Serious Question here.
I was wondering what makes a good profile.
I've been here a while and chatted to very few people. Please don't think this is just another guy banging on about not getting luck or not happy no one replied because its not. I'm honestly just curious about what actually gets the attention of you lovely people.
Totally understand about no profile picture but when you talk to me you get to understand. More than happy sharing pictures on request even face.
Anyway I look forward to the replies (hopefully nothing nasty lol.) |
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For me, I like specifics. I like people who are clear about what they want, what they offer, and I can get an idea of actual compatibility from their profile.
I like some pictures. They don't have to be identifying but if someone won't show enough of their body for me to know if there's a physical attraction I'm probably out. I'm not even that much of a visual creature, but choosing not to show that much at least is a red flag.
If it's as bland and generic and inoffensive as possible, I'm out. Nice, genuine, discrete, likes women of all types, open to anything, all point towards someone without an actual goal or attraction for me  |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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You may have very legitimate reasons for not having any pictures, but the truth is that when women are inundated with messages they’ll generally filter out those that don’t include a clear face pic.
I have no doubt you’re a great guy etc but unless you catch the initial attention you’ll be overlooked! |
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You’re more than likely just being overlooked OP. The chances for a single guy with no pics are slim to none here. Personally I delete all messages I get without even reading them from profiles with no pics.
But it’s your profile. You must do as you wish  |
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I like profiles that have some pics that leave a little to the imagination and where they've listed a bit about what they're into and offer.
That way I can get an idea if we'd be compatible and if I'd potentially be attracted to them.
I wouldn't even read a message from a shadow profile, I know you say you have your reasons and that's fine, as long as you appreciate it will proove much harder for you to get replies etc.
Unless you're attaching pics to your messages.
Pics don't have to give away your identity, just give an idea of what your build is etc. |
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By *essTTWoman 33 weeks ago
Birmingham |
If you don't show pics, or st least attach onto messages, how do you expect a woman to know if she finds you attractive or not?
I think a lot of men act interacting with women on here is like some special super power when a lot of it is just common sense |
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All great comments and I've taken a few points on board. I always attach pictures when sending a message.
I totally get it that the ladies get bombarded with all sorts.
Time for a revamp and try and get a picture up.
Thanks all |
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If I was looking to meet, I wouldn't even bother looking at a profile or message from someone without a profile picture. I suspect many ladies are the same.
The text isn't bad but could be better. Some of it is repetitive and it's unclear exactly what you're looking for.
In short: a good selection of photos is essential and the text could do with refining. |
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The lack of a profile pic is probably your bottleneck.
Your profile: there's a few typos you could clear up. The rest is all subjective really, maybe a bit less laughing at your own jokes, but then I am sure some people find that adorable too, so you do you.
13 years on here single and couple, I can say the best approach is to just chill and be patient. Write a profile that reflects you and trust that the right people will appreciate it.
What's the point in getting attention from people for any other reason? Oh yeah the sex. Maybe don't listen to me. |
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The easier a man's profile makes it for me to decide whether he's got potential as a great match, the happier I am. If it's a total no, that's progress. The closer he gets to giving me 100% curiosity or certainty, then he's on to a winner.
Let me grab a feel for you, tastes and what I'll get from you. Let me see you, so I can discover how physically right you are for me. |
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By *il-redWoman 33 weeks ago
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For me, and perhaps most people, my time is a huge factor.
I don't have the time to go through loads of profiles or messages, I'd never be off here if I did. So, like others have said, whatever makes it easier for me to see if there's a potential to connect or not, so I know where to spend my time.
No profile pic wasn't an issue when I first joined, but now I rarely give those profiles a look (unless the opening line of their message is fiiiiirre/hilarious)
Even just a profile picture of something that couldn't identify you/give much away at all. Just not the blank silhouette person!
If anything, it helps me remember who you are/track our messages better.
I don't often bother with basic messages like hi/how are you/what you up to. I'd rather a person introduce themselves, reference something from my profile (to show you've read it at the very least.. ) and let me know honestly what experiences they're looking for on here.
If those things interest me even a little, I'll check out a profile. If that profile has noooothing on it, hard pass. Or "dunno what to put/just ask me/fill in later" also, pass.
I want to know you, what you're after and if either of those things interest me/overlap with my wants/needs.
If the above aren't met in some way I move onto the next message.
It's brutal but again, comes down to how much time I can realistically spend on here.
Hope you find what you're looking for! |
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"For me, and perhaps most people, my time is a huge factor.
I don't have the time to go through loads of profiles or messages, I'd never be off here if I did. So, like others have said, whatever makes it easier for me to see if there's a potential to connect or not, so I know where to spend my time.
No profile pic wasn't an issue when I first joined, but now I rarely give those profiles a look (unless the opening line of their message is fiiiiirre/hilarious)
Even just a profile picture of something that couldn't identify you/give much away at all. Just not the blank silhouette person!
If anything, it helps me remember who you are/track our messages better.
I don't often bother with basic messages like hi/how are you/what you up to. I'd rather a person introduce themselves, reference something from my profile (to show you've read it at the very least.. ) and let me know honestly what experiences they're looking for on here.
If those things interest me even a little, I'll check out a profile. If that profile has noooothing on it, hard pass. Or "dunno what to put/just ask me/fill in later" also, pass.
I want to know you, what you're after and if either of those things interest me/overlap with my wants/needs.
If the above aren't met in some way I move onto the next message.
It's brutal but again, comes down to how much time I can realistically spend on here.
Hope you find what you're looking for!"
Thank you all good comments and I'll be changing a few bits starting with a picture. That seems like the main point coming across |
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I like to see something of a person's personality. And you need to show it, not just tell it. (If you say something like "I'm fun", words are cheap. Write something fun or have a fun picture)
In profile text, I both want to know what you're looking for but also why I should be interested in you. What's special about you? (And I don't mean you have to be perfect, exceptional, whatever - I just want to get a sense that you're an individual)
Pictures. You need at least a couple of pictures. They don't have to be your face, they don't have to be your genitals, they can be literally anything else. You can blur out tattoos, you can take pictures and crop the face off. If you're not a gifted writer, then pictures can be another way to show your personality. |
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"I like to see something of a person's personality. And you need to show it, not just tell it. (If you say something like "I'm fun", words are cheap. Write something fun or have a fun picture)
In profile text, I both want to know what you're looking for but also why I should be interested in you. What's special about you? (And I don't mean you have to be perfect, exceptional, whatever - I just want to get a sense that you're an individual)
Pictures. You need at least a couple of pictures. They don't have to be your face, they don't have to be your genitals, they can be literally anything else. You can blur out tattoos, you can take pictures and crop the face off. If you're not a gifted writer, then pictures can be another way to show your personality."
Great comment thanks |
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