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"I was here when one of the clique members snapped, wrote a smear and reveal campaign thread and god was it popcorn worthy reading all the replies" Now this I wish I'd have seen  | |||
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"I used to post on here a lot more than I currently do. However I still never worked out who was in the clique. " Sorry you don't post as much | |||
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then tbh it should be.
George Michael forever | |||
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"I was here when one of the clique members snapped, wrote a smear and reveal campaign thread and god was it popcorn worthy reading all the replies" About 4 or 5 years ago? That was a legendary night on the forum. One of the many ‘Scarlets’ on here at the time I recall. UNLOSed after never to return?!  | |||
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"Who’s been idolised OP? If it isn’t George Michael then tbh it should be.
George Michael forever " this made me smile so hard | |||
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"Who’s been idolised OP? If it isn’t George Michael then tbh it should be.
George Michael forever " | |||
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"If I say I like seeing someone around the forums, that's all it means. Not that they're special or elevated or more important than anyone else. Just that I see them around, and enjoy their contributions "I enjoy seeing your bum around the forums xoxo | |||
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"Unfortunately you can't take the "knob" out of the knobheads on here. Just do you and ignore them, they do get bored eventually " | |||
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"I was here when one of the clique members snapped, wrote a smear and reveal campaign thread and god was it popcorn worthy reading all the replies About 4 or 5 years ago? That was a legendary night on the forum. One of the many ‘Scarlets’ on here at the time I recall. UNLOSed after never to return?! "Don't think it was Scarlett, but yeah it was years ago, probably around the time of 2nd or 3rd MLS. | |||
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"Who’s been idolised OP? If it isn’t George Michael then tbh it should be.
George Michael forever
this made me smile so hard "I’m so glad. It’s George’s birthday today. Happy birthday beautiful man | |||
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"Who’s been idolised OP? If it isn’t George Michael then tbh it should be.
George Michael forever
this made me smile so hard
I’m so glad. It’s George’s birthday today. Happy birthday beautiful man "What a legend!!! | |||
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"Everyone could leave and new people would come and to be honest, the forums would probably be a lot better for it. Women are generally just a pair of tits/an arse and men like to either be controversial or fucking inclusive till the inclusivity is rammed down your throat. Don't get excited prey. For everyone that thinks a certain person is great, there's about 10 others that think they're fucking knobs. Everyone's replaceable. Almost. " They really could. They really do. Life is like a box of chocolates. Not all of them coconut creams | |||
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"Who’s been idolised OP? If it isn’t George Michael then tbh it should be.
George Michael forever
this made me smile so hard
I’m so glad. It’s George’s birthday today. Happy birthday beautiful man
What a legend!!! "Proper clique that boy… make no mistake | |||
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"Op I wouldn’t worry about it. The forums come and go. The people who are belle of the ball this week usually end up blowing themselves up and end up as a footnote to history. I always roll my eyes at the eulogies some people are given but noise attracts attention on the forums. Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it lasts." See this I would generally say was true, BUT, after having private messages basically telling me to back off from the forums or at least take heed of protocol in here I now think otherwise. To say this person also has many threads and recently had a thread saying how awesome they were made me rather perplexed and angry. | |||
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"Everyone could leave and new people would come and to be honest, the forums would probably be a lot better for it. Women are generally just a pair of tits/an arse and men like to either be controversial or fucking inclusive till the inclusivity is rammed down your throat. Don't get excited prey. For everyone that thinks a certain person is great, there's about 10 others that think they're fucking knobs. Everyone's replaceable. Almost. " God I bloody love ya | |||
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"There have always been cliques, I have never been part of one" Lies! You and Shagtonight are a duo Clique! | |||
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"Who’s been idolised OP? If it isn’t George Michael then tbh it should be.
George Michael forever
this made me smile so hard
I’m so glad. It’s George’s birthday today. Happy birthday beautiful man "Oh George. Ya shoulda been Mr Glow. I’d have made you happy. | |||
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"I see these types of threads and wonder if I'm in the clique. I've been here about a year and a half now and over that time I've made quite a lot of friends that I'll talk to on here. I don't try to be anything other than me. Which is mainly inclusive and friendly but occasionally snarky. I've met a good chunk of the people I talk with on the forums in person. That's not being cliquey, that's talking to friends. We were all new here once. Some make an effort to get to know others and join in with good humour. Others decide they're going to spread their own bitterness and blame it on others. Such is life. J" I don't see you as part of the clique at all - your posts are lovely, inclusive and interesting
I'm not spreading bitterness- just voicing my experience of certain aspects of the forums which unfortunately include people who are regular posters and people who comment on a regular basis | |||
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"Who are the clique members? Is it like a secret club? Sorry i’m confused, i’m quite new here "Allegedly yes. A secret inner circle...  | |||
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"I see these types of threads and wonder if I'm in the clique. I've been here about a year and a half now and over that time I've made quite a lot of friends that I'll talk to on here. I don't try to be anything other than me. Which is mainly inclusive and friendly but occasionally snarky. I've met a good chunk of the people I talk with on the forums in person. That's not being cliquey, that's talking to friends. We were all new here once. Some make an effort to get to know others and join in with good humour. Others decide they're going to spread their own bitterness and blame it on others. Such is life. J I don't see you as part of the clique at all - your posts are lovely, inclusive and interesting
I'm not spreading bitterness- just voicing my experience of certain aspects of the forums which unfortunately include people who are regular posters and people who comment on a regular basis "Sorry, I should've made it clear that I didn't mean you with the spreading bitterness thing. I can see how it would read that way. 
It's just something I see a lot from others.
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"Yep I'm here posting a thread about the oh so famous and often spoken about clique! After seeing some threads idolising certain members for their amazing contribution to the forums it's left me a little perplexed to say the least. Some may say it doesn't exist, some may say you get out of the forums what you put it but some may also say this is an area of fab controlled by the few who think they are the many. After a rather upsetting experience with one of 'the clique' I have to say to others please take everyone with a pinch of salt. Swinging is a liberating and all inclusive lifestyle - in some cases this hasn't passed down to some regular forum goers which is a shame. S "Where dat thread at.. Mr | |||
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"The clique members have changed many times over the years. " Are you still in it Nanna? Ps. When we playing cards against humanity again? We rock at that  | |||
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"The clique members have changed many times over the years. " Says the founder of Clique! | |||
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"Op I wouldn’t worry about it. The forums come and go. The people who are belle of the ball this week usually end up blowing themselves up and end up as a footnote to history. I always roll my eyes at the eulogies some people are given but noise attracts attention on the forums. Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it lasts. See this I would generally say was true, BUT, after having private messages basically telling me to back off from the forums or at least take heed of protocol in here I now think otherwise. To say this person also has many threads and recently had a thread saying how awesome they were made me rather perplexed and angry. " Seriously? There is absolutely no way I would accept being threatened on here. Easiest thing to do kick it straight to admin and get the idiot banned. | |||
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"I see these types of threads and wonder if I'm in the clique. I've been here about a year and a half now and over that time I've made quite a lot of friends that I'll talk to on here. I don't try to be anything other than me. Which is mainly inclusive and friendly but occasionally snarky. I've met a good chunk of the people I talk with on the forums in person. That's not being cliquey, that's talking to friends. We were all new here once. Some make an effort to get to know others and join in with good humour. Others decide they're going to spread their own bitterness and blame it on others. Such is life. J I don't see you as part of the clique at all - your posts are lovely, inclusive and interesting
I'm not spreading bitterness- just voicing my experience of certain aspects of the forums which unfortunately include people who are regular posters and people who comment on a regular basis
Sorry, I should've made it clear that I didn't mean you with the spreading bitterness thing. I can see how it would read that way.
It's just something I see a lot from others.
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"There have always been cliques, I have never been part of one" No one ever thinks they are part of a clique. | |||
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"Im not interesting in swinging, my objective is to infiltrate the clique and destroy it within " | |||
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"The clique members have changed many times over the years. Are you still in it Nanna? Ps. When we playing cards against humanity again? We rock at that "Ahem. Our team wasn't bad at Cards too! Anyways, you're a man down | |||
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"Yep I'm here posting a thread about the oh so famous and often spoken about clique! After seeing some threads idolising certain members for their amazing contribution to the forums it's left me a little perplexed to say the least. Some may say it doesn't exist, some may say you get out of the forums what you put it but some may also say this is an area of fab controlled by the few who think they are the many. After a rather upsetting experience with one of 'the clique' I have to say to others please take everyone with a pinch of salt. Swinging is a liberating and all inclusive lifestyle - in some cases this hasn't passed down to some regular forum goers which is a shame. S "It never ceases to amaze me how invested people become with the forum and at times it seems that for an adult platform the childish behaviours at play is pathetic. I think everyone has a story to tell about 'popular' people they've had issues with. All I know is anyone who has an inflated image of themselves is deluded and really needs to get out side and live in the real world a little | |||
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"The clique members have changed many times over the years. Are you still in it Nanna? Ps. When we playing cards against humanity again? We rock at that
Ahem. Our team wasn't bad at Cards too! Anyways, you're a man down "I know right. You guys were brutal | |||
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"We should start a thread where you have to say whether the person above is in or out the clique "Oh please do this. Called clique or not clique | |||
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"There have always been cliques, I have never been part of one No one ever thinks they are part of a clique." Because I doubt there's a conscious effort to build them, they just happen because you get on with certain people and interact with them more as a result because you've found your comfort zone. I can see why it looks like there are cliques to new posters and in an ideal world, everyone would be as inclusive as possible. Unfortunately though, it's not an ideal world. | |||
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"The clique members have changed many times over the years. Are you still in it Nanna? Ps. When we playing cards against humanity again? We rock at that
Ahem. Our team wasn't bad at Cards too! Anyways, you're a man down
I know right. You guys were brutal "Yep  | |||
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"Op I wouldn’t worry about it. The forums come and go. The people who are belle of the ball this week usually end up blowing themselves up and end up as a footnote to history. I always roll my eyes at the eulogies some people are given but noise attracts attention on the forums. Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it lasts. See this I would generally say was true, BUT, after having private messages basically telling me to back off from the forums or at least take heed of protocol in here I now think otherwise. To say this person also has many threads and recently had a thread saying how awesome they were made me rather perplexed and angry. " I’m sorry this happened to you OP, bullying is never ok. The forum guidelines are the rules enforced by the admin, no one on the forum can censor another member (sometimes that’s a shame ) | |||
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"We should start a thread where you have to say whether the person above is in or out the clique
Oh please do this. Called clique or not clique "Or... Clique Online! | |||
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"We should start a thread where you have to say whether the person above is in or out the clique " That’s a great idea! Let’s finally root the fiends out into the open say I! (…or am I in fact deflecting from the fact that I am a member….?)  | |||
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"The clique members have changed many times over the years. " There are plenty that I miss terribly  | |||
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"The clique members have changed many times over the years. Are you still in it Nanna? Ps. When we playing cards against humanity again? We rock at that
Ahem. Our team wasn't bad at Cards too! Anyways, you're a man down
I know right. You guys were brutal
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"We should start a thread where you have to say whether the person above is in or out the clique
Oh please do this. Called clique or not clique "It would be funny AF and probably quite revealing, but I don’t fancy a spanking from admin tonight | |||
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"We should start a thread where you have to say whether the person above is in or out the clique
Oh please do this. Called clique or not clique
Or... Clique Online!"Ooofft | |||
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"We should start a thread where you have to say whether the person above is in or out the clique
Oh please do this. Called clique or not clique
Or... Clique Online!"Clique and collect? | |||
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"Try not to worry about this OP. The ‘Clique’ is a phantom. Lots of people here are all talking to each other in chat groups outside of the forums. Those people in lots of different chats get to know more people, and thus appear more popular on the forums. But, nobody is in control, there is no secret cabal, just a bunch of folks mostly chatting, sometimes meeting, and occasionally fucking. And just like out there in real life, some of those folk are lovely and kind and generous and others can behave like pure arseholes. It takes all sorts to make the world go round, and this forum is no different. Just stay positive, keep doing you, and let all the bullshit slide on by (perhaps easier said than done - I know from experience, but it’s something to reach for ). Xx" Thank you for this message | |||
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"We should start a thread where you have to say whether the person above is in or out the clique
Oh please do this. Called clique or not clique
Or... Clique Online!
Clique and collect? "Cliquebait! | |||
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"We should start a thread where you have to say whether the person above is in or out the clique
Oh please do this. Called clique or not clique
Or... Clique Online!
Clique and collect?
Cliquebait!" | |||
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"I was just thinking how much better the forum is just lately" That's because I've not been on much lately | |||
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 i wonder when this started not being fun and started be a lifestyle for some!! Fab that is not swinging!!! - if someone 'threatened' then surely you would report it to admin and move on - i get lots of unwanted messages - some can be unpleasant do i just report and block them.
there is inevitably a large group of people who have been on here a long time and know each other socially as well as on FAB.
I just post my bit and then go and post another bit somewhere else - i am me and if it becomes tedious then I dont come on for a few days. Honestly say, the majority of messages off the forum users are fun and kind.
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"We should start a thread where you have to say whether the person above is in or out the clique
Oh please do this. Called clique or not clique
Or... Clique Online!
Clique and collect?
Cliquebait!"5 Cliques | |||
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"We should start a thread where you have to say whether the person above is in or out the clique
Oh please do this. Called clique or not clique
Or... Clique Online!
Clique and collect?
Cliquebait!"This is awesome. Who’s doing the thread? | |||
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"We should start a thread where you have to say whether the person above is in or out the clique
Oh please do this. Called clique or not clique
Or... Clique Online!
Clique and collect?
Cliquebait!"!!!! | |||
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"Op I wouldn’t worry about it. The forums come and go. The people who are belle of the ball this week usually end up blowing themselves up and end up as a footnote to history. I always roll my eyes at the eulogies some people are given but noise attracts attention on the forums. Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it lasts. See this I would generally say was true, BUT, after having private messages basically telling me to back off from the forums or at least take heed of protocol in here I now think otherwise. To say this person also has many threads and recently had a thread saying how awesome they were made me rather perplexed and angry. " Laugh, block and keep doing what you do, you can post what you like within the rules laid down by admin. I was told once by someone 'popular' that it would make them happy if I stopped posting off the forum....Which had the opposite effect, each time I feel it's time to go I remember that and carry on posting | |||
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"The one who follows the crowd usually get no further than the crowd. The ones who choose to go alone, find themselves in places no one has ever been - Albert Einstein" I think you’ll find that was by Billy Shakespeare… TM the interweb. Circa 2010 | |||
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"Fuck the clique. And if I'm in it, fuck me. And if you're not in it, fuck you too. And if there is no clique, fuck everyone." You basically were asking for people to fuck you weren’t you Nicky? | |||
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"There have always been cliques, I have never been part of one No one ever thinks they are part of a clique. Because I doubt there's a conscious effort to build them, they just happen because you get on with certain people and interact with them more as a result because you've found your comfort zone. I can see why it looks like there are cliques to new posters and in an ideal world, everyone would be as inclusive as possible. Unfortunately though, it's not an ideal world." I get that, it’s not something I’ve noticed really but others on the fora have obviously had different experiences. Take the example on this thread of someone being warned off the forums, I bet you don’t think it’s one of your friendship group who is responsible but how well do we know people who we interact with largely over the internet? | |||
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"The one who follows the crowd usually get no further than the crowd. The ones who choose to go alone, find themselves in places no one has ever been - Albert Einstein" I find myself lost, bloody hopeless with directions | |||
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"The one who follows the crowd usually get no further than the crowd. The ones who choose to go alone, find themselves in places no one has ever been - Albert Einstein I think you’ll find that was by Billy Shakespeare… TM the interweb. Circa 2010" Einstein wrote the original | |||
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"Op I wouldn’t worry about it. The forums come and go. The people who are belle of the ball this week usually end up blowing themselves up and end up as a footnote to history. I always roll my eyes at the eulogies some people are given but noise attracts attention on the forums. Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it lasts. See this I would generally say was true, BUT, after having private messages basically telling me to back off from the forums or at least take heed of protocol in here I now think otherwise. To say this person also has many threads and recently had a thread saying how awesome they were made me rather perplexed and angry. " I just Clouseud I Holmesed! n Dag nabbit I just Marpled.... | |||
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" i wonder when this started not being fun and started be a lifestyle for some!! Fab that is not swinging!!! - if someone 'threatened' then surely you would report it to admin and move on - i get lots of unwanted messages - some can be unpleasant do i just report and block them.
there is inevitably a large group of people who have been on here a long time and know each other socially as well as on FAB.
I just post my bit and then go and post another bit somewhere else - i am me and if it becomes tedious then I dont come on for a few days. Honestly say, the majority of messages off the forum users are fun and kind.
and the football was crap "It started not being fun when I was told I was being disrespectful, untasteful and that other people were messaging said member about my behaviour in the forums - look back on my green arrow- there is nothing of that kind. | |||
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"Fuck the clique. And if I'm in it, fuck me. And if you're not in it, fuck you too. And if there is no clique, fuck everyone. You basically were asking for people to fuck you weren’t you Nicky? "And fuck you LB | |||
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"The one who follows the crowd usually get no further than the crowd. The ones who choose to go alone, find themselves in places no one has ever been - Albert Einstein" | |||
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" i wonder when this started not being fun and started be a lifestyle for some!! Fab that is not swinging!!! - if someone 'threatened' then surely you would report it to admin and move on - i get lots of unwanted messages - some can be unpleasant do i just report and block them.
there is inevitably a large group of people who have been on here a long time and know each other socially as well as on FAB.
I just post my bit and then go and post another bit somewhere else - i am me and if it becomes tedious then I dont come on for a few days. Honestly say, the majority of messages off the forum users are fun and kind.
and the football was crap
It started not being fun when I was told I was being disrespectful, untasteful and that other people were messaging said member about my behaviour in the forums - look back on my green arrow- there is nothing of that kind."Fuck em, don't sweat it pal..... Mr | |||
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"Op I wouldn’t worry about it. The forums come and go. The people who are belle of the ball this week usually end up blowing themselves up and end up as a footnote to history. I always roll my eyes at the eulogies some people are given but noise attracts attention on the forums. Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it lasts. See this I would generally say was true, BUT, after having private messages basically telling me to back off from the forums or at least take heed of protocol in here I now think otherwise. To say this person also has many threads and recently had a thread saying how awesome they were made me rather perplexed and angry. I just Clouseud I Holmesed! n Dag nabbit I just Marpled.... "  | |||
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"Fuck the clique. And if I'm in it, fuck me. And if you're not in it, fuck you too. And if there is no clique, fuck everyone. You basically were asking for people to fuck you weren’t you Nicky?
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"Fuck the clique. And if I'm in it, fuck me. And if you're not in it, fuck you too. And if there is no clique, fuck everyone." again ??? | |||
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"The one who follows the crowd usually get no further than the crowd. The ones who choose to go alone, find themselves in places no one has ever been - Albert Einstein I think you’ll find that was by Billy Shakespeare… TM the interweb. Circa 2010 Einstein wrote the original "Oh bless him. Probably misquoted with Ghandi | |||
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"Ok now it all starts to make sense. " You on the M n M's ? | |||
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"The one who follows the crowd usually get no further than the crowd. The ones who choose to go alone, find themselves in places no one has ever been - Albert Einstein I find myself lost, bloody hopeless with directions "me too sparkle - apparently im ditzy thank god for sat nav's although i do think mine is faulty at times  | |||
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"Op I wouldn’t worry about it. The forums come and go. The people who are belle of the ball this week usually end up blowing themselves up and end up as a footnote to history. I always roll my eyes at the eulogies some people are given but noise attracts attention on the forums. Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it lasts. See this I would generally say was true, BUT, after having private messages basically telling me to back off from the forums or at least take heed of protocol in here I now think otherwise. To say this person also has many threads and recently had a thread saying how awesome they were made me rather perplexed and angry. I just Clouseud I Holmesed! n Dag nabbit I just Marpled.... " Sharing is caring, Granny. | |||
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!!" Oh god. It was only a FAF  | |||
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"Ok now it all starts to make sense. You on the M n M's ?" M n Ms? | |||
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" i wonder when this started not being fun and started be a lifestyle for some!! Fab that is not swinging!!! - if someone 'threatened' then surely you would report it to admin and move on - i get lots of unwanted messages - some can be unpleasant do i just report and block them.
there is inevitably a large group of people who have been on here a long time and know each other socially as well as on FAB.
I just post my bit and then go and post another bit somewhere else - i am me and if it becomes tedious then I dont come on for a few days. Honestly say, the majority of messages off the forum users are fun and kind.
and the football was crap
It started not being fun when I was told I was being disrespectful, untasteful and that other people were messaging said member about my behaviour in the forums - look back on my green arrow- there is nothing of that kind."report them then and block them - unfortunately in life we cannot get on with everyone - as much as we would like to. | |||
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"The clique members have changed many times over the years. Are you still in it Nanna? Ps. When we playing cards against humanity again? We rock at that "I'm above the clique. I'm a forum legend, apparently
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"This old chestnut again. Sod all that bollocks. Fuck, anyone? "Not until you scrub that stuff off. | |||
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"The clique members have changed many times over the years. Says the founder of Clique!" Like I said...forum ledge | |||
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"The clique members have changed many times over the years. Are you still in it Nanna? Ps. When we playing cards against humanity again? We rock at that
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF "Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB. But can I be out of the clique first? Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique. Which may or may not exist. Damned confusing isn't it? xxxx | |||
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"The one who follows the crowd usually get no further than the crowd. The ones who choose to go alone, find themselves in places no one has ever been - Albert Einstein I find myself lost, bloody hopeless with directions
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"This old chestnut again. Sod all that bollocks. Fuck, anyone?
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"There have always been cliques, I have never been part of one No one ever thinks they are part of a clique. Because I doubt there's a conscious effort to build them, they just happen because you get on with certain people and interact with them more as a result because you've found your comfort zone. I can see why it looks like there are cliques to new posters and in an ideal world, everyone would be as inclusive as possible. Unfortunately though, it's not an ideal world. I get that, it’s not something I’ve noticed really but others on the fora have obviously had different experiences. Take the example on this thread of someone being warned off the forums, I bet you don’t think it’s one of your friendship group who is responsible but how well do we know people who we interact with largely over the internet?" That's actually a very good point but then that surely just leads down a path of finding others guilty by association. I shouldn't have to worry about interacting with people in case they *might* be an absolute knob to someone else if my experience is nothing of the sort. We all like to think we're a good judge of character, but like you said, it's harder to do that with people we mostly know over the internet or in group social spaces. | |||
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"The one who follows the crowd usually get no further than the crowd. The ones who choose to go alone, find themselves in places no one has ever been - Albert Einstein I find myself lost, bloody hopeless with directions
me too sparkle - apparently im ditzy thank god for sat nav's although i do think mine is faulty at times
Haha mine to, sends me up dead ends sometimes....its a twat "oh you have a twatnav too i think they are a special kind ... i have tried it in french and spent ages wondering which junction it meant and then had to work out how ot get the english back - twat navs !!! | |||
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"I was one of the popular kids 6ish years ago on the forum. Most of my popular kid friends aren't here anymore and most of the new popular kids don't know me. Woe is me. I wanted to be a part of the clique again "You can have my place. If I have one x | |||
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx"I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
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"Op I wouldn’t worry about it. The forums come and go. The people who are belle of the ball this week usually end up blowing themselves up and end up as a footnote to history. I always roll my eyes at the eulogies some people are given but noise attracts attention on the forums. Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it lasts. See this I would generally say was true, BUT, after having private messages basically telling me to back off from the forums or at least take heed of protocol in here I now think otherwise. To say this person also has many threads and recently had a thread saying how awesome they were made me rather perplexed and angry. I just Clouseud I Holmesed! n Dag nabbit I just Marpled.... " I imagine you more as a Jessica Fletcher.
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx
I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
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"Op I wouldn’t worry about it. The forums come and go. The people who are belle of the ball this week usually end up blowing themselves up and end up as a footnote to history. I always roll my eyes at the eulogies some people are given but noise attracts attention on the forums. Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it lasts. See this I would generally say was true, BUT, after having private messages basically telling me to back off from the forums or at least take heed of protocol in here I now think otherwise. To say this person also has many threads and recently had a thread saying how awesome they were made me rather perplexed and angry. I just Clouseud I Holmesed! n Dag nabbit I just Marpled.... Sharing is caring, Granny. " I cannot share for as sure as lies are lies my middle name is confidentiality no mean mouthin' ...... | |||
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"There have always been cliques, I have never been part of one No one ever thinks they are part of a clique. Because I doubt there's a conscious effort to build them, they just happen because you get on with certain people and interact with them more as a result because you've found your comfort zone. I can see why it looks like there are cliques to new posters and in an ideal world, everyone would be as inclusive as possible. Unfortunately though, it's not an ideal world. I get that, it’s not something I’ve noticed really but others on the fora have obviously had different experiences. Take the example on this thread of someone being warned off the forums, I bet you don’t think it’s one of your friendship group who is responsible but how well do we know people who we interact with largely over the internet? That's actually a very good point but then that surely just leads down a path of finding others guilty by association. I shouldn't have to worry about interacting with people in case they *might* be an absolute knob to someone else if my experience is nothing of the sort. We all like to think we're a good judge of character, but like you said, it's harder to do that with people we mostly know over the internet or in group social spaces." For me the guilt by association thing only comes into play if you go to bat for someone who is behaving badly behind the scenes, then you open yourself up to it. | |||
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"This old chestnut again. Sod all that bollocks. Fuck, anyone?
Not until you scrub that stuff off.
That might be a bit difficult now, I’ve recently finished it off with the tattooist. "You promised I could colour it in, I bought the permanent markers and everything! | |||
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"Op I wouldn’t worry about it. The forums come and go. The people who are belle of the ball this week usually end up blowing themselves up and end up as a footnote to history. I always roll my eyes at the eulogies some people are given but noise attracts attention on the forums. Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it lasts. See this I would generally say was true, BUT, after having private messages basically telling me to back off from the forums or at least take heed of protocol in here I now think otherwise. To say this person also has many threads and recently had a thread saying how awesome they were made me rather perplexed and angry. I just Clouseud I Holmesed! n Dag nabbit I just Marpled.... Sharing is caring, Granny. I cannot share for as sure as lies are lies my middle name is confidentiality no mean mouthin' ......" I thought your middle name was "Buttered" | |||
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"There have always been cliques, I have never been part of one No one ever thinks they are part of a clique. Because I doubt there's a conscious effort to build them, they just happen because you get on with certain people and interact with them more as a result because you've found your comfort zone. I can see why it looks like there are cliques to new posters and in an ideal world, everyone would be as inclusive as possible. Unfortunately though, it's not an ideal world. I get that, it’s not something I’ve noticed really but others on the fora have obviously had different experiences. Take the example on this thread of someone being warned off the forums, I bet you don’t think it’s one of your friendship group who is responsible but how well do we know people who we interact with largely over the internet? That's actually a very good point but then that surely just leads down a path of finding others guilty by association. I shouldn't have to worry about interacting with people in case they *might* be an absolute knob to someone else if my experience is nothing of the sort. We all like to think we're a good judge of character, but like you said, it's harder to do that with people we mostly know over the internet or in group social spaces." It's the ones who don't call out their "friends" when it's blatantly obvious what they are trying to do for fomo | |||
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"This old chestnut again. Sod all that bollocks. Fuck, anyone?
Not until you scrub that stuff off.
That might be a bit difficult now, I’ve recently finished it off with the tattooist.
You promised I could colour it in, I bought the permanent markers and everything! "You can still do, just imagine the funky colours you can make up. | |||
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"For me the guilt by association thing only comes into play if you go to bat for someone who is behaving badly behind the scenes, then you open yourself up to it. But what if you don't know what's going on behind the scenes and you're still merrily chatting/flirting with them in the forums like nothing happened. Suddenly that person probably thinks the worst of you without you actually doing anything to them which is why it's dangerous to just label people as being in a "clique". " This is the difference between those who gossip and those who don’t… it is also why we keep our friends list and verifications hidden. It’s a trap we’ve fallen into before. | |||
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"That's actually a very good point but then that surely just leads down a path of finding others guilty by association. I shouldn't have to worry about interacting with people in case they *might* be an absolute knob to someone else if my experience is nothing of the sort. We all like to think we're a good judge of character, but like you said, it's harder to do that with people we mostly know over the internet or in group social spaces. It's the ones who don't call out their "friends" when it's blatantly obvious what they are trying to do for fomo" How often would you say it's blatantly obvious though with soany people knowing each other and their different dynamics? I'm sure there are people that don't call out the behaviour of their "friends" but you can't be sure to what extent they know about these things happening. | |||
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"Clique no. Territoriality tied up popularity contests? Yes. That's every forum on internet. I like to think of it as watching a David Attenborough documentary. I particularly like fab because we're else are you going to get threads Ruth titles like Your favorite milkshake Who likes rimming *Insert virtue signalling here* Is it pee? I love it. All of it. Why would you be here if not to be entertained?" And let's (I don't mean the clique "let's" of course) forget "Cock snot up the fart pipe". | |||
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"I was one of the popular kids 6ish years ago on the forum. Most of my popular kid friends aren't here anymore and most of the new popular kids don't know me. Woe is me. I wanted to be a part of the clique again
You can have my place.
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx
I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
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"Op I wouldn’t worry about it. The forums come and go. The people who are belle of the ball this week usually end up blowing themselves up and end up as a footnote to history. I always roll my eyes at the eulogies some people are given but noise attracts attention on the forums. Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it lasts. See this I would generally say was true, BUT, after having private messages basically telling me to back off from the forums or at least take heed of protocol in here I now think otherwise. To say this person also has many threads and recently had a thread saying how awesome they were made me rather perplexed and angry. I just Clouseud I Holmesed! n Dag nabbit I just Marpled.... I imagine you more as a Jessica Fletcher.
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx
I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
And some are just dickheads
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"For me the guilt by association thing only comes into play if you go to bat for someone who is behaving badly behind the scenes, then you open yourself up to it. But what if you don't know what's going on behind the scenes and you're still merrily chatting/flirting with them in the forums like nothing happened. Suddenly that person probably thinks the worst of you without you actually doing anything to them which is why it's dangerous to just label people as being in a "clique". " I suppose you have to turn it around and think ‘someone has accused my forum friend of behaving badly, do I leap to their defence without considering whether they have in fact behaved badly, or not?’ If you do then you are part of a clique. That’s when I would think the worst of them. | |||
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"That's actually a very good point but then that surely just leads down a path of finding others guilty by association. I shouldn't have to worry about interacting with people in case they *might* be an absolute knob to someone else if my experience is nothing of the sort. We all like to think we're a good judge of character, but like you said, it's harder to do that with people we mostly know over the internet or in group social spaces. It's the ones who don't call out their "friends" when it's blatantly obvious what they are trying to do for fomo How often would you say it's blatantly obvious though with soany people knowing each other and their different dynamics? I'm sure there are people that don't call out the behaviour of their "friends" but you can't be sure to what extent they know about these things happening." It happens often, though must admit not as much these days as a number of prolific offenders seem to have disappeared....no doubt they will appear at some point so the cycle can begin again. | |||
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"For me the guilt by association thing only comes into play if you go to bat for someone who is behaving badly behind the scenes, then you open yourself up to it. But what if you don't know what's going on behind the scenes and you're still merrily chatting/flirting with them in the forums like nothing happened. Suddenly that person probably thinks the worst of you without you actually doing anything to them which is why it's dangerous to just label people as being in a "clique". This is the difference between those who gossip and those who don’t… it is also why we keep our friends list and verifications hidden. It’s a trap we’ve fallen into before. " It's a shame it happens even though it shouldn't. I suppose if the same people you meet are the same people you interact with on here, people are going to automatically feel like they're missing out or feel like everyone knows each other. I felt like that when I first joined the forums and would hate to think anyone felt that way about me when I just use the forums and socials for fun. | |||
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx
I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
And some are just dickheads
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"For me the guilt by association thing only comes into play if you go to bat for someone who is behaving badly behind the scenes, then you open yourself up to it. But what if you don't know what's going on behind the scenes and you're still merrily chatting/flirting with them in the forums like nothing happened. Suddenly that person probably thinks the worst of you without you actually doing anything to them which is why it's dangerous to just label people as being in a "clique". I suppose you have to turn it around and think ‘someone has accused my forum friend of behaving badly, do I leap to their defence without considering whether they have in fact behaved badly, or not?’ If you do then you are part of a clique. That’s when I would think the worst of them." That makes sense. I would never advocate for defending people blindly as there are always two sides to every story. The "clique" stuff is interesting as I genuinely believe some of the people you may associate with it wouldn't even know they're in it and as I said before, it's not fair to find people guilty by association if you've never spoken to them before if that makes sense? | |||
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"That's actually a very good point but then that surely just leads down a path of finding others guilty by association. I shouldn't have to worry about interacting with people in case they *might* be an absolute knob to someone else if my experience is nothing of the sort. We all like to think we're a good judge of character, but like you said, it's harder to do that with people we mostly know over the internet or in group social spaces. It's the ones who don't call out their "friends" when it's blatantly obvious what they are trying to do for fomo How often would you say it's blatantly obvious though with soany people knowing each other and their different dynamics? I'm sure there are people that don't call out the behaviour of their "friends" but you can't be sure to what extent they know about these things happening. It happens often, though must admit not as much these days as a number of prolific offenders seem to have disappeared....no doubt they will appear at some point so the cycle can begin again." Ever the optimist | |||
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx
I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
And some are just dickheads
Mr
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"This old chestnut again. Sod all that bollocks. Fuck, anyone?
Not until you scrub that stuff off.
That might be a bit difficult now, I’ve recently finished it off with the tattooist. "Wire brush and dettol, again. | |||
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx
I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
And some are just dickheads
Mr
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"That's actually a very good point but then that surely just leads down a path of finding others guilty by association. I shouldn't have to worry about interacting with people in case they *might* be an absolute knob to someone else if my experience is nothing of the sort. We all like to think we're a good judge of character, but like you said, it's harder to do that with people we mostly know over the internet or in group social spaces. It's the ones who don't call out their "friends" when it's blatantly obvious what they are trying to do for fomo How often would you say it's blatantly obvious though with soany people knowing each other and their different dynamics? I'm sure there are people that don't call out the behaviour of their "friends" but you can't be sure to what extent they know about these things happening. It happens often, though must admit not as much these days as a number of prolific offenders seem to have disappeared....no doubt they will appear at some point so the cycle can begin again. Ever the optimist "Swings and roundabouts....that will be my queue to stop posting again | |||
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"It comes down to one simple thing... All are welcome but not all are included....
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx
I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
And some are just dickheads
Mr
You called
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"Honestly OP? It feels like dirty laundry airing at this stage. Your return thread? Fair enough. But clique comes in to play more often than not when someone doesn't particularly like someone. Before that? Nope. Their friends being part of a clique? Nope? Them, themselves? Also nope. No one is liked by everyone. So ignore it. Don't let yourself get wound up by it. You can choose not to give too much attention to it. It's a screen filled with words. You can also choose not to be part of the negativity, because this sort of thread will have people saying "oooo who" and lead to gossiping etc. Let's not pretend Fab is this Utopian society of inclusivity and liberating though. Or that swinging is. Tl:dr? Don't give headspace to nonsense. Call it out but don't allow it to make you bitter." We may not agree all the time or on all the things, Meli, but we agree entirely here. | |||
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx
I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
And some are just dickheads
Mr
You called
^^ I can confirm she is one of those dickheads that walk amongst us
Takes one to know one beautiful
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"They had a fab ladies WhatsApp and private Facebook group. If you dare answer back on the forum you got mentioned and others were warned not to meet that guy/s. I know because I was shown by a woman I use to meet from here. Don't be fooled into thinking it doesn't happen. It does and it's very spiteful " We haven’t had a good discussion about the WhatsApp groups for ages - I love those because it is always telling who _doesnt_ join the conversations. | |||
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"For me the guilt by association thing only comes into play if you go to bat for someone who is behaving badly behind the scenes, then you open yourself up to it. But what if you don't know what's going on behind the scenes and you're still merrily chatting/flirting with them in the forums like nothing happened. Suddenly that person probably thinks the worst of you without you actually doing anything to them which is why it's dangerous to just label people as being in a "clique". I suppose you have to turn it around and think ‘someone has accused my forum friend of behaving badly, do I leap to their defence without considering whether they have in fact behaved badly, or not?’ If you do then you are part of a clique. That’s when I would think the worst of them. That makes sense. I would never advocate for defending people blindly as there are always two sides to every story. The "clique" stuff is interesting as I genuinely believe some of the people you may associate with it wouldn't even know they're in it and as I said before, it's not fair to find people guilty by association if you've never spoken to them before if that makes sense?" I agree with most of what you are saying but from my own experience I have been shown other people's unsolicited personal info by productive forumites who wrongly assumed that by having these details I would be more inclined to back them up in a forum fight. It had the opposite effect and I removed them from my friends list and haven't spoken since. However I have been told by others that my details were passed along to them and as I can count on 2 fingers the number of people with that info it doesn't take much working out. That leads me to believe that there are a lot of enablers here who are comfortable with that type of behaviour and who wouldn't react the way I did or call them out either publicly or privately because they need to maintain that association for whatever reason. | |||
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"They had a fab ladies WhatsApp and private Facebook group. If you dare answer back on the forum you got mentioned and others were warned not to meet that guy/s. I know because I was shown by a woman I use to meet from here. Don't be fooled into thinking it doesn't happen. It does and it's very spiteful " I don’t doubt this happens and that there are many on Telegram as well as WhatsApp of not just women but men too. Even coed. I am most suspicious of those that say that such things don’t exist, and those that say they most hate meeting people who will talk about Fab. In my mind, these are the most probable people who are off in private groups chatting about everyone. One of the many reasons I will never do a social meet-up is precisely because of this. Those little groups that pop up to become chat space for socials… | |||
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx
I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
And some are just dickheads
Mr
You called
^^ I can confirm she is one of those dickheads that walk amongst us
Takes one to know one beautiful
Been practicing since 1977 Boo, god i feel old....
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"Are they talking about me again.? They are breaking the gag order if they are " Is it a ball-gag order? | |||
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx
I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
And some are just dickheads
Mr
You called
^^ I can confirm she is one of those dickheads that walk amongst us
Takes one to know one beautiful
Been practicing since 1977 Boo, god i feel old....
You are old
I'm too old for the clique Boo... ". You're too old for Flip Flops too, but that doesn't stop you either! | |||
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"Jesus - I can't even tell you to go fuck yourselves without being part of the clique. Out. Fuck you all! Dry!!! Oh god. It was only a FAF
Well yeah obvs - you're well shaggable LB.
But can I be out of the clique first?
Not that you'd necessarily know, because you're not necessarily in the clique.
Which may or may not exist.
Damned confusing isn't it?
xxxx
I’m happy with my clique. It’s a clique of one. Actually of two now that I’ve found my Dom
But it’s wet. And warm. And weird. Just how I like it.
Friends exist. Some people are kind. Some people are not kind.
Such is life. And all know is. Remember to spot the difference
And some are just dickheads
Mr
You called
^^ I can confirm she is one of those dickheads that walk amongst us
Takes one to know one beautiful
Been practicing since 1977 Boo, god i feel old....
You are old
I'm too old for the clique Boo... .
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"I agree with most of what you are saying but from my own experience I have been shown other people's unsolicited personal info by productive forumites who wrongly assumed that by having these details I would be more inclined to back them up in a forum fight. It had the opposite effect and I removed them from my friends list and haven't spoken since. However I have been told by others that my details were passed along to them and as I can count on 2 fingers the number of people with that info it doesn't take much working out. That leads me to believe that there are a lot of enablers here who are comfortable with that type of behaviour and who wouldn't react the way I did or call them out either publicly or privately because they need to maintain that association for whatever reason. " I can totally see that happening. Connections with anyone on here are hard to come by so I can see why they want to preserve that association as much as possible. It's not right to have blind loyalty towards them no matter how close you want to be. Real friends call each other's shit out. | |||
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"They had a fab ladies WhatsApp and private Facebook group. If you dare answer back on the forum you got mentioned and others were warned not to meet that guy/s. I know because I was shown by a woman I use to meet from here. Don't be fooled into thinking it doesn't happen. It does and it's very spiteful I don’t doubt this happens and that there are many on Telegram as well as WhatsApp of not just women but men too. Even coed. I am most suspicious of those that say that such things don’t exist, and those that say they most hate meeting people who will talk about Fab. In my mind, these are the most probable people who are off in private groups chatting about everyone. One of the many reasons I will never do a social meet-up is precisely because of this. Those little groups that pop up to become chat space for socials…" It absolutely happens. There's people who's whole lives are tied up in the social event circuit and chat groups. Everyone needs a hobby I guess. And drama will always find drama | |||
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"Honestly OP? It feels like dirty laundry airing at this stage. Your return thread? Fair enough. But clique comes in to play more often than not when someone doesn't particularly like someone. Before that? Nope. Their friends being part of a clique? Nope? Them, themselves? Also nope. No one is liked by everyone. So ignore it. Don't let yourself get wound up by it. You can choose not to give too much attention to it. It's a screen filled with words. You can also choose not to be part of the negativity, because this sort of thread will have people saying "oooo who" and lead to gossiping etc. Let's not pretend Fab is this Utopian society of inclusivity and liberating though. Or that swinging is. Tl:dr? Don't give headspace to nonsense. Call it out but don't allow it to make you bitter." Airing dirty laundry it isn't- speaking my experience of the forums it is. Yes it's a screen filled full of words - I get that - but the intent and malice behind I cannot. You're 100% correct - not everyone is liked by everyone- I've not done this thread to be liked, more to start a conversation in regards to the apparent influence certain members have over a public platform. I've not allowed it to make me bitter - I've just called it out | |||
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"Honestly OP? It feels like dirty laundry airing at this stage. Your return thread? Fair enough. But clique comes in to play more often than not when someone doesn't particularly like someone. Before that? Nope. Their friends being part of a clique? Nope? Them, themselves? Also nope. No one is liked by everyone. So ignore it. Don't let yourself get wound up by it. You can choose not to give too much attention to it. It's a screen filled with words. You can also choose not to be part of the negativity, because this sort of thread will have people saying "oooo who" and lead to gossiping etc. Let's not pretend Fab is this Utopian society of inclusivity and liberating though. Or that swinging is. Tl:dr? Don't give headspace to nonsense. Call it out but don't allow it to make you bitter." Airing dirty laundry it isn't- speaking my experience of the forums it is. Yes it's a screen filled full of words - I get that - but the intent and malice behind I cannot. You're 100% correct - not everyone is liked by everyone- I've not done this thread to be liked, more to start a conversation in regards to the apparent influence certain members have over a public platform. I've not allowed it to make me bitter - I've just called it out | |||
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"Honestly OP? It feels like dirty laundry airing at this stage. Your return thread? Fair enough. But clique comes in to play more often than not when someone doesn't particularly like someone. Before that? Nope. Their friends being part of a clique? Nope? Them, themselves? Also nope. No one is liked by everyone. So ignore it. Don't let yourself get wound up by it. You can choose not to give too much attention to it. It's a screen filled with words. You can also choose not to be part of the negativity, because this sort of thread will have people saying "oooo who" and lead to gossiping etc. Let's not pretend Fab is this Utopian society of inclusivity and liberating though. Or that swinging is. Tl:dr? Don't give headspace to nonsense. Call it out but don't allow it to make you bitter. Airing dirty laundry it isn't- speaking my experience of the forums it is. Yes it's a screen filled full of words - I get that - but the intent and malice behind I cannot. You're 100% correct - not everyone is liked by everyone- I've not done this thread to be liked, more to start a conversation in regards to the apparent influence certain members have over a public platform. I've not allowed it to make me bitter - I've just called it out "Do they really have influence though? Or have they just pee'd in the sandbox while everyone else is playing on the swing's? You know, swinging... | |||
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"I think that I must be a clique. Or is it just clicky? Certainly get a few clicks out of my shoulders when I stretch in the morning..." You’re a league of your own kind, Polly. | |||
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"Honestly OP? It feels like dirty laundry airing at this stage. Your return thread? Fair enough. But clique comes in to play more often than not when someone doesn't particularly like someone. Before that? Nope. Their friends being part of a clique? Nope? Them, themselves? Also nope. No one is liked by everyone. So ignore it. Don't let yourself get wound up by it. You can choose not to give too much attention to it. It's a screen filled with words. You can also choose not to be part of the negativity, because this sort of thread will have people saying "oooo who" and lead to gossiping etc. Let's not pretend Fab is this Utopian society of inclusivity and liberating though. Or that swinging is. Tl:dr? Don't give headspace to nonsense. Call it out but don't allow it to make you bitter. Airing dirty laundry it isn't- speaking my experience of the forums it is. Yes it's a screen filled full of words - I get that - but the intent and malice behind I cannot. You're 100% correct - not everyone is liked by everyone- I've not done this thread to be liked, more to start a conversation in regards to the apparent influence certain members have over a public platform. I've not allowed it to make me bitter - I've just called it out
Do they really have influence though?
Or have they just pee'd in the sandbox while everyone else is playing on the swing's? You know, swinging...
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