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I've blocked 9 guys today for sending me unsolicited dick pics in DM.
My profile very clearly states I block anyone who sends them.
WTF guys!!!!!!
With 2 exceptions, Thier messages lead me to ascertain that they had actually read my profile.
Can't fathom how someone could read that in a profile and think 'ohh, I know I've never spoken to this person before, but I'll send a knob shot as it clearly it didn't apply to me'.
Anyway. Perplexing rant over.
Hello lovely respectful guys who don't do that. Thank you. |
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By *unchalMan 35 weeks ago
Dartford |
"I've blocked 9 guys today for sending me unsolicited dick pics in DM.
My profile very clearly states I block anyone who sends them.
WTF guys!!!!!!
With 2 exceptions, Thier messages lead me to ascertain that they had actually read my profile.
Can't fathom how someone could read that in a profile and think 'ohh, I know I've never spoken to this person before, but I'll send a knob shot as it clearly it didn't apply to me'.
Anyway. Perplexing rant over.
Hello lovely respectful guys who don't do that. Thank you."
That is weird. Men are beasts and some of them are quite convinced that when you said no dick pics you only said that because you hadn’t seen theirs yet. What can I say, as an excuse for my whole sex, men are not women and their brains don’t always work good when it comes to sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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I stole the following from a series called live letters. I have actually sent it to men that send dick pics. Feel free to copy it
Dear Sir,
Thank you for the unexpected and unsolicited submission of your penis portrait for our consideration. We regret to inform you that it has failed to pass our most basic standards of quality control at this time.
However, for a nominal fee we can offer you a report that will help you change that.
The A4 report, provided via postal service, will include a personalised booklet that covers the following:
Why genitals are not an acceptable conversation opener (a step-by-step guide to saying hello)
How to appear as though you weren't raised by wolves; Better ways to deal with your sexual frustration
How to dress your penis for social media (a rough guide to pants)
And:
Penis Reading: a new form of palmistry that may help you unlock the key to your future.
We will also answer questions you might have such as:
Do I have too much time on my hands?
And:
Why did my penis fail basic standards of quality control? (Note: The number one reason for this occurring is that it is attached to a bigger dick than itself.)
Finally, as a gesture of goodwill, we intend to offer two free samples with all of your future penis portrait submissions: An inventive critique of your pride & joy and a surprise consultation with your closest available family member about your portfolio.
We trust this exciting offer is acceptable and look forward to working with you in the near future.
Yours faithfully
I may be using this for the next unwanted pic pops in my messages |
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By *unchalMan 35 weeks ago
Dartford |
"The ones sending it, ain’t reading the profile.
they also dont understand the law either
you only send a dick pic if asked ie given consent to do so"
I have real reservations about talking about the law on a sex site for people looking for sex with strangers and filled with images of penises and vaginas and arseholes and tits. This is the second time I have heard this argument being rehearsed and it bothers me. |
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"I stole the following from a series called live letters. I have actually sent it to men that send dick pics. Feel free to copy it
Dear Sir,
Thank you for the unexpected and unsolicited submission of your penis portrait for our consideration. We regret to inform you that it has failed to pass our most basic standards of quality control at this time.
However, for a nominal fee we can offer you a report that will help you change that.
The A4 report, provided via postal service, will include a personalised booklet that covers the following:
Why genitals are not an acceptable conversation opener (a step-by-step guide to saying hello)
How to appear as though you weren't raised by wolves; Better ways to deal with your sexual frustration
How to dress your penis for social media (a rough guide to pants)
And:
Penis Reading: a new form of palmistry that may help you unlock the key to your future.
We will also answer questions you might have such as:
Do I have too much time on my hands?
And:
Why did my penis fail basic standards of quality control? (Note: The number one reason for this occurring is that it is attached to a bigger dick than itself.)
Finally, as a gesture of goodwill, we intend to offer two free samples with all of your future penis portrait submissions: An inventive critique of your pride & joy and a surprise consultation with your closest available family member about your portfolio.
We trust this exciting offer is acceptable and look forward to working with you in the near future.
Yours faithfully
I may be using this for the next unwanted pic pops in my messages"
I've seen that before somewhere.......  |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I stole the following from a series called live letters. I have actually sent it to men that send dick pics. Feel free to copy it
Dear Sir,
Thank you for the unexpected and unsolicited submission of your penis portrait for our consideration. We regret to inform you that it has failed to pass our most basic standards of quality control at this time.
However, for a nominal fee we can offer you a report that will help you change that.
The A4 report, provided via postal service, will include a personalised booklet that covers the following:
Why genitals are not an acceptable conversation opener (a step-by-step guide to saying hello)
How to appear as though you weren't raised by wolves; Better ways to deal with your sexual frustration
How to dress your penis for social media (a rough guide to pants)
And:
Penis Reading: a new form of palmistry that may help you unlock the key to your future.
We will also answer questions you might have such as:
Do I have too much time on my hands?
And:
Why did my penis fail basic standards of quality control? (Note: The number one reason for this occurring is that it is attached to a bigger dick than itself.)
Finally, as a gesture of goodwill, we intend to offer two free samples with all of your future penis portrait submissions: An inventive critique of your pride & joy and a surprise consultation with your closest available family member about your portfolio.
We trust this exciting offer is acceptable and look forward to working with you in the near future.
Yours faithfully
I may be using this for the next unwanted pic pops in my messages
I've seen that before somewhere....... "
It's a live letters, read out by Olivia coleman. Easily found on the www |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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So you didn’t block 2 profiles who sent photos of their cocks because they read your profile. But your profile says you’ll block anyone who sends a dick pic?!?
* I’ve not read your profile, I’m only reading your opening post.
But that sounds confusing. And contradictory |
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"So you didn’t block 2 profiles who sent photos of their cocks because they read your profile. But your profile says you’ll block anyone who sends a dick pic?!?
* I’ve not read your profile, I’m only reading your opening post.
But that sounds confusing. And contradictory "
Maybe read it again...but slower  |
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"The ones sending it, ain’t reading the profile. "
Not necessarily...nothing to do with dick pics but when we say that they obviously haven't read our profile they say they have and reference the bit we are talking about but just say they thought they would take a chance anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"So you didn’t block 2 profiles who sent photos of their cocks because they read your profile. But your profile says you’ll block anyone who sends a dick pic?!?
* I’ve not read your profile, I’m only reading your opening post.
But that sounds confusing. And contradictory
Maybe read it again...but slower "
I had to read the thread I’ve got it. Clarified.
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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We can't control peoples profile pictures, but dicks as a profile pic is a great filter for us.
We say on the profile to not send us dick pics for any reason and when a guy sends one because they are far far too busy to read the profile, we send a screen cap of the part of our profile that says not to be sent dick pics circled.
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We've had to block all single men due to the penis pics and the messages asking if I wanted a real man  .
It's a shame really but thankfully we have met some lovely men at clubs and group socials.. |
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"I've blocked 9 guys today for sending me unsolicited dick pics in DM.
My profile very clearly states I block anyone who sends them.
WTF guys!!!!!!
With 2 exceptions, Thier messages lead me to ascertain that they had actually read my profile.
Can't fathom how someone could read that in a profile and think 'ohh, I know I've never spoken to this person before, but I'll send a knob shot as it clearly it didn't apply to me'.
Anyway. Perplexing rant over.
Hello lovely respectful guys who don't do that. Thank you."
Unfortunately, you will likely find they have read your profile and consider it 'fun' to send one to cause a reaction. With you blocking, which they deserve, you're likely confirming that you've looked at their photo.
I honestly can't think of a technical solution to stop this. I'm even expecting that a good proportion are paid for members too. So applying restrictions on free members won't achieve much.
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"The ones sending it, ain’t reading the profile.
they also dont understand the law either
you only send a dick pic if asked ie given consent to do so
I have real reservations about talking about the law on a sex site for people looking for sex with strangers and filled with images of penises and vaginas and arseholes and tits. This is the second time I have heard this argument being rehearsed and it bothers me. "
For us it’s the ‘consent’ part.
We consent to looking at the content you describe, and when we feel like it we go looking for it.
Unsolicited in our inbox, different story.
The reality is, it’s illegal. But a user on here has about zero chance of identifying the law breaker and doing anything about it.
We block and move on. |
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"I think there should be a setting for if you want to receive those kinda pics.  "
Yes maybe a general rule that initial messages cannot be photos uploaded onto here and graded above 'Face Photo only' and cannot also be directly uploaded from the phone. |
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By *oxy jWoman 35 weeks ago
somerset |
"The ones sending it, ain’t reading the profile.
they also dont understand the law either
you only send a dick pic if asked ie given consent to do so
I have real reservations about talking about the law on a sex site for people looking for sex with strangers and filled with images of penises and vaginas and arseholes and tits. This is the second time I have heard this argument being rehearsed and it bothers me. "
its about consent the law is very clear on this even if its on a adult nsite |
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"I stole the following from a series called live letters. I have actually sent it to men that send dick pics. Feel free to copy it
Dear Sir,
Thank you for the unexpected and unsolicited submission of your penis portrait for our consideration. We regret to inform you that it has failed to pass our most basic standards of quality control at this time.
However, for a nominal fee we can offer you a report that will help you change that.
The A4 report, provided via postal service, will include a personalised booklet that covers the following:
Why genitals are not an acceptable conversation opener (a step-by-step guide to saying hello)
How to appear as though you weren't raised by wolves; Better ways to deal with your sexual frustration
How to dress your penis for social media (a rough guide to pants)
And:
Penis Reading: a new form of palmistry that may help you unlock the key to your future.
We will also answer questions you might have such as:
Do I have too much time on my hands?
And:
Why did my penis fail basic standards of quality control? (Note: The number one reason for this occurring is that it is attached to a bigger dick than itself.)
Finally, as a gesture of goodwill, we intend to offer two free samples with all of your future penis portrait submissions: An inventive critique of your pride & joy and a surprise consultation with your closest available family member about your portfolio.
We trust this exciting offer is acceptable and look forward to working with you in the near future.
Yours faithfully
I may be using this for the next unwanted pic pops in my messages
I've seen that before somewhere.......
It's a live letters, read out by Olivia coleman. Easily found on the www"
I know, I posted that exact text (and a link to the video) in a chat group last week. |
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"I think there should be a setting for if you want to receive those kinda pics.
Yes maybe a general rule that initial messages cannot be photos uploaded onto here and graded above 'Face Photo only' and cannot also be directly uploaded from the phone. "
There should be something.
It doesn't do the site any favours. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I think there should be a setting for if you want to receive those kinda pics. "
Wasn’t there a survey? I hope a lot of people that think passionately about this were
proactive enough to put that as a suggestion. |
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"I think there should be a setting for if you want to receive those kinda pics. "
Agree. In the same way that you select which category a photo is when you upload it, you should also be able to filter the type of photos you receive. |
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"I think there should be a setting for if you want to receive those kinda pics.
Agree. In the same way that you select which category a photo is when you upload it, you should also be able to filter the type of photos you receive."
Exactly (in my best scouse accent) |
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"I think there should be a setting for if you want to receive those kinda pics.
Wasn’t there a survey? I hope a lot of people that think passionately about this were
proactive enough to put that as a suggestion. "
Maybe it could be re-done???? |
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"I think there should be a setting for if you want to receive those kinda pics.
Wasn’t there a survey? I hope a lot of people that think passionately about this were
proactive enough to put that as a suggestion. "
I put it in my feedback |
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"I think there should be a setting for if you want to receive those kinda pics.
Wasn’t there a survey? I hope a lot of people that think passionately about this were
proactive enough to put that as a suggestion.
I put it in my feedback "
Go get'em tiger.  |
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"I'm drowning in a sea of dick pics right now. I tend to just delete messages containing them
I'm too old to even send you a pic if bacon butties. "
I'd be more impressed with a bacon butty pic lol |
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Neither me (Allen) or Marier get it. We regularly discuss this and have yet to come up with a viable reason why somebody would see an unknown penis and say “I MUST HAVE YOU”.
Absolutely nuts…..
… I suppose and penis…. Literally! |
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By *4bimMan 35 weeks ago
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op.
set your message filters to block all single men. then you message the ones you like and wish to communicate with.
that way you stop moaning about it and then YOU are in control of what messages you recieve.
i bet you dont do it though as you just love the attention. |
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"We've had to block all single men due to the penis pics and the messages asking if I wanted a real man .
It's a shame really but thankfully we have met some lovely men at clubs and group socials.. "
When men do this when approaching couples, it proper grips our ‘shit’, quite simply learn and understand the couple dynamics, the trust that those two have to allow additional pleasure beyond themselves, learn to either be part of that, or take your massive “I’m a real man” ego off to the drs and know that you’ve just been blocked by another couple.
The real man, is the man who can adult, have a conversation and understand, not just stick his dick in something.
Apologies for the rant, but after receiving multiple similar messages, it’s a definite annoyance of our own. |
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I've never sent an unsolicited dick pic. Ever. And never will. Because the clue is in the word "unsolicited".
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I did receive 4 earlier (not on FAB) but that was consented and from a nice man I've been chatting to.
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I've spoken to a female friend who has just started dating online and she said "OMG...I did not expect this flood of dick pics". I am actually asking other females I meet, "Is this the new norm these days ?" and so far 100% have said "Yes".
I am finding the Patriarchy has a lot to flipping answer for and it's depressing. |
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"The ones sending it, ain’t reading the profile.
they also dont understand the law either
you only send a dick pic if asked ie given consent to do so
I have real reservations about talking about the law on a sex site for people looking for sex with strangers and filled with images of penises and vaginas and arseholes and tits. This is the second time I have heard this argument being rehearsed and it bothers me. "
Here here |
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"op.
set your message filters to block all single men. then you message the ones you like and wish to communicate with.
that way you stop moaning about it and then YOU are in control of what messages you recieve.
i bet you dont do it though as you just love the attention."
Righteousness
And what of those people, men AND women who have private parts as their profile pics? I did not consent to see that. Should I get the police involved? |
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"op.
set your message filters to block all single men. then you message the ones you like and wish to communicate with.
that way you stop moaning about it and then YOU are in control of what messages you recieve.
i bet you dont do it though as you just love the attention."
Fact is, I shouldn't have to block all single men from contacting me, in order to stop this happening. I've made some wonderful male friends on this site, and I don't see why a small minority of idiots should spoil it for the masses.
No, I don't bloody like receiving these messages actually, and with a response such as yours, does make me wonder if it's a touch of guilty conscience on your part.
The block button is a satisfactory filter. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Can’t say we’ve had too many, thankfully. Probably get more of an audible sigh from seeing profiles with nowt but dick pics. They’re just dull and shows zero imagination. K |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"op.
set your message filters to block all single men. then you message the ones you like and wish to communicate with.
that way you stop moaning about it and then YOU are in control of what messages you recieve.
i bet you dont do it though as you just love the attention."
Morning .. i don't really see this as 'attention' seeking. I agree that OP should block all males and only message who she is interested in BUT why should she ? Because this is a sex site, because she may or may not have posted naked pics (I've not looked) then sending a dick pic is fair game ? Even though she has clearly stated not to be sent dick pics ?
I equate it to being in a pub an you see a women out, a guys 1st move isnt going to be flashing their dick but its ok here ?
I'm not a women, but i understand why most would chose the bear.
Rather than having a go at OP for 'moaning' maybe have a go at the guys for ignoring the fact she didnt want them in the 1st place ?
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By *unchalMan 35 weeks ago
Dartford |
"The ones sending it, ain’t reading the profile.
they also dont understand the law either
you only send a dick pic if asked ie given consent to do so
I have real reservations about talking about the law on a sex site for people looking for sex with strangers and filled with images of penises and vaginas and arseholes and tits. This is the second time I have heard this argument being rehearsed and it bothers me.
For us it’s the ‘consent’ part.
We consent to looking at the content you describe, and when we feel like it we go looking for it.
Unsolicited in our inbox, different story.
The reality is, it’s illegal. But a user on here has about zero chance of identifying the law breaker and doing anything about it.
We block and move on. "
I do get your point but given the context it is hardly harmful in any conceivable way. Talk of what is legal or not and I might be seeing a pattern here will only serve to help close this place down. I have a notion that it is another way in which some of the women on here try to ‘police’ the men. |
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By *unchalMan 35 weeks ago
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"I only send them when asked for….feel free to ask 
Has there ever been a thread asking such guys if the dick pic sending, prior to request, actually works? "
If I understand this correctly, the dick pic sending is instead of it working. I’m guessing that it’s often part of a wank session. |
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If you want legal advice, go see an actual lawyer. Talk of what's legal on here often sounds like those posts on social media saying you can ignore parking tickets.
You've already given consent to needing occasional mindbleach by joining this site. It's not like you joined expecting to find cat videos.
Yes, there are laws on harassment, threatening behaviour, and obscene content. If someone were to join with multiple accounts and bombard you constantly, both fab and the email account provider would be asked by the police to assist in tracking down the person doing this.
There are also laws on sharing pictures of others without consent, such as revenge p0rn, but you can put pictures of yourself online without legal consequence.
But yes, fab should have the ability to block you from receiving unsolicited X rated pics of any kind, and to not receive 'instant' pics if you don't want those either.
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"I only send them when asked for….feel free to ask
Has there ever been a thread asking such guys if the dick pic sending, prior to request, actually works?
If I understand this correctly, the dick pic sending is instead of it working. I’m guessing that it’s often part of a wank session. "
A wank session that they’re mid way through trying to get finished ?  |
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"I've blocked 9 guys today for sending me unsolicited dick pics in DM.
My profile very clearly states I block anyone who sends them.
WTF guys!!!!!!
With 2 exceptions, Thier messages lead me to ascertain that they had actually read my profile.
Can't fathom how someone could read that in a profile and think 'ohh, I know I've never spoken to this person before, but I'll send a knob shot as it clearly it didn't apply to me'.
Anyway. Perplexing rant over.
Hello lovely respectful guys who don't do that. Thank you."
It’s because most guys think with their cock and can’t be bothered to read a profile |
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"op.
set your message filters to block all single men. then you message the ones you like and wish to communicate with.
that way you stop moaning about it and then YOU are in control of what messages you recieve.
i bet you dont do it though as you just love the attention."
Wow!
Especially your last sentence! |
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"op.
set your message filters to block all single men. then you message the ones you like and wish to communicate with.
that way you stop moaning about it and then YOU are in control of what messages you recieve.
i bet you dont do it though as you just love the attention.
Righteousness
And what of those people, men AND women who have private parts as their profile pics? I did not consent to see that. Should I get the police involved? "
The OP has issue with people sending genital pics via DM, when she has expressed clearly in her bio that she doesn’t want to receive them. I have something similar in my bio. That is our choice. People should read bios, check preferences and respect them before sending pictures via DM. It’s completely different to the pictures someone has on their public profile - that is their choice, as distasteful as some of them are. For what it’s worth, I don’t think profile pics should be allowed to contain gentitals and we should also have the option to filter the type of pics we receive via DM or they should all be pixelated with the option to view (male or female). |
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By *oxy jWoman 35 weeks ago
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"The ones sending it, ain’t reading the profile.
they also dont understand the law either
you only send a dick pic if asked ie given consent to do so
I have real reservations about talking about the law on a sex site for people looking for sex with strangers and filled with images of penises and vaginas and arseholes and tits. This is the second time I have heard this argument being rehearsed and it bothers me.
For us it’s the ‘consent’ part.
We consent to looking at the content you describe, and when we feel like it we go looking for it.
Unsolicited in our inbox, different story.
The reality is, it’s illegal. But a user on here has about zero chance of identifying the law breaker and doing anything about it.
We block and move on.
I do get your point but given the context it is hardly harmful in any conceivable way. Talk of what is legal or not and I might be seeing a pattern here will only serve to help close this place down. I have a notion that it is another way in which some of the women on here try to ‘police’ the men. "
nobody is on here for a power trip or to control its not the fault of women and couples that there are sooooo many men its not our fault they cant get meets its not our fault that many are porn obsessed its not our fault that there are so many who the moment they join they feel entitled for sex .... many not all ... guys know sending unsolicited dick pics is illegal 99.9% know this from the amount of air time these new laws have had this includes sex sites as well as anywhere else no one is trying to kill this site and lets be honest if the internet collapse tomorrow the scene will still carry on the private scene is already massive as people get fed up with the hassles of the net....
im no prude im no woke person im here for guys only ans sexually very open minded im forward in my messaging and i ask for dick pics because i wont meet without one but nobody on here is the same we all want different we all message different but lawful at the very least
consent is the golden rule of this scene as many of us have to use the word ''no'' so often specially in clubs .. consent consent consent the moment that starts getting abused is where swinging ends and things take a turn for worse..
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I had a man message yest, he was fine that I wasn't meeting and he'd read my profile, but included 2 cock pics, so didn't read it at all.
I replied that he'd either not read it or had and still thought he'd send them and that's a red flag. He was blocked afterwards.
A cock pic doesn't make me wanna meet someone and just means they get deleted or blocked.
There's so much cock on here that I do wonder why they think there's would be any different. |
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