting… "
I need to make an appointment for this. I look like a thumb at the best of times. Can’t be ringing me when I’ve got a face mask on and the cucumbers |
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By *igR93 OP Man 34 weeks ago
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting…
I need to make an appointment for this. I look like a thumb at the best of times. Can’t be ringing me when I’ve got a face mask on and the cucumbers "
Got to look
Our best haven’t we NB! |
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"All you naysayers who say you won’t videocall before meeting…
I need to make an appointment for this. I look like a thumb at the best of times. Can’t be ringing me when I’ve got a face mask on and the cucumbers "
Well, I don’t make it a habit of having surprise video calls. That’s a bit much for me too. I have to hold up the assumption I run around in lingerie daily. |
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Yep. I met this guy who claimed to have won Rear of the Year 2024, only it turned out to be a someone else's photos as his own derrière was shockingly flat, and he'd carved some sofa foam into a bum shape and stuffed it down the back of his pants. |
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"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed
Frail???"
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"Yep. I met this guy who claimed to have won Rear of the Year 2024, only it turned out to be a someone else's photos as his own derrière was shockingly flat, and he'd carved some sofa foam into a bum shape and stuffed it down the back of his pants."
I told you to be cautious of Beyond Purity |
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing.
Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara.
Are beards?
Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it "
If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation! |
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By *enelope2UWoman 34 weeks ago
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing."
When you look like two different people with it off yes so are filters! but doesn't really matter when men can't tell a natural makeup free woman from those with it or if they say they dislike fakes filters yet choose them everytime... |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I was catfished by one of my meets before Christmas, looked different to her pictures but unfortunately had to stay the night with her as I booked the hotel although I left before she did. So went home and blocked and deleted her |
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"Yep. I met this guy who claimed to have won Rear of the Year 2024, only it turned out to be a someone else's photos as his own derrière was shockingly flat, and he'd carved some sofa foam into a bum shape and stuffed it down the back of his pants.
I told you to be cautious of Beyond Purity "
total catfish us |
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By *ddie1966Man 34 weeks ago
Paper Town Central, Essex. |
It happens.
It's happened to me on two occasions.
Some ladies like to embellish their age. Nothing wrong with that, as far as I'm concerned, but the last one must have lived in la last land. The previous ones idea of slim must have been decided on in the hall of mirrors.
The camera does lie.
All I ask is people are honest about themselves. |
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A few year ago was on another app.
Talking to this woman realy my type.
Talked alot on the phone.
Come to meeting up.
I was at a coffee shop when i hear a voice call me.
It was my ex.
Which I did lose my shit and left.
Ever since then its video calls.
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing.
When you look like two different people with it off yes so are filters! but doesn't really matter when men can't tell a natural makeup free woman from those with it or if they say they dislike fakes filters yet choose them everytime..."
So everyone is deceiving in some way? |
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By *aizyWoman 34 weeks ago
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing.
Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara.
Are beards?
Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation! "
I googled it, makes total sense! One of the very few times on here I haven't regretted googling something! |
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing.
Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara.
Are beards?
Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation!
I googled it, makes total sense! One of the very few times on here I haven't regretted googling something!"
It's nice to google something from here that doesn't make you scrub your eyes with bleach after |
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We met a couple a few years ago. She had black and white arty photos of various bits of body. He had full body pics.
Turns out she was a lot bigger than we thought and his pics were taken 20 years and 4 stone ago. They were a nice couple but there was no attraction.
You learn when the pics are close ups of cleavage, feet, eyes that a full body pic would be useful. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"A few year ago was on another app.
Talking to this woman realy my type.
Talked alot on the phone.
Come to meeting up.
I was at a coffee shop when i hear a voice call me.
It was my ex.
Which I did lose my shit and left.
Ever since then its video calls.
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That was your chance to realise you were made for each other and live happily ever after!  |
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By *aizyWoman 34 weeks ago
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing.
Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara.
Are beards?
Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation!
I googled it, makes total sense! One of the very few times on here I haven't regretted googling something!
It's nice to google something from here that doesn't make you scrub your eyes with bleach after "
It is, I very, very rarely google anything I see on here anymore! |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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So everyone is deceiving in some way? "
People tell me I look better in person than in my photos. When they say things like wow, you’re beautiful, smoking hot, etc and then meet me and say I’m more beautiful in person, I feel deceived.
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing.
Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara.
Are beards?
Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation!
I googled it, makes total sense! One of the very few times on here I haven't regretted googling something!
It's nice to google something from here that doesn't make you scrub your eyes with bleach after
It is, I very, very rarely google anything I see on here anymore! "
Don't Google wonko |
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing.
Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara.
Are beards?
Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
If I regret this afterwards...I'll be expecting compensation!
I googled it, makes total sense! One of the very few times on here I haven't regretted googling something!
It's nice to google something from here that doesn't make you scrub your eyes with bleach after
It is, I very, very rarely google anything I see on here anymore!
Don't Google wonko "
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan
Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that…
I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox
We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues…
We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me.
I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left.
The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too.
I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it.
Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing.
He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again.
Pretty crazy shit.
Yeah that's my definition of catfishing.
That's awful and pretty frightening
It was horrendous, my whole world was crashing down around me.
I through I was going to love MY job over all this, with him saying I was abusive and all… I’m so lucky I was able to see people make sense.
It was nothing like it, but watching Baby Reindeer really brought back memories of how one person with a crush can really fuck things up for you "
Yes I had an experience at work that while not the same involved someone telling awful lies about me. It can have potentially devastating consequences.
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"Yep. I met this guy who claimed to have won Rear of the Year 2024, only it turned out to be a someone else's photos as his own derrière was shockingly flat, and he'd carved some sofa foam into a bum shape and stuffed it down the back of his pants.
I told you to be cautious of Beyond Purity
total catfish us "
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I haven’t but C met a woman for a drink who looked completely different from her pics. C walked past her and it was only after she was called back she realised the woman was who she was meeting - a few sizes different and greying hair.
Needless to say only one drink was had.
The next day the lady blocked us after C pointed out that she didn’t look like her pics
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By *igR93 OP Man 34 weeks ago
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"I haven’t but C met a woman for a drink who looked completely different from her pics. C walked past her and it was only after she was called back she realised the woman was who she was meeting - a few sizes different and greying hair.
Needless to say only one drink was had.
The next day the lady blocked us after C pointed out that she didn’t look like her pics
K"
It does feel a little strange as to why people do it, insecurities obviously but still how they think people won’t know is somewhat bizarre. |
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I had one once from another site. I was expecting a mumsy sort - a plain Jane, a little overweight, and flat shoes. When she turned up, she was STUNNING - playing with hr hair and all that. She was like a model or something.
I still shagged her though. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 34 weeks ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Not using different photos, but she may as well have done.
I met up with another Tgirl for a social night out, hitting a few bars and the like. I'd not realised her pics had been filtered and that was why her make up looked so on point. Nice girl all the same.  |
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By *igR93 OP Man 34 weeks ago
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"I had one once from another site. I was expecting a mumsy sort - a plain Jane, a little overweight, and flat shoes. When she turned up, she was STUNNING - playing with hr hair and all that. She was like a model or something.
I still shagged her though. "
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I met a lady a while back who claimed to be 42 and a size 12 in her profile. If I am being charitable, I would say that maybe, when she was 42, she would have been a size 12…
I had a bit of a kink (but no real success) for “contact” magazines like “Rendezvous” for years. It’s staggering that some people are still using pictures here on fab that I recognise from 20+ years ago. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Oh yes...twice, both VERY large. They were obviously very good with angles. One had a nice personality at least, the other not at all.
This is what worries me about meeting people from here, they send messages saying I have a great body and I then think I've uploaded catfish photos because I just see wibbly wobbly flab, I'd hate to meet someone I had been keen to meet and they have disappointment clearly showing on their face when they lay eyes on me "
A but think of the fun Cat could have hiding behind those twin moons, whilst as for Rimmer... |
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By *ags73Man 34 weeks ago
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"I had one once from another site. I was expecting a mumsy sort - a plain Jane, a little overweight, and flat shoes. When she turned up, she was STUNNING - playing with hr hair and all that. She was like a model or something.
I still shagged her though. "
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The use of filters on here is redonkulous! Some pictures are so heavily filtered that it's really obvious. do they think they are fooling people? We don't use filters on our pics as I don't think its fair. People are genuinely surprised that we look exactly like our pics on here when we meet, it's madness! |
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I have been catfished loads of times. I would go as far as to say that 90% of the women I have met off swinging sites, Tinder etc look vastly different from their photos. Sometimes you get a pleasant surprise and they look better in person, but most of the time they are considerably bigger / look older in real life.
I have definitely been in some bizarre situations over the years. One women I met lived with her mum and said "its okay we can go upstairs to my room". Needless to say, I ended up walking. |
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Only once, not on this site. Her photos were definitely a few years out of date, but she was lovely and we had fun, until she started talking about having my babies, then I ran like Forrest Gump, and luckily ran into my future wife! |
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"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan
Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that…
I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox
We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues…
We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me.
I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left.
The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too.
I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it.
Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing.
He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again.
Pretty crazy shit.
Fucking hell "
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I worry so much about doing this. Obviously the photos on my profile are all photos where I think I look my best. I know how to use a camera to get my best angle, and I can take a decent selfie…. But then I am paranoid incase when I meet someone they think I have deceived them. One thing I don’t do is use filters. For one I think they are blatantly obvious, and secondly, it’s just a lie.
I have met a lady who had used filters in her photos and when I met her I actually didn’t recognise her because she was sooooo much less attractive.
I’d hate to put someone in that position.
I always tell people I meet that I am curvy and that if they don’t like curves they won’t like me…. I have even gone so far as to send a full body “honest” photo of myself naked as I want to be sure I am not deceiving someone…
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"The use of filters on here is redonkulous! Some pictures are so heavily filtered that it's really obvious. do they think they are fooling people? We don't use filters on our pics as I don't think its fair. People are genuinely surprised that we look exactly like our pics on here when we meet, it's madness! "
The worry then is that because soooooo many people use filters, those of us who don’t use them, people will look at our “normal” photos and assume that we are going to be less attractive in real life because everyone is getting so used to that!
Your photos are awesome btw. You both look loads of fun and very sexy |
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"The use of filters on here is redonkulous! Some pictures are so heavily filtered that it's really obvious. do they think they are fooling people? We don't use filters on our pics as I don't think its fair. People are genuinely surprised that we look exactly like our pics on here when we meet, it's madness!
The worry then is that because soooooo many people use filters, those of us who don’t use them, people will look at our “normal” photos and assume that we are going to be less attractive in real life because everyone is getting so used to that!
Your photos are awesome btw. You both look loads of fun and very sexy "
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By *agatoXXXMan 34 weeks ago
Gone and completely forgotten. |
"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed "
Was it Granny Crumpet or Bad Nanna?! 
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By *arierWoman 34 weeks ago
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I think I sniffed out the attempt of a catfish about ten minutes ago.
I got asked to meet at a hotel very early in a conversation so I played along and asked for a picture…. Which the lady sent…. Wow! Stunning!
I asked when did you take it?
“Just this minute”
This kind of sealed the deal because her profile picture had a tattoo and her “selfie” with a cropped border didn’t. |
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"The use of filters on here is redonkulous! Some pictures are so heavily filtered that it's really obvious. do they think they are fooling people? We don't use filters on our pics as I don't think its fair. People are genuinely surprised that we look exactly like our pics on here when we meet, it's madness! "
Mine are always filtered, but I don't lie about the fact they are. It's a surprise what you get with me. |
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"Surely Catfishing is using someone elses photos and identity"
It appears to have evolved. I thought the same as you.
Ghosting seems to have expanded as well to include when someone stops messaging even if you've never met. |
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"Pretty much don't even look at pictures... I've generally been disappointed lowered my age range because 50 here looks like 80.. "
Same. And not only looks, usually also is very close to that age. |
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By *igR93 OP Man 34 weeks ago
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"Surely Catfishing is using someone elses photos and identity
It appears to have evolved. I thought the same as you.
Ghosting seems to have expanded as well to include when someone stops messaging even if you've never met."
See im a little indifferent on this one, if you’ve never met someone it’s not really ghosting |
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"Surely Catfishing is using someone elses photos and identity
It appears to have evolved. I thought the same as you.
Ghosting seems to have expanded as well to include when someone stops messaging even if you've never met."
..and not forgetting the other old favourite, breadcrumbing. |
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I've had people 10 years older than their pics or a considerable difference to their pics before, now I video call before I meet most people or ask them to send selfie or video response to a question, something that shows me them currently. |
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"Had this happen to me recently. She sent me pictures that were about 10 years old. When I arrived she was grey and frail looking. Lovely lady though and she had already bought me a drink, so I stayed "
Yeah-thats why you stayed! |
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Yes, I thought he'd sent his dad to make his excuses.
He told me if he put his real age he didn't get any messages, but that to me would be a better option. I can take photos that don't show my full heft, but I don't want someone's first impression of me to be a horrified recoil when they see me in the flesh.
Surely it doesn't make any sense at all if you're looking to meet people? |
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If it's any consolation, I look a lot younger than my paternal grandfather did when he was my current age.
Old dears he used to know from his youth used to go and see him in the nursing home where he resided. Not for hanky panky.
My Maternal grandfather lived to 102 and the carers used to visit him in pairs. Not sure if that was for their safety or to maximise the potential for action. He was the one I take after. |
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I've been catfished on an adult site around 10 years ago don't even know if it is around any more)
Chatted and arranged to meet a woman in a cafe (we had obviously exchanged pictures for a couple of weeks) as I don't do surprise meets without getting to know one another. Everything looked promising until I turned up.
I barely recognised the woman I was meeting. The pictures were obviously old. When I got to the table, she greeted me with wide eyes saying I looked great in my biker gear. I didn't sit down, instead I asked her why she sent me photos that didn't look like her and were obviously from years past. She told me that I wouldn't have turned up if she sent me a present day picture which I disagreed with and then I said I was going to go as if you begin any kind of meet with dishonesty, what else are you hiding or lying about? She began to get upset and I left.
I wouldn't have minded so much but I still found her physically attractive but I wasn't about to take a risk for a shag |
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There really isn't an excuse to get caught out these days with the amount of technology available to communicate.
If you don't spot red flags you either aren't looking hard enough or you're choosing to ignore them |
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"Yes, I thought he'd sent his dad to make his excuses.
He told me if he put his real age he didn't get any messages, but that to me would be a better option. I can take photos that don't show my full heft, but I don't want someone's first impression of me to be a horrified recoil when they see me in the flesh.
Surely it doesn't make any sense at all if you're looking to meet people?"
Well if we meet I’ll lookout for a big pair of googly eyes to make sure it’s you lol |
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By *rPunxMan 34 weeks ago
Hull |
Had been chatting to someone for six months on a daily basis. Did the whole pic swap thing as well.(They originally added and pursued me) they lived the other side of the country and seemed to have as busy a life as me so took a while to try to arrange a meet up. The closer we got to actually meeting and then ghosted.at first I was worried that something may have happened as it wasn't like them.also no social media activity just gone. Finally managed to get back in touch. They made some excuse that I had upset one of their friends and didn'twantanymoreto do with me.??? This was news to me not sure who I'd done what to? Then in hindsight decided to try a reverse image search.turns out all the pictures,videos were from an old cam girls profile that was no longer active. |
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By *ripfillMan 34 weeks ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
"twice - one was ummmm a bigger size than any photo sent and apparently he had the munchies during covid
the other was - well lets say the pictures had hair, I thought it was his dad dropping him off!! apparently the pictures were taken in the summer - he failed to mention which year "
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By *glyBettyTV/TS 34 weeks ago
Sitting on the table |
"Short version: Guy from work pretended to be a woman to get me to date him. Shit hit the fan
Long version: Many years ago now I was on a dating website for anglers, shall we say… and I came upon a profile of a sexy young lady, just my type… blonde, busty, all that…
I checked out the profile and thought she was out of my league and moved on when she appeared in my inbox
We got to talking and over time things started to get a little flirty… numbers were swapped… pics were swapped… sexting ensues…
We then arrange to meet one day (I even had a hotel room booked for what she said she had planned for me) and when I get to the meeting spot I’m greeted by a gay guy I knew from work. Now I was confused… I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was *NAME*… I didn’t understand and he said that he had made the profile as he fancied me and didn’t know any other way to get closer to me.
I was annoyed but tried to be understanding, said it wasn’t going to happen and left.
The next day I’m bombarded with messages from my family asking why he was getting in touch with them on Facebook. Not only was he telling my family and friends that we had been having a secret relationship, but that I was self-hating and closeted and then cheated on him! He sent screenshots of our conversations and pictures that I sent to him to them and co-workers too.
I tried to explain to as many as I could what really happened but while I lot understood, some didn’t believe me and I lost some close people from my life over it.
Naturally I went to HR in work about it all but he had gotten there first, telling them I had dumped him and abused him during the relationship. I took a lot of discussion and convincing but they eventually saw the truth and he was “persuaded” to leave the company over the whole thing.
He continued to message me over the next few months, until he finally realised I wasn’t going to reply and then I never heard from him again.
Pretty crazy shit."
Just read this
If a woman who seems too attractive to be on a dating site for anglers goes out of their way to contact you, that's got 'man' written all over it |
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"Has anyone actually turned up to a date and essentially been “catfished” a rare Monday has me making random posts again so I’ll start with mine
Matched with someone off of fab, turned up to meet her for a drink, looked nothing like her pictures and I was totally catfished I did however stay for a few drinks as she was a nice enough person
Interested to know if you’ve been catfished and stayed for the date, made an excuse, or just left?
It’s not happened to me OP but could happen to anyone and I’ve often wondered what I would do in this situation. Can I ask? Did you raise this with the lady or just let it go?
I stayed for drinks had a good chat and gave it the old “had a great time just didn’t feel a spark” text
I’m not a fan of hurting feelings!"
Totally agree about not hurting people's feelings, that's why we only meet for a drink and chat on first meets.
We find men tend to be in less good condition and ladies somehow don't understand the difference between size 14 and 24.
As a mature couple ourselves we always tell folks to check our age a few times before meeting.
Clubs, parties and swingers holidays seem to work better as no awkward moments or less awkward moments.
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing.
Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara.
Are beards?
Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it "
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing.
Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara.
Are beards?
Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
Umm.... I wear a hat, wtf is hat fishing?? "
Usually it's bald guys. You only see pics with a hat on... Turn up, they take the hat off and they don't look half as attractive. |
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"Sooooo is makeup catfishing.
Only if you think that anyone is born with perfectly applied eyeliner, lipstick and mascara.
Are beards?
Apparently hat fishing is a thing. Google it
Umm.... I wear a hat, wtf is hat fishing??
Usually it's bald guys. You only see pics with a hat on... Turn up, they take the hat off and they don't look half as attractive. "
Oh heck 
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I'm alot more picky now though and I'd stay for a drink but nothing more 
